Pastor John, thank you for this ministry. I have been listening to these videos nonstop over the last few weeks. It’s so encouraging for me and I have learned so much from it. Please, don’t stop this ministry. I truly believe this is a fantastic way to reach millennials like myself.
@@gmac8586 Perhaps...but Jesus was always gentle and soft-hearted with a sinner...except religiously proud sinners. I don't think Jesus would use Raud on a person - he uses kindness and forgiveness, and tells us to repent. It's just too simple for most of us to follow since we don't trust the outcomes...so we always throw a 'but' in the equation thinking we can protect ourselves in case the sin or offense happens again.
One of the simplest yet profound thing said to me before becoming a Christian was a pastor saying "There's a reason it's called the night club. Sin flourishes in the dark and so many are there to Sin that none of them could stand to look at each other with the lights on because they wouldn't be there to do what they're there to do if they were"
Hey, where's that question on Habitual Lateness you promised us? Was really looking forward to that. There was another topic that you mentioned at the end of a previous video too that hasn't been dealt with. Please revise! Thanks so much for your insight. ALWAYS helpful.
I follow them and I've listened to that session. It's honestly changed me. I was just curious as to what Pastor John had to say on the subject. Thanks a lot though. :)
I just found that video by Tim Conway but it’s an hour long… I was hoping someone like piper a condensed it. I feel that tardiness, at least habitually, is a sign of a consideration and selfishness in a deeper issue. Can I get any insight on that from any of my brothers in Christ here?
@@preston6618: Sometimes it's bad organisation and planning - people think it takes time T to get from here to their appointment because just once when there was no traffic it took T instead of the usual T+30. They lack the thinking to update their assessment with every new observation (i.e. all the times they are late). Starting without them may help get it through their low-capacity perception.
@@annamariascalderaro-defina8969 Yeah more emasculated men made accountable to their wives !! Man is the HEAD of the woman , so SHE is the one accountable to her husband. The husband is accountable to Christ only. This twisted theology is emasculating my brothers in droves. It is dreadful.
I've been doing this for years, and it has almost destroyed my wife, and has done little to no good. I was freed by Jesus, not by trying to get my wife to bear and forgive me. She is the weaker vessel.
That may be, however had you lived a lie with her instead of being honest not only would it have destroyed her but your marriage and family as well. Through honesty you put her above your lust, which is the most we can offer another person ❤
This woman surprised me. I didn't expect her to admit that husbands can only talk to the wives who *can be talked to* about lust (or anything else). Only the occasional female Christian speaker ever admits that. Pastor John is exactly right: we need proper BALANCE to that conversation. Most of today's pastors do not present that balance at all--which is one reason so many fo today's men are not interested in church, at all. A one-sided, brow-beating, finger-pointing lecture is not only discouraging and annoying; it is EMPTY and POWERLESS. Men want to get things *DONE* .
My wife will not at all listen without hating me. I absolutely love and want my wife - not another woman. But I have to pretend to be perfect. When she finds I'm not, she literally leaves me.
I'm very sorry your wife is hard-hearted in this case. It must be difficult but pray for Christ to soften her heart and be ready to receive this truth. She does need to appreciate how much you want to be open and honest with her because that is a treasure. But as for the comment above mine - no - the husband did not do the wife a favour by marrying her - the way @Foolish Drunk approached it is arrogant and self-centred.
Hi Shaun, I don't often reply to others comments on videos but I felt moved to comment on yours, hope you don't mind. My husband struggled with a pornography addiction before we were married and has since been freed by God from it, but he still struggles with lustful thoughts about other women. He ALWAYS tells me whenever he has them and it used to upset me a lot. But then I realised that in my upset with him, I am giving Satan the power to drive a wedge between us. I prayed and God revealed to me that actually the best thing I can do for him is to forgive him straight away and not to hold a grudge. I KNOW my husband loves just me, wants just me and values our marriage above every other earthly thing. In his telling me about his lustful thoughts, I feel truly valued because he does not try to hide things from me. However I know that he is a man who will sometimes make a mistake, as much as he tries. In forgiving him straight away I am releasing him from guilt from the enemy, and releasing myself from being begrudging towards him. Whenever he tells me about any thoughts he's had, I forgive him straight away and within a few moments it's forgotten, and we both feel far better in our love for one another than if I hold a grudge towards him. It's helped us in our marriage an awful lot. If there is any way your wife would be willing to read this, please show her this comment because I believe through forgiveness (as God forgives us), we are free, and she can free you from any guilt the enemy can try to give you.
