Never compare outside with inside- I love that so much. Really inspirational talk! Really feel good and such a relevant subject for our social-media obsessed generation!
Same . Never compare what's outside with what's inside . Because there is a long story behind both . And discussing it on social media will probably make matters worse .
Comparison is the thief of joy - memorable quote Tell your own story, don't compare your chapter with the next person...that was so so strong, also your take on the Coco Chanel quote was powerful.
Know this is an old video but still so powerful and relevant!! I always say "we always want the opposite" and it's so true... whoever you are, whatever you have, whatever your situation, it seems UNIVERSAL that everyone wants what other's have. But you never truly know the struggles they have been through and have to GO through to be/have/do what they do. So yes this makes perfect sense!!
Great talk. Create your own story!!! Great points easy to get sucked into the comparison trap especially with social media such as Instagram. I am learning to focus on me and not just others.
Most true. The world is rough and mean. As Jordan Peterson said, "the world is against you . . . obviously." But as I told my own subscribers, many times the greatest enemy in life can be yourself. And you make yourself an enemy by comparision to others. If you make 80K a year and have 200K in the investment arenas you will feel badly if you have a friend who makes 250K and has a million in his. But you will feel good about yourself if you compare yourself to someone who makes 30K and has nothing in his accounts. But maybe that 250K person works 80 hours a week and hasn't had a vacation in ten years. The point is, your journey is yours. How much you want to work and gain to get the greatest benefits you can from your short time on earth---and most of those benefits, my friends, are not financial. Hope this helps someone----Charles
I find this to be a simplistic way of looking at a complex subject. All the examples she gives are so silly: Envy for achievements without willingness to work hard. That's not where we need a Ted Talk. We need a Ted Talk on how to deal with the kind of envy you feel when you don't achieve half as much in two decades of committed, strategic effort as someone else in one decade of laid back effort. In reality there often isn't this "I have kids but you have adventure" kind of two sides of the coin. The question is how we go about feeling okay when all aspects are better. When you would actually swap. When you are not being lazy. When you've tried it all and it still doesn't work out.
I was diagnosed asperger. I am retiring, seeing how I had to spend my life comparing myself to others to be like them. Not odd, strange, different me. It was a must in a world of "norms" to act like you, react like you, behave like you, talk and converse like you --- or be estranged, unaccepted, not included. Retiring, so never was I myself. Who, what am I, but worn out from working hard not to be me simply to make it through life?
I found this TedTalk very inspiring because I have found myself comparing myself to others without realizing what they did in order to become what I see of them. I also enjoyed the diverse comments including the person who found this irritating while I felt inspired. I love the comment with humor: "I showed this talk to my cat and now she is a lion" which I have actually heard before and is very appropriate. Thank you @Rachel Smets for getting me thinking.
Having one of those days... i rent from my ex in her new house with her partner.. seeing them together sometimes and the way my ex does better now it sometimes gets to me. I allow myself to feel it and then move through it because i know what was sacrificed. I know who I am now its time to build my self again and again.
Is it possible to live a life without a shadow of comparison or measurement coming into it? Aren't measurement, comparison and imitation the major factors of disorder in our society?
Sarra Belhaj Apparently, she was trying to make a point that people end up comparing themselves with others while they don’t see all the steps it takes to get to where she is. I personally find this talk very convincing and inspiring. :)
This certainly helped. But most often when I am comparing myself to others, I regret not doing what they did to reach their present. Or I regret not achieving my own dreams that I had set out for myself. Regret for my inactions kills me more than anything else.
Wat een waardevolle speech!Dit geeft mensen steun en kan de wereld beter maken.Zo kunnen we elkaar meer gunnen en misschien een beetje beter naar elkaar luisteren.Goed om het zo duidelijk gezegd te hebben!
i dont realy compare myself to others in terms of achivements and external sucsess but rather to their personalety traits if somone has the body or the house i want i would not be botherd too much becouse its a house its a body its a career its not the person himself but when they have a character quallety i feel i lack thats when i feel really bad about myself and like i dont measure up in terms of being likeable and being good enougth as i am
If it’s a human nature then it will happen constantly 😮😮! Sometimes comparing is the real spark of motivation, if everyone is fulfilled and satisfied with what they have there will be no growth
Brick and mortar business owners can be draining if you are truly not fueled by the work. I loved the interaction, the people but not the hours of working. There was no freedom to me. An online business gives me everything 💋
Very inspiring . Just a doubt is being envious of celebrities also not being ourselves . Did not get this . That when you spend time in comparison you are not being yourself ?
the thing that hurts is when you haven't even done anything they have done at their best like ik it's their best right but it's just like what if i don't feel like my best is as good as theirs yk.
V. Dargain you can be inspired by someone which is very flattering but you still have to make it your own story, create your own path. Let’s say you’re inspired by an author, you can flatter him or her, and you can write a book too, it you won’t copy every word, you’ll create your own words with your own vibe to it. You’re always at your best when you’re giving your own energy in anything you do, whether you’re speaking, writing, creating videos, courses, books, webinars, presenting, etc.,,, Hope it makes sense.
Comparing is not fair We can't compare apple and orange we just compare similars Create your own story What i have understood is look at the hard work that people did to achieve their goals and not look at what they are now
