You are a “know it a lot”, but you’re also a sweet lady who genuinely wants to help people, and if you see something that needs to be clarified for the betterment of others, you do it. Nothing is wrong with that.
This series is SO HELPFUL for me. Thank you for doing this series. MY LO in currently in stage 3 now. The "excuses" are becoming more and more common (the cover up stages) now. My loved one still works part-time now, three days a week with a rest day in between. EVERYONE (including me) is stunned he can still work so having your confirmation to this is so helpful. We believe he can work because this is "route" memory that he has been doing for 12 years and requires not taking any money and the computer mixes the paint colors for him. He has admitted a couple of times that he can no longer do the thinking required by computer work. That is his FIRST time admitting that he "can no longer manage the things he used to do." The example of not going anywhere was also very helpful- this is my loved one. My husband wants to stay in bed all day long and play on his phone or his laptop. That is all he is interested in. I now understand that they phone and laptop does not demand anything of him.... I attend a monthly support group in my town through our senior center once a month and I plan to share your group with them.
These "stages" videos are really helpful. I think my LO passed this stage a while ago. He still reads, but only very short articles or web blurbs. I noticed 4 years ago he would say "this author is too wordy" or "the subject is interesting, but it's so badly written, and the author goes on and on. Too many words." I'd read the same books and realized then we had a problem because neither criticisms were accurate. His impulse of being a voracious consumer of complex material is still there. He has me check a good sounding book out of the library, keeps it in his lap a few nights, then says he's 'done' and ready to return it. I try to steer him to books closer to 200 pgs than 600. I either read it or a synopsis, so we talk about it a bit. I think he gets a comfort out of having had it.
Yep. This is my 62 yo husband. He no longer can understand sermons, all people are imbeciles, stupid, primadonnas, his language skills are really impaired, has a great deal of receptive communication issues. He's heading into four.... It's just heart breaking to watch people stop talking to him, avoiding us, it hurts to have friends not love on us .. his humor does not always make sense . He prefers to watch TV now instead of have engaging conversations in the evenings like in past. He has alot of frustration and anger, not wanting anyone to know his "secret" even though it's becoming obvious.... Ugh.
You are an angel I am looking for options for my aunt who I thought was “just fine” But on an intake interview for assisted living primary care doc wrote “diagnosis/prognosis: dementia” I had no idea, but it makes so much sense! Do you think assisted livings will welcome people in stage 2 and 3?
Hi Vicki!! Just found your channel. Absolutely love these videos. I suspect my dad might have early onset dementia. According to him, he is fine and everything is okay. Some of my observations include: asking the same questions within a 5 minute timeframe, me discussing something with him and he asks me a question out of the blue in reference to the just discussed topic which makes me think he either didn’t retain the information shared or tuned out? (I suspect the former), accusing me of making him look bad to my mother and gaining perceived leverage to feel good about myself and be in her favor, testiness and moodiness sometimes within a day’s period or on and off on different days, pausing in the middle of saying the evening grace and suggesting myself or my mother could finish the rest, accusing me of talking behind his back, sending a bill to the wrong address, taking a bottle of water out of the fridge and not definitively remembering it’s his or where it is, in general looking distressed or sad or extremely chatty and lonely to name a few. Would love to hear your thoughts. If it helps, one of his sisters (deceased), his mother (deceased) and my cousin (still living) all suffer from mood swings and paranoia. It was especially intense before the end. I’m not sure if it’s a combination of mood disorder, dementia or Alzheimer’s. I don’t foresee any cooperation of having him see his doctor or better yet my doctor (I trust him more).
thank you for your videos. this is the best video i have come across that made the stages so clear and concise and not just listing a bunch of signs to remember. i am an OT student studying the stages of Alzheimer for my boards exam and you explain what i need to know and clear cut distinctive signs for each stages and easy to remember!!!
I do not, per se, but I will add it to the list!! I talk about it some in a video I did comparing dementia to not being quite “dialed in” to a station. Let me see if I can locate that video and post it here!
