Part of the reason I started watching these types of videos, and many others types as well, is to better understand myself and to solve my social problems. Since I found out that I am an INFJ, I have been researching the INFJ archetype, then sharing the videos with what little friends I have, which has in turn improved my ability to keep my friends, despite not seeing them over periods of months to even years.
Absolutely yes! I relate to this list. I have no friends. I have a few associates I interact with on a boring, superficial level, but no-one I consider a friend. My brother and sister do not understand me. The times I've tried to share my philosophy with them it was like throwing gasoline on a fire. They've said I was "Of Satan!". I stopped trying to share with them. I do have a cousin I can share with, but I don't talk with her very often. I also have a good wife of 49 years who is empathetic, but she is like a captive audience.
As an INFJ I can tell you that we are the kind of people who want to save the world while on the other hand don't want anyone to find out that it was us.
On the bright side, it isn't that hard to do that. Just save the world from the threats that governments hide and leave the problems that humans created for themselves.
The best tip i can give to my male infj people is to just simply get shredded as much as possible. Im telling you it helps in so many ways with our type of personality.
@@JohnDoe-gf5he Well this may be a passive aggressive response and sarcasm but if you think abt it and what it implies going to the gym, building yourself up, etc etc, this is actually really good advice
I wish I was able to my friends. Coming Out as gay, than family bringing moved away from which friends that I had. Caused me to restart my process of trying to make friends. I never having a time getting a guy to say yes to me want I asked them to be my boyfriend. Males don't seem to be jumping to knock on me door to ask me out. 🏳️🌈🇨🇦
I’m an INFJ female and my best friend is an INFJ male. Sometimes we don’t even have to finish sentences, the other just gets it. We simply understand each other effortlessly. Also, the points made in this video are pretty accurate. I think the only reason an INFJ might not have friends is because he/she just doesn’t want to. We CAN, we just prefer being in our own company rather than in shallow, superficial relationships that have no depth.
@@surefiremushroomsmicrogreens probably because he’s not attractive enough. The only thing keeping a man as a “friend” from boyfriend is his physical looks
@@Lazydazey265 Thats true, I have had close female friends that we both didnt want to be in a relationship with. But that doesnt mean we didnt sleep together every once in awhile 😂
Because most of the world is dumb AF and take advantage of the kind hearted. I have more fun doing what I love to do than helping people that can't help themselves.
@@james12erby43 INFJ We are the quiet ones Artists and world changers Musicians speaking through lyrics Truth tellers and people relators When the soul can no longer be insulted Gave love, but it wasn't given back Taken advantage of by lost souls Those who wage a vicious attack Take back our true power We are here to set the world straight Done with the toxicity It's all about love, not about hate What you ask, we will give No problem in giving advice If you don't listen and keep coming back Cut you off without thinking twice Shades of grey between black and white And if you fail to understand We won't please you if you can't please us Piss off with your controlling demands You can be you, I'll always be me Don't tell me who you think I am Not in the mood for your judgment My convictions are where I stand
I'm 37 and only recently learned about the science behind discovering personality types. I'm an INFJ male and this video hits home hard. I honestly teared up twice... it was hard never knowing why my every attempt in social life failed. I was just told I was a quiet and shy kid and that's all it was. It never felt right. I wish more people saw this. I'm gonna share it, but I have no friends. Facebook part time friends who never get deleted... your time to shine.
You are not alone brother, 38 yo INFJ male here. I have friends but I've never had a friend other than my INTJ father that gets me. I'm sorry you've never had that.
@klo433 thank you bro. It's been a year since seeing this. It's helped put things into perspective. Might watch it again now. Thanks for the comment and I'm glad you had someone around that got you.