This title "Talk to Your Wife About Lust" reminds me of about 30 years ago I answered the phone at my parents' house and the caller asked if he could speak to my wife. I said no (got no wife - he probably wanted my mum). Then he started thinking he had a wrong number and I eventually managed to get him to speak to my mum (which was what he wanted - he probably forgot kids get old enough to have deep voices before leaving home). Imagine if he'd actually wanted to speak to my wife and I'd taken his name and number. Years later if I ever married I could in my speech produce a piece of paper saying one of my wife's first jobs is to call this guy from years ago because he's long wanted to speak to her.
Hello dear bothers in Christ. Grear and powerfull message, i am in a bout of trouble. First of all i don't look to other woman, not even in digital form, and i don't let fantasies crawl into my brain or it seed to grow, however i struggle with the temptation to do it, so i fight night and day with it. I wanted to keep it to myself, but i gave it a chance to share it to my wife to now my fight, but got in a huge fight and she got so mad thinking that i would look to another woman or even cheat,even though i said that i didn't not sin, just struggle with temptation. and i am in a worse place than before, so now i am alone again and with distrust. any godly advice, i would appreciate it.
alex diaz: Hang in there! It's extremely hard for a wife to hear this- I know because I did also like your wife. I would reaffirm your love and dedication to your wife often- and perhaps consider getting a male who can be an accountability partner. Also, consider finding her a book or podcast or such that can help her to understand what's going on with you, so she does not feel alone.
alex diaz Alex, men long to be able to share their hearts and souls with a mate who will identify with them, empathize with them, and support them in their struggles. Sadly the vast majority of women (not ALL, but most) preclude this intimate soul-to-soul communication due to irrational (yes, I said it) fears of insecurity and an innate inability to transcend their limited feminine perspective. It is a rare woman who can accept at face value that her man is subject to attacks which are so foreign to her that she either summarily dismisses them or, worse yet, write you off as being a groveling pervert for having them. Sadly, until - or unless - your wife is able to accept you with the normal proclivities inborn in all men, she will never be the allí you hoped she would be. I share these thoughts with you only because I, too, am in the same boat. Your path as you defend against these attacks will be a lonely one, my friend. My prayers to you.
alex diaz, I was just struggling what often my husband says to me. Which same thing you had...I’m just a woman side of it.Seriously It bothered me a lot. Feels awful. So I was wondering how it is going? Did you heal ?
Plenty of women are not in a place where they can handle this. I would recommend not telling them when they aren't mature enough. I let her in and she let me go. Just saying.
I have relationship problems, most likely to young for this. Besides that I am dating a female that doesn't have the same beliefs but is familiar with the bible. I know that I am suppose to date with the intention of marriage and that the marriage is suppose to be based on Christ and his word. I've just recently talked about how I feel about her beliefs. She got pretty heated about me trying to shine light on what she is getting into and what I believe. It seems that she isn't budging to try to understand what im saying. Should I end it, or try to stay a little longer?
I quote " Only Christ centered commitment enables spouses to be honest with each other about their sexual purity" Amazing how hypocrite and fallacious those teachigns can be . The way they dance around without speaking the truth and getting straight to the point is appalling. But this is where western christianity is at now. Christians read the Bible once in a blue moon so they never check in it if what they are told is true or false. Pastors who preach what they want and what tickles feminist ears are welcomed like messengers of God as if false prophets did not exist anymore. Because the church is an emotional state like never before . It is not about reason but emotion today. Christians are told to judge according to emotions , not justice. God's will for marriage and sex is being totally put on the back burner. Now the new god is the Woman who is allowed to redefine everything and tell men and husbands to do the same. Rings a bell ? Did not Eve do the same with Adam ? In his eyes , she had more power than God. Now , to go back to the quote. It is not Christ's centered commitment that can do anything. It is the OBEDIENCE to the word of God reagarding sex in marriage , that is marital duty . The notion of sexual purity is irrelevant . You get married because of your sexual urges as the Bible says. So , in marriage , sex is no problem anymore. To not be tempted , you just have to have sex with your spouse ! As simple as that !
