Spotting Toxic People In Your Organization: 6 Signs Leaders Miss

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Every organization and every church has them: toxic people. But how do you spot them? In this teaching, Carey Nieuwhof covers six subtle signs leaders miss. Carey outlines exactly what you need to do to make sure you limit the impact of toxic people in your church and shows you how to stack your team with healthy leaders.
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Chapters
00:00 - What Do You Do About Toxic Behavior in Your Church?
00:41 - How to Spot Toxic People
02:54 - AI and Ministry Podcast
04:22 - The Problem of Toxic Behavior
07:25 - Signs of Toxic Behavior in Leadership
08:49 - The Signs That a Leader Is Toxic
14:32 - What Kind of Leaders Are You Ready For?
15:27 - Signs to Look for in a Church Leader
17:38 - The 6 Signs That You're With an Evil Person

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@nicolebarron529 11 дней назад

Wow, excellent. I think we also need teaching of this type in school for our everyday life. I have shared this with my adult children so they can learn how to avoid and handle toxic people... not just in a ministry setting, but frankly, in our lives. We each have a mission to fulfill, and by allowing toxic people into our fold, we hinder our own individual ministry. This is fantastic from an organizational perspective and also valuable on a personal level. Excellent message, Carey.

@CareyNieuwhof 11 дней назад

So glad you found it helpful Nicole. I agree, it applies to all orgs, not just churches.

@roryarrowsmith9989 11 дней назад

Thanks Carey! I find the podcasts with just you even better than the others. These are much shorter and to the point, which makes them more sharable also. Please keep doing them! (This one was particularly useful to me since as a relatively young leader I have sometimes been naïve about people).

@CareyNieuwhof 11 дней назад

Wow, thank you!

@joeychen3946 10 дней назад

This is so helpful! I'm really loving this new format!

@CareyNieuwhof 10 дней назад

I'm so glad! Thanks for watching

@MetroLarry-yj4wq 11 дней назад

This was well done!!! Keep these coming. It's a wise way to do the podcast. Your voice is genuinely caring and it comes across in how and what you're communicating. Well done Carey!

@CareyNieuwhof 11 дней назад

Thanks for the great encouragement!

@paulosilva448 11 дней назад

Amazing!!!!!!!!!! Keep’em coming!!!!!!!!

@CareyNieuwhof 11 дней назад

Thanks for the encouragement!

@michellemullinscoaching 11 дней назад

Outstanding! Thank you for this valuable episode.

@CareyNieuwhof 11 дней назад

Glad it was helpful!

@michellesimons5634 11 дней назад

Thank you for this concise over view of a difficult topic. Thanks for including talking about evil people. The truth that most good hearted people think that others are just like them is a very true dynamic. Sometimes it's hard to see evil coming because they are master manipulators and do something called mirroring. I think the best way to spot truly evil people is to listen to your intuition and not shut it off because you don't want to be judgemental. The second is looking for there mask to slip. The third can be hard to spot if you're in top leadership is those who "kiss up and kick down". Basically they are two different people with two faces. I've had misfortune of having evil people people (usually Narcissistic behaviors or out right NPD) destroy me from the inside out before doing "the discard" in a Christian College and in a Christian Ministry. They can sneak in and do so much damage the worst part was not being truly believed not being protected. Their behavior will not be consistent and the way they treat others will not be consistent. Evil people aren't awful to everybody. They play their hand carefully. They are "wise in their evilness"

@CareyNieuwhof 11 дней назад

Ugh, so sorry you've had to deal with that Michelle

@janice3167 10 дней назад

I’m curious how this fits with the problem of narcissism that Jim Wilder talks about in his book the Pandora Problem. That book addresses ow narcissism is tolerated in the church and he points to the response a healthy church would have to narcissism. Would the narcissistic person fall in the evil or foolish category? What about the divisive person that is talked about in the New Testament? Thanks for the good teaching!

