Stuck In Chronic Freeze Trauma Response| How Somatic Experiencing Can Help

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach

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@shenova Год назад

Takeaways: - freeze response is a protective mechanism to keep you safe when you can’t fight or flea - even if you’re not in toxic situation anymore, you can get stuck in this mode, you can feel like a prisoner in your own body; feeling paralyzed and dissociated - somatic experiencing can fix subconscious nervous system deregulations that your mind used to protect you from feeling unsafe - our “survival brain” wants to keep us alive and safe hyperfocuses on the negative and being hyper vigilant towards potential threats meanwhile going blind to positive things - somatic experiencing goes deeper than talk therapy that can actually accidentally perpetuate the emotions behind the “protective self”, keeping the trauma story alive; hence reactivating and reaffirming the “unsafe” story and wound - trauma cannot be processed with thoughts; it’s in the limbic part of the brain that is connected to feelings and the body - don’t move too fast with nervous system healing; slow and steady to prevent retriggering - feeling into the body is the first step of true healing over time to teach nervous system’s “window of tolerance” to get back into equilibrium - find a place in the body that feels “safe enough” - begin to notice the uncomfortable sensations and emotions in the body. Then feel that felt sense of safety in that “safe enough” place when it gets too intense

@DrFranq Год назад

Thanks for the highlights @shenova

@lourdescrampton4675 11 месяцев назад

Have you done this work?

@fibonaccisrazor 11 месяцев назад

Thanks so much for this summary, helps a lot 🙏

@Heyu7her3 10 месяцев назад

I still don't get anything that deals with "feel it in your body" WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN???

@tracesprite6078 10 месяцев назад

This sounds good.

@QuantumDynamic8 2 года назад

This is so relatable. Have you noticed that just prior to festive seasons,or when you have the desire to be more successful,this freeze response comes and take over all the more? This is so so so relatable. I really wish all of who have been through such hell, experience a turn around. We deserve it 💗More power to you Michelle, Thank you for everything. You are loved

@NikD215 Год назад

You just make me realize this with your comment. Every time I want to work on a goal, my mind gets overwhelmed, and I do nothing, I just check out. One side of my brain is like you have work to do and the other side is like, check your phone, watch tv, eat something, etc. I realize this is due to having all my efforts in my life mocked, criticized, and told I was a f up and would never amount to anything. If I made a mistake my mother made sure everyone knew and threw it in my face daily for about a year. She still brings up mistakes I made at 19 and I'm 39 now. Eventually, I just gave up on myself, now I know why I freeze and can't do anything. I'm afraid of succeeding and failing at the same time. Thanks for this comment. It really helped me realize something today. ❤

@QuantumDynamic8 Год назад

@@NikD215 hey you you are so safe to experience all that you desire. When you feel you are not protected. Think of all survivors becoming thrivers protecting each other in a protective shield to experience more peace & freedom in every action .You are that loved & protected 💖

@kimberlysteph3877 Год назад

Wow, This was absolutely amazing to watch and hear. Thank you so much for the solid explanation.

@poojaguin5505 Год назад

@@NikD215hi dear, you put my experience n internal battle in words. I’m 34 and it’s the exact same relationship with my mother. R u taking any effort to overcome these internal battles? Life bcms unbearable with never ending fight with one’s own mind!

@OG_lesliedixon 11 месяцев назад

Thank you! I needed to be validated that freeze IS draining! I’m called lazy.

@CM-yo9jk Год назад

I have Cptsd - I have been knee deep in books, therapy, podcasts...you name it. I am 10.22s in and things have never been so clearly explained to me. It has never made so much sense. Thank goodness for you. Quite literally - this is the first time I have had some semblance of hope.

@cptsdrecovery Год назад

Sooo happy to hear that the information resonates with you and that you are experiencing hope - THAT is sooo important. Trauma is NOT a life sentence - but we do have to do the inner work. As a trauma survivor my goal is to help others know that you do NOT have to suffer forever and that you CAN recreate your life and shed the trauma personality that keeps us stuck!!! If you ever need more resources,. be sure to check out our live weekly zoom meetings!!

@mendedandwhole Год назад

@@cptsdrecoverywhere’s zoom link

@tmc1373 8 месяцев назад

I didn't even know "Freeze" was a thing and I have to thank the Crappy Childhood Fairy for even mentioning the term in her video. This was extremely helpful. Thank you so much for this!

@celiasleigh2805 11 месяцев назад

It helps to talk to yourself like youre that two year old too. Like oh are you feeling scared, what happened, oh i see that does seem very scary, you are safe now i will take care of that.

@rafeeqwarfield9690 6 месяцев назад

It’s how I get thru the day. I also have a ton of posted notes that I write different affirmations on to be reminded as I work on my laptop. And I listen to a lot of self-talk audio. I like to listen to it as soon as I wake up. It’s tremendous for people who have low self-esteem. Love yourself. You deserve to be here. It’s a message we all need

@YellowTreeB Год назад

I’m constantly hearing “as a child”. Many of us experienced the abuse and trauma as an adult.

@stebbey6006 Год назад

Because it’s more common as a child due to the brain not being developed enough to process these kind of things. But the approach is the same for adults.

@fitnesssoup7553 Год назад

It sounds like you have experienced the hell of some pathologically nasty creatures. I'm sorry to hear that. Trauma happens at any age.

@cynthia9745 Год назад

Freeze response happens as a wife in abusive marriages too. When the husband has the power and money to control .

@celiasleigh2805 11 месяцев назад

I think it's just more common for kids. Because like she said as an adult you may have the option to run or fight(you may also not but children pretty much never have those options so they only have the freeze response)

@birgip.m.1236 11 месяцев назад

@CeliaSleigh Or Fawn... many kids & adults learn to Fawn in order to survive... People-pleasing... being the helper...the good kid... the good student ... the good friend Sooo many people called me their best friend while I felt like I had no best friend so I had to learn how to be my own best friend...still learning

@nickconnelly1235 8 месяцев назад

The freeze response is so tricky , and stickkkyyyy I literally had to moment to moment search these videos out and then force myself to play them and then replay them because I wouldn’t pay attention to the first sentence literally like 6 or 7 times I’d watch the video and have to restart it and then slow it by 1/4 to 75% speed (which makes some therapist sound a bit creepy but nonetheless) I’m forcing my body little by little , I take 40 degree showers first thing in the morning and then I just begin all this meditation mindfulness body scan work because of educational videos such as this one that helped me , we are all real people and real stories and you really help people

@Pablo-di3me 7 месяцев назад

I do exactly the same with the all the videos. Also i get lost reading the coments very often.

@karinbiow9110 5 месяцев назад

Me too. And I’m 74 and have done so much work on this. I still get stuck.

@CreativeArtandEnergy 5 месяцев назад

She did say something about not taking cold showers if you are in this response. I have been there for years after surgeries.

@maheshmangar1450 4 месяца назад

Have a point of focus for your meditations. If you can feel love for god or yourself even better.

@wren5291 Год назад

Finally, some confirmation of my instinctive feeling over the years that simply "talking" about things isn't enough to heal past traumas, and that it can even potentially cause more damage because of half arsed approaches. You explain it very well and I feel all the more armed (and somewhat safer) now with this info, thank you. Be well, always🖖🏽✌🏽🙏🏽.

@soundvillage001 Год назад

I suggest making another video that just shows the exercises without all of the lead up. I’ve come to this video in a chronic free state and just can’t handle all the information. I just want the exercises. It would be better to share a video separately with the information to the exercises

@johannahconant9614 7 месяцев назад

Part of healing the NS is to have the education to understand what is happening in your body, to connect the dots as to why your body is responding the way it is or isn't.

@emilindlee1452 5 месяцев назад

@johannahconant9614 while that is true, this commenter is just expressing the way this information would be best presented to them- When you're stuck in a F response, your brain literally cannot absorb knowledge. It doesn't matter how helpful it is, they literally cannot retain it.

@pasteveryfate 11 месяцев назад

First minute makes so much sense why I suffer from severely feeling frozen and stuck. My parents would threaten to call police anytime I acted up but would also never let me leave house to get out of the crazy fights (they would literally follow me in their cars). I felt so stuck and it makes perfect sense it's reflected in my body and mind.

@katydid594 Год назад

I moved into my own place after 12 years of living with a malignant narcissist. I was raised in an abusive environment, so freeze is my go-to response. CPTSD sure does a number on the body. I have numerous health issues, and now muscle wasting from chronic tension, and living in freeze too long. I hope my body will realize it’s safe now, and I can work on healing. It’s a slow process that can’t be rushed.

@mmaries9052 2 месяца назад

You helped me more than the psychologist I met with this week.

@esrathefirst 11 месяцев назад

I'm 42 now and cptsd is. I had thought I had got over my trauma as I could talk about it openly. After being off work for 8 months and getting tested for everything it turns out there was nothing wrong with me. Then a brilliant doctor went through everything and has put me forward for treatment for cptsd. I did a little bit of research and came across your videos, what an eye opener. Your videos are amazing and I feel as if you are talking directly to me. I think I have been living the last thirty years in flight mode and shutdown mode. I have a lot of work to go, but it is nice to know there is a reason why I am the way I am and there is hope. Thank you for the information you are putting out and to those who are going through struggles, I hope that you get through and can live a happy and fruitful life.

@life5161 5 месяцев назад

When u have rent that is ALWAYS due and literally everything else has gone drastically up but My paycheck. Anyways when your every single day consists of fearing the day you inevitably can't pay. Next thing u know you're homeless and being called nasty things by nasty people. Our system alone provides all the major ingredients that exasperate a World full of super depressed anxiety having head cases. Always yeah. Most of us have nothing wrong with us. We live in a sociopathic Clown World. DAMN RIGHT I get stuck in freeze response.

@juliao1255 10 месяцев назад

THANK YOU so much! I have been trying to heal my trauma with my thoughts for so many, many, years and this explains why it hasn't worked. I have worked on just sitting with the feelings and it feels so awful, I can only take it for a while. I do this alone, because I have no support system or access to trauma therapy. I tried doing therapy twice with state Medicaid paid intern therapists, who admitted they did not have trauma-specific training, but felt they could "handle it anyway", and they even made it worse! One was so egregious in her handling of my case I quit seeing her, and reported it to the agency supervisor. We have to be so careful who we go to for trauma therapy!

@a_fellow_human 2 года назад

This was so good, seriously. You articulated it so well. I'm currently trying to get out of freeze with the help of an S.E. practitioner...it really sucks living from this limited and quicksand-like place yet it feels safe and familiar when the intensity and uncomfortable emotions underneath come up. The hope of feeling that aliveness again keeps me going. I really miss that, especially when it comes to music. I no longer find it enjoyable like I used to, it does not really do anything for me. 😕

@cptsdrecovery 2 года назад

So glad to hear you are working with an S.E. practitioner - we can't regulate the nervous system with 'logic alone' we really need to bring it into our sessions!!!! You CAN get that aliveness feeling back!!! Once the nervous system is really convinced you are SAFE to feel alive, safe to do things you love..... it gets easier and easier!! But - be patient and compassionate with yourself on this journey =D

@maxtreme69420 Год назад

Man this is me, I remember listening to music all day and expanding my librabry more and more every day and then suddenly it just didn't feel the same, I hope it gets better...and also how are you doing now? I hope you're better.

@empowerment.artist Год назад

When I started trauma healing, I still had unsafe friends. They were not abusive or addicts or obviously toxic. Some of them were just codependent! For me, I had to leave many people to heal. I have used years to come back to my body. I thought I had come further, but I am still in freeze and just realized it.

@laurorelivens3338 Год назад

How many years have u healed and how are u healing? How many years were u in trauma?

@Ronnietheboypickering 11 месяцев назад

You have a really great and simple way of explaining things. After hours of research and still not understanding SE.. you hit the nail on the head, thankyou :)

@MexiMelt1988 6 месяцев назад

im 35 and this has been the best explination yet, honorning that to ur admittion that u suffered from this urself. thank you goddess!

@saroyy Год назад

Just watching the video instantly made me feel regulated again.

@streetmach1 Год назад

Began doing this work since 1984. The biggest holdup/blockage to my deeper/ deepest healing since then and to this day is finding others who not only fully support this paradigm... but rather reject feeling pain, which is where healing begins... I'm alone on this journey and have been for 40 yrs... who else sees this? Leave your comment please.

@cindylou2429 6 месяцев назад

I'm with you my friend. God bless you.

@cnunez13 8 месяцев назад

Wish I could have somatic experiencing sessions, but can’t afford right now. Doing as much as I can on my own with Peter Levine’s books. Thanks for this video!

@c-3786 11 месяцев назад

No one has ever explained this so well; I wish i could show so many people and they would finally understand me.

@lindamoses3697 11 месяцев назад

I was held in a motel against my will with my ex husband. When he threw his gun at me in a rage I lost consciousness and came to with stiff arms holding me up from the bed while standing. It was the weirdest thing with a time gap. I knew then that I must become an actress and play a different role if I wanted to get away alive. I became the complacent sweet dutiful partner in a moment's time. It worked. I even showered him with the how much I had missed his company game. Thank God I was able to pretend under fear. I do believe he would have killed me otherwise.

@giaminh8419 9 месяцев назад

Hope you feel better now

@hajisbindi 3 месяца назад

That exact same thing happened to me in a car. I had to act like I loved him so he would let me go pee somewhere and that’s how I managed to escape. Feels like that didn’t happened to me since my brain buries the emotional part of the memory. Maybe to protect me but now I wish I could work trough it so I can get out of the freeze / fawn

@theasianwitch Год назад

Thank you for sharing this...I agree that most of us have been taught not to pay attention to our bodies. They became commodities for a corporate state to use as it pleases. I have gotten out of the freeze mode through both cognitive and somatic understanding of my childhood trauma. I hope to be able to help others do this as well.

@fifiearthwanderer Год назад

I need help i am struggling to hold a job due to being frozen shut and emotions of anxiety and fear underneath

@bchristian85 Год назад

I'm part-way out of the unsafe situation, but the problem is so much in my life still reminds me of it, particularly in areas pertaining to religion. I also no longer live with my family but they are still the biggest part of my life and it's hard to feel like I have any kind of identity outside of the enmeshed family system, and the person I have to be within that system isn't me, and I'm tired of playing that role.

@candicejohnson4562 Год назад

It’s true you don’t feel alive at all.

@BlunderBuns Год назад

Thank you. I now live in my car because I had to get away from my mom. She controlled me all my life and told me that it was because she loved me. That no one loved me more than her. That everything she did was to secure my future. Funny that despite her intentions I never once felt secure with her. In that cold dead house. I’m experiencing incredible pain but I’d rather feel this than be a servant of my mother and feel nothing at all. I feel infinitely more secure around homeless people yelling to themselves than I do around the fake smiling face of my mom because at least they expressing how they honestly feel.

@cindylou2429 6 месяцев назад

God bless you

@themermaidtree1144 2 месяца назад

100 percent what has happened to me forever before I started to heal.

@Lets_learn8743 7 месяцев назад

Mam your this video is really good... In this video has everything who I learned about trauma on RU-vid... You spread all information in one video of how to cure trauma... That's very good.... You are very good... I am happy that I founded your channel..... Your all knowledge is real.... Thank you mam for support in my life when no one with me.... Thank you so much ❤❤😊😊

@cherylwilsherlimberlife7210 Год назад

This really helped me, when feeling so stuck, even though I've gotten away

@CaraAraneta Год назад

This explains so much about my constant filter that I’m not safe. I’ve created this stuckness for the last year

@tmc1373 8 месяцев назад

Could you *PLEASE* do a video on this chronic freeze and underachieving?

@mmaries9052 2 месяца назад

Resonates with me 100%

@annaynely 6 месяцев назад

The environnent is fundamental.

@hanna.1409 Год назад

I will soon move out and hopefully then can learn how to get out of freeze response.

@floralpatriarch7782 Год назад

Definitely will be coming back to this! So much wisdom! Wondering if I have been in a level of freeze response from birth trauma, shutting down against the intensity of being alive from right at the beginning of life.

@juliao1255 10 месяцев назад

Me too! My mom's myth about me is that I rejected her from the day I was born. My whole family has bought into that ridiculous lie! I was so seriously neglected (maybe even abused) I was diagnosed as "failure to thrive". Her emotional/verbal abuse continued all my life. When our trauma starts pre-memory and pre-language it can be really hard to heal because the somatic responses are so embedded in our being.

@giaminh8419 9 месяцев назад

❤ it is very sad, I hope you can be better now. I don’t know what is the real reason causing my freeze response, i don’t remember the time i feel normal with my brain. I pass some overstimulating situations in my life, in house and school. Although don’t know, i can confirm that i am in alert state through seeing my face and seeing behaviors of others

@ccaselli7 7 месяцев назад

I was thinking this today too!

@meowami2374 2 месяца назад

This is incredibly helpful for processing trauma. I see this in myself and in others as well, thank you for this incredibly insightful video

@MayanPrincess3 Год назад

I’m so glad I clicked on this video. I was referred to somatic experiencing by my therapist bc I’ve had a lot of complex trauma in the past 3 years

@nickconnelly1235 8 месяцев назад

Thank you , genuinely I’m starting to piece this whole thing together, after 30 years of dis regulation and maladaptive coping strategies. I’m finally beginning to put together the pieces. These messages may sound similar and kind of run together but I want you to know you’re doing great work. I don’t know why you do it but these are the things that allow me to maintain faith in humanity and humans in general

@derosa195 11 месяцев назад

We just need to be with loving people . .but where are they

@JesusistheOnlyWay222 4 месяца назад

Sometimes the damage is done and its hard for them to let love in because of distrust, defence mechanisms still in place. Stuck

@Kizzalovespugs Месяц назад

I feel this way too 😢

@javeriaharoon7957 2 года назад

Even before I watch the video I say thank you for the work you do. You are touching so many lives and I always come back to your wisdom for guidance. 🌸

@cptsdrecovery 2 года назад

Thank you for your kind words - I'm so glad the videos are helpful =D. Sending love and light your way!!!

@reflectiveFrankC 5 месяцев назад

I've only just started and it offers hope.

@cptsdrecovery 5 месяцев назад

Yeesss!!! And trauma can make you feel as if there is no hope - I'm soooo glad you're experiencing that shift! Trust me it does get better and better with time😀

@Robrette74 Год назад

This is such enlightening information. It explains so much of what I’ve been feeling all of my conscious life but especially after the transition of my mother three years ago. Now I’m so hungry to get healing and liberation.

@Ellenweiss1 Год назад

I've heard many explainations of freeze response and the brains negative bias.....but this was really really powerful , thank you sooo much!!

@andreabiro2357 2 года назад

Up only to not even 3 minutes of the video, my breath started to be more frequent. Now I understand why agression is my real problem, even if I am known as I have a "balanced" personality, meanwhile beneath the surface...

@eliottrodriguez7425 6 месяцев назад

Excellent video Michelle. And do take it as a compliment ...I am obsessive reader, researcher, watching and listening and reading anything I can get my hands on about complex PTSD aka childhood emotional wounds, which at 57, still run the show. At 10:44 you have unpacked the why and the how better than many so called experts. Including my trauma therapist. Excellent! Thank you.

@mystosplosion Год назад

Thanks so much for this and other videos you make. You are very good at this. I have a SE therapist, but she hasn’t even put me on the table yet. Feels I have to live alone (away from my very critical, dysregulated partner) before I can make progress. I am chronically in freeze.

@joshrivera473 10 месяцев назад

“You can’t heal in the same environment that traumatized you”

@lindachan1630 Год назад

This video brought up a lot of emotions, tears and it explains a lot about myself. Thank you for putting this out there. I am definitely interested in learning more. XOXO 💚

@desertflower4627 9 месяцев назад

(note to self)Info @ approx 7:45 regarding reactivation of the system is spot on...also protective battle with self and underlying pain of the story. Somatic experiencing:we bring the body with us. Turning off hyper vigilance. Re experiencing the window of tolerance. Finding the safe spaces within. Re parenting and reminding my adult self to help the frightened child. Thanks!

@johnpatterson6448 11 месяцев назад

Brilliant explanation of something I thought I understood. But didn’t.

@Waterharmony3 Год назад

What about the fawn response? This is the other predominant trauma response for children, and it isn't well known like the other 3, but Pete Walker explains it so well in his book.

@mungojelly Год назад

the rest of the responses are pathologized if not vilified-- freeze is "lazy" and "boring" and "distant" and "anti-social", fight is "disobedient" and "unruly" and "crazy" and "mean", flight is "flighty" and "lacking conviction/determination" and "unstable" and "undependable", fuck is "dirty" and "obscene" and "slutty" and "hedonistic"-- but the way children are approached by this society there not only is no help avoiding or escaping fawn responses, THE FAWN RESPONSE IS ENCOURAGED AND USED AS A METHOD OF SOCIAL CONTROL, if you're fawning you're "nice" and "obedient" and "helpful" and "a diligent worker", it's not that society even just does a bad job helping, in that case they actively encourage that trauma response b/c it makes people give over money and other power as they reflexively try to be one of the good ones

@Waterharmony3 11 месяцев назад

@@EP-tw1mk i totally agree and the best way to fight it is to recognize it or be aware of it and take the time to pause and ask ourselves "what would my genuine self do?" amd then to have the courage to proceed with our genuine and honest actions and intentions :)

@Heyu7her3 10 месяцев назад

Fawn is what "trauma bonding" is. It's not positive.

@Nivieee 9 месяцев назад

@@mungojellyIt's so true! I've been fawning all my life. In job interviews, I realised their eyes would lit up when I mentionned i was "easy to work with" and I would always get hired. But now that I'm aware of it and I can't delude myself into fawning for approval, the freeze response came in. First, I tried to speak up for me and my coworkers' basic rights (fight), but I quickly realized that wasn't safe. By asking for valid basic needs to be acknowledged, I got labeled as the vilain, which dysregulated me to the point where I couldn't physically go to the office without being fully activated as if my life depended on it. They don't want to acknowledge what's logical and right. They want submission. The fawn response is literally the desired outcome in capitalism... Any other response is pathologized!

@Nivieee 9 месяцев назад

@@mungojellyand we could even go as far as saying that the education system is basically a fawn training. Go sit for years listening to teachers who don't know what they're doing. And don't dare to question them! Pass these trivial, nonsensical and repetitive evaluations in order to get our stamp of approval, to then go supervise other people who basically do all the work you studied for, but still don't know how to do, because school and real life are so different. And if they dare question your authority, just say they are desobedient and reprimend them 🤷🏼‍♀️

@karolinaciucias664 Год назад

Thank you, so many revelations in this short video!

@beinggeorgina7584 7 месяцев назад

This is one of the very best explanations I have ever heard for what I've been experiencing for so very long. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!

@pedrom8831 Год назад

Thank you for providing all this info free of charge. It’s a really good channel, this. If you don’t mind me asking, what to do if the body is all locked up, emotions are nowhere to be seen, but there is constant activation buzzing around the system? It’s intense, and it doesn’t want to discharge. I’ve tried a lot of meditative techniques, and just sitting with it. It’s just gotten worse, in fact. I’m never able to calm it down, and a fear that I need to discharge all the energy first, but it doesn’t budge, and I’m exhausted. It’s like a catch 22. I’m so worn out, and the activation has destroyed my sleep. I feel I don’t have the capacity to process whatever lurks beneath, but I can’t get the rest to build capacity because of the activation! There seems to be no way out

@DeathBySlushPuppy 2 года назад

Hopefully more on somatic experiencing heard a lot about it

@Illuminatelove36 5 месяцев назад

🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂THANK YOU FOR MAKING HEALING TRAUMAS POSSIBLE. SOOoooooo beautiful. Appreciate this immensely

@rumham7466 Год назад

What about medical neglect. This is on top of emotional neglect. I honestly don’t remember one single conversation I had with my mother as a child. We were poor. During my middle school years she did make sure to make sure I went on my field trips. I wanted to be in the band so she got me my instrument. I remember she worked all the time. And me looking out the door for her to come home. When she finally did; I remember her tucking me in. I remember us going to the mall and holding hands. I remember the big Christmases and the Easter baskets. But I cannot remember a single conversation we had. I cannot remember any regular dinner. And I certainly never was taken to a doctor. This has caused me much anger as an adult. I have dogs and the slightest discomfort I see in them, I’m immediately doing what I can to alleviate it. I was recently diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and ptsd. I only just started therapy. And we’ve only talked about my most recent trauma. But I’m wondering if it started earlier. Or if my recent traumas are making me exaggerate my childhood experiences.

@rumham7466 Год назад

Oh also. My mother has her own issues. But she’s 76 and cake from a different time. She views therapy and mental illness as a negative thing and pushes it aside at the mention of it. She has a victim mentality and thrives in this. Us kids of hers have been subjected to parentification. It’s like she only believes in mental illness when it makes her a victim and will begin her pity. Sorry I used this section to vent. I’m going to bed. I’ve finally found the resources I need and hopefully I can work on myself and heal my own traumas. She’s an adult and I’m learning that I am not responsible for her happiness.

@andreabiro2357 2 года назад

I loved your flow associatiation, as that is how I just recently felt my own responds to my enviroment - actually I think of the result of the amygdala meditation. Michele, your help is tremendous! Even if there were times I thought of my "old" way was much more "stable" now I think I got to a stage where I can really see how limited I was.

@anneclaireris2121 7 месяцев назад

This is incredibly recognisable! I know I've had a freeze reaction when my ex-husband strangled me, but I never realised that my chronic depression, as reaction to trauma 6 years ago, could also be a freeze response. I'm really going to look into this.

@-jamie-9896 25 дней назад

Thank you for this video.

@cptsdrecovery 18 дней назад

Glad it was helpful!

@louisasewell9447 Год назад

Oh Michelle... I have cptsd chronicly you would not believe, actually.. you would. Been in tears, ty so so much. I'm on the healing path.. this video made me face other things I don't even want to remember.. ty .. healing is the worst part isn't it. But thee most freeing ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@cptsdrecovery Год назад

Hang in there!!!! The cptsd recovery journey is not easy..... but like you said it is sooooo freeing!!!! Eventually it does shift into more enjoying the journey than dreading it =D Once day at a time!!

@gbalcombe Год назад

Thank you, this has really opened my eyes to why i am how i am. i also have cptsd and all that comes with it, so to hear you hit the nail on the head after 20+ years of searching for simplified answers is relieving. Thank you again. i appreciate you

@fifiearthwanderer Год назад

I have been accustom of holding everything down . now i am holding so tight that it causes more distress . i just wish i can let go and allow the emotions to flow. I need help please.

@gerdah.9975 Год назад

This is the best explanation I've heard so far and it finally makes sense. Now to put it into practice - the hard part. Thank you!

@LilithLiberated 27 дней назад

I don’t need evidence. Every time I thought I was safe, I wasn’t.

@BeStillandKnow0000 Год назад

Invaluable information. Thank you 💓

@sansypansy4999 Год назад

Thank you Michele, fantastic presentation. It really helped me connect lots of dots all at once. I'm actually smiling to myself. I've never heard of this type of approach before but I am definitely giving it a try. xx🥰

@lifeisbeautiful7047 11 месяцев назад

One of the best videos on youtube ❤ I'm so grateful for making me aware of this

@anushkafernando7046 Год назад

Jesuuuuuuuuuus the bestttt every video on Freeze my life in a nutsheelll for 4o years and your soothing voice also helps listen to this video more.. yes... freeze also means anxious..

@victoria6569 8 месяцев назад

I've been in this feeeze response for so long... I completely blocked it all out. But since November 2023...I'm releasing bit by bit. Its painful, makes you feel like your losing it, feel so so drained. Didn't realise how much trauma I had built up over the years. 😢

@hollowboneenergymedicine 5 месяцев назад

Thank you ❤

@ann-louisegustavsson5008 11 месяцев назад

One thing I notice is that in a way it's numbing but something about freeze is that there are so many feelings going on while still imobile.

@jamesgorman7846 6 месяцев назад

T,Y, first I tuned to your video.....ahhh.it was great,so very validating.

@v.anhperigaea9368 Год назад

Michelle, will you do a video on the Collapse & Submit trauma response? ❤

@VictoriaRose-m1b Год назад

Thank You.

@Trystannenoire 11 месяцев назад

I did somatic with a practitioner once. I remember she gave me no explanation at all, she stopped me so often...I felt so uncomfortable, and because I also have an issue with people about speaking up when I'm not at ease, I just did what she told me to. It wasn't a good experience, it only worked with her, and still now, when I try to do some exercise by myself because I'm overwhelmed , I feel extremely anxious because I don't understand what I'm doing. For example for me " finding a safe place" it's like "what it means?" And I panic because I don't know what safer is in my body So now, not only I have bad memories about the trauma I tried to heal when I went to her but also about somatic 🥺 any advice will be welcome

@thekitschmobile2603 10 месяцев назад

I’m so sorry you had that experience, that would be very discouraging. I had to change the language from finding “safety” to finding “less tension” or “less charge” or just “less”. It helped me start at least feeling that different parts of me were having different levels of discomfort/different experiences. Maybe it could help if you rename some of the things. At certain points feeling safer is foreign or overwhelming, so starting somewhere else can be helpful. Either way I wish you deep healing and comfort.❤️

@rabbiberelscharf8585 2 года назад

Michele thank you!

@saritaleah9756 Год назад

Ahhh, Michele, this made me so happy to see you while I was browsing for videos. ❤

@judylee1860 Год назад

Example of why we (probably especially women & children) aren’t safe. The other day at the market a fellow came around the corner of the aisle and stopped to look at the spices that were behind me. I was looking at the oils on the other side of the aisle. Not having my attention on that person he ran his hand across the hair along the back of my neck. I turned to look at him as he nonchalantly continued perusing the spice jars as if nothing happened. It is not the first time something unusual has happened in that particular market that has never occurred in others. And I like that market; it’s location and some of its specialties. So what sayeth you? Is it all in my trauma wondering if I am or am not safe there? I think I’ll consider I am not safe and will continue with my disconnect. But thanks for the false sense it’s all in our heads and that we need to work on it when the discomfort during freezing is actually the correct way to feel and from that feeling we should not just walk but we should run. It’s the freeze that keeps us from slapping men who need slapped. That is what I’ve been shown by powerful professional men I’ve slapped who needed it. The most I want back of what they took is my ability to slap them the way they need it. Otherwise I don’t want anyone near me. It’s not safe out there. Stop trying to pretend it is and that there is something wrong with yourself for not wanting to hangout with that trash. You’re welcome.

@sadiaarman363 Год назад

I totally sympathize with your experience. I have had worse experiences with tailors, acupressure specialists and doctors, sigh! They touch intimately before you know what is happening. And when you dont hit back in word or action bcz you are too frozen, you feel so guilty forever

@christinelotz4297 2 года назад

Is depression the same or similar to being stuck in your Freeze Response?

@wren5291 Год назад

It's different for each individual. There are functioning depressives and then there are those who are less so. I watch Dr. Ramani, Therapy In A Nutshell, and the therapist lady of colour whos name I cannot remember. I'll find out and come back to edit this message👍🏽. Edit: Dr. Tracie Marks, and sometimes I watch Dr. Todd Grande. I hope this helps🖖🏽✌🏽🙏🏽.

@FriskyTendervittles Год назад

Dorsal Vagal shutdown

@andreasrylander Год назад

Awesome!! Wonderfully explained! Thank you! 😀

@cathychase663 Год назад

Boy I can relate to the tee-thank you.

@iantaylor2027 Год назад

Thank you so much for this. Makes perfect sense. Really well explained.This has helped.

@sassycindy311 Год назад

This is 💯 I have small seizures as my freeze response.

@sillygirl1139 Год назад

Excellent video! Thank you

@GalacticCerealbox 12 дней назад

I never heard anybody talk about the freeze response.. but I did just that after the first time my x bf started beating me. I neither did fight or flight.. I froze.. ive spoken a bunch about it. That i froze

@janagr1063 Год назад

Wow! Amazing video. So well explained❤

@kate4biglittlevoices Год назад

When I can not force myself to answer a phone call, I feel like such a failure- especially repeated attempts- I cannot for the life of me do it , yet

@gurkiranmg 5 месяцев назад

Love this ❤ thank u!

@mikaeladevries1776 10 месяцев назад

Recently started it a few weeks ago. Just seeing what others think about it

@cptsdrecovery 10 месяцев назад

I"d love to hear your experience with it!!

@gwenoickle3584 3 месяца назад

Wow!

@judylee1860 Год назад

So the question begs answering, because when a man goes for the hair on the back of a woman’s head he is a predator. It’s a power play. If the woman reports it to “authorities” will it be taken seriously? What I’ve been shown has been probably not. Is the man on a list of predators? Probably not. Not even if he has preyed upon dozens of women. So was the man’s actions specifically directed at me, much as has been done to me by the power risk management teams covering up their nefarious activities? Or has this market event “just” been our usual predatory male neighbors who subtlety exercise their dominance over every woman they come across in their reachable “jurisdiction?” Or is the man a murdering drifting stalker selecting his next victim? These are the “negative” thoughts that a person considers who knows the covert but violently aggressive potential in too many humans who walk among us. Their potential that is 99% being ignored and let to spread because it’s a character flaw in most powerful or wanna be powerful people. And this, people, is reality. You can connect with your limbic brain and still trust your gut. Your gut draws on experience and that is not something you want your autonomic to ignore. This has been my realization in the 68 trips I’ve made around the sun. You are good enough, and I love you just the way you are.

@vitamind6355 11 месяцев назад

I don’t know if I’m in freeze response. In a matter of a few short weeks, I went from being active to using a walking stick to move and balance. My glutes, quads and trocanter muscles have basically seized up.only positions of no pain are sitting and laying down. Yes, stress was happening. What do you think?

@cptsdrecovery 11 месяцев назад

So sorry to hear that - some questions I would ask: Was this something gradual that was happening or was there something that happened where you noticed something started changing? What has your doctor said? If it seems inexplicable - or as if everything 'should' be fine but your body is bracing that much ... I would encourage you to look into somatic experiencing. If it is due to trauma, that doesn't go away with time - we have to work with the stuck unmetabolized energy in the body!!

@reinaequina6588 9 месяцев назад

Sooooo good thank you😭

@michaelk622 Год назад

5Fs…fight. Flight, freeze, feint and fawn

@sierrashaheen677 6 месяцев назад

Thank you for the video. I don’t think it’s a protective self I think it’s the ego trying to lead you down the wrong path since our flesh is wicked that’s why we need to control our flesh and be in the spirit

@derosa195 11 месяцев назад

Onto of that iontop of that enough. .we are screwd

@kate4biglittlevoices Год назад

My heart beating in my ears so loud I can hardly hear the words