I don’t read anymore. I used to say to not read is like to not breathe. I have like 300 kindle books, and probably 400, hardback. Sigh I think I’m in 3
Ok, as I read more comments below, I guess I need to come back to this video and see your responses to any question I leave😊 I peeked at the FB group. Are these short videos on there too? It’s loaded with info, however your videos are MUCH easier to process than the various books I’ve gathered…. However, I’m compelled to get yours too, but prioritize it 👍🏽😁
Hey Wendy!! I am catching up with comments on here!! I have a big group on Facebook and I’m active over there every day. As you watch more of my videos, you will find that I am a care receiver too…I have temporal lobe epilepsy and have seizures every week, so some days are harder than others! But I try to respond!! Thank you for considering my book!! ❤️ Vicky
Is it possible for a person to have mixed stages in one week, e.g. not have a clue about the gossip one day but be on the ball the next week, then back to not having a clue and so on? Xxx
Laura Hunter yes, especially in the early to middle stages, like 4 into 5. They can straddle the stages. Also, think of it like a radio station not quite on the channel. Staticky. That’s what happens when some brain cells and other don’t, so to speak. Bad connection. Down in 5, 6, there is less and less connection and by 7 it’s almost all static. Make sense?
Laura Hunter, don’t always ‘trust’ the gossip! 😖 My sister-in-law had us believing her sister threatened her and also a man that lived down her road was going to ask her in a date! She was just 61y/o.💔
Dovie Tomplait awww that’s not good it’s heartbreaking, my mum isn’t gossiping , yet, lol, I was asking in relation to what dementia with grace said in her video xxx
My mom has changed over the last year. She's become obsessed with her check book and bank account. Everyday, checking to see what's cleared and balances. Very easy/quick to frustration and anger. Easily manipulated. Her dog has more rights than the humans. Example; granddaughter told the dog to move so she could get to the sink. My mom was instant to anger. "Don't tell the dog to move!!". Granddaughter took the blanket from the back of the sofa and mom took it from her and said; 'That's Lilly's blanket!" Then covered up the dog. Said she put the onions on the free table at the apartment complex, she actually put them in the car. I'm afraid to step in. I can't handle being around her. I need help.
Awesome info! I’m just not sure how to see responses, if I leave a question on RU-vid? Anyway, I’m a NEWBIE, but LOVE what you’re sharing, NOT JUST INFORMATIVE, but practical tips with and such joy , peace with such a delightful humor! Thx for being a Know A Lot !!!
Hey! Answered another question just now…the BEST WAY to talk to me is to join the group on Facebook and leave a question there!! You are welcome. I love what I do!!
Thank you for these videos My sister has been moved into a mental health care facility She’s been diagnosed with dementia but I don’t know what stage she’s in Watching your videos helps me see familiar patterns in her that she does
A MRI can detect brain shrinkage and white matter changes. So, it can detect changes, but whether or not it is caused from just Alzheimer’s or another dementia requires more tests!
I can tell you that when your in stage 3 of dementia or alzheimers you can still retain info and learn new faces but you notice their distant towards friends and others as well I know theres a saying age is a number but sometimes theres other reasons that cause it not because of your age which is true.
Laura Hunter I have seen it move that quickly, but it usually happens in a couple of years versus a couple of months. Have you seen my video on 5 things to look for in new or worsening behavior? I will grab it for you.
It has less to do with age, and more to do with the type of dementia. Some move faster than others. Has she been typed by a doctor? It’s not necessary, but it can be very helpful.
Well, yes, and any thinning or atrophy of any brain matter can cause, behavioral disturbances, inappropriate humor, etc. It just depends on where the damage and loss of white matter is. If it’s in the frontal lobe, if it’s in the occipital lobe, or parietal lobe. Dementia is actually an umbrella term where in there is Alzheimer’s dementia, Parkinson’s with dementia, frontotemporal dementia, etc. So dementia itself is a syndrome, that leads us to develop a more pointed diagnosis. Thank you for your comment!
@@DementiaWithGrace well Mom is in nursing home.usally I go to see her after work I get there around 6 & stay for a hour she is sleeping like wakes up on & off & will talk low to me or really say things that shock me said she was worried about me.I cried on that one.its hard to even explain like certain things she does that makes u think Wow she's acting like Mom again.
@@DementiaWithGrace thankyou for your Knowledge I appreciate it. I lost my Dad last yeah Feb.17th 2019.Its been really hard on the immediate family. I helped both of them the whole time I noticed something was up with Mom at my Wedding in 2010 seemed forgetful but a forgetful that different.My closest Friends parents set me aside & said I don't think Ur Mom remembers me.a couple of people said that to me at wedding.
