The bitter truth is relocating abroad not just UK anywhere abroad is tough for immigrants, ask me why you guys are not entitled to public funds which makes it very difficult. It is not quaranteed you will secure a job immediately or within few months no matter what maybe one or two people may be lucky but majority ain't. I am a british citizen born here in the 60's , went back home at the age of 5 then came back at the age of 23. Despite the fact that I am a citizen and UK was also in a good economic situation as compared to now I struggled with a lot of things, I didn't get a job straight away till 8 months, I couldn't cope with the weather and still haven't till date, the only saving grace like I said I am Britico so was on dough and lived with my younger brother who had been here before me and also a citizen. Years later obviously had to start living on my own, paying bills, got a job in office settings but not great pay and end up just living from hand to mouth., thank God that has changed now but you need to put in the work as I had to go to Uni here. Long and short is non of these countries are a bed of roses as we had imagined back home and that's why a lot of people come here and start to cry out, what you watch on films is different to reality and gone are the days when these countries were fullfilling a lot of our people in those day were fraudlent so when they come home the spend like billionaires and gave wrong impressions but now these people have curbed all that and that's why if you notice hardly would you see anyone come from abroad spending lavishly like in the old as everyone is now working hard for their money or go to jail. At a point I moved back to Nigeria with my son as I couldn't cope and lived there for 10 good years before coming back again (that's another area of challenge when you start a family) however, everyone around me knows my final bus stop is still Nigeria. Now that golden question of if the place is that bad why don't you come back number one if a lot of people living abroad have a choice now that they have experienced what it looks like they will prefer to go back home, secondly like Chismidi and several other people who have good jobs, have houses etc and gave up all those where do they want to start from again when they have sold all they have worked for over the years to come abroad where do you want them to start from obviously they will have to rough things and finally it's just like a single girl and a married woman who is in an abusive marriage, now the married woman keeps complaining about how bad marriage is and ever regretted getting married but she's still there, it's not that shes happy there or trying to discourage the single girl but she has already entered, two fear of the unknown where do I start from, will I be able to cope without a man and finally the shame of quitting the marriage and become single. So when you look at my analogy a lot of Nigerians are in the same shoes thinking where do I start, will I be able to cope going back, the shame of going back and not achieving anything they will rather die here than go back and face the shame. In as much as it's good experience but don't be deceived all that glitters is not gold and it's people who keep making negative comments when they hear the truth that is discouraging people from telling the honest truth and when they now get here they feel really disappointed.
I couldn’t have said it better. You totally get it! You can absolutely relate. Going back is not as easy either. Nobody wants to deal with the shame of coming back home. When I first came, it got so hard, I wondered if I had made the right decision and I considered going back home severally. Thank God we are in a better place than when we first came Esther. Thank you SO much for your response. It will only get better from here! ❤️
Honestly brother, you have put it in the best possible way. I also came as a student some years back and I almost went back immediately. I wasn't doing badly in my job, had two cars and a pretty decent family. The idea was to come first and bring them later..but boy...I discovered it was all a mirage within few months..I actually went back home and wanted to go back to my job, but persistent pressure on how much I have spent, what will people say, etc was all I got from my other half, plus..'you want to now kill my abroad dream'..I put myself together and came back to finish the program but vowed not to extend my visa and go back to my job back home. However, when I tell friends back then about the reality they seem to see me as a crazy person. They often conclude that I am lazy or don't like good things. Then they come, the reality hits them as well and its hush, hush. No one wants to voice out their frustrations. No one wants to be laughed at, so they keep it to depressing levels. I've heard stories of comfortable oil workers abandoning their good jobs to come start doing carer work., managerial level bankers, etc all doing care work bc they can't just go back home. Not to say that there aren't those doing well, but what's the percentage? Its still a minute figure. But then, people will keep coming and keep pretending to be fine.
There is hope, the key to relocating properly is doing research and proper planning. I’m on a tier 2 dependent visa and I relocated to Cambridge with my family. I got a professional job in less than 2 weeks post my arrival and an even higher position than what I had in my home country.
