Hahahahaha! As a older man i learnt years ago: While a woman is playing hard to get, playing mind games, making you jump hoops and whatnot, she is doing the opposite for her Mr Right even sleeping with him after the first date. She breaks all the rules for him. The thing is, she keeps you waiting as a 'Just in case something goes wrong"...You are her cushion because she knows you can do anything for her... Aaaand THAT'S WHY YOUR FIRST BORN IS BORN 2 WEEKS OR A MONTH EARLIER AND IN WORST CASE SCENARIO,2 MONTHS EARLIER. It's NOT your child! Guys have you ever seen a man and his wife and the child looks nothing like the guy like ZERO? So this story of playing hard to get is just her telling you :You are NOT the one until I need you for my convenience .SIMPLE! Thank me later guys :)
I made it part of my new year's resolution to learn to say no as I've always been take for granted. And now at my new job, the ladies feel like I'm being stingy by not indulging them. I didn't even respond to them. They don't know where I'm coming from. I'm 100% focusing on myself and MY HAPPINESS.
📚They need your weakness.... 1: Limit your sympathy. 2: No expectations without actual agreements. 3: Embrace reasonable conflict & pain. 4: Say NO, for no actual reason sometimes. 5: Set Boundaries & Standards
I had an ex that suffered from severe mental health issues. She would self harm in the relationship and I tried my hardest to give her love in the beginning and tried to give her a different perspective of a good guy, but it felt like it was never enough. It would fuck up the trajectory of our 2 1/2 year relationship. Even when things were getting better, meaning we weren’t arguing as much, she would eventually lose attraction for me. It was trauma bonding at its finest. The closest we were romantically was when we were going through rough times. We would get into a very uncomfortable situation and then we’d reach an understanding and we would love on each other. It was so fucked up. When we got comfortable, the spark was gone. I felt like I was hungrier for her love when I had something to prove.
These are universal lessons that everybody needs to learn early because they apply in all aspects of our lives. Unfortunately, not everybody picks them up in good time and it leads to many conflicts. Important points that resonated with me included: 1. Everybody is dispensable, including myself. Imagine infants do survive when their biological mothers die off, why can't you survive without anyone else? I always remind myself of this fact by recalling that no matter what happens in our personal lives, the sun still rises in the East and sets in the West everyday at its appointed hour to the microsecond. To imagine therefore that we are indispensable to other people is absolute b*llcrap. 2. Saying no and accepting no from other people is very good for everyone because it brings freedom to focus on other things 3. Most people are users. Most of the people we think are friends are actually not friends but people who use us for their own good. The day they find a better alternative or someone they can manipulate more easily, they will dump you like a hot potato. 4. Nowadays when asked for a favor, I ask myself if the person asking would do the same for me if I were the one asking. If the answer is a No or a hesitant Yes, then I simply refuse
I am grateful for what you do here. As a typical 'Nice Guy', I have lost so much of my finances, time & myself over the years. But last year, I got the biggest blow to my personality because I wanted to make others' lives easier. To cut it short, I first saw your videos on TikTok and they have been very helpful. You are doing an amazing job. Stay Awesome!!
Great tips! What you might need to do sometimes - is eliminate all the “negative people” from your life - like right now, if you haven’t done so already. If someone is not “adding value” to your life, meaning - bringing anything to the table, you need to cut them off! And surround yourself with people - who will help you get to where you want to be, and grow as an individual! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
67 nice my dear but today i really need u to save me im broke this year because of a problem of behavior disorder and it is difficult for me to find a job so i beg u the best with respect to found me 5ghc for food help please
Thanks so much for the video, because I have just come to realise that always trying to please people even beyond May capabilities, just leaves me heartbroken when most of the people I help out don't even appreciate my efforts.
Thank you for these lifetime lessons. I think this title of the topic could be "Stopping Letting People Treat You Like A Doormat | 5 No-Nonsense Tips. Love to you, Jubilee Jessica!
Lesson learnt 👌👍❤💕 all points mentioned are clear and straight forward. Not to mention, am the victim of this video. From today onwards, I think it's surely important to work on myself more than on other people. Jessica, you're fire 🔥🔥🔥 *Everyday-we-live-we-die-a-little-bit-more* ...this is absolutely deep.
56 nice my dear but today i really need u to save me im broke this year because of a problem of behavior disorder and it is difficult for me to find a job so i beg u the best with respect to found me 5ghc for food help please
To be honest…. What I found out to be a great tool to put your foot down when you feel you’re being walked on (Taken Advantage of) is to simply let them know you feel you’re being taken advantage of in those exact words….. You’ll be surprised of the person response if they genuinely care about you and the friendship they have with you.
This is one video from you I have watched over and over again...everything said resonates with me. This came at the the right time...You never know who you're helping out here. I'm glad I chanced on this. Keep up with your good work 👏
People are to be loved & valued Things are to be used Our prime purpose in life is to help others but if you can't help them, at least, don't hurt them. Exodus 22:22-24 is for all & sundry
Great job as always Jessica OS, No can always save one a lot of stress, time, money and emotional heartbreak... Most of all people would always choose themselves over you anytime every single time
Hey Jess! You popped in at the right time! At the final account assessment, I will be letting you know, from how much trouble and pain you're saving me. May God be with you, ALWAYS!
Today I tried one of the video tips titled tips how to get her attention through texting and it worked so much it's helpful keep empowering us with knowledge ❤
Incredibly helpful and useful info for anyone and everyone world over. We all need to heed this advice not only by listening to what Jessica offers us, but to actually put it into practice, as well.
Great one here. Please do a video on those who come to you to borrow money from you. They measure your pocket with their minds and what they see. Saying a hundred NO to them seems not to drive them away. I fully agree NO is NO.
Thanks girl for making my decisions strong especially on relatives who just idle around coz they is someone they can learn their shoulders on . Watching from Kenya.
Honestly Jo's... thank you so much . I am all this you just mention and it caused me my life .... everything I am as human.. I know better now.. I salute you
Sometimes the people you even try to help kind of think it’s your responsibility to give them a helping hand and if you don’t help them they see you to be a bad person.
Honestly that is exactly for me l was saying to myself a week ago I really need to cut off some people out of my life because people are so rude and disrespectful even when u are not doing things and looking for return from them people are so ungrateful l have to care about myself right now am done. Thanks for the encouragement hon love you nothing much the truth ❤
I commend you for being brave and doing what other women won't do these are things women keep to themselves hoping the man won't catch on the way you deliver these messages are crystal clear thank you God bless you
Jessica thank you so much. These are things I’ve been telling my girlfriend. So I decided to share this video with her, she really appreciate it it now. Good vibe ❤
This video talks about who I was sometime ago, until a friend realize these about me, drew my attention to them and I worked on them. Today it's helping me a lot.
Thanks for highlighting. Everyone around me has seen this happing. Took time for myself to realise. Taking advantage of my good nature. Didn't want looses them as a Friend. What a sucker I've been
Tip 5 hit me soooo hard. I was an emotional dumping ground for everyone. Because I'm a natural healer. I often attracted a lot of people who had issues in their lives. And they bring me a lot of negative energy. I would try to heal them and fix their issues and had forgotten I needed to work on myself first. I became engulfed in their negative energies that I also became very negative.
433 nice my dear but today i realy need u to save me im broke this year due to sickness so i beg u the best with respect to found me 5ghc for food help please
Thank you for this My partner has been always advising me on this because a lot of people tend to take advantage of me but I have learnt a lot in this video and I’ll learn to say no, set boundaries and not be expectant
Public comment. Great message .we are all human with feelings . Respect and care about each other values and actions reflects who really care about you and who doesn't care how you feel.
Hmmm, Jessica, Thanks so much. This has always been my weekness of not saying no when i really ought to and people have taken advantage of me. Thanks a million.
Video resonates with me 100%. Have been down because most times i feel taken advantage of due to my kindness. Wish i could hit the "love" button for such an amazing video
Hearing these tips from jess is just confirming I'm living my best of life every thing is on point ... Living like that shows you alot of load on your shoulders to shake off the type of change be the better you
57 nice my dear but today i realy need u to save me im broke this year due to sickness so i beg u the best with respect to found me 5ghc for food help please
Jessica I always tune to this episodes incessantly,have drawn alot from you be blessed much love from Kenya ,we too would love to welcome you to this beautiful country of ours
Straight off the batt, I feel like the first point is already too much for me. I want to help always, even strangers, no matter my state. I dont know when im supposed to set my limits, even if the "favours" i do destroy me. Especially with guilt trip. I had agreed to two relationships out of emotional blackmail of these people telling me im terrible for not wanting a relationship with them, and latter threatening me with suicide. These people always expected me to be there for them, and i happily complied cause i ended up loving them, but they never really done anything to return the favour. I never really expected anything back because i didnt think that love was conditional, yet all i ever got was very conditional love where i overworked myself in a relationship while the other party made it hell for me and didnt take any responsibility. I dont know how to stop feeling as much responsibility for other people's feelings ( pretend played up feelings, it's manipulation 100% of the time that i only notice in hindsight) Meanwhile I attract people who do not feel any responsibility or guilt for the worst actions you can possibly imagine, like sexual assault. I dont know how to work through this, any advice on learning what standard boundries are? I had a very bad childhood and I've never developed them.
My sister. You the best 👌. You have no idea how much you changing my mindset. When it comes to relationships. I thank you. Keep doing what you doing. I'm learning a lot from you. And like from a woman perspective since I'm a guy.
