Steven Koecher Disappearance Analysis 

The cultural pressure within the Mormon community to be successful and perfect is overwhelming and the suicide rate is high. Your analysis is compassionate and spot on. Looking great, Dr. Grande!

He makes your heart ache for a young person to end feeling like that

The retiree gang "just couldn't keep it up" 🤣🤣🤣 that was a literal LOL. Good one Dr Grande!

So many people wanted to help him. It’s sad that he felt he couldn’t accept it. He had this idea that he should do everything himself. It’s just sad.

I live in Henderson and this story has always intrigued me. From where he left his car and from where his cell phone pinged last are not remote areas. There are plenty of residential and businesses in between. There should have been additional surveillance somewhere 🤷‍♂️

Dr. Grande wearing plaid like a boss.

20 minutes to freshen up the mind = 20 minutes to watch Dr Grande before writing again. Perfect procrastination. Thank you for your hard work! ✌️

my fiance killed himself just shy of his 30th b-day. he hated the thought of turning 30. he also was very future oriented when talking to other people. we had just signed a lease agreement to move to a different apartment. We had solid plans in place. And we did a lot of fun things in the weeks before his death. He had a good job, but hated it. He fooled all of us, though. Not all suicidal people act suicidal.

This is such a sad case. It seems like he was such a nice guy, trying to do everything right. And he kept hitting dead ends. Eventually you do start to wonder, if all your efforts and work are just not ever going to pay off. Then it's like, why bother? Why keep putting yourself through it for nothing?

He seemed very kind and deeply tethered to a moral perspective that structured how things could be meaningful. Unfortunately, as admirable as such a reality can appear, it may be what drove him to oblivion. Rest In Peace Steven.

Your analysis was very insightful Dr. Grande, particularly when you said that “stress has to go somewhere.” I think it speaks to the importance of facing mental health issues head on because they don’t simply disappear. Although it’s hard work, if not dealt with in a timely manner, they may reappear at another time in uglier ways. I think Steven must have been depressed, anxious and highly disappointed with himself. Poor thing. 💔 Excellent review, thank you!❤️ On another note- your shirt is lovely:)

The observation that this could have been his last act of kindness was a heartbreaking statement.

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The merchandise must be starting to pay off. New shelf, new folk art cacti, and now a new shirt.

The Doc’s looking rather dapper today🙌🏻

It is amazing with cameras, cell phones, etc that a human being can vanish off the face of the planet.

This case always bugs the crap out of me ! It’s really annoying how some people really believe that a guy who couldn’t figure out how to pay the rent would actually be able to disappear on purpose and start a secret, new life. The one thing you’d probably need for such a feat is money, and he had none. He also didn’t seem to be great at planning things.

My man, delivering those anatomy jokes with that stone cold delivery we’ve come to admire time and time again.

Love it to come home from work and then there is a new case from our doctor coming in. 💙

This is real mystery, thank you for revisiting it.

This is such a sad story. It seems like Steven had such a hard time in his later years. It makes you wish that somehow you could have known him and helped him. It's too bad he felt unable to accept help from his family, although we don't know what his relationship was with him. He clearly either killed himself or was killed. R.I.P. Steven.

I find Stevens situation particularly sad. His family was obviously supportive and stood ready to help but there seemed to be a loneliness about him.

Dr. Grande, your extensive background in working with suicidal people is obvious in the tone of your voice. It sounds understanding and caring at the same time. It's so sad to hear of cases such as this one; too bad that therapists are not ethically allowed to share stories about people they have helped. A case with a happy ending would help lighten the depressing tone of this one.

The delivery of the viagra joke is gold.

I’ m not Mormon, but I’ve been acquainted with a few in the LDS church. Mormons are typically very focused, purpose-driven and family-oriented. They often get married and begin their families very young. Any young man unemployed and unattached at 30 is might feel an urge to pull things together; a young man in the LDS church in that position would likely feel like an unredeemable failure.