@JubileePro 10 дней назад

So true Janice! Thank you for Jim Wilder. Never knew about him and love reading:)

@billgriffin9778 11 дней назад

Carey, so good. I discovered all of these things in the course of my ministry. There’s a good book that fits with what you’re saying and deals mostly with the “evil“ contingent, “Antagonist in the church.” The book is very helpful for me in a very difficult time in my ministry. Your content is always excellent. I like this new format. Keep this stuff coming!

@CareyNieuwhof 10 дней назад

Thanks, Bill!

@victoriale2433 10 дней назад

Fantastic pod! I love how you put into words what I have seen also. These keys are subtle but very telling. Really appreciate your content, Carey! I have already sent this to multiple church leaders! 😊

@CareyNieuwhof 10 дней назад

Thanks for sharing Victoria!

@truDogGarrison 11 дней назад

Thank you, Carey! I am in the process of being hired as a marketing and communications manager at a new church with almost all of these toxic traits and it's been troubling for me to want this role. I've been in ministry for almost 17 years and this is has been some of the best advice I've heard in a very long time. I look forward to all your podcast episodes!

@CareyNieuwhof 11 дней назад

It's hard to enter into a situation with elements like these but awareness makes a huge difference. I hope this is helpful as you navigate the new role and new relationships. I'm cheering for you!

@KJ-lb4tj 6 дней назад

Marketing and communications manager are not words that ought to be attached to a church. No wonder it's toxic. Can you imagine Jesus hiring a marketing manager?? What's happened to relationships in a group of people that is small enough to deeply know each other?

@gsusfan1 10 дней назад

There are so many churches in America where there is little to no accountability for staff. We're often the most inefficient organization on earth. Now, it takes 12 staff to do what 2 did 40 years ago! I asked for details of whom was on staff at my church two months ago, and still NO RESPONSE from Exec Pastor. And often, when someone brings needed accountability and questions, they get labeled as "toxic." That is unhealthy as well.

@JubileePro 10 дней назад

Great point!

@JasonEvery 11 дней назад

Thank you so much, Carey. This was incredibly helpful. Especially as we are in the hiring process.

@CareyNieuwhof 11 дней назад

Glad it was helpful!

@rebeccaragland8446 11 дней назад

So helpful!!

@CareyNieuwhof 11 дней назад

Glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching Rebecca.

@trevgrossjr 11 дней назад

Super helpful. Thank you sir!

@CareyNieuwhof 11 дней назад

Trevor, so glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching.

@harredondo1 11 дней назад

This is really helpful. Thanks!

@CareyNieuwhof 11 дней назад

Glad to hear it!

@benedictongonge7802 10 дней назад

Thank you so very much

@CareyNieuwhof 10 дней назад

You are so welcome

@Tugedhel 10 дней назад

A side benefit of today is helping me understand why a guy who never wants a negative thing to come out of his mouth and is affirming others at ever chance is often not trusted. I had decided when I chose Christ over suicide to never add to another's pain. I wanted to be a source of hope in the life of others. Just about every time I see something worthy of affirmation I speak to it. I've always wanted to be a force opposite of what I was under for years. I see now that the "nothing but abundant affirmation" person would be feared as a manipulative salesman.

@KJ-lb4tj 6 дней назад

You can't be 'nothing but affirmative' and be real and authentic. Jesus was not 'nothing but affirmative''. He threw chairs down the temple steps, he had strong words for the religious leaders, let alone telling Peter his best friend to' get behind me Satan'.

@JubileePro 10 дней назад

I am a bit concerned about the lost art of confronting sin. Of course we look at ourselves firstly as mentioned but sometimes getting healthy churches requires the courage to stand up to the unhealthy leaders or parishioners? Right? Throughout scripture we see clearly that these were God's people rejected by the majority for doing so. Jesus too. Of course no church is perfect! Can you speak a bit to that? Jackie