SOCIAL MEDIA ADDICTION | Leslie Coutterand | TEDxMarin 

Love this: “With my posts I shape your world. With your posts you shape mine. In this hyperconnected world, our digital habits have a long term impact on ourselves, our society and our planet.”

I feel social media addiction comes from lacking healthy relationships with people in real life.

and that's WHY I DELETED MY INSTA. it just makes me depressed and anxious

Got off fb in January 2019, and never looked back! Social media is tearing society apart at the seams.

I’ve been off of Facebook for a year and a half now. Never going back and I’m upset at myself that I waisted 8 years of my life on that. No more though, NEVER AGAIN.

The reason why people are toxicating on social media because they're trying to find connection while their real life is not going as they wish. It's normal. we all need to connect. we all need someone or some people to be with. so as long as we see people are being addicted to social media, we should give them a care, love, conversation, and attention, wether it's in virtual or real life. because that's what people need. to connect, understood, and heard. we all do.

I deleted all of my ANTI-social media (Facebook, Instagram, & Twitter) in January 2021, and have not been back since. I missed it for about ONE DAY!!

"I was staging my life, and I was rewarded for it."

There have been a few TED talks about this subject and after having watched a few of these, I do see a pattern in what is covered and not always does something new emerge. The one line here that jumped out me from this talk that I felt was quite thought-provoking was the bit around understanding the motivation behind a post. As someone posting piano covers online during 2 months of quarantine (and I am guessing a lot longer), I battled with this idea of being narcissistic - and that posting these videos online would be an avenue to indulge narcissism. In reality, I do want to connect and to belong and that lies at the heart of this endeavor. I like that she suggests not to dismiss someone's post as narcissism. That post is probably a plea to be loved or to belong. I have to admit I never really thought about it that way.

This lecture really hits for many people today. Social media, especially for teenagers, has a huge impact on society. Personally, I was all about getting likes for acceptance and love, but when those numbers stopped going up, it stressed me. Social media's got its upsides, but it can mess with finding myself. So, I've learned it's crucial to focus on discovering the real me beyond all the superficial stuff.

I think the problem with social media is the unholy interplay between 2 factors: first, it's designed to orient you toward your audience. There's this constant pressure to play to the audience, conform to their desires (perceived, algorithmically determined, or real). People feel compelled to force fit their content to what they think will capture attention with. That's fine on its own. The second factor is that the content is supposed to be 'you'. Social media feels like it's about individuality, self-expression, "sharing" your thoughts, feelings, and adventures with people who care about you. The imbalance of those two things ― creating a persona to perform for an audience on one hand, and sharing yourself with people on the other hand ― is pulling people apart.

That "two lists" idea is simple but brilliant. I am going to do that right now! It's amazing how easily we confuse things that make us appear sucessful to other people with things that make us intrinsically happy just because. The two are often poles apart and most of us spend too much time chasing the former and neglecting the latter!

".... A life, where what I represented was more important than who I was."

Using social media to help with my social media addiction

I think that uninstalling the apps is a good start but it won't work unless you commit to change, after all it's quite easy install them again. I tried that by myself. By the way I did a simmilar research and I just posted it to my channel, in case someone wants a different point of view!

Thank you for sharing your experience. If we take a step back, social networks are the current context, but we can also apply it in a more global way, that's what it inspires me... Let us stop wanting to behave as we would like others to perceive us, but let us have the courage to put forward our needs and act accordingly. "If one day I became what I am"...

Yeah, the talk is amazing. A topic that must be brought to the main stream, so We can solve social media addiction. She is beautiful! The way she talk, move and her voice... damn. It's very very rare that some lady caught my attention like this. Beautiful lady and very smart!

It's why I deleted my Instagram

Thank you so much! Writing out those two lists are my next thing to do.

Despise social media. What a great 'talk' - spot on.

Talking to people these days has become a real chore it's almost your invading someones valuable time or crashing a party .

this was beautiful. thank you so much for this!

Great job Leslie!! 👏🏼👏🏼

So good!!! So needed! Thanks for that!

Yes, social media can be a toxic thing.. we all agree on that. But some people putting themselfs on a throne for not using social media and feeling better about themselfs by judging social media users is also toxic and bad. 'Live and let live'

Social media got nobody's thinking they're somebody. Read my lips, likes and views does not mean you are a celebrity, you still have to wake up and go to that Chick Fila job in the morning.😂😂

Definitely one of my favorite talk

Social medias are good only if you're smart enough to handle it. I'm beyond smart so I quit. Later I found that it's way more better if you stay away from it. I'm glad I did.

How is this not famous yet

Such an amazing talk 💛

"feelings of need, lack and competition"

Thanks for inspiring me, I will try to do my best :)

Its really important to learn how to mange the time you spend online ,it can consume you and take up all of your time leaving you feel depress

Took such a good topic to discuss...Thank

Fantastic talk really enjoyed it.

Zimbabwe 🇿🇼 ❤

Superior social media platform requiers superior state of mind,If I walk to any shop,library,pub,theatre wherever and I notice people have no fear, anticipation,feel free and easy,just like 2 decades ago-that's the world I'm dreaming of.

Shut your phone off for the day. Everytime you think of checking it, well thats exactly what its like for a drug addict when they think of using again.

Amazing speech ma'am,💓

Excellent talk.

It's all about the why's!!

thanks for the video. appreciate it!

still healing my childhood traumas's from narc parents

I don't use much social media sites so I don't really have an addiction, but I have an addiction on YT

This is a awesome video! So impactful.

I'll truly always be humbly grateful for all of the internet social media workers and their families. I'll also truly always only warmly love, care for, pray for, respect, and be humbly grateful for all of the internet social media workers and their families past, present, and future kindness towards myself, my family, all others on all internet platforms, and all other people in this world. Seriously, oh yeah.

Thanks a lot 😉

Totally agree. I deleted my Instagram account a month ago, and I've never ever been happier! The only one left is Voicely, but it makes me feel better and helps with anxiety a lot.

Yesssss lets shift the consciousness 🙏🙏

Thank God i have never been addicted to social media and never will,but,one thing i have to say is that social media funcion in a criminal and sociopath way.I was strong enough to resist their sociopath tactics.Bullying,stalking,and defamation,shame on them.They have blood on their hands,they failed with me,sorry i am not sorry

Amazing

Completely agree!

Sangat menginspirasi,,,

good job

Very good performence😍👍👍

The understanding here is quite remarkable. A book with akin insights had a substantial effect on my outlook. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

I'm wasting literally 3-4 hours daily on instagram, I need to do something asap

Best thing I ever did was delete social media! ❤

As a guy said years ago: "Humans are predictable animals." He compared them to the experiments with pigeons eating the food and pushing buttons. He is right. Maybe if you can minimize the "predictability" just to 10 percent, maybe then you can give people what they actually want, and achieve their goals, not just dopamine. but people probably can do it only by practicing meditation and metacognition. Maybe people can download their favorite videos into their pc and watch them from pc, not from the internet, but have to unlearn and minimize the habit of engagement on social media, but learn engagement in real life in restaurants etc.

Watched this because found her really pretty

So truee

I don’t use Facebook or twitter, I did in the past but it was annoying.

the next cultural challenge is finding genuine connections in a world where people ghost each other and are scared to create deep connections, covid screwed things over even more then they were before… it’s like no one knows how to communicate and cultivate genuine connections in my generation (early 20’s), we gotta do better.

Now I put a timer every day

You are great

"Even in the bathroom" 😸 me currently watching this in the bathroom while I take a 💩! 😸😸

if they were never made maybe we wouldn't have tis problem.

"The social platforms, that originally were set with the best of intention..." 😏

Yes

Seeing somebody woke is so beathful. Best speech i seen in a minute. I exercise in a huge indoor pool. The lifeguards can't stay off the 📱. People swim a few laps and then come check there 📱. Repeat repeat. Not judging but we have a dam problem

From zimbabwe

She looks so much like Jennifer Garner! Brilliant speaker too :)

Why people in the older generations became famous and had wonderful childhood? . . Because they weren't on social media

"The social platform (...) became quickly the largest, most powerful social conditioner of all time!"

Marriage in crisis.. My wife wont stop social media it's tearing us apart... Snap chat and fb and all others help cheaters cheat 😠

I'm doing an essay on this, its due tomorrow. Pray for me :p

For Zimbabwe!!!...and cake!!! 🍰

Keep it honest those who go online all the time do not have a life they spend their time online watching the screen entertain these people. At work is a place of entertainment and am there most of the time besides my business creating websites for people that believe they're famous and I see people online on their phones instead of enjoying their lives outside. In California the beach is 20 minutes each way where ever you live when I am at the beach I see no phones at all. Do not waste your life going online watching people lie to keep you interesting in their lives this is a distraction from your destiny that you should be living offline. God has blessed you to wake up and live an abundant life not to stay online watching others lie to keep you distracted from your destiny. The years will go by you will be old without anyone in an old folks home depressed for not enjoying your life.

great

Social media is a waste of time, you can spend years on creating a great page, but it can all disappear in 1 second. I stopped using it

💖that 34% stat

ironic that RU-vid is social media...

( Leave your comment in English ) Very informative . Whole lotta thanks for the post tbh

I think close all my social media is the best desicion in my life i am never regret it, because i am known social media make me far from people who i loved and arround me. So much manipulation also in this social media, lucky me i never trap by their games. Good bye.. Hope i never meet you.. UNDERSTAND specially for this social media. I think social medias are platform not only sharing what you do but also be a platform for learnt something but outside there using it for creating conflict and try to stopped someone progress. So upset and disapointed, while somebody outside there just sharing their unussual or uninteresting things in this platform.

I don't think you got it quite right. Best example is a friend who I talk to via instant chat soon later I realise he's too busy with positing his story instead of focusing on a great chat were just having. Doesn't seem like he cares much about the connection but attention. Quantity over quality

People just do things because they get paid and that’s just really sad

I deleted my all accounts a while ago and I don't know when I gonna open again ...

Professor Joseph Thurm sent me here!

RU-vid while uploading this video, This girl will kill us!

let me post this on my social media

good

Are there any treatment centers for this?

I gave up social media!

👏👏

In this world of social media, every one has a mask .. none shows their real feelings..aarum pacha Aya manushyan ayi jeevikkunnila which is not right

I'm just consuming more media here

Oh yes . Social media is built on algorithm we enjoy and like. So what about new things we wanna explore . Ya thats true , i remember back then when i discovered new stuff on social media. But now ? It has became btr or worse

I clap for you unconscious ♥️

Play it at 2X speed. Thank me later.

Using social media to say don’t use social media .