Cx in the chat only the Avatar who mastered the Four Element conversations, could stop the Dead Silence, but when the world needed him most, he vanished.
Thank you for exposing this cheap advice with a simple logical conclusion. To be honest though, this can be very useful because some of us don't extend or initiate conversations at all, so as long as we don't take the advice too literally we will have gains.
master the art of asking questions and you will master talking to girls. just let the girl talk most of the time, listen to her and throw in some jokes/banter. That's all it takes 90% of the time. as he said in the video getting started is the hardest. worked for me, works for the guys I know and it will work for you! personal development videos sub goal 230/300
To an extent. I know a writer, really smart. Interviews everyone he meets. After a while it can be annoying. He asks questions, just for the sake of avoiding dead air, and it's obvious. He doesn't really seem to care about the replies, and sometimes even cuts the person off before allowing them to finish. He'll try to joke by implying certain stereotypes or placing the person into a category, which makes them rebel. He doesn't have much luck with women except the super self centered ones that just talk about themselves all day, and never want to hear about you. So learn to LISTEN as well.
@@Sigma3095 yep it will feel like an interview. But listening to her opinion and thoughts will make her like a man for sure. Make her feel you are intrested in her personality, dreams and goals. Acknowledge her personality and she will open up mentally to begin with. I'm a woman and speaking for myself this will make me like a man. Plus teasing in a gentle way. Flirting and serious stuff all together.
@T J Chutia idk for you but i feel physically exhausted like i was in a gym and cant recover to the next day, i bet extrovert reading this will think this is a bullsheat but it is real
About what you said 10:40, I had to like your video. No pain, no gain. This is the virtue for all humans--if you don't go down the tree of possibilities, then you cannot explore the nature of making conversation. It's just like evolution, if there were no organisms that were mutating (whether good or bad) then humans would never have existed. Civilization didn't get to where it stands today by playing it safe.
We did not evolve or come from fish or Monkeys ! God created this World & everything in it & God made man from the dust of the Earth ! Read your King James Version Holy Bible starting in Genesis & read to Revelation ! U will find out who God is Cuz all Scripture was given by inspiration of God & they wrote as they were moved on by the Holy Ghost !
I've been watching your videos, and some of these concepts I knew but I was missing a few key things. Now, I've been putting this into practice everywhere I go, making conversations like it's a game, and it's ridiculous how many girls respond positively, giving signals for more. Everything you say is spot on! Keep up the good work, my friend!
The video is not about talking to girls, it is more about talking to strangers without having sexual intentions There are some core principles for talking to girls, which will make them crave you: 1.) Push/Pull: Make them feel insecure by insulting them a bit and mix it up with compliments 2.) Give them emotions: Add drama and passion. You can also give them negative emtions by telling inadequate things 3.) Always seem confident and risky: If the conversation sounds like a daily conversation you will seem boring and needy. Girls hate nediness and boredom, it must come off as if they are just another girl and not important. If it seems as if you said something wrong and she gets upset don't search for excuses it will come off as unmanly, just start a new topic quickly, she will forget it because she cannot think about two things at once 4.) Eye contact: they will shittest you by looking in your eyes for a long time, you have to hold the eye contact It will not work so easily in the beginning I would start talking to girls and trying to apply the things. It will maybe come off as unnatural but if you automatize the core principles you will manage to internalise it. Don't be bothered by rejections, do not give up, keep going and you will have success quickly. I talked to 20 girls in one evening 2 weeks ago and at the beginning it was hard. However I improved quickly and this weekend I had lots of success (6 kissed, 1 ONS)
Most people would give out politically correct answers like "be a gentleman" and shit. Girls will think you they want someone who's loving, caring, thoughtful and shit. But none of that is true. What's this guy says is the absolute truth. I'm not nerdy or shy, I do most of the things the video talks about yet I'm single. But my friends who do what the comment suggests, are very successful. So much so, most are two-timing and even the girls are ok with it.