I think you should also tell Nigerians to come prepared. I’m not saying it’s saying it’s easy for me here but I can’t relate especially with the job part. I told myself we were not going to do menial jobs and we didn’t. We came with enough money to cover us for the first 6 months. Come prepared or be ready to work anywhere
You're Totally right. I'm Kenyan and have traveled and worked in many Afrucan countries including Nigeria. I'm British born and live in Wales. What you say is 100 percent correct. We just lost a Nigerian woman to depression here in the UK. This is not an isolated incident. Its a FACT that living in the UK is not easy. It's very isolating and lonely. You have a right and responsibility to speak your truth. I suggest you focus on your views and forget ignore those that criticise you. Many Africans don't like to hear negativity about Western countries. However they're quick to criticise their own countries and Africa in general. Its self hate and ignorance. They're not even aware of it. Yes living abroad has many challenges. It's not the right decision for everyone. Many return or relocate to other countries from the UK and Canada especially. Some return to Africa. Speak your truth boldly and know that you're addressing many peoole not just your fellow coutryfolk. You're intelligent and wise. You are influencing someone so keep going and ignore the nay sayers.
The fact that people who are doing so well already and have built a life for themselves back in their home country would be lured to sell off all they have laboured over the years to acquire and move to a foreign country to start life all over beats my imagination. This is common with we Africans who don't and will never see anything good in our home countries. You want to come to a foreign country and expect them to employ you in a high end position before their own citizens? Many bright minds have left their good lives back home to come abroad to start doing the exact jobs they once employed people to do for them back home. Many had gate men, house helps, alas they themselves have turned to those same jobs in order to survive and pay bills abroad. Yes, there are Africans doing well here but what's the percentage? And how many years would it take them to start all over and get to the top. Many are just not telling themselves the truth but the hard truth always stares them in the face no matter how they deny it. Back home is not so good we know, but there are people back home who haven’t even left the shores that are doing so well and are not ready to even go anywhere. The fact is it has there is a system that sucks you in and all you do your whole life is just to work and survive. And if its just to survive that you end up coming for, then why come in the first place if you are already doing well back home. We just find suitable reasons to justify our every action. I can understand young school leavers coming in their 20s but it will be quite difficult for established people. You will struggle and at the end you will ask yourself some deep questions.
This is a really level headed and informative video. I am tempted to show this to my managers at work because we have a lot of new Nigerian colleagues and we have honestly been struggling to understand them. This video answers a lot of questions x
Lmao having been here for 20 years, I laugh hard when people are posting their teavel videos to the uk...😂😂😂...im just like, you do not know what hell awaits you. Its not easy here. You have to be prepared to lose your soul. Too much debts and work stress. If you have a good gig in Naija. Saty put. Make the most of it and just travel for holiday if you can afford it.
You, come back so you will understand why people want to live the country, If you know what happened in Enugu and Abakaliki respectively you will understand. A situation i am not sure of waking up the next day, A situation i can not travel when and how i want to
Wow I am so impressed with how real you are I am so fed up of Nigerians saying why can’t you come back home or you are discouraging me. Nigerians don’t like the truth , they prefer dreams and high expectations
Beautiful content! Life’s struggles are real and valid, everywhere. Not everybody back home understands that life in abroad is not a bed of roses. By and by, wherever you find yourself, put in the work to succeed there and pray to God for guidance. I’ll advise anybody preparing to go abroad to have some extra cash that can last for some months before they stabilise, especially if you’re going with family. The initial months can be really difficult. If you can start earning online as a freelancer before moving, that’ll help you a lot.
Exactly, it is hard trying to settle down during the first few months, but when you finally do, it becomes better. Praying to God Is highly important. Thanks for your comment.
I'm yet to see anyone who came to a foreign country without struggling. You all better start grinding. Anybody who came before you had to start from ground zero before it became better. Get on with it my people, it gets worse before it gets better.
This life is crazy sometimes. You can't please everyone. The thing is that, the way life is, let everyone have the feels and explain in their own expression. All sorts of questions will crop up, if the place isn't good what are you still doing over there? So far you as a woman is surviving every blow it brings and you didn't die, I will survive too. Whoever now starts crying will be answered accordingly as well that, if I'd told you, wouldn't you'd said otherwise? It's better you feel it yourself so as to express it in your own way. This is the new thing life has brought to us. "Don't tell me how it's, let me touch, feel, smell and see it and say how it is". No enemy, no friend.
There is nothing wrong in expressing your feelings and emotions. Telling us about the struggles abroad is good o, atleast people will know how to prepare before coming and what to expect.
Yu are so right the same situation it’s in America 🇺🇸 the bills the rent the food Don’t stop and yu need to bring a lot of money from yuor country and it won’t be enough people need to pay attention to all this as an immigrant it’s very difficult
Whatever your struggles are, I think it’s relative and I don’t feel that enough to say ‘Stop coming to the uk’ You come back fa, or you didn’t anticipate challenges before traveling??
So didn’t know what you are coming to face in U.K. if I understand your video. I believe you knew before making the move. Many people have extremely high expectations and when they fall short of the expectations they become disappointed and begin to complain.
A lot of struggles we face gets watered down! I for one have been with my parents all my life before moving to the UK! Reality hit me hard, paying rent and miscellaneous bills. The thought of bills during the first few months weighed me down and it was mentally straining because there was no job then. Love the video!
It’s crazy actually, I’m just 3 days old here in Luton I’m just confused, still finding my way, my school is in Cambridge, I haven’t collected my brp yet so I can apply for Ni (so they said) I’m just confused and tired.
My sister you are absolutely correct I am in the same shoes now so I understand. But I will overcome because I can foresee a bright future. It still pays than Nigeria 🇳🇬 I am based in Plymouth.
Don't complain if Ur here in the UK just be grateful man jees someone who's a Nigeria trying to seek live here in the UK life's difficult just don't moan about being here in the uk
Doing menial jobs in the uk, does it make you better off doing good jobs in Nigeria?. If doing menial jobs can make you save after incurring cost and everything the minimum amount of 800pounds. Isn't it better than being a lecturer or even a professor in Nigeria universities? When a senior (incorrupt) lecturer barely earns 200k a month despite the years of experience and studies. People who do menial jobs in the uk do that temporarily, pending the time they get better jobs and some don't do at all.
My advice to 9ja Pikins that wants to JAPA. (1) Come with the proper Visa (2) Come with concrete plans about what you want to do (3)Must have an exit plan to return to home country after working in Obodo Oyibo for decades and retire. If you don’t exit, Ahhhhhh pikin will keep working until age 70. My JAPADA plans back are in top gear. Thanks Abdul Omo9ja USA
Honestly, once you open your mouth to say anything that doesn't go well with them, they say you are discouraging them.... but the aim was supposed to be to help them so they don't make certain mistakes we made... I have been in uk for almost 10 yrs, YET, I'm still struggling in some areas
You absolutely get this! Thank you very much for your comment. ❤ People are just sharing their truth and reality abroad. The point is not to discourage anyone. It’s an opportunity for those at home to learn from what people are going through so they can be better informed when they come here.
Very wrong caption.. *”Stop coming to the UK”* Just say *”Don’t come unprepared..* Then outline what one can possibly experience and the struggles when they come unprepared. There’s struggles everywhere. Please don’t discourage people. Besides it’s not everyone that struggle. Some people have so much expectations before traveling abroad and when the expectations is cut short, they start complaining. Since you are there managing, let others come and manage too because it’s better off out there than in Nigeria.. If you bring your personal struggles online, you are seeking public opinion and should be ready to take whatever response you get. After all, most of the people you are sharing with are also struggling to survive. If you do 10 hrs shifts, you are doing it for yourself and you must not expect everyone to sympathize with you. There’s nothing to learn from this post anyways. Finally you are just doing this to generate traffic on your channel and make your money.
I dont understand what your problem is, what were you expecting? Do you understand anything about the history of the UK and its stance on immigration? Obviously not, the UK doesn't owe you anything, you should lay the blame for whatever you're experiencing at the feet of your home country's govt , its your country's responsibility to provide you with jobs and a future not the UK govt. At the moment we are experiencing a labour shortage with jobs in the care sector, nursing, medical doctors and some areas of teaching, this was caused by Brexit and the resultant exodus of many Eastern European workers from those jobs, we're simply looking for people to fill those roles and those roles only, all other jobs are offered to British citizens first and if there's anything left over we then consider foreigners, what is it about that you don't understand? All properly run countries give priority to their own citizens , why would the UK be an exception. Also i don't understand why you have a problem paying bills, newsflash!!! if you don't pay your bills your utilities are cut off, if you don't pay your taxes you get arrested and charged with tax evasion, the UK is a first world country where everything works well not a third world cess pit like Nigeria. You sound so naive and delusional, please do your research before you venture out in the world in order to avoid feeling this way.
You clearly said stop coming to the UK on your on your post...and how can you opt for a good job when you aren't even a citizen. And I put it to you, why complain at all...were you complaining and making all these videos when you were back in Africa???
UK is not impossible. It is Nigerians that keep saying they don’t mind to hustle when they come. Or do menial jobs just to survive . Like is it by force, ex bankers in Nigeria will be doing care job. It is Nigerians that stoop that low. Indians and Pakistanis don’t do that