The only way to heal from trauma is to face it head on. I was diagnosed with PTSD after a tour in Iraq and Guantanamo Bay, Cuba, and I was also emotionally/physically abused and have been able to process my experiences. That and a lot of intense physical exercise. Thank you for sharing your experience. I pray that this helps you to find peace in your life.
I think our generation needs to break this viscous cycle of stigmatizing relationships and the whole "purity culture" thing (especially against girls) and having unrealistically high expectations... it never really ends well.
@Bargain Man no ones respecting this so called “culture” where we have to be tortured or even go through so much just to have freedom in our life or live a happy life
@@AC-mp7cxwe don't have any pedestalisation of outsiders it's just if you are going out white is more preferable otherwise stick to race thing happens here
I'm 29 and I have the same situation. And hearing you open up has really helped navigate my love for my parents and my relationship choices.. Thanks for being vulnerable..
You've got this! Just remember that at 29 you are in charge of your own life. Set yourself free... your parents cannot control you any longer (even though you love them and just want to make them proud).
It sucks how we have to worry about arranged proposals coming at such a young age and when we have someone of our own, it’s so hard to the acceptance of our parents, our society and culture really needs to stop being so toxic and change
No lie im white and Iranian, but i look pure white, but every Indian girl I talked to in the past, parents loved me.. at the end of the day, you getting married, which means you starting ya own fam. ya parents can either be a part of that or not, it’s their choice… best of wishes to you and your man!
You are brave, you are courageous. I'm much older than you and In a very similar situation and I understand where you are coming from. I am proud of your strength
Least your partner supports you I’m Nepalese but grew up in Australia My boyfriend broke up with me and one of the reason was that chances of my dad accepting him seemed low and I haven’t introduced him to my dad. 😢😢 There were also other reason for breakup but I’d rather keep that personal.
I’m on the other side of your story. I’m watching my Indian bf navigate this process of his parents not accepting our relationship. It’s been 4 years that we have been dating, thank you for sharing your story!!!!!
Stick by his side my " white wife did" we are married. Remember it isn't all him he will have anxiety attacks and go through hell at no fault of his own. There will be light. My in-laws were supportive my bro was. Just not my parents.
@@rudraindisguise8630 well. The update is that we got married! His family came around the idea and I have talked to them over the phone. We did something here in the states super intimate and will be doing a wedding later this year where we will include more family and friends. His family will be throwing us an Indian wedding when we visit ❤️❤️ I say all of this BUT it hasn’t been easy!!!! 😅
That’s tough. I’m Indian as well, and my mom and dad told me that they would be open to me dating outside my race but don’t really hide the fact that they “prefer” if she was Indian. Their justification is that “it makes everything easier”. I just straight up told them they should be fine with whoever I bring into the family, regardless of race. As long as the core values align it shouldn’t matter. I’m 23 now so let’s see what happens down the road.
I am petrified to meet my Punjabj girlfriends parents, I am white and from west Europe, I love her so much and my parents love her too but she says her parents are not happy with our relationship 😢
I was actually looking for a video like this and I'm so glad that you shared this story with the world! My parents are also from Punjab and Sikh and I can relate to the things you just explained in this video. All this pressure kinda drives me crazy and it stresses me a lot. I have this relationship with my Mum. I tell her everything, but she has this view of me getting married to an Indian Sikh guy and the problem is that I'm kinda getting into a similar situation and that's why I was looking for a video like this. I really want it to work and I'm so scared. If my parents would find out that we were kind of dating, they would probably disown me. I feel your anxiety so bad, but you know, the fact that your fiancé supported you the way he did, tells you that he is different. That he really cares about you! Thank you so, so much for this video!❤️😭 This really helps a lot and it gives me more strength. I also got so much courage from this video. There definitely need to be more people sharing their stories and I'm so happy for you that you're engaged now!😍💖 This really shows that it works if you find the right person. You're so strong and I admire you for that! Thank you so much!💕❤️
I'm so happy that you found some sort of comfort in my story. I'm so sorry, I know just how difficult this time must be for you. I hope and I pray that the hiding doesn't have to last much longer for you 💖. Also, I hope you know how much of a compliment it is when you call me strong! I really don't take it lightly. Thankyou so much for taking the time to listen to my story and for writing such kind words about my fiancé too. Lot's of love to you 💖💖
Married to a white girl. Been together for 9 years. Had a slight family feud my answer was ok we are done have a great life. If you change your mind let me know. And don't call me to argue I'll hang up and never talk again. They know me well. I'm extremely independent and driven. Also had same when I decided I wanted to get into construction and not college. I lm still in it. Own a pretty large contracting firm know. They don't argue anymore.