INFJ We are the quiet ones Artists and world changers Musicians speaking through lyrics Truth tellers and people relators When the soul can no longer be insulted Gave love, but it wasn't given back Taken advantage of by lost souls Those who wage a vicious attack Take back our true power We are here to set the world straight Done with the toxicity It's all about love, not about hate What you ask, we will give No problem in giving advice If you don't listen and keep coming back Cut you off without thinking twice Shades of grey between black and white And if you fail to understand We won't please you if you can't please us Piss off with your controlling demands You can be you, I'll always be me Don't tell me who you think I am Not in the mood for your judgment My convictions are where I stand
@@nicknog00 Thx. Dark Wolf Sitting in the shadows Watching, Observing, Protecting No harm comes to peaceful creatures The cunning eye can sense danger Threats are met with razor fangs Freshly sharpened in preparation of attack Tearing straight into the soul of the unknowing As they are hidden from the rest forest But always prepared for battle
I can totally relate to this. I always preferred to be by myself. As a kid and teenager, my dad would always be on my case about getting out more and making friends. I would tell him all the time that I am happy that way. In school, the kids would pick on me for being so quiet, they would always ask me why I never talk and I never had an answer. I never felt that I fit in and because of that I would keep my distance from people. My sister, who was one grade below me in school, was the total opposite of me (Extroverted). She had so many friends and went out all the time. She would tell me all the time that people would tell her ("Your brother is so weird, what is wrong with him?"), of course she always agreed with them. I was always a sensitive person when others would yell at me and criticize me. (Including immediate family). If I ever would make a mistake causing inconvenience to others, I would feel so guilty, even though I knew it was never intentional. I would apologize constantly. It always makes me happy to help others, especially knowing that I made a difference in their life. I never wanted anything in return even though some people thought I did. I also served 20 years in the military and it was a tough time for me, I sort of dealt with the same issues there as I did growing up.
As an INFJ... the Metal community has been a Godsend. It feels like Thanksgiving every time I go to a show, the crowds don't bother me, I just want to hug people. I know by default that there is a deeper connection with hardship, terror, and thorough rumination of difficult topics not acceptable in every-day conversation with a normie.
I love going to gigs too. Generally stand up the back of the mosh, drink in hand just enjoying the show. What's everyone's favourite bands? I love metalcore. My fav bands are Northlane, Polaris, Parkway Drive, Invent, Animate and ERRA
After taking a personality test a while back, it made sense to me but I didn't take the label too seriously as it isn't always accurate and the community tends to be yelling it out because it makes them feel special. But after watching this video, you hit nearly every point and it bothered me quite honestly. Thank you for posting this.
True, every person is unique so every person who tests as an INFJ isn’t going to fit into the stereotype. Personally, I’ve found astrology helpful as a way to understand the different aspects of myself and what makes me fit into the category of INFJ
I'm an INFJ, and this describes me pretty well, with a few exceptions. I would never go to a restaurant and grill the server about the food, for example. I've worked in customer service roles before, and I always got annoyed when people did that sort of thing to me, so I don't want to be that person for someone else. The old soul part is pretty spot on for me. I also have trouble forming new friendships, especially romantic ones.
Maybe you would have if you didn't work in the customer service industry? Idk my numbers - im the mediator type of personality... so that's why im here presenting an alternate reality to consider ^_^
@@DekkarJr It's possible, but even if I hadn't, I still suspect it's likely that I wouldn't. Given the situation and the nature of the interaction, I might make some small talk about the food. Like, I might be like "It tastes like there is oregano in this. I have never made this dish with oregano before. I might try that.". That was just an example. Thanks for presenting another point of view.
@@winterlows Shut up you freak. Stop being a SHEEP and CRAB IN A BUCKET and dragging other people down because you SUCK at your own life. People like you use the internet because you are angry at yourselves. Shut up and apologize to adrianisaacs right now or your gonna feel it. We cannot leave bad behavior unpunished ANYMORE. By anyone in this entire society. So how bout like the rest of us you sit down and take your meds and play ff14 or w/e u do with the rest of us. Get along or get OUT. Is what I say. -The Mediator Personality
INFJ here, very lucky to not be part of, what seems to be the majority, of INFJ's who struggle with creating meaningful friendships/relationships, and if I can do it, there's hope for you bros!
I'm an INFJ man with an ENFP wife and thanks to her I now have a small group couples that I would call my friends because my wife also included me when she plans social activities from the beginning. Before I met her I spent most of the time home alone or went hiking or to the gym alone and didn't have any desire to make new friends. Sometimes it''s to much social activities for me and my wife gets annoyed if I tell her that I would just rather spend my evening with her alone but all in all we benefit from each others different personalities.
@@JackoBanon1 i relate to this bc my boyfriend is an INFJ and im an ENFP lolll ive read that INFJ(male) and ENFP(female) are one of the most compatible personality types in terms of synergy and how the two personalities work extremely well together/balances each other out
As an INFJ, joining the military was one of the best things I could do for myself. It gave me a surefire way of having social connections, plans, dreams, and purpose. After retaking the test I actually scored higher as an extrovert. Now I am a ENFJ.
