Straight Talk: How Connected Should Couples Be? 

Being in love doesn’t mean you need to spend every minute together.

I’m not doing that joint account thing. I tried, he failed! Never ever again! I’m not letting anyone mess up my good credit or good standing with the banks. I don’t play with my finances. I don’t even do joint loans. Not even on my house but my name is definitely on the deed. I will never ever allow anyone to lead me into a ditch, especially not financially. I’m not putting anyone’s name on my car neither, especially since I’m paying on it by myself. You just need to know the person you’re with and their thought patterns on finances. I know better with my husband and he’s not willing to learn. Yet he gets angry when I am able to do things. I have a very strong financial background through the Army and college. If he doesn’t want to take any of my advice, he will suffer financially alone. I believe in generational wealth.

Steve is so smitten with his wife...love it!

Steve nailed it “if you’re happy for someone else’s happiness, that’s a toxic relationship” absolute facts!

I like the 4 accounts . It makes sense

My grandparents have had a successful marriage for 58 years. Their financial situation has always been they have their own bank accounts and they also have a joint account for bills. That’s what I plan on doing with my husband when I get married

always have separate bank accounts because you NEVER know what a person is gonna do.

Steve hit the nail on the head at 2:25! I am not responsible for any human beings happiness - you are responsible for your own!

Steve always have the best advice every situation given to discuss with his guest panel and its base on his life experience that make it count.

"you are going to miss you.... if the other person is making you responsible for their happiness.... amen amen"

Yes you have to have some time alone and have your own hobbies but I think people tend to have a problem if their significant other is trying to live like they're single. If your significant other is trying to go to the club's or bars without you then of course that's going to be an issue in most relationships. You can't be going out all hours of the night and expect the other person to not be upset.

With my ex-husband I was completely financially dependent on him. when he ended our marriage I had babies and I had nothing of my own money or assets. it took a very long time to get on my feet and be fully independent. Never again will I be totally financially dependent on a man. not even a man that's my world.

The photo of the burrito is fake

The hair style distracts me...but love her advice.

Nefessa, that outfit is evvvvvvvverything.

That purple- Yes Nefessa!

Be happy in love, but don't lose yourself in it

The part about couples needing space I have to disagree with this one. I've seen and met couples that spend and talk almost everyday all day and those are some of the happiest couples i have ever met. Some couples just enjoy each other's company. And when you get married it isn't about you anymore. Some of ya need to read those vows.

WE MUST HAVE TIME FOR OUR SELF AND STILL BE IN LOVE IT CAN BE OVERLOAD 😘💯

I was a single mom for 5 years. I've been in a relationship for over a year now. I love him, he's wonderful. But I had so much time to think, to process, to do my own thing. But now we have a blended family with 5 children. I am never alone, I never had free time. it's just not a thing now. sometimes I miss having a couple of hours now and then.

What happened to "Press it.Preesssss It"?

It's okay having your time is healthy. You need to love yourself in order to be a better partner. I say a toxic relationship where a girl made a guy her sole reason for living and when they broke up she became super obssed with him.

I love the money advise Steve gave. Looking forward to it! 😍

100% I think it is healthy to have one's own space. I would want my man to miss me, just like I want o miss him. Steve nailes it, it is toxic to rely on your partner for your happiness. As for money, I am 200% positive I will never be married, but Steve explained how I view finances.

I hope females understand it works both ways

What was the name of the rooster on looney tunes?😂 That's all I see w that hairstyle

Half these women who talk about relationships are single AF

❤️I like that they explains stuff on the show🤘🏽

Love you Steve your so inspirational, I watch always for advice.

This is such an eye opener. Thank you Steve

That’s not even Justin in the burrito photo . It’s a guy name brad Souza 😂💀

So true! Finding my way back, to me! 😍

Love Steve's closing word is really good

The lady in purple is a beautiful women and I love her outfit.

Absolutely i agree with everything !

Steve’s advice 🙌

these women are absolutely gorgeous!! lovee this panel

This blonde Mohawk is quite disturbing🤔🤔🤔🤔

When a guy needs space this conversation goes in a different direction

Who is these beautiful girl ..in the middle ... wow where can I get that purple ...outfit ..girl ....

Agree with Steve's financial organization.

Mr Harvey never looked better! Those shoes? Damn 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

Loving the look Steve. Was just saying the other day that you should wear prints.

