Straight Talk: Behavior Before the Relationship 

If you feel the need to spill your secrets, give it to the lord. That way you know where you sent your business and that it’s not coming back

The lady with the white hair is right. Over-sharing needs to go!

So women should not put men in high standards, make them accountable, or even change bad behavior? If we set so many "rules", standards, expectations on women why should women just come in agreeance that men CAN sleep with whomever and come to terms with that.

Dr V needs to stop with the botox and plastic surgery

Get so tired of the lady talking about 31 dates. That's a game show. It's not like the real world meeting 31 guys in a bar or club and within a few months sleeping with all of them.

Behavior is learned. I doubt Steve taught his sons to not judge a womans past. So the double standard continues...

I might be too honest for my own good but I'm confessing everything he ask...I despise lying, and truly believe a relationship built on Truth & honesty is the way to go. Tell the truth and let your Partner decide if they want to deal with your Truth.

I don’t agree with lying about your number, but I also feel like discussing your number is irrelevant. That’s high school stuff. If someone asked me my number at this point in my life, (I’m over 30) I would tell them it was really none of their business. As long as everyone knows they are safe and get tested to confirm so, what you did 10-15+ years ago shouldn’t matter. Life goes on.

I think couples who are serious should share everything, even past mistakes - don't lie about it. Because consider this: If you truly have changed your ways and learned from your mistakes, what do you have to hide? Because if you hide it, that's suspicious to me, making me think you have every intention of playing games with me too. And, if you're open and honest, saying in words and showing in actions that you've changed your ways, and that person STILL rejects you.. Guess what? That's a clear sign they are not the one for you. And that's something you should know before making a commitment to them. It's better to be open and honest beforehand so that both parties can make an informed decision of whether they want to continue the relationship. Keeping such information from a potential mate shows fear, insecurity, and desperation. Desperate decisions lead to dire consequences. In this case, the "dire consequences" is a relationship built on secrecy and dishonesty - a tower that's sure to crumble. A relationship based on openness, honesty, acceptance, respect, and love has a firm foundation.

I’ll admit, I’m an extremely insecure and sensitive person, but even I don’t hold my husbands past against him. He’s been honest with me about his experiences and some of them, I wish he didn’t have but that’s not important. What’s important is the present

So I agree, u can't tell all your business. Discernment is key.

I'm sorry to tell these men but today is a new day. Women are not the way they use to be. Women are not sitting by the phone waiting for a man to call them. I know a woman who was sleeping with a married man while her own husband was at home. When she finally decided to divorce her husband she was already engaged to her next husband. And her next husband was not the guy she was cheating with. Women are out her cheating too and they are better at it. Women are getting fed up and are becoming more and more like men every year.

Honestly... I rather be single. I can invest my time, energy, and emotions in something holistically fulfilling. I may not know what it is, I have a whole life to figure it out. Why should I run my life according to what a man thinks...???A man?? Created by God, just like I am created by God, has blood running through his veins like me, allocated life like me...breathing the same air..., and then I must conform to his wishes??? Screw that. Mutual respect and accept I have a past, or you can scoot.

First of all, if I don't have honesty and trust in my relationship ( I will never agree to lying in a relationship), then I don't have one. I can't get mad at someone's past because I have my own. I'm woman enough to handle a past. I just want the past to be in the past. That is my requirement. Lastly, if a man can't handle your past, then he's not the one. P.S. What happened to being adults and handling things like one?

The doctor V is going to have a lot of people single

I agree that we over share.I learnt that the hard way.

Preach Steve, Dr.V trippen. Lol

Time shapes as to be prepared in the future. We learn so many lessons in our past just to be a better person for our next relationship. I will just take us to another mistake if we bring the past with us in the present.

My bf would constantly over share about his past.. I finally had to tell him to stop, bc your new relationship doesn’t really care to hear stories about the past.. we would be talking about a subject or a vacation spot etc, and he would always have a story about when he was with someone else and they went there or a funny story... ALWAYS had another female in it...it was always” One time I was dating this girl”.. “ One time me and this girl went to FL” , ” when I lived with this one girl she...” it actually created jealousy with me because I started keeping count and it was multiple women so I’m thinking are you a player?? At the beginning of our relationship I counted 15 different stories about 15 different relationships or dating a different woman.. so yes. Keep your past to your self because it can damage your future.. nine years later if he tells me a story I often wonder if he is leaving the other female out of it..