You explained me quite well. I’m always seen as a weary weakling because I have already been that old man since my very first ages. No wonder it’s easier for their lives to cut the links out of me.
Well glad you found the video informative, INFJ's are very powerful so while they may see you that way only you know who you are and you can become stronger than all of them.
I felt more mature then my age group to the point I kept wondering if I had that disease that makes you grow old faster. While adults around me were worried about saving money on coupons I was contemplating the meaning of life.
@@youtubestudiosucks978 as an infj, I would have to disagree. I have been thru some serious social anxiety and depression periods (still 25) that made me look into the meaning of life. Without religion & faith there is no meaning, seek refuge there. It will also teach you that you don't have control, do what you can and let it unfold. I thank the lord for blessing me with Islam, trust me the true Islam is rarely seen and truly followed by modern 'Muslims'.
@@MohammedZadjali you're supposed to give your own meaning to your own life so stop trying to convert me. My life is not your life so stop it with your predatory tactics of trying to convert me to a religion that hates dogs, i've seen you people throw chocolate and broken glass in dogparks of all places and i'm not about to betray my baby for some stranger who hates my dog for no reason.
I used to have over 30 friends in high school. Then it dwindled to 20 in my early 20s. By 26,I only had about 6 friends,my closest ones. One by one,they betrayed my trust or tried getting at my gf at the time or did me wrong in some way. I now have no friends. I thank them for all the great times we spent together but I don't want them in my life. I don't know if I fit into this category but I enjoy doing what I like to do. I realized that the more people I was involved with, the more problems came up. It getting lonely at times and I do sometimes wish my friends would have been better people. I wish them the best but I'm moving up in my career and don't have time to socialize anyway.
I wish more people, especially people who know me and family watch this and understand that there are people like this on earth! Grew up feeling hatred for myself for the way I am. After taking the personality test and finding out I was an INFJ, it gave me a sense of identity but not validation! I wish people understood why we INFJs are the way we are and acknowledge that!
Good luck 2% off the world vs 98%. Still trying to find a place in it all after 27 years. Still overlooked, cast aside and worse. Hope 1 day it gets better for us all.
After taking the myers briggs test a few years back i came up as an INFJ myself. I would say that this video is roughly 90% accurate. I'm not too sure about other INFJ types, but i've personally never struggled making friends. Of course i only have a few out of the many who really match my wavelength, however the 'difficulty making friends' thing has been more true for me in my romantic relationships than anything else. I would also advise anyone taking personality tests to do the big 5 personalities. The two provide a much more nuanced report of you the just the one.
I’m also an INFJ, I’ve made friends easily but I haven’t had success in having a deep connection with those friends. I also find it confusing as to how to be around acquaintances and people I am friends with on a more surface level
@@chrisclunan5097 Hmm, I would say try and identify those out of your friends/ acquaintances who are the least effort to be around, and then try make a conscious effort to spend more time with them. Because I understand that unconsciously that may just not happen lol
Same can be said for INTJ females. We don't fit in our gender stereotype unless we actively decide not to be ourselves. I can heavily sympathize with INFJ males and hope we can find people that appreciate us for who we are.
My partner is an intj female and my best friend an infj male. It took me a while to sort it but I agree. Those two both seem to be the gender polarities in myers briggs.
@@halcyonzenith4411 Lol no doubt people appreciate us in the workforce for what we can do for them, but I'm talking about romantic/personal relationships.. it can be very hard.
@@user-rx7uh9mg4f It often works for me the same way in relationships. I offer a niche product, while not everyone wants it, those who do will pay top dollar because you can't find it anywhere else.
These INFJ channels ive seen popping up have been a blessing to help me understand myself and other INFJs, especially INFJ men. I don´t want to put myself in an INFJ box just to say well thats who I am, thats my weaknesses, thats how it is - but rather to try and improve the weaknesses and find a balance with everything. But so many things makes sense from these videos, not just this channel but others as well. A video suggestion idea from me would be maybe a video on how to combat, or improve weaknesses, or i.e how to deal with these common things etc. So instead of just stating things, maybe also videos on how to improve or use these different INFJ qualities?
I 1000% agree! Ever since learning that I am a true INFJ-T, I can’t stop researching because it feels like I am FINALLY being understood, but I have a STRONG desire to overcome my emotional side as a man. I’m currently on Amazon looking for books that I can put into practice.