I’ll say it like I said to a friend the other day. I never got why interest in someone meant you have to go see them everyday and your whole routine changes now cause EVERYTHING revolves around this person. That to me is a recipe for disaster. It’s been proven to me time and time again. Why can’t we just take our time and organically fit into each other’s lives? No need to go from 0 to 100 with the togetherness. And then even after you’ve organically fit, still maintain who you are and what you have going on. As Steve said, you risk losing “you”. That’s not what a relationship is designed to do. It’s an enhancement not a substitute.

Men need it just as much too

Steve who is your stylist ....coz he needs a promotion .. coz your outfit especially your shoes without socks is fly ...#nosocksday ..steve

Great advice 💕💕💕 personal space and AT LEAST 4 accounts.

I agree with that Steve, with the 4 account system .

Wow! I've learned so much from watching your videos.

My husband and I have separate accounts, we each have bills that we pay and then we have our own money to get what we need/want. We've never had fights over money. Not because we had plenty (because we did NOT and still have months where it's tight) but we made a point to agree BEFORE we combined households.

Very true...100%

Love Uncle Steve

Nope nope nope my account is separate from my husband. My own father made sure of that he said that my generation of men are not looking to take responsibility and are looking for someone to lean on. Whatever bills need to be paid we pay it respectfully, no arguing about who touched who’s money.

My parents had joint accounts. Married for going on 37 years and I've NEVER heard them argue about money.

I'll keep that bank account tip for life!

We keep funds separate and pay half and half on bills. But if he needs money or I need money our funds are readily available to each other

That hair...😒

That pink suit tho❤❤❤

Yo her hair is awesome af

Steve those ankles my guy lol

Quick sidebar: Nafessa looks gorgeous. Makes me want to start watching Black Lightning again.

Wow really want to know where that grey suit outfit is from!!!

I agree all the way, these ladies no their stuff

Did she not see that wasn’t actually Justin Bieber eating the burrito sideways 😂😂

It’s definitely necessary to have time to yourself, but if it’s because you don’t want to be around your parter is where you have an issue!

My wife and I got 4 accounts as well between us. I got mine where my paycheck goes. She got hers were her paycheck goes. We got a joint account for paying bills and whatnot. And we got a joint saving account for vacations, special events, the kids, etc.

Oh no clingy person in a relationship does not work that is a sign of a unhealthy relationships. I love my freedom and space. Growing togather in a relationship does not mean clingy to each other everyday all day nor wanting to every move a person make.Give Space to breath

Did Steve just say Majorie gets more money in her allowance than he does? What? Steve, you’re a good man.

“And she put both our names on it” 😅

Hey, it's Jillian Michaels. I thought it was her during Harvey's Hundreds lol.

The sideways burrito picture was a set up with someone who looks like him haha can’t believe that prank made it big

Nope! Me: Personal checking and savings Him: personal check and savings House will have an account for bills, with both of our names on it. Better yet, which bill you wanna pay? And just go pay it.

Yessssssssss........ 😎

I love my own company ,I prefer being on my own that way I don't have to conform,or try to be something that I'm not?

What steve said at end i thought all people did that

I prefer to call it me time, because it's not you trying to be away from your partner it's you trying to be at your best before spending time again with your partner

That hair is a WTH moment.

This is interesting because it's always smothering when it's the Male calling, looking for & asking where are you but when it's the fenale calling, looking for & asking where are you

Shid I have 4 accounts and I’m single lol

Women with all this bragging about being independent 🙄. Everyone should be independent as adults. That's basic

As long as Bill's are paid: household expenses ect, then what's left - your money is your money ... so I think household expenses should come 50/50 out of both parties which is probably best in a joint account. But then what's left is what you have earned so you can keep it *this is my opinion and experience of a household with no children

Yes u need space

Need space but not too much!!!!!!

Married 6 years in a relationship for 11 i am at this point right now: i miss me.

Everyone needs space.

yes thank you for bringing up dysfunctional

If you need space? from what?

I can’t imagine not having a joint account with my spouse. If we share a name, a bed, a life…why would we not share a bank account?

Marjorie is Steve's queen ❤

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The burrito picture wasn't even Justin that was a guy dressed up as Justin doing a prank...

I believe in space. Honey? You can stay, I'll be back in about 90min

Tell me something that start with Pork? CUPINE 🤣

Join both accounts together once you have kids for the kids sake

Second topic I agree with steve on having multiple accounts joint, savings, hers & mine don't ask me about what's in mine an in want ask you about yours I don't however agree with big hair

Nafessa😍❤

How do you get on this show

Jillian is always the best person in these panel

I like this lady in red ...BUT i am sorry but her heir style is horrible :-(

At 4:40 some women would say “thats not a husband thats a roommate”