*KIM GRAVEL* !!! 😍

Past does and doesnt matter, it depends on what they did and if they grew out of it. At least it is in my opinion

Why has nobody given the doctor a make up lesson. You’re going to tell me NO ONE has told her she looks like a clown!?! 🤦‍♀️

Dr. V's boots though. 👀😍

How can ones opinion may imply on any other individual

I don’t need to know about your past before me UNLESS it’s something extremely important, if it isn’t then I don’t want to know. If you feel like you need to get it off your chest then hun go to the alter and tell Jesus all about it. We all have a past but not everyone needs to know it. I get you shouldn’t keep things if you are in a relationship, but at the end of the day if that information isn’t affecting your relationship why share it. Because if you share it and it changes the dynamic of your relationship then you are going to wish you hadn’t in the first place. Now I agree with Steve on the your only been with 3 for women, I’m sorry Dr.V but I honestly think Steve is right. I’m all for gender equality but sometimes gender equality isn’t the answer.

I understand what Steve is saying but three sounds like a lie. 😂 I would say 5,6 or 7

damn Dr.V look like she aint got no damn teeth in her mouf

I'll answer that question. If he dealt with your sister, family member or close friends. Some guy coerce my sister into giving her virginity to him, shamed her in our very neighborhood, then tried to do the same to me. As if I'm as stupid as she is. One unexpected phone conversation from him and he knew I'd purposely screw his life up for trying to make a fool out of me. God. Steve can give some terrible advice the way his mind thinks. Good thing I can think for myself.

Yeah I don't want to know how many you have been with and how wild and nasty or crazy it was. I can't deal with that. It's bad for my blood pressure. And I will surely sugar coat my history as well if my partner comes prying and looking for bread crumbs and leads to defamation of my character. I always told my guys that what she don't know won't hurt and best just sweep it under the rug and leave it between you and the Lord.

It is WAY easier for a woman to sleep with loads of different men than it is for a man to sleep with loads of different women. A woman just needs to be somewhat attractive and have minimum social skills. A man needs, looks, charisma, status, money, style, trinkets help too. Also, women rarely if EVER approach men first. Can't be a double standard if we're playing by different rules.

Steve: I have got mad now

We need to stop saying that's just how it is when it comes to things that men do that we don't think is fair. If you're going to say that's just how it is about the inequality in # of sexually partners between men and women you might as well say that about everything men do. How is it that you expect change in gender inequality for something like income, but you don't think that views on the # of sexually partners should be the same for both men and women?

Ngl ive been with probably more than 100 guys, i lost count🤷🏽‍♀️ and everytime i get with someone new i lie sayin ive been only in four relationships before. Two guys and two girls🤐😂😂😂 because the minute they figure more......oooooo it’s annoying. YESSS BABY YOUR THE FIRST IVE DONE A LOT OF STUFF WITH! OML BABY YOU MAKE FEEL LIKE IVE NEVER FELT BEFORE!🥰😘🤣🤣

Live a life tht u won't be ashamed to speak of.

Trust me this is the most dangerous and bad advice you can give to a whoman who want to get married. Because as soon as your husband or your fiance or your partner finds out that you lied to him on this very critical subject that can end your relationship.

Yea I wasn’t comfortable with sharing all my secrets but when the person u trying to be with pressures you to and peg u as dishonest if u dnt then what do you do

NO HOWEVER THE PERSON THAT IS WAS THAN IS NOT PERSON HE IS NOW

I’ve never been this early

And couldnt agree more. Men will ALWAYS treat women the way anyone from a friend to society has shown men how women are treated in certain areas. Of course a man that really loves you not gonna care about your exes but always makes a fun topic to talk about lol

This is one of the issues that broke my marriage. My ex insisted that I tell him how many men I have been with before we got married. I told him that that info is not going to contribute anything to the marriage, so why does he need to know. I never once asked him how many women he had been with before me. Because I refused to tell him, he never answered any question I ask him no matter how innocent or unrelated to marriage the question is, he will tell me, 'that question will not contribute anything to our marriage, so I will not answer.' Of course, shortly after, we filed for divorce. He finally told me he has trust issues.

Now of course, if a women says three we will all know she is lying. Not a great way to start a life together eh Steve. As I believe you have said in the past, you need to be honest in a relationship.

Be mindful of how one is built

I would never get mad in anyway or judge them in anyway. Getting mad over what someone DID is stupid in my opinion, all that matters is that they’re a different person in the present.

I agree 👍

I'd prefer to be honest. But it's important to see how the person acts when they're in a realationship with you. Msybe not the first date but soon after. I'd rather them hear it from me then somewhere else.

This is the wrong Straight Talk video I was looking up.

First of All Dr V she has got to stop expecting a perfect standard of equal requirements to be fair hell life ain't fair, you have men who some no past, waiting for the right one, life say's their boring, people do over share you never share more than basics till a relationship becomes exclusive, and people do back ground check will do own fact finding sometimes mess up a good relationship Cause they get last name mixed up and someone birth year.

No - but how often does a woman get funny (they claim it's a joke but too many of them do it the same way over the exact same things) at a man for being with other girls and/or having no new experiences left to share with her because of that? You really do see it a lot

Real strong woman.

Hopefully the person has grown from their fuckups ! That's all you can hope , don't punish them in the present ; if they're not exhibiting those traits with you . And while you passing judgement ; hopefully you've grown from your own .

hold up did she say she have dated 31 men??????

No. Cause that was before.

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STEVE I LOVE YOU

The mystery is better than the history...

I don't believe you should hold someone past against them. If it happened before we got together or married the law doesn't hold it against the spouse so I'm going to do the same.

hello steve

You can get mad but you can't hold it over his head cause everyone have done stupid things in there past.

Dr V got no teeth

ok what would you love to have a key that can open most padlock OR a lock most keys can open

Other than the ladies yelling..... The past is in there but IF HE/SHE BRINGS THEIR PAST with them to the relationship... Let them go, she was a cheater its ok, but if she cheats??? Damn that means shes never gona change, some ppl run away from their responsibility by moving into new relationship and guess what, its you whos gona fall again fro their past mistakes that they never got out of

ZERO NEED to share everything about your PAST sex life!? Wtf!? WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT???

Steve is basically saying it's ok to perpetuate negative behaviour and attitudes towards women because that's just how it is. I wonder if he feels the same way about racism as he does about sexism. And if not, why not? Not logical.

Wow so Men can do whatever they want , only sleep with how many women, yet women can only have 3??? If that’s the way it been and it’s messed up, then change it!

Do not tell all of your business. It can be used against you. Men do not want to know that they're following 15 or 20 men you've had

If there's something you've done in your past that could be a potential deal breaker, keep your mouth closed. Let the past stay in the past. I agree I don't understand why people feel the need to confess everything. Let the person get to know who you are today. Also, stop telling all your secrets to messy family members who love to tell all your business. Smh

im guilty of oversharing and it still from time to time gets brought up like yo I didn't met you back then!!! I was single living life!! I don't regret nothing so let it go! im with you now smh. but I do keep my sex life partially secret, I shared my first love and my mistake, the rest don't even count! I don't even care how many women he slept with or what he did! because we didn't met back then so who cares!! who knows we both probably did equally worst but that's in the past. I do get curious but whats the purpose of knowing?? seriously why do we need to know?

Dr. V is 🔥 x 69

Kim or Tim.

There are a lot of double standards when it comes with guys shouldnt get jealous of things when the shoes on the other foot women get jealous about a lot.

Doc lQQkin kinda HOTT!A Go-Go dancing Librarian!

I don’t think u should lie about anything. Just say ur not going to answer.

Steve Please cut of that Beard, it makes you look like an old Man...

Kim s awesomeee😁😁

Thank you for the one who agreed lol nice, real talk, as well.

🤣🤣🤣thank to the one Person

Got on tv and dated 31 people lmaooooo she funny

Don’t tell Steve how to act it’s his show

i adore Kim. she's thr best

Love kim xx

I love Kim!

Steve needs to shave immediately

I better shut my mouth 👄 it’s not ok to say to every man 👨 I meet, that I slept 🛏 with over 200 men’s 😕😏 don’t judge me

You should be focus on present....unless your partners has done something really awful (like having a son and not recognize him), you should not care. Why bring skeletons from the past to the present?

Rule #1: Never tell the number. Ever.

Dr. V looks ridiculous in that outfit today. Please dress like the professional you brought on tv to play and not a 23 year old wannabe. Please. Btw, its not even cute on her. She did not pull it off.