When you start your typology journey at 18 identifying with the XNTP archetype and after 4 years of obsessive contemplation, maturity and meta analysis you found yourself indulging in balance and fully taking action on the jungian ideal of integrating the shadow and superego. I am finally aware and working towards the Superego of the XSFP in me and aspects of the subconcious XSFJ and not forgetting the unconcious XNTJ in me in a pursuit of all encompassing holistic balance. Its very alienating and any time I explain these concepts im seen as sacrilegious amongst my family and wife for legitimately affirming the unity of God as love not just fear or division. Its very difficult to have the understandings only to be told by people that I sound crazy or to far out there. It is now that I am working on my emotional and Physical unity to integrate my Se and Fe to better all of mankind in everyway possible by being an example of Love.
I am an INFJ with NLD (nonverbal learning disorder). I got a hit to my head twice when I was a child so there might be some brain damage there. I have always felt very lonely and never had any close friends. I only recently discovered that I want to help people or provide a service and would like to make a change in the world. So, I never felt truly happy with what I was studying or with my job and I get fired or I leave my job most of the time. I try to pick my friends wisely because most people just drain my energy or don't really care for me anyway. But when I do find someone that I actually like I often become too attached and try to use them to soothe my loneliness. They then feel that and go away. Especially with girls, this is a big problem. I have never had a girlfriend and often I wonder why anyone would want to be with me anyway. My parents always told me I need order in my life and in the past, I might have been better at planning my day but now I don't plan anything anymore. I have been traveling and working around Australia for the past 3 years, so all my structure and routine are gone. I have no fucking clue what I want to do or where I am going let alone that I have a 3-, 5- or 10-year plan for my life. I feel overwhelmed and stuck. Most of the time I engage in escapism and feel guilty about it afterward, I am sexually frustrated and think about death a lot. I try to look for help but I don't know where to begin or who might actually be able to help me. I need a psychologist who specializes in these topics (INFJ, NLD, neurology).
You're going to get through this, all of these struggles and hardships will make you stronger than everyone around you. It's easy to see all the things that go wrong or overwhelm you but it will all work out. Given how you've explained this, its understandable why you feel the way you do. I know other people in the same situation but are scared to tell anyone. While you might not see it this way just you writing this comment is helping people and making a change as others who feel similar won't feel so alone. I've seen this first hand that things often get worse before they get a lot better. So keep pushing on and If you feel you need a psychologist I'd just start with finding the one that sounds closest to what you described and start there. While they may not be totally familiar with INFJ and NLD they will be familiar with what you're going through. If theres anything I can do let me know:)
first, it's ok that you feel how you do and it will get better if that's deep down what you truly want and are committed to taking what necessary steps are needed to "get better". similar to a drug addict(or really any addict) when trying to get/stay clean, if there's a small part of them thats not ready to "quit"(a lot of addicts say they want to quit, but then don't, not because they didn't want to quit, but because they wanted to quit less than they did use) , they never will no matter who offers help, no matter how many times they try. only when they are 100 percent ready and willing to quit because theyve absolutely had enough and want change more than anything else(including using) will they fully commit to the paths laid out for helping people quit, do they succeed. obviously, there's exceptions to that, but in general. (hopefully you make the connections I'm getting at there) also, video gaming yourself only sounds easier than what it would/will take to pull yourself outve depression an find meaning in life(something only you can determine for yourself), and the last thing anyone who is depressed wants to do is make things harder for themselves. when you've been driving on a road with potholes for a period of time, you're gonna need to repair a couple tires, maybe even rims and suspension, before it feels smooth driving on a normal road again. also, even animals in a nice fancy cage will attempt to escape.. it's part of nature to when feeling trapped. don't be so difficult on yourself, life already got that part covered lol but, for real though, legitimate help is there when you decide to crack the window and peer out. I recommend. the breeze feels nice. :) idk the specifics with your life, and mental thoughts, etc.... so don't take anything I'm saying too serious or personal... just throwing out what general advice/perspective I have. I hope things get better for you. stay positive friend :)
Feeling misunderstood is the story of my life! Whether its talking to a family member honestly and they take offense or its having serious conversation with a friend and it gets heated, being misunderstood is so annoying. Glad Im an INFJ though because I love my alone time and since Im a songwriter, I need that time alone to focus and produce the best music possible.
You're definitely not the only one who feels that way.! Also love seeing people talk about the positives of this type. In my opinion the positives of being a INFJ significantly outweigh any negatives.
I can relate to what you say. I am unable to talk with my brother and sister, et al. in a meaningful way. I do have a cousin who is open. Not sure what her personality type she is. I know she is different from her brothers and sister. I think she and I had some familial relationship in a previous life. She understands me. Even if she does not, she is very respectful and supportive. Being misunderstood is frustrating, lonely and annoying.
I'm as INFJ, my problem was never making friends, because people where attracted to me because of my energy sometimes and my quietness and deep looking personality on other times, and because I try always be good and honest to others, and many value that. My problem was always maintaining those friendships, because either I'm not always around to catch up or i struggle to keep having interest all the time and it feels always like extra energy usage. My advice to other INFJs is to make friends through activity and hobbys, because you always feel easy to talk about that thing and it draws motivation out of you, second, find one friend only because of his light heart, those people will be highly attracted to you and you will be super loyal to you, because of your good heart and charisma in the real situations. The last point, i felt it deeply as I'm in my 27th year and feel like missed out on many things and didn't get real grasp on my teens, but I'm trying now at that age to open up more to people and share more. You can't be a teenager again, but you can still have the child inside you and try to find fun and laughter in everything you do. I'm feeling like going to another level of my life, keeping the qualities of my personality beside being more public and appreciating of other relationships and personalities. Hope my all other INFJs fellows are doing good and find the best way to feel comfortable with themselves and others beside knowing where they're going with their goals. ✌️
People don't value honesty and goodness anymore in society a lot these days tho ya knaw mean :/ " You can count your true friends on one hand in life, and the hand can make a 0. " - my dad lol XD
@@gabegutierrez21 oh definitely, nursing is like the swiss army knife of healthcare, we can go anywhere, from easy to hard. There's gigs for nurses that doesn't even require patient contact. Where INFJ strive the most are in mental health clinics, we're great listeners and usually those places are low stress. You're not even allowed to wear uniform in psyche facilities, just normal street clothes to match the clients/patients. I'm considering getting into psych nursing, or rehab. Some gigs can be 1 on 1, compared to a floor nurse that may have 4-5 patients per nurse. It's rewarding, you can leave the job anytime and find a new specialty, and you'll make big bucks no matter what. If you need to take out a loan, this is one of those programs with a high return, you can literally pay back your loan within 2-5 years with your first job. I say try it out, shadow or volunteer, see how you like it :) biggest job security job, and very rewarding. I know INFJs have it hard to find purpose in the world, leaning towards healthcare will help unlock a lot of your potential! Good luck bro!
and just a little more background on me, I went from film major, digital art, martial artist, massage therapist, now EMT and next step is RN. I've been in school since graduating high school (18 years in college, I'm 36 now). I've changed my paths many times, just know your lifes purpose and keep striving in that direction! :)
@@coldxsushi Thanks brotha for the encouragement! This really inspired me to pursue what I was meant to do :) Keep up the good work man and I hope you succeed in your endeavors
I'm always prone to bullying. I'm sensitive. I'm shifting my ability from talkative and silent. They find me edgy. They find me unworthy. They do not belong me.
The "NF" gets created through childhood trauma. In any case, the work (books/audiobooks) of Alice Miller can be a blessing if you're interested to dive deeper.
I think our current social structures contribute to this. There aren’t a lot of community activities in which people like INFJs can hang on the fringes, connecting with like minded people.
it's utterly hard having an infj personality combined with male sex, high iq + eq, hypersensitivity, childhood trauma, a general disgust for modern life, society and the ways of the world plus a general and life-long lack of people among family, friends and acquaintances who are similar or at least understanding and supportive. now imagine living rurally where there's basically no chance getting to know people you could actually "click" and be friends with. regarding the actual topic of the video: i have one real male friend left, a lot of people know and like me, and a lot of them want to have me as a friend. but most relationships just drain my energy and simply bore me (i have lots of interests and hobbies that crave attention); i need meaningful, deep, valuable stuff in my life.
@@bogusmcbogus2637 i know, i know. but i can't have a romantic relationship with a dog, can I? I need a dog and a soul mate who too enjoys the quiet life and has just as few friends as I do. some day
Myself and my fiance both tested as INFJ. The only thing that I know as true is that we crave, pray, and wish to make an impact on the world. We hope to help others. We want to provide aid to the less fortunate. We are taken advantage of... more than anyone else.
In the last few years I’ve shared more through my writing but it’s not easy, and sometimes I overshare. And then, often, I don’t share everything. Sometimes I’m just sharing what’s on the surface. The goal pursuit thing is true. I remember I set aside friends and even my girlfriend when I was focussed on trying to oust a group of people who had taken control of a nonprofit association we were a part of - this group was basically lining their own pockets. At one point it felt like they’d won but I was determined not to give up.
It’s quite simple, the moment we realize that the one and only best friend we need is… ourselves we ( me & me ) are more than enough . Would we love to have a real honest and understanding significant other ( male o woman ) which we can build a friendship ? Yes !!! The problem is to find someone out there that have the same intelectual level… that I found to be almost impossible. Also… since the meteorological rise of social media I’ve got the feeling that 90 % brought out their narcissistic / egocentric nature to the highest level I have seen/feel in my entire life so thank you but no thank you . When one learn to love himself, we are happy alone. Best regards to you all
It's pretty accurate. One thing I've noticed as an INFJ (A) male, I tend to have very good and meaningful relationships with INFP's, it's also the people that understand me better and I understand them very well. I tend to bump heads with INFJ (T) females as I'm very opinionated and would call out their flawed logic in their ideals. Profiling folks is something I tend to do but will look at their actions from a "why" they behave a certain way. I'm one of those, if you rub me the the wrong way in our first encounter, I write you off just then and there. First impressions is the make or break for me. I don't show emotions as it's something I will deal with on my own and in my private time when I'm in a rational state of mind, traumatic events I'll apply reasoning. For me to compromise is a "tongue in cheek" for me, meaning I don't approve but I'll accept. Big social gatherings drain me, so I will go do the dishes just to disconnect for a while. I'm pretty much at the point where I don't really care about searching for people who understands me as I do my own thing in life and I do like to have full control over my own life.
I remember reading extensively about INFJs after finding out I am one. I recall seeing something along the lines of “An INFJ is capable of getting a stranger to completely open up to them about something they’re going through and the INFJ can learn everything there is to know about this person in one conversation, only for the stranger to realize they don’t know a thing about the person they just told this information to”. I love getting to know people one on one. I am not a fan of groups but people can be quite spectacular when they feel comfortable showing their true selves. It makes me feel good that people tend to enjoy speaking with me, especially about things that are troubling them. Though it does make me sad that the active listening I do isn’t often thrown back my way. I think that’s a big reason why INFJs can be a bit hard to understand… because you just haven’t taken the time to really get to know them. You merely saw what they felt was necessary for you to see, essentially what they wanted you to see and know about them.
I have done the test four times in the last 10 years, getting always INFJ as a result. I am a male, 30 years old and I have just never managed to fit in. I am nothing special and the most special one you'd ever seen. Simultaneously. As a child I was deliberately avoiding other kids and was spending all times with playing imaginary roleplays alone, or talking with adults. As a teen, loneliness stroke upon me and made me suffer for approximately 15 years. In the beginning of this calendar year, after having been experiencing yet another severe disappointment, I kind of gave it up. I am not longing for finding that Little prince&Fox-like friendship anymore. I am still needing it, but I have accepted the fact that it might never happen to me. People will always find me odd. They do accept me, some of them like me too, however I am nothing but a question mark.
I really struggle with this, from time to time. I need time to reload after social interactions, to be at my own, in my own world (of thoughts). It's difficult for me to keep social contacts with friends, but also with my parents, who ask me why it's been so long again I came to see them. It then makes me feel guilty, because they are good people and I hate to let them down. I know I cause disappointment. In those moments I really feel bad, but if I force myself to have those social contacts anyway, it feels forced and not like myself.
Man I've hated myself for so long, I thought there was something wrong with me, I guess there kind of is. Please don't hesitate to message me friendo's, I love you all, thank you for this video 💚💚
This sums up my whole life. I'm a month away from turning 19 at the time of writing this, and I seriously regret isolating myself from the rest of my peers at school for from the ages of 13-18. How much I wish I could rewind time and fix it all again, and have a brand new fresh start.
As we've been making videos on both types I've noticed that INTP and INFJ share a lot in common! I could see these personality types getting along very well in real life.