I think he was suicidal. The money/job problems, the driving, seeking out an old gf...sometimes family and acquaintances are the last to know because the subject "hid his feelings " well.

12:14 this joke was delivered so perfectly that it took me more then a second to realize it was a joke 😂

I don't understand the first theory. How does one "start over" when they don't really have anything to begin with? Seems like his depression was stemming from the fact that he was never really able to "get started" in the first place.

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Mental health analysis aside, it's genuinely scares that me that in this day and age with all the technology we have, etc people can still seemingly disappear without a trace and then never be found.

Poor guy, Stephen life was not easy, Great video Dr Grande!!!

One of the last things my friend did, prior to taking his life, was buying gifts for his step brothers, which were left ready to give. Poor Steven seems to have been in a similar mindset. I hope they found peace.

that viagra joke was too good. great analysis as always, Dr. Grande :))

Just a reminder I'm not diagn--IT'S A NEW SHIRT! I THOUGHT I'D ALREADY SEEN THEM ALL!

There is also a saying in the UK that in old folks home staff quietly add Viagra to resident's meals so that when they sleep they don't roll off the bed 🤣😂

I remember hearing about this on the Investigation Discovery channel years ago. I’ve always thought the whole thing was strange. From his disappearance to the unusual amount of traveling that he did prior. Hope his family finds closure.

Dr. Grande, So many young men have been disappearing: - Macin Smith (St. George UT) - Daniel Robinson (Buckeye AZ) - Bryce Laspisa (California) - Jason Landry (Texas) Just to name a few. So mysterious and sad.

Your interpretation (first and foremost the third theory you present) of this man's life situation and his actions makes an already presumably sad case ...incredibly sad. 😢

I lived in Vegas during this time and remember the story. Great content like usual Dr.

Highlight of our days! Blessings to you and yours, Dr G🙏👏

One last check of the saved voice-mail messages to hear familiar voices of those he loved before treking out into the vast Nevada wilderness.

Me, singing to the cactus on the end table: *I wish you would step back from that ledge my friend.*

This case makes me sad :( as someone in my 20s I always feel like I’m not meeting certain standards and deadlines fast enough as well, these expectations we may put on ourself can be damaging.

My brother was coming from Austin to Canada in April 1985 and we had to search for him, found missing, and later found he had had a witness see his car go over a cliff near Henderson. Later they found his body in a Las Vegas morgue, where he had been for 3 months with his car in the demolition lot, and his Drivers License and Identification in the car. Only when a Travel Agency got involved that they discovered this. Why this happened in LV explains the lack of empathy on the police advising the family. This relates a bit to this coverup here....🤒. We had to search every place, including Amarillo, I remember they served soup made from pig stomach there... it was definitely Mexican. Thanks for your compassion, Dr. Grande. 🤠🤒

I am reminded of just how horrible the Great Recession was. I lost everything, and I never recovered. Just thinking about it makes me feel that sick despair I felt back then.

I always appreciate how you tie up stories with astute conclusions and lessons learned.

“Geriatric viagra “ 😂 You and your plaid shirt are too cute, my friend! ( is it ok if I call you my friend?)

Love the shirt. 👍. I was wondering if this poor fellow couldn’t have possibly had a psychotic break. Due to stress. This along with a nervous breakdown happened to me after the death of my adult son. I couldn’t stand to be at home which is completely out of character for me , just not to be at home with my thoughts or alone. Just sad.

My favourite shirt yet!! The geriatric joke - hilarious! Still giggling at that one! 😉

Please cover people like Itzel Ramirez, a delivery driver who assaulted punched in the face a 67 year old woman over 10 times captured on video.

your videos are the highlight of my day!!! thank you for all that you do!!

I’m worried about that small cactus. He looks like he’s about to jump… 😆

That tiny tiny boi on the corner of that little table made me laugh! 🌵

I spit out my drink with the “get it up” joke. 😂 Dr. Grande is savage! On a more serious note, I’ve watched and read a lot about this case. I kinda figure suicide. His behaviors are so irrational and out of the ordinary. Many people who take their own life do not show symptoms of depression. Foul play is always possible too. I am reminded of the Craig’s list killer who lured people in by posting job openings and rental space.

Dr. Grande has mastered the art of uploading at the perfect time 😍

Always here for Grande. Interesting and useful every day.

The viagra joke !!!!..............I can't stop laughing and blushing. :)

I just watched Stephanie Harlowe’s two-part series on this case, and I do lean more towards her theory (just my opinion, don’t come for me... iykyk), but this is definitely a very interesting analisis! Either way, a very sad case.

I've never heard of this sad young man. Sorry for all his troubles.

My suspicion is that he went into one of the houses and was (eventually) murdered. Perhaps he was lured there by a serial killer (perhaps on the pretense of a job interview), or perhaps he went there knowingly to partake in some kind of drug deal, and either made the wrong person angry or was double-crossed at some point.

Thank you for all your hard work!

Geriatric delinquency; I love it! Too funny.

Geriatric thugs 😂😆 Dr Grande Today your shirt makes me think of the winter months, when its cold outside, the fireplace is lit and there's homemade bread baking in the oven! 🥰

Such a very sad story. Poor Stephen. I'm sure his family are devastated that he couldn't accept their help and that they still don't know what happened to him. . So sad that he had been offered a job in the next little while. A very sensitive and gentle analysis of a tragic story. It's so strange that his body hasn't been found. I'm inclined to think that whatever happened to him wasn't of his own doing. Just my idea.

Even in the darkest stories of sad circumstances, Dr Grande can find a reason and an opportunity for humor.

You've gotten a new shirt and it looks great! This poor young man! What a sad story 😢. I hope that he is alive and well, but...

I am 53 and over the years I have lived in my car slept in the woods and been beat up just for being homeless but I knew I had too press on.never give up.

For an LDS member yes, 30 very much is a critical milestone, especially for finding a spouse. When your two-digit age starts with a 2, everyone and their auntie is bending over backwards to introduce you to potential candidates. When you turn 30 that stops and you're more or less considered a lost cause, especially if you're male and without a steady job that pays enough to support a stay-at-home wife and a bunch of kids. And marriage and family are central to LDS culture and doctrine.

I’m not sure this is as mysterious and sensational as other RU-vidrs make it out to be. I think it should be a warning that someone can be intelligent, good looking and seemingly “upbeat and optimistic” while suffering from crippling depression from barely keeping their heads above water for a long period of time. I’m not suggesting the family did anything wrong, they tried to help him financially but I think this is a good case for mental health intervention and checking in on your loved ones when they’re really struggling. Such a sad case. I feel almost certain he took his own life. Great analysis.

Omg, you keep raising the level on great jokes delivered with such a straight face!

I agree with the suicide theory. All of his behavior before he disappeared seems consistent with searching for a reason to live. The travel, the Christmas shopping, possible job searching. He didn't find one and hit a dead end. RIP

For Christmas, two separate people gave me the same cactus as you have in an orange flower pot. When I see them, I always think about you. Thank you for all the work you put into creating your content that we are so lucky to have available. I hope you are happy and healthy!

Yay right on time!! Thanks doc !

Going back to visit an old girlfriend seems like he was trying to rewind into a happier time. Really unfortunate story.

I've read that it is estimated that there are between 50 and 70 serial killers actively murdering within the United States at any given moment, not to mention the random murders that are not classified as serial killings. I wonder if he ended up being another random victim.

I suspect that I am not the only one who listens for and delights in the inevitable humor quips in Dr Grande's content. As they are frequently found, it is apparent that he can keep it up (meaning the humor of course)

That Viagra reference….how did you do it with a straight face 😂🤣. I couldn’t do it! You’re one of a kind Dr. G., and you’re rocking the new shirts. They suit you well.