Hey, you know what? Thank you. In fact, I don't think I could thank you enough. I think you've just changed my life. Only God could possibly repay to you the debt I owe you for this short, free, RU-vid video. Keep going! You're gonna change many lives out there for the better and inspire millions, or even billions of people! I just know it, as if I can see it with my own eyes! May God bless you mightily and use you. I don't care if you're a Christian or not. You've got something real special going for you. I'm sure I do too, but here you are, putting yourself out there, putting all your talents to good use, inspiring quiet people like me to believe that I can too, and can actually become a supremely valuable member of society and especially, in the life of my dream girl, whom I know in person and am working up my confidence to speak to on her 18 th birthday next year as we speak! Wish me luck, my friend! I'll need all the blessings I can get for this grand endeavour!
Just go for it now, a year is a long time from now and anything can happen in that time, life's too short to not take chances, just don't make a move too early, that's a huge mistake
Confidence grows naturally the more that one does something. The first time I jumped off of a five meter diving board when I was in the second grade, I was scared because the water looked so far away. I had to gather the courage to finally jump off (which took a full 5 minutes of re-assuring myself everything would be alright), before I finally made the jump. But when I landed, something amazing happened. I realised that all of my fears had been made up in my head, and that the jump wasn't nearly as long as it looked from above. I climbed straight back up the latter to the board, and this time it only took me a few seconds to re-assure myself that all would be ok. I jumped, and none of my fears came true. The fear kept growning less and less the more I did it, and now I can run off of the five meter board without even thinking about it. I can imagine social situations are similar. Sorry for bad English.
Nah this one is undeniably your top 5 videos... and it ain’t 2-5 ! This is a video that answers so many questions about not only communication but life overall. If someone was struggling with social anxiety, depression, or feeling like at a stop, literally they just have to watch this video every single day
Years ago I could sit and talk to a girl that without admitting it was there to find out my marital status. I was always locked in a corner and had no choice but to sit and chat. This could go on for an hour or longer and after a time of going through this got the hang of how to never end on the very topic she came to get. First and pretty much the answer was to talk about her. Second, before getting to the big question she would always go silent then look at you and ask, so where do you live? I’d answer and ask her the same. That never failed to derail her start the conversation going in another direction. Then, depending on her answer follow that up with another question and another and another and so on. Not fast, just a nice follow up question on or related to the last one. There’s no such thing as a women who doesn’t want to talk and talk and talk about herself or her family or where she lives or how big or small her home is etc. And when she realizes she better get back to work she’ll stand up, look at you and consider asking you that question she came to ask. When you see that look, tell her how great it must be to live where she does or drive such a great car or something that you covered. Ask about her Mom “LOL” or husband/boyfriend and quickly mention an old flame but keep talking. But stay away from the topic of her mate, husband near the end as she may use that as an opener. By mentioning an old girlfriend you throw the topic in a direction she will chat with her friends about and absolutely go off in another wrong direction with it. It’s amazing how long you can keep her occupied with nothing but chatting about her and her life. It wasn’t that I needed to lie about it, it was the fact you could tell what she came there for and it became a game to see how long I could delay the question. If I ever was asked I’d answer “You mean my significant other” That once again caused things to go in another direction and the game continues. Fun way to amuse yourself and an interesting way to observe human nature. Especially the female kind.
Me : Did you know why chillies are hot ? She : Not interested . Me : So what do you do for a living She : Not Interested. Me : So what are your passions She : Not Interested. Me : *throws a 100 dollar bill on her face* She : Wow , you are soo funny !! , Wanna hang out ?? Why God , why ??
Those aren't the girls you want anyways... If you do decide to throw the $100 bill on her, before you walk off pick it back up. You will need it for the LADY you will meet in the future... Patience is a virtue and we are not always ready for what we ask for. Just make sure you are ready... Everything else will fall into place... Happy Life to You...
I dont know if you see this. But this channel actually elevated my love to stranger talks. I'm still kinda discomforted or speechless with some people (depending how the time went), but you really showed me how life can be put up. Kinda a game, kinda serious (because choices REALLY MAKE THE ENDING THO) and based on companionship and creativity. Thank you for this.
Find out the other person's passion, then ask follow up questions about it. Grocery stores: ask random people casual things at first, then move deeper.
I am an introvert when it comes to talking to the girls. I am as scared as hell to start a conversation. Your video is a real motivation to improve in this area of my life.
Turning life into a game works at work as well. I started a job where the supervisor was rude and treated asking my co-workers how to better operate my machine as wasting their time and I should figure it out for myself. When I stopped worrying whether today would be my last day every day and treated my task not as a crisis, but as a game challenge I didn't stress over it and just did my best. It took awhile, but 7 years later I'm the best at my job and when we got a general manager that liked my approach my supervisor had to lighten up.
I’m a girl and I’m just gonna say that I just want a guy that will talk to me and not give up or get board because I usually give short answers now to questions since whenever I try to keep the conversation going by talking about something and asking them question, the guy or other person seems uninterested and reply’s quickly with short answers to my questions. Then the person just leaves and says something like bye gotta go. Like they started the conversation but they couldn’t even listen to when I talk or keep it long. Aaaaggghhhh And this is directed to guys and girls.
Mix things up a little. Aks questions and give "short" answers, this way you indicate that you are interested, but do not talk too much. Keep in mind 99% of the guys not interested in girl's own agenda at first. Mostly cares about how she looks and what does it takes to make them in the horisontal position by default. After that if everything is fine than he can become interested in everything else about you.
A game I am going to start playing when I do cold approaches is to see if the girl crosses her legs or plays with her hair. Another thing to look for is, as you maintain eye contact, look for pupil dilation. if any/all or a combination of those happen, game on.
"when you realise their are no mistakes in the universe you become sane." Alan watts. I approach girls and usually the best mode of conversation is their work. Because nobody does something for money if they don't enjoy it. So that reservoir of passion is infinite.
Honestly, I watch these vids to improve myself to practice/perform the great work. Girls/Women aren't the prize. I must say, this is some great info. Keep it up, my brotha.
My main issue (aside from being introvert) is the not so great experiences I had in the past (school years) with girls, especially when I tried to ask out a girl and she just exploded with hatred in her voice, something that wasn't there the past 2 years I've known her (we were in the same class and since she was so far the only one that even talked to me like a normal person I thought I try my luck). I knew rejection was in the deck but the disgust caught me off guard and insult to injury she was into a friend of mine, something that had no prior sign of it. And everytime I think of dating her words keep echoing in my head "How dare I think anything could be between us."
The best revenge is success. Become your absolute best self so that the next time she sees you (high school reunion maybe) she'll regret the day she rejected you.
Thanks for the info, today I already had a few nice encounters with people, I clicked the video to see what I could learn from it and use it next time. New for me was the passion convo, I will use it on the girl I like, I am curious what here passion is.
hit on her friend send her a message through mind, im not hungry wolf i wont eat her, she's safe with ......... do this u might get both of them cuz that worked for me once
A quick addition to your awesome list: Be present in the moment! When you talk to girls don't be distracted by your thoughts, your mobile phone, by other hot chicks - be 100% present in the conversation!
Very true I have gotten a lot better at my conversation skills since I started working and have to interact with a lot of people but still have to force myself sometimes to want to continue an conversation.
You guys are awesome! Thank you so much! :D I got the social part down but everything else was hard until you guys showed I can be confident and know what to do. You guys are a social lifesaver.
Just scored a big hit with the method that you're describing; just this morning this beautiful girl that I always wave to and say hello to asked me "how are you doing?" Instead of me saying fine or okay I said "great! How are you doing how was your weekend?" This turned into a 15-minute conversation with a really hot girl that I have a crush on. It also boosted my confidence
After watching the video from FarfromAverage you have gained 100 exp in conversation skill. You have gained the quest of improving the conversation skill in your life.
I actually noticed that when I talk to some girls, they just keep on talking and talking nonstop. To the point I don't know what they're talking about but they just tell me anyway.
Hopefully by seeing this video, it will give me inspiration and the confidence that I need to break the ice so to speak. It's not easy for me to approach anyone, let alone females for that matter
Always working conversation topic U are going to join the army. Trust me. It works more often as u think (sure not 100%). They often wanna know why u are going to join, what we wanna do, how we think our daily life is changing... Sure works for every othe job, but the military is somehow special
max. gend well if you are starting out its easier to start with the less attractive. start with them and you will improve with the better looking ones too!
kenterminatedbygoogle sorry dude, that's just how it is. I remember realizing the same thing a few years ago: "I'm supposed to be myself, but also not be super introverted. So how the fuck does that work?"
John Meda, no, it's just stupid that a guy has to be outgoing just for women to fall into him. It's like u have to be someone else for women to like u, it's BULLSHIT!!!
i was jus tthinking this shit over recently. notice how they say to be rea but then say to do be more interesting and outgoing basically saying how we are not isnt god enough
2:17 I just messaged a girl who I liked and met a couple of times, the conversation was going very well then she started to pull back, so did I and then when I replied to keep the conversation going I asked her some appropriate questions in response, I waited a few hours for a reply since she was playing the pull back game on me and then I get a message notification, I check the reply to my question of "how was your day" or "how are you?" and it simply said "ok" I give it a pass then realised it was becoming a new trend, she would often reply with just "ok" so I assumed she obviously was not interested as she was not even relaying my question back to me such as "and what about you?" so just told her "goodbye, take care" Note: the girl's first language is not english, she is asian so I give her plenty passes as I thought she probably want me to win her over and keep chasing as the dating expectations and ways are different with asian girls - but now I can't even be assed - I smelt bullsh!t and realised its consuming too much of my time and no girl on planet Earth is worth this much mental energy as us men usually think the girl we like the most is 1 in a million when in reality she is only 1 of a million
Best video! Thank u this was wonderful can use it to overcome any fear. Rly one of the best video I've seen to help anyone improve their life! Thank u again for sharing.
its depressing that its literally a game you have to go into with a strategy and “cracking the code” to make a girl like you. its just ridiculous. it shouldnt be that hard
Improve your body language and start looking for signals girls make to you. after a short time you will know which girl is interested in you by default. You will have easier time to learn things with girls who likes your moves in the first place.
So if a girl is not beautiful enough, she can't get any men? What is she then, a trash bin? It's so shallow to say that only with good looks you can get to a guy's heart...
You somehow interpreted beautiful girls being able to get any man with unattractive girls not being able to get any men. There's no possible way you can logically reach that conclusion nor think that others think they are trash bins. So again, you make no sense. Only good looks can 'win a guy's heart' in most cases. That's just reality. No one is saying you can't win them over with personality as well but that is less important evolutionarily so guys whining about personality being the main thing are deluding themselves of their biological wiring despite personality being important for healthy relationships.
No, that's not what I think, but that is what the guy from the video said. He said that it's harder for guys to get a girl, because their attitude matters to most women and that for girls it's easier, because they only need to be good looking. I consider that to be very shallow, because I know guys who were attracted to hot women, but when they tried to get to know them better, they proved to be not so nice. That made them look ugly in their eyes.
The fact that you said the guys were attracted to the hot women in the first place before knowing them just proves his point. They didn't see them as ugly because they weren't nice. How do you know they aren't rationalising rejection or the girl being uninterested in them or they don't subconsciously deserve the girl? If those same hot girls asked them out they'd say yes in a heartbeat in hope that it will work out anyway. They just haven't had that opportunity. We're all shallow. No need to act morally superior and shun others for being more shallow than you are and choosing to follow their biological wiring to being visually attracted to girls so they can produce successful offspring