This was super validating. I can't believe how spot on this stuff is-like the sensitivity thing, or the intensity, honestly all of it. Sometimes I feel like I'm taking crazy pills. Like I'm the only one seeing what I'm seeing. I really do have a hard time making friends not because i don't go out or socialize - i actually am a great talker. I just don't feel the connection. Luckily I have one great friend who has been with me since I was 7.
I got my degree in Psychology, I did get heartbroken by a female who was a lost soul at the time and i have been told that i light up the energy in the room when i walk in or that I am the life of the party. Its been hard making friendships, I made a couple and really valued them thanks to me moving alot. Its kind of all clicking now that I could be an INFJ
Apparently, I'm in the INFJ sphere. I can definitely relate to the secretive aspect. I'm extremely secretive. When I speak to one of my few friends about a subject, I only want that person there. I don't want an audience. I can also relate to having trouble finding people who understand how I operate. I have one friend that I have a lot in common with, and she understands me better than my wife does.
Having an easier connection to the person you're not with. You secretly wonder if you should be with them or someone like them instead but repel the thought of it.
For me that's the same. It's easy for me to make connections, because I am empathic and can adapt myself to others in the way they appreciate. I used to lose myself in the process of doing that, but now I manage to have those interactions, without being unfaithful to who I am. I am also a good listener and give people the recognition they seek for. I very easily understand people in their thinking and feeling, and that helps to say the right things at the right moments. However, that takes energy. After interactions, I need time to reload myself. And I need time for myself, being at my own, with my own thoughts. And then sometimes problems start, because people expect you to see each other more often. They felt like I understand them and want more of that. But I don't feel the same, so I reject invitations and I am not eager to invest too much energy in the relationship as they would like to have or expect. Then relationships fade out sometimes, which I on the one hand regret, but also sometimes feels as a relief. Sounds familiar?
I had to Google what INFJ stood for. I had no idea this acronym existed. Every point this video mentioned described me in exactness. No wonder why I only have 2 friends and why I reject invitations to weddings, birthday parties, sports gathering etc. The perfectionist part in me is what my coworkers have a hard time understanding.
Boss or Leader? Leaders inspire through love Bosses threaten through fear Leaders bring the team up to par Bosses want to see your tears Leaders teach lessons from experience Bosses bark orders into place Leaders listen and continue to learn Bosses use anger just to save face Leaders work for the greater good of all Bosses try and hold you down Leaders show passion and pride Bosses act like a clown Leaders take you to the promised land Bosses promise through empty words Leaders are truly dignified Bosses are insecure turds Leaders love to see you smile Bosses love to see you frown It takes a leader to stand up To take away the bosses crown
Didn’t even know this was a thing. This just popped up randomly on my feed, I always thought of myself as someone who lives in a world where only I understand myself. I’ve been called a introvert but never done really any deep research and stuff like this I just live my life, want my peace, and working towards my goals.
I dreamt my old friends whie I was in rem sleep between 5:30 am to 8:00 am this morning. I felt like i slept alot, woke up fresh n i thought my dreams were real life. It dawned on me that I dont really have any friends anymore. The one or 2 I thought I had dont even message anymore...
As an INTJ, a night out with friends or a wedding invitation is like a bomb. A 2-hour fuse is lit when I step out of my house, and my primary mission for the rest of the evening is to get home in time to defuse it.
I honestly feel that last bit about missing out on things as a child and then returning to them as an adult where your friends are in other aspects of life, is backwards. I had an extremely easy time making friends in my youth and I did a hell of a lot of partying as well. Now, I'm 24 years old. I dont go out, I dont socialize unless its on the internet, I dont crave bars or parties, I just want whats best for myself and my family - safety and comfort. Of course this is subjective but I'm just speaking from my own life perspective. I also value trust to an extent where it actually prevents me from wanting to make other friends as I havent established any sort of trust with a stranger. Dont get me wrong, I'm still very well versed and speak to people but its all surface level now. It would take a special person for me to trust and open up to if they were not my friend before or if they are not online and I have the luxury of turning it off whenever I want. I just want to re-ignite past relationships with people i've already established that line of trust with.
This makes a lot of sense. I feel like out of everything on this list thats the one part that seems to be the most debatable. Many INFJ's do experience that backwards as well, just depends on their experiences growing up.
@@MrgLoRybLue In response to number 8 from this video. Some INFJ's feel they missed out on the partying/going out phase so then they try to do it when they're a little older but most others have moved on from it at that point. However, theres also other INFJ's who did party earlier in their lives and got tired of it quick or never cared as well so they dont feel like they missed out. I hope that makes more sense. It is a little difficult to explain but essentially just listen to the part of number 8 about the INFJ missing out and then consider that some INFJ's dont feel like they missed out.
While this video hits all points, the answer to 1 of the riddles 'The Chicken or the Egg' is easy - it's the egg, when the reptiles ruled the lands, they laid eggs, including the flying reptiles and their cousins the not quite flying reptiles which became poultry . . . which lay eggs. The main question of if INFJ men have no friends is incorrect, we have plenty of friends, every day we are swamped with our friends, the only difference is they tend to not show themselves when other people are about, and not for shyness either, our friends are unique to each individual, they just cannot interact with the real world like we hope they could.
I took an MB test for psychology in highschool and got an INFJ, some of the facets discussed in the video still rings true but not so much other anymore. I haven't taken one since cuz I feel like I'd meta-game the process a bit and it wouldn't be a great reflection. I'm a little curious though
As an intj I could relate to some of these points. I have a best friend who is an infj and two more intj friends. I think as we grow older we become better more well rounded people. My infj friend has a good amount of friends and so do my intj ones and myself. But I could tell the friends we make are usually the type you know would die for you and you would die for them. They are deep relationship that seem to last a lifetime.
Imagine being an INFJ Man that also has severe ADHD. I've had high level jobs winning tons of awards & accolades one minute, then get fired a month later. Rinse, wash, repeat.
So how then are we supposed to choose careers? My only difference is not literally being future oriented, but simply going off of intuition. Despite having had a sense of what to do, i always seemed to fall short and caught in the chaos called circumstance. Plus not being outgoing makes the arts field hard to navigate.
I'm not sure I totally agree with the statement that it's hard for INFJ's to make friends. I don't really crave friendship the way most people do. I'm usually pretty excited when I meet a fellow deep thinker, but I'm just as happy thinking to myself most days. Friends are great when they come along, but I've never gone out looking for them. On another note, being an HSP is a pain in the butt for men! I've spent my whole life trying to overcome many of my HSP traits before I even knew what a HSP was.
Normal situation in patriarchy. Emotional, sensitive men are bullied and this is why they hide emotions, hide themselves and hide their complex personality.
As an INFJ I prefer animals. They are honest and respond to kindness with love. I find modern human "culture" intolerable. I can't stand shallow or insincere interactions. I could gladly live in isolation or with a couple of close friends. To me, given the emptiness of the modern world, this is a normal response to an abnormal world.
For me it's even harder to make friendships. I'm an INFJ man, who also suffers from an extremely rare untreatable chronic skin disease, which won't let me socialize . I can't work out, I can't do sports, I can't even drink anything alcoholic, cause it also worsens my condition. I kinda gave up on friendships, cause there is almost nobody who can relate to me, so my only focus is me and my goals.
This really put things into perspective. You're a rare one man and given what you just described, you will surpass everyone around you and you can become very successful in life. I'm sure the right people will come into your life and you'll have great friendships as well.
Man, this was so affirming to me. As an INFJ male, I relate to the majority of the characteristics on the list and it feels really good to be understood.
I was very skeptical of me being INFJ during the first half of the video as being INfJ it is my nature.But when it said at 3:50 that INFJ are drawn to art philosophy and psychology,the heavy subjects I threw my phone away for a while.I tried to change my nature and personality but something always seemed off and I always felt like faking myself.I just accepted it for who I am and accepted the fact that I would if I find someone would find them rarely to talk about my feeling and thought.I just talk shallow now .
Wow, this is pretty accurate. A few things I don't feel align, but overall correct. It's comforting reading all the comments of "us". My circle of friends seems to dwindle as time goes on, and have always felt I'm at a different stage as everyone else.
before i love the idea of being an infj. but after doing therapy i found out that being an infj is not real. its a product of broken childhood with high dark triad traits. we are empath in a sense that we want to help people. but unconsciously we should help ourselves first. our futuristic approach too is connected with childhood anxieties. im sorry to spoil you :)
Agreed. My childhood was bad and created disassociation, troubles maintaining lasting bonds. I recognized this early in adult life(early20s)and have continuously been working on it for about 20 years now. Still a struggle to completely changing your personality traits.