You should do medieval religious mystics like Joan of Arc or Hildegard von Bingen. Analyzing their mentality with modern mental health would be fascinating.

This is so Heartbreaking! It sounds like he was really struggling. His Poor Family. But they offered help. 💔💔💔💔🙏🙏🙏🙏 For Steven, and his Family. Thank You, Dr. Grande.

Stephanie Harlowe did a 2 part series on Steven- go watch it now for a detailed narration.

I guess those retired criminals weren't as hard as they once were!

I've always noticed that Dr. Grande blinks very slowly

All the scenarios are sad 😕. Thanks for discussing. I remember this case.

This case makes me feel bad. The guy seemed like a genuinely decent guy who wasnt doing anything sketchy or questionable who fell on hard times and was depressed, and one day he just disappeared. Thats kind of sad.

Digging your shirt! You look like a high-school science/basketball coach today Doc!

As Dr Grande discussed low crime rates among seniors, I couldn’t help but think about the Monty Python sketch on the dangers of “senile delinquents”

Steven's life is basically mine, except my mindset is different. I'm not a failure. I don't fail. I'm just very successful at not accomplishing goals.

Retiree Viagra Gangs 😂 Dr. Grande’s deadpan delivery - jokes in the same tone as narrative - are the best palate cleansers.

Stress is the silent killer.

There was a dude with a criminal record living at his parents' house in the retirement community where Steven was last seen. Also, Steven's landlord was sketchy AF! Stolen cars, stolen prescription drugs, etc. There is SO much more to this story. This video barely scratches the surface.

the more you look into this, the less it looks like he ended his life. there's no way they wouldnt have found him by now

Man, I feel for this Steven kid. I remember trying to figure out life in my late teens and early 20's. It was not easy. I can only imagine what sort of pressure he was probably feeling as a result of high expectations from his upbringing, and very possibly, from himself.

Just a side note on Steven's vehicle... Supposedly, his Chevrolet Cavalier was a special model which used natural gas (or possibly propane) instead of gasoline. Such cars are still quite readily available in many portions of the U.S., but even moreso in the western part of the country. These vehicles get higher mileage to the gallon than gasoline, and in the long run, tend to be more economical. This means that Steven would have had to pre-plan where he would need to stop in order to get this special fuel he'd need for his car. So, he most likely would have had to take this into consideration in any of the trips he would take. My point on this is, since many of these compressed gas refueling stations are near to (or even attached to) truck stops, have any people at these refueling stations ever been interviewed, or has any surveillance CCTV footage been discovered at any of these places, to discover any pertinent information about Steven's disappearance?

I wonder when he will make a video about us, speculating about why we are obsessed with every single detail that changed in the background and/or with him, e.g. a new shirt.

The way doc pronounces "Nephi" is life

Maybe he was lured into a "job interview" and was kidnapped or worse

Terrible, loss at any rate. It's, terrible to think he had no way of coping with all those heavy burdens... 😢 Life, was sure stacked against him.

I wonder if the sheer stress of life pressing in on Mr. Kocher caused him to experience a psychotic break. Poor, sweet man,

I live in Las Vegas and used to live in Henderson (was just there today) and it’s basically a continuation of LV. It’s mostly nice neighborhoods with wealthy areas and lots of businesses, and there’s not really any shady areas. If he killed himself, someone would have discovered him eventually. You’d have to travel a ways to be in areas you can more easily disappear in, but there are lots of areas in Nevada where a body could potentially be hidden forever by a killer. Strange and sad case. I hope someone finds out what happened so his family and friends can at least get some closure. PS I’m always stoked when people pronounce Nevada correctly 😀👍

This is a really sad case, it must be unimaginable for his family........then to add further insult you have that "MONSTER" Joshua Powell claiming a connection with his missing wife.