I skimmed through your comment; and I strongly disagree with your last point. Paul says you will still struggle with sexual purity in marriage . Marriage doesn’t solve that. If you struggle with lust outside of marriage you will bring it into marriage unless you are actively dealing with it in biblical context.
@@jaylinflanigan5379 Paul does not say that at all ! He says refrain from sex for a time and for spiritual matters (praying , fasting) then come back together so that SATAN does not tempt you. This IS what he says but this truth is being intentionally suppressed. Paul says you might be tempted if you refrain fom sex ( on spiritual grounds ) too long. Do you realise that waht you say is what they preach today yet it has no biblical support at all ?!
@@jaylinflanigan5379 If marriage does not solve your sexual needs , then what is the point of marriage ? God allows his children to get married because of their sexual urges. Nothing else. To avoid fornication , let every man have his wife and every woman her husband" 1 Co 7:4 "Come together again so that satan does not tempt you " 1 Co 7:5 The Bible is clear on that : regular sex WILL keep both spouses away from temptations Because of our sexual nature , God allows us to get married even though he would certainly like more of his sons to be single and even more available to serve him . God is wise and good but those teaching are off scripture and dreadful.
@@Angelalex242 I think she has the right attitude. Both because maybe she can find a guy who has only very minor issues with lust, and because I'd want her gone sooner rather than later because she believes she can do better, and I don't need that around. It certainly is more likely she'll find a guy who just conceals the issue, but I hope otherwise.
@@B10401 a relationship not built on trust has already failed. Thus, she should stay single till it occurs to her there's exactly one perfect person, and he lived 2000 years ago. If she wants perfection in a man, she might well enter a convent. For as a nun she can focus on that one perfect person.
@@Angelalex242 If she honestly will be celibate unless she finds a man who doesn't have an issue specifically with lust, then that is fine for her to do. I think it's possible for a man to not have that issue, though I think it is unlikely that she would find one who is interested in marriage, so she would likely have to remain celibate. But then how could she know he was telling the truth, and even if he was how could she know he wouldn't start having the issue years later? So I think her plan falls apart after marriage, where leaving isn't easy like when dating.
@ Foolish Drunk He does not even have to "talk" about his lust . He just has to go have sex with his wife !!! It is what wives are for ! Or , what is he married for ?
I’m not sure if your wife starts tells you that she’s also lusting will make the husband feel so sympathetic to his wife .. so ya .. it works both ways and both need to know that lust is sin, it’s not ‘a fantasy’ and when it’s exposed it needs to be dealt with and put to death .. otherwise be prepared for it to destroy your marriage one day sooner rather than later.
@@gugligem948 You lust after what you do not possess and you cannot have but you want . And you do whatever you can to get it . If you steal or kill to get it (like Ahab) , if you indulge in adultery by taking another man's wife (like David) , then you sin . But lust itself is NOT a sin. READ the Bible for the love of God. "Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death." James 1:15 Lust itself is not sin
Nice sidestep. Totally sidestepping the actual issue. can you talk to your wife about thees thoughts? what do you do when she doesn't wanna talk about? battler alone? who do we turn to for these answers?
@@hushanimation2855 why hire prostitutes in the first place? Because man's desires come first as someone in bondage to sin. Repent from this thinking! People who claim there is freedom in singleness (being a bachelor) or other worldly things dont see that they are slaves to corruption, which destroys their soul. The gospel of Christ is there to tell us all that there is no substance and eternal purpose in a life being lived for the self. Seek value and faith in Christ!
