Stop Toxic Coworkers and How to Deal with Difficult Personalities at Work

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Have you ever dealt with a difficult coworker? Are you currently having to put up with one? They might be a jerk at work.
I sat down with Tessa West and talked about her book "Jerks at Work". We talked about types of toxic coworkers, signs of a toxic coworker, and how to set up boundaries.
Nothing is worse than a toxic coworker making your work even more difficult. Sometimes all you worry about is them and not your deadlines. In this video, we will teach you how to set up boundaries and make sure you're not the jerk at work either!
Identify your jerks at work with Tessa West's book! Jerks At Work, get it here: www.amazon.com/Jerks-Work-Tox...
In this video:
0:00 Intro
4:00 What is a toxic coworker?
5:48 What is a free rider?
7:19 How to detect the free rider
9:15 What is social comparison orientation?
10:34 What to do about kiss up and kick downers
14:49 Am I the jerk at work?
17:48 Being an ally
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23 июл 2024

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@ScienceOfPeople 2 года назад

Read more about dealing with your jerks at work in the full article: www.scienceofpeople.com/toxic-coworkers/

@frankdelahue9761 2 года назад

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@gabrielaone1619 2 года назад

These suggestions work well for management not necessarily help a regular employees.

@sandrasews3765 2 года назад

As soon as I walk into my job , my stomach hurts. There is a lady that she spends every 30 minutes in the supervisors office, she gossips all day long . She’s smile at me but she’s a double face. Those are the worst.

@Mo-pv5cx 2 года назад

I work as a cleaner at work, and I see dozens of people from the nursing supervisor to the office worker to the labs who ate these 7 jerks in spades. It cause a me to shut down but at the end of my day, if I can say to myself, you rock ,Mo! You did a great job, I feel good.

@sandrasews3765 2 года назад

You do rock

@Hotspot87 2 года назад

Pretty much every job I’ve ever had, had the one person who always gave me a hard time. Most of the time, I think it was because I didn’t vibe well with them. They didn’t like I didn’t want to be friends with them. I can’t wait to start the video, I’d love to see the results!

@yannip2083 2 года назад

Also, the worst one is always HR, which encourages and enables the jerk culture in every corporate America I know. HR is THE worst troublemaker and then act like your bestie, then backstab yet again, then your bestie again, then repeat endlessly! I also think this is American culture because I have worked in other countries and I didn't experience anything so extreme as this in those countries.

@llo1555 2 года назад

I have seen a lot of kiss up kick, kick downers in every organisation wether it's at work, gym or church. I used to think maybe it only happens to me but now I know better. Thank you Vanessa, this was really insightful. 🙏🏾

@yannip2083 2 года назад

I also think this is "normal" American culture because I have lived and worked in other parts of the world and I did not experience anything so extreme as what's happening in corporate America on a daily basis. Additionally, in some countries, the minute they hear I am American, they kept a distance from me, as they know that Americans = backstabbers! OMG! I am so used to be surrounded by backstabbers in America that it has become a "normal" way of life in this country! LOL

@brandonmathueofficial 10 месяцев назад

I LOVE Vanessa. She has no idea how much she means to so many people

@ScienceOfPeople 10 месяцев назад

That is so kind of you to say!! Thank you ❤

@silverancient7840 2 года назад

I certainly will buy this book. Ive dealt with ass co workers for years. Got sick and tired of this one supervisor at work I rarely interact with and she kept kicking down for no reason. I eventually told a manager about her toxicness and got her demoted. I learned she quit months later.

@Christina-yu3gu 2 года назад

I dealt with this social comparison my entire career, even in the police world. These ppl are super jealous of competent & better looking employees. Sounds superficial but it’s true. They micro manage & never encourage you, only point out ur one little mistake.

@yannip2083 2 года назад

TOTALLY AGREED! I even parked my car in the next block to avoid super jealousy amongst folks in my workplace. Some are so super awfully jealous of those who are better than them, to the point of constant backstabbing attempting to jeopardize/remove you! It is seriously extremely bad in corporate America.

@rickdavis4352 2 года назад

Of the short descriptions I've read about from Tessa's book, guessing I fall into the "Neglectful Bosses" category. I tend to put things off, or not give something too much attention, because my anxiety over things going wrong gets to me. Then, the tension builds to a head until something breaks (or I do). Thank you for this conversation. Will dive into this more, for sure!

@angelaomondi913 Год назад

Vanessa's videos are always so helpful!

@selenewaide8994 2 года назад

Great interview! I paused it half way through to buy the audiobook :) can’t wait to listen to it.

@krypticsix 2 года назад

OMG! I just bought the book! I finally have a definition for a coworker our managers love but is so hard for the rest of us to deal with! Thanks!

@oko166 2 года назад

Excellent advice, very important to learn 👍

@mischmarrs 2 года назад

Interesting 🤔 I should get this book. I have so many personalities working with at my workplace. I ought to know where these people fall, and where I might fall. Thanks for sharing Vanessa and Tessa 👍🏾

@NathalieLazo 2 года назад

Magnificent person reading this… The truth is you are confident and good enough already with who you are, where you are at and what you have right now to have the success you want in life. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn that skill and go after it! I believe in you so much! Have an awesome day! 🌟- Love, Nat ❤️

@AnitaBarneycastle 2 года назад

What a FANTASTIC comment. Thank you! ❤

@jesswnj1 5 месяцев назад

This was amazing! 😊

@ScienceOfPeople 5 месяцев назад

Thank you! 😁

@Christina-yu3gu 2 года назад

Love love this ! 🙏🏻😀

@jh230377 Год назад

Great stuff. Have just bought the book. Looking forward to reading it. 👍

@ScienceOfPeople Год назад

That's so great to hear! I hope you enjoy it. :)

@darlenejansma109 2 года назад

There is lots of free riders and my default is trying to control everything when I am overwhelmed and anxious and this is something I learned from a child. It was my way of protecting myself from harm from my abusive family

@Agr8fullife 2 года назад

What if your boss is aware of the toxic co-worker, relies heavily on their expertise to help them always look good to higher up’s? The boss doesn’t care and ignores the rude behavior at the expense of others. The toxicity is ongoing and deplorable. The boss is not held accountable because his boss is completely unaware.

@mujerfenix444 2 года назад

Sounds really bad

@laurenprimacio4898 2 года назад

i think they said something about neglectful bosses...that's what this sounds like

@brandonmathueofficial 10 месяцев назад

This was amazing

@ScienceOfPeople 10 месяцев назад

So glad you enjoyed!

@mohamdjedah6331 2 года назад

Vanessa you're amazing as always💐

@araceli4_ 2 года назад

I recently left my job because I was tired of the toxic environment. I was being gaslighted by a coworker. The thing said in the video that reminded me of the situation was constant having to keep in mind that they can go off or do something at any moment. I was very anxious and I had headaches everyday. I talked to my director & she ended up believing the toxic coworker and what she created to make me look bad. Eventually, my director started ignoring me and going to the toxic coworker for questions. I felt really bad and ended up leaving the job. I mentioned everything during my exit interview with HR. As upset as they were with the situation and the HR person pointing to the sign that “harassment, disrespect” is not allowed within coworkers, nothing was ever done.

@flowers120 Год назад

😢so sorry,

@sarafontana2422 2 года назад

My jerk at work passes off work onto me and makes it look like I dropped the ball on the task. I just needed to point out that you can’t assign a task that was given two years ago on your project when I just joined the team 6 months ago. I just said in an e-mail “Nope.”

@reneechua5893 2 года назад

Kiss up/kick down starts with kids acting nice to teachers/adults and mean to peers. And just keeps going. I wonder how this could be adjusted to school age kids to stop this early

@Iam_ramankaur Год назад

I loved this interview a lot. I have a question. She said that Strong people deal with difficult people and do not complain? How do you deal with them? Is it not important to state your boundaries to such people if such people disrespect you or try to harm your reputation?

@ScienceOfPeople Год назад

I'm so glad you enjoyed this interview! Yes definitely important to set boundaries with these people. Here's a link to one of my articles that talking more about dealing with difficult people, if you're interested! www.scienceofpeople.com/difficult-people/

@Iam_ramankaur Год назад

@@ScienceOfPeople Thanks a lot 😇

@robk6169 2 года назад

Bulldoze or micromanage for me. I like to work and be involved in projects so I will try to insert myself into other cool projects and take over production

@iferren 2 года назад

Una genia!! Que ejemplo de que se puede sacar lo mejor de uno mismo por mas malo que sea el momento!

@MINGYU_KIM 6 месяцев назад

Baught it ❤

@xoz-- 2 года назад

what are the solutions for non-office enviroments with toxic coworkers?

@Anniel67 10 месяцев назад

I could definitely identify with having a cognitive free rider. She’s not in my group but she works the least amongst her coworkers, chatting all day and making the lunch plans. She also asks her coworkers to jot things down for her when she could do it herself. She’s getting away with it which I guess she’s doing a great job free loading.

@ScienceOfPeople 10 месяцев назад

Ah yes, that is super frustrating! I'm glad to hear they are not in your work group.

@Anniel67 10 месяцев назад

@@ScienceOfPeople they’re not but I sit with them unfortunately. The group talks all day long, sighs out loud, plays YT videos out loud to share with each other. Basically they’re very inappropriate and get away with it. But thanks for this wonderful video, I totally understand all these toxic traits in them.

@kingfish99 Год назад

Im an ally of Vanessa and Tessa.

@frankdelahue9761 2 года назад

brain can be exhausted just like muscle can.

@flowers120 Год назад

Sadly, I work with a lady like this. She is very good, out going with all the ones up high. She is in charge of the building keys, and will open drawers in my area just because she holds all the keys. I find this very disrespectfully. If someone wants to use the phone she takes them to my desk instead of hers. Yes, I looking for another job. I just feel that I do not want to give my boss any more worries. They have enough to deal with, so I rather leave.