Stop Wanting, Start Accepting | The Philosophy of Marcus Aurelius 

Shadow- An excellent post.

Let me add, if someone speaks ill about you and you are offended, that means deep inside you know it's true. If it's not offending you whatsoever, that means it's not true. And the person judging actually has the characteristic that he/she is judging you without realizing it.

Seneca

Unless of course their opinion is regarded by everyone else, you lose your job, ability to use public services, and generally participate in society. It might matter then.

@@Pengalen everyone else are bigger fools than them. And you are better off in a new place with new people than the company of fools. A foolish person lacks the rationality and intelligence to think clearly and form accurate opinions and it's hence not in your control to influence their decision.

Precisely. Half of understanding existence on Earth is knowing what you HAVE control over (very little) and what you do not hold sway upon (almost everything). Reflection is key, though. Humanity SHOULD dare to look deep within, but it should also understand that more than the mere physical aspect of such Reflection is required for true, celestial enlightenment. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge; hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)

It’s the Serenity Prayer.

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You will find strength and Marcus Aurelius will find his slave to bring him more opium jam!

Can you give an example of what's not considered a "triviality" then?

more like the time we're sentenced to on this hell planet

@@nvmffs what other people thinks, the way you looks, ect....

@@garyg5347 Yeah these are trivialities but I was wondering what's left if everything is a triviality?

@@nvmffs we are like dust in the wind, trivial in the general scheme of things

Dont wish you were stronger, be stronger. Strength comes from within

Keep wishing life was easier, because the easier life becomes, the harder it becomes to find the will to be strong. And, when you find yourself so strong that you can't will yourself to understand life, you'll have become blind enough to believe in something.

@@matthewmchenry2889 I'm not sure I get your point there...

@@victherocker First sentence: he's saying that it's folly to wish life easier as if it's always easy we do not become stronger. Second sentence: I have no idea what that means, maybe that no matter how strong one becomes one will eventually turn to faith....in something or someone we call "God". I had a major life crisis in 2016. I prayed. The only voice I heard in response said, "Keep walking. If you're breathing you're successful. Keep moving. Don't do anything rash or self-destructive." So I kept walking and things got better sooner that I expected. The crisis abated.

My prayers are always for strength. With great strength- comes great responsibility.

That's beautiful.

Epictetus was a slave and Aurelius was an emperor. A philosophy that worked for both of them shows how it trancends life situations

Exactly. And that's why I pursue financial freedom each and every day.

@@True38 same brother, same 👍🏽

@@jaylewis9876 That's a wonderful observation

Tired of it.

Beautiful 🥰

They might mis interpret this and they might not set a goal for themselves.

Not about more, but better.

For "business" and the "market" in general we are "consumers", which means that we have to "want more"...it is the base concept of capitalism and consumerism...it is going to be deathly

Waaaaay to relatable. But that’s life. 😅

@adamcomerford8502...Good comment, When we look at relationship videos, and our human faults... embracing Stoicism makes sense. Most people, including the younger, forget that when we have significant others in our lives, we bring all our shortcomings to the relationship. I have found most life-coaches to comment that time away from that other is imperative. ...both need to heal, and grow. Question: Did your loss, a year ago, turn into a win for you and that other one? Sometimes, with ego aside, love can re-flourish. Thanks from Darrell. 😇

@@darrellborland119 Hi, Darrel. I'm not sure about her as we no longer communicate, but I feel that I have grown more in this last year than I have my entire life. It was an exceptionally difficult time, but it made me into a better man. Thanks for your inquiry.

@@adamcomerford8502 Thank you for your thoughtfully worded reply, Adam. The optics from my view as a guy in his early 70's (very healthy and "capable", LOL), is that most problems younger men and women encounter, come from our own Hubris, for want' of a better word...absurdly high expectations. You tube has excellent relationship coaches, who talk about these issues. I am thankful that my marriage of 25 years is solid. (Her father raised her with Stoic principals). Finding one's Soulmate" takes some real maturity, and a confluence of factors based upon timing. Stoicism, as an excellent tool, brings forth a common thread thru, enabling love, but with honest-wide open eyes, concerning our own motivations, not so much theirs, since we are only in control of our own motives. To close: My wife, ex-wife and I are friends, without long-remembered 'hurt tarnishing our relationship. A relationship guru once said: "If you are not in breakdown, or buildup with your significant other, you are NOT in relationship", but living a fraud...a rather extreme "call to action" quote, LOL. Thanks, Adam...you make me think as to how well I really do have it. Hopefully talk again, soon. Darrell.

Energy lasts and it is not worthy of worry because it is there for good.

You always create your own mind, whether you fill it with fear, anxiety, and worry, or love, happiness, and freedom. There are only problems if you let them exist in your own mind.

@A. George Read "The Power of Now" By Eckhart Tolle.

Quotes are subjective

Just because something dies or doesn't last doesn't mean it's less meaningful.

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You my friend seem to have COMPLETELY missed the point of this video. It's 100% about acceptance of the fact that you may NOT find what you are "hoping for".

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I like.... I'm writing this down..

I'm writing it down too. Good fortune cookie!

That's not stoicism, that's eastern philosophy, which is much older than stoicism.

@@JaysonT1 China being the longest extant culture on Earth has had millennia to influence Western Civilization via the Silk Road trade network and other forms of dispersion. If you know the Chinese origin, please identify your source. I am interested to know. Thanks for your reply.

Wow

love when people write down the summary.

What are you doing in life not having 10 minutes?

@@vilmiswow It is possible to take 15 minutes from life. There are times when you just can't spare 15 minutes. But sometimes you have to watch the video right away or you'll never watch it. For such cases, a brief summary is useful.

If you're saying you're accepting misfortune, you actually aren't. Events have no meaning, our perspective & response give them meaning. Therefore labeling an event as "misfortune" is not accepting it as it is but rather judging it based on your perception. Acceptance means not labeling at all.

@@R__AoV lolol sounds like bs excuses to me.. 😘

*started doing

Love this

What do these wise words mean?

More like those who can't let go of the past

@@SkedgySky it means stay present, cherish your past and learn from it, and don’t be afraid of what is to come.

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blessings my friend. keep prospering.

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@@blackken89 thank you, same to you 🙏

Inspiring words ☺️. Thank you. Subscribed to you 💪

Much love to you too.

Reflection is key. Humanity should dare to look deep within, but it should also understand that more than the mere physical aspect of such Reflection is required for true, celestial enlightenment. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge; hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)

This is something I could benefit from in life

Sounds like you’re just alienating yourself from your power by giving it up to your sky daddy (I firmly believe in God too but I don’t use God as an excuse to not go after what I want)

You do have a point XD

His lasting renown don't negate but actually proved his point. By letting go of the need to be anything special,fate gave him immortality of a sort.

The joke literally hurt Chris lol

In the meantime (and I'll admit that I'm assuming a lot here), the impression I get about Scientology is that there's a lot of "first world problems" values within their belief system, which is in turn very antithetical to stoic philosophy.

The heck with them, let them.be miserable.

@@Dezzyyx lol 😂

Will and Jada already choke themself with Law of attraction bullshit, they already swalowed by their own expectation of external thing

They already saw the future ;)

They put it on x15 speed.

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This become normal thing as today world. People speak before listen to what other say. They want Like from other more than Understand what Einzelgänger teach them. We learn from them as what we shouldn't be like and continue walking ahead.

Accept it 😜

Reflection is always key. Humanity should definitely dare to look deep within, but it should ALSO understand that more than the mere physical aspect of such Reflection is required for true, celestial enlightenment. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge; hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." --DD 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨

I interceeded in situAtions just like this from junior college onward into employment. Fortunately I also had visionary Professors who were not afraid. Most people are afraid, even those with power. And that affects their decisions making tools. Few see the larger picture, even if there are "rules, laws, and corporate policies" outlining just those processes. It's easier...........to BAIL.

Halaaa ang liit ng mundo, you're here. Stay strong! Strong 💪

You sound weak af probably got attacked for a good reason

Did Karma get your company? I hope so. And I hope you no longer work for them and the experience turned into a wonderful opportunity.

Feel like we are missing some of the story...

Great.😍

Absolutely, the negative in life always pushes us towards the positive

Not wanting to have answers....

@@quiet8100 I was being sarcastic. You can go too far in either direction. The philosophy of any one individual, especially one who lived at a time of different circumstances, should be incorporated into a much larger context.

I lost everything about 20 years ago oh, and have wasted 20 years of my life. I'm finally starting to accept life for what it is.

Hurricanes?

Keep trying, I wish you the best.

@@rawfoodphilosophy7061 What happened? Loss is worse than never have had psychologically.

@@Peter_Parker69 lost everything stock market, lost my job, lost my house. Then went massively in debt going back to school and never even was able to get an interview. I'm pretty much a professional homeless person now, currently in the mountains in Arizona getting one bar of Internet and living the good life, LOL we just have to find a way to accept our fate and enjoy the smallest tiny moments in life. Make a list of the tiny tiny things that you enjoy in life and try to do more of those things. Then write down some easy mid-term goals that are very achievable within a year or two of now. Example I wanted to have a van with a solar setup, a solar shower and just be a nomadic traveler and work periodically. And that's exactly what I'm doing I'm done with this Beast system

You NAILED it perfectly. 🙂 Reflection is key. Humanity *should* dare to look deep within, but it should also understand that more than the mere physical aspect of such Reflection is required for true, celestial enlightenment. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge; hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)

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Dualmass: sorry about your loss. Don't suppress your grief; let yourself experience the pain of loss, but knowing that you will emerge with graceful acceptance. Take care of yourself.

My husband died 9 days ago. Trying to transition from shock to acceptance. Hope you're doing ok.

Going through grief of career and home loss and significant life regrets. Just recently came across stoicism. It’s what’s helping me keep it somewhat together at the moment. Wishing you all the best on your acceptance journey. We are not alone

He responded like an actor who knew it was going to happen

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I guess Chris realized if you don’t feel harmed then you haven’t been. He channeled his inner Marcus Aurelius.

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That comedian has now become more famous and is now a global brand. He is as famous now as Will Smith.

@Alex Stirling - thanks for sharing, beautifully stated.

I got goosebumps reading this. Thank you

Alex Stirling: thank for sharing those powerful words of wisdom. I'm slowly trying to employ this philosophy in my life. My first words every morning ( and many times through the day) are relax and: trust the universe; accept whatever happens! I am much less stressed and worried as a result. Thanks again!

True but how you allow it to flow is an art and not everyone can do that.

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@ Marcus Aurelius wasn't black. Neither the people around him. Overcompensating By portraying every historical figure as black because blacks have been "underrepresented" in media doesn't help them in a positive way, same as what parents do with their kids when they think they screwed up, they try to make them feel good giving them in excess. As a result kids just become spoiled.

A calm mind is a strong mind

True! As Jordan Peterson said Pursue 'Meaning of Life'......rather than 'Happiness in Life'. The reason being 'happiness'.. is also fading just as sadness. You can be happy in the morning but sad in the noon and happy in evening and again become sad in the night. The circumstances in life directly dictates the happiness variables. Therefore focusing only on being happy as the only absolute goal robs us away from living a 'fulfilled' life. Live a meaningful life by accepting death and sickness as the very basis of our fragile life, happiness to be enjoyed every time as it doesn't last, sadness with grace as there will be sunlight tomorrow, challanges and adversities to be faced with an understanding that it is profound structure that makes our life of what it is and the very meaning of our existence. Despite all this life fragility, yet still offering our most responsible contribution to the family and society will help us to live a meaningful life in its highest order because we know that sufferings and happiness, both makes up the very 'meaning of life'. So, pursuing the meaning of life and not just happiness......will make us live a more 'Fullfilling life'.

I needed this today thank you

Thank you, Janice.

@@temjenkrazy feel amazed reading your comment🔥

Can I ask what is the source of your depression or rather your perceived source of depression?

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I always wanted to be a "chameleon" to accept myslef in every situations

The world "should" misrepresents personal opinions and desires as objective or universal facts. How about you write, "I would like all young people to learn about the stoics" instead of saying that it should be mandatory.

@@samuelmuldoon4839 maybe you "should" stop being so ANAL. "Should" misrepresents NOTHING. and the stoics SHOULD BE MANDATORY teaching as much as math and reading but you obviously don't understand the amazing value a young person could get from reading them. There are required classes and electives. Philosophy SHOULD be REQUIRED. sorry if you are offended

Yes isn’t it strange when we except what is then there is less suffering.

I also wonder sometimes how much finding contentment in letting go of professional, financial or personal ambitions is actually holding us back - allowing us to feel okay settling for less than we want when actually sometimes it is good to embrace wants and needs, it is good to strive for something, it is good to have goals - even if we might never reach them. Finding joy in the pursuit no matter the outcome seems more healthy to me than finding joy in giving up the pursuit.

@@RaeganSealy Yes! That is what I meant by fulfilling your needs. There are universal needs, of course (food, shelter), but there are also individual needs that vary from one person to the next. For some it will be professional ambitions, for others a family. We shouldn't try to let these go because that will simply make us unhappy. We should fulfill them to find wholeness. But you are right, trying does not mean succeeding, so fulfillment should be in the journey and not the outcome!

this channel specialises in dispensing advice to people who are mildly successful and high iq. people who are down in the dumps or living in poverty would shoot themselves in the foot if they took the video's message to heart

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I m realizing the power in indifference also

He got up on that stage, looked himself square in the reflection of another man's eye and punished himself for laughing at the joke.

Great.😍

Some stoic master should answer this...

I don't recall a single thing about Marcus saying that emotional abuse should not be escaped from. It is not that he encourages to refuse feeling negative emotions, it is that he encourages to accept things as it is, that you can't really do anything because the world will continue to change, and humans by nature is not entirely changeable unless they are in a certain phase of life. Acceptance means not giving in, but acknowledging that it is that way because that is what is happening. No one can escape from transcience. No one can stop human nature. So don't let it come into your head. Be accepting of the nature of existence, yet be a person of moral and be strict of one's self. I was once in a phase in life where I had a grudge against the entire world. I cared about things that were out of control. My head was a mess. I often asked myself, why is it like this? Why is the entire world like this? Then I stumbled upon stoicism and it helped me with my overthinking that only gave stress to my mind. Since then, my emotions have been preserved only for myself, but still have the heart to provide comfort and empathy for others. These people you mention who use the quotes of Marcus Aurelius do not have the belief of stoicism. Stoicism is about self-preservation, not justifying one's immoral action. You've clearly misunderstood his message, though I agree someone with a soft heart won't be able to process stoicism. It is not selfish. How you treat yourself is how you treat others. People who suffer from emotional pain tend to overthink and repeat negative words inside their head. They worry about what others think, they worry about their future. However, Stoicism teaches them to be more accepting of it. I mean, what else can you do besides to continue walking in life? Overthinking about things is a waste of time and energy. Let your emotions be calm. Not rampant. If you accept everything, you accept your emotions. If you accept your emotions, you take care of your emotions. If you take care of your emotions, you will have a better outlook and living.

I'll take this one. Damn girl, you were probably thinking all this stuff while whatever you're talking about was happening to you and you're still talking about it. Turn that s*** off get on out there suffer with some good suffering folk.

Lmfao sounds like he dodged a narcissistic bullet

@@pervertlumine7909 "How you treat yourself is how you treat others." This statement is 100% incorrect and false.