@@mikearmas1141 TO AVOID FORNICATION let every man have his wife (..).1 Co 7:4 So , how can "lust" be an issue in marriage ? Piper and co are just liars. The Bible does not speak that way at all. Satan is behind that unscriptural crap made up to blame men for the way God made them . Fake churchianity at its finest.
I would not want to know if my husband was lusting after another woman - that is something he can take up witb the LORD. Also, I think if your husband thinks you won't or can"t divorce him - that might cause him to stumble?
To your first statement: in this way you fail to help him and strengthen satan's attack. To the second: that would cause him to fear which would only compound his sin and not help him forward. Stability in the marriage relationship and openness about struggles with lust are important conditions for fighting a battle with forces of darkness and our own fleshly desires. Without this, fear and falli9ng are made incredibly easy. (Also a quick note, do you think Christ should threaten us with divorce to scare us into holiness?)
I see your view points, and think many likely do also. I would submit that we should not live in a place of fear- and by dangling a potential divorce for potential bad behavior we are perhaps in a place of fear...trying to control things should they go south. We are free to fully love and fully forgive even if others do wrong toward us. I spent years saying I would divorce in some cases- all to find out it happened anyway! My perspective is one from a marriage of nearly a decade of adultery and then years of the Lord healing and restoring. :)
This statement has a point my husband and I would always say I will never leave u nor divorce u no matter what .... Christian or not u shouldn’t never secure some one this way I know u want to prove to that person your loyal etc. but trust me this gets them comfortable and they can slip up and u won’t leave them cause u reassure them of this ... trust meeeee!!!! I told this to my husband since we married he told me the same but 3 years into our 8 year marriage he physically cheated on me if a sinner hears I will never leave u never divorce u that’s perfect for them that’s telling them if your thinking of sinning it’s oh k she won’t leave me she tells me all the time instead say I love u but I’m loyal and I expect u to be loyal and faithful if you cheat im gone . Literally say what u feel don’t let any one get comfortable anyways trust but verify !!!
Our western gynocentric societies are just dying out because men have become too weak to regard women as objects of pleasure and reproduction. Men have put women on an artificial pedestal for decades , even centuries in the West , and now we have reached boiling point : the West is not reproducing anymore. Polygamy (man having more than one wife ) may not be the best marital arrangement but it allowed men to multiply faster , which is not a wrong thing. Polygamy does no threaten fatherhood either. So , why would the Lord condemn it at all ? Personally , I have read the Bible from cover to cover and have seen God's judgement on adultery , on homosexuality , on debauchery but never on polygamy. Have I missed something ? Am I wrong ? Can anyone tell me ?
I would also like clarification on this topic. God even told Solomon all he had to do is ask, if he walked more wives. As long as the man can financially support the women and is a good leader, I don’t see the problem
If polygamy is acceptable to God, then why is adultery a sin? Is adultery not when a person cheats on their spouse with someone who is not their spouse?
@@tomforemanx1079 Your definition of adultery is not the biblical one. It is the defintion embraced by the world . In the Bible , adultery happens when a man takes another man's wife or when a married woman turns away from her husband and goes to another man.
The very title of this video in and of itself is completely off scriptures since a husband is in no way accountable to his wife but to Christ. You think King David came to his wives to "talk" to them about his desire for Uri's wife ? Men back then were not those wimps that the church system has turned them into.
All sin is committed against God that is true and therefore we stand accountable to Him. Although, we are encouraged through the scriptures to confess our sins to one another (James 5:16) and to walk in the light as children of light and to expose unfruitful works of darkness whether in ourselves or in others (Ephesians 5:8-11). Also I’d just like to add, you don’t seem like an individual who has been humbled by the Spirit of Christ. Knowing that you are a sinner deserving of hell, that there is nothing good in you and knowing that you are only saved (if you are saved) by the grace of God should change you as an individual. No you don’t become perfect and you never will be in this life but God does make us a new creation in Christ through the new birth and the work of sanctification.
