Perfectionist in infj eventually comes to a realization isn't worth stressing one's self over and caring what other think; unless it's someone of genuine concern, loses it's grip as it once had when I was younger. I've learnt to accept people will think and feel however as that they are sentient beings having this right to think and feel towards each other and myself, won't alter the way I think or feel unless reasons enough to reevaluate. Criticism was a problem for me but then it was how it was presented, the source and the tone used. Now if to be critized I distinguish if it's coming from a place of earnest concern or from a place of destructive intent. When I was young I struggled with aforementioned, learned hard lessons then to come to terms for the sake of inner peace. Every now and then a perfectionist comes around to bite me in the ass other than that, I've learnt to manage my overly sensitive heart to have found agreement with my otherwise overly thoughtful mind in accordance with balance.
So True I'm in competition with myself I don't care who has more ...But the people who struggle makes me sad I couldn'tn stop worrying I'l lhelp ...Afterwards I dissappear Be it into nature .Walking on the beach ⛱️ Then they think ....all kinds of things....I don't dissappear I need alone time ...🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
Besides the clingy misconception, the wrong people who see your sweetest side come to the conclusion that you’re inexperienced, when you have overcome insane amounts of trauma they know absolutely nothing about and would instantly crumble under themselves. Witnessing over and over that kind of behavior can prove challenging. So you add them to your ignore list which probably makes you snobbish or weird or awkward or suspect in their simplified reality. Next!
Since INFJ’s find it challenging to find someone to listen to them effectively, comfort and/or understand them which personality type might be the next best thing?