@@Kalinga_yodha lol. You think his half white kids will marry indian, speak our language or preserve the culture?? Nwope. Theyll talk about how backward Indians are and go marry white.
Have to do it in 1 month and already shaking. He’s a good guy, but is white and lost his both parents when he was a little child due to car accident. So he doesn’t have a “real family” to take care of me. Plus, he is not catholic, as my indian family is. So…I am getting ready for the fight! My mother is a widow and comes always with so unrealistic expectations…she wants me to live the life she wanted for her.
You are ok dear, you are like almost a ,” Grand daughter’s age to me! Just an advice,” Parents always want the best for their kids”! Just talk it out with Dad/mom/ grand mom and this peacefully for your future and every one’s , including yours in particular, happiness
Hi, I appreciate your comment but I continued detailing everything that happened after this point in my second video. I spent very difficult months talking it through with my parents but they were unwilling to listen. I have been estranged for almost 4 years now and I know my family will not be returning. At this point, both me and my family are just trying to heal 💖
my parents are also punjabi and sikh and when my sister told my parents about her white bf it was tje worst day for her and me cuz they got even more strict
It’s not just south Asian parents who are very strict and overprotective. Indo-Guyanese are also that way. I grew up way also. It’s very difficult growing up in an environment like that. Looking back it’s not just about strict and overprotective. It was about controlling as well. That led me into depression and suicidal ideation at a very young age and I didn’t know it.
I'm surprised this is still an issue. I'm Indian and I grew up in the 80s and 90s America, back then it was a MASSIVE ISSUE, you can't imagine how against everything the Indian elders were in 1985 or 1995. No dating, no socializing, just go to school and figure it out, we didn't even have internet or RU-vid as kids back then. Yes internet came about in the 90s, but it was not like what it is today. The Indian adults back then made a big deal about coed camping in the woods, something that's hilarious today, but was an issue in the Indian community in North America back then. So again, really surprised this is a big deal today, but I'm in my 40s and not keeping up with modern kids today.
I searched "Indian story time" expecting a nice native american elder telling campfire stories and ended up here. I am Cree aswell so please don't be offended by the word indian. We red Indians ♥️
it made me very sad when you started crying, but i think that this is good at the same time because it might be a bit cathartic for you. i hope that you feel better. love you
you are brave I empathize with everything you feel..I told my family last week about my white boyfriend too, and of course, it is not being taken well at all (brothers and father..lots of initial anger reactions etc etc). I want to try and ask my dad to just meet him despite his unacceptance..time will tell I am trying to encourage a meeting...but I am staying strong no matter what..I will always continue to love my family and partner both. I am hindu-punjabi like you too, partner is white/Portuguese. Is there a way we could connect and talk...? Stay strong, stay peaceful within yourself.
It means so much to me that you see me as brave! I will be more than happy to speak to you over DMs on my Instagram if that is good for you too? My profile is @gurnotsopreety 💖. Also, I'm not sure if it will make a difference to you, but I just wanted to clarify that I'm not a Hindu Punjabi, I'm a Sikh Punjabi 😊
I need to ask I am engaged to be married to a Sikh Boy and I am Canadian but we never planned this but I am actually pregnant we have not told his parents yet both his sisters know! Will they accept me and let me marry there son or no?
It should be. But our Indian parents expect us to adhere to their outdated cultural norms :( wish they’d just stay in India if that’s what they want for us…