@@Jerakye22 You did not understand my point at all. A husband is the head of the wife. A head is not accountable to a subordinate. What is so hard to understand ? King David confided in God. Not in his wives ! Moreover he sinned because he took another man's wife . Not because he took another woman , contrary to the current lies we hear in any western church. How am I not "humbled" by the Spirit ? I perfectly know how men are treated today by the so-called church. They are treated like servants who beg for women's forgiveness because woman is god today. If you think that such stuff can be applied to marriage , then you have the receipe for disaster. There is a hierarchy between male and female that has been intentionally erased and the outcome is terrible. Man is accountable to Christ but woman is accountable to man . Read Numbers 5:13-31 and see if wives are not accountable to their husbands in God's eyes. But of course we hate the Law today and all the countless examples of the things it provides for our spiritual and moral knowledge because we have made all about the woman . Notice that in Numbers 5:13-31 , it is the WOMAN who is potentially adulterous . It is women who turn away from the marriage bed and sleep with lovers. Nothing has changed. God has always put men in charge of keeping female sexuality in check . For the sake of fatherhood. Piper and so many others are just terrible liars who do not obey the Scriptures 's order but just a feminist spirit that is making it all about the woman and taking our western world quickly to an early grave.
@@framboise595 No, but they are still accountable to God who says "Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her" (Ephesians 5:25) So, if the husbands most loving course of action is to confess his sins/struggles to his wife (literally the closest human being to him in life) so that she can see his trust for her and his heart for her and so that she can help him not to sin against God and betray her, then he must confess as an act of love and sacrifice. It is also a blessing for the wife to imitate Christ in helping bear her husbands burdens "Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ." (Galatians 6:2)
@@samueljoseph9710 Do you realise that focusing on "lust" as they do is completely off scriptures ? You think that God made men with huge amounts of testosterone for nothing ? What did GOD say at the very beginning , right after he created Adam and Eve ? BE FRUIFTUL AND MULTIPLY It is a BLESSING !! So , how can a man fulfill this task with no "lust" ? God himself created the "lust" in order for the man to fulfill HIS will !!! What is clear in the Bible though is that this "lust" has to be channelled . But not repressed as they say ! When God refrains men from having sex , it is always for spiritual grounds , or because of the woman while she is bleeding ( once a month or after delivery - all the instructions have been given in the Law but we add everything we want to it because we are just lawless and rebellious ). That's what we see in the Bible . That's what I've read without needing those lunatics tell me anything about "lust". It is clear in the Bible. God gave his instructions for mankind and he made it clear what is forbidden to us . If God had something against sex , he would not allow his own children to get married !! Focusing on "lust" is insane . A married man just has to go unto his wife and release his sexual needs as Proverbs 5:18 says so clearly and so bluntly. Lust is a problem when you're single , that's why the scriptures advise us (men and women) to get married . That's it. There is no hypocrisy in the Bible contrary to those lame teachings that are NOT God breathed at all.
Key Words... Marriage based upon a foundation of the HOLY BIBLE by way of a pure love of Christ Jesus as a personal relationship of Salvation of Fervent Faith expressed in LOVE Galatians 5:6 New International Version (NIV) 6 For in Christ Jesus neither circumcision nor uncircumcision has any value. The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love. 🙏🔥🥰🛐✝️ Jesus Christ is NOT an institution. False Doctrine is an empty & void foundation. Full faith in Jesus Christ, Alone 1 Timothy 2:5-7 King James Version (KJV) 5 For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus; 6 Who gave himself a ransom for all, to be testified in due time. 7 Whereunto I am ordained a preacher, and an apostle, (I speak the truth in Christ, and lie not;) a teacher of the Gentiles in faith and verity.
Well I think that Jackie addressed that by saying that women need to stop taking it personally. God made men a certain way. It has nothing to do with the woman.
The lust of the flesh is a Filthy spirits,why talk about it? There are so many Clean spirits to study and to think which made your Mind Clean.There are Countless Good Spirits of the LORD GODFATHER in CHRIST here in this World and We are going to become Good if We Keep on thinking about It.All Great Christians Leaders Has so Many Good Spirits of the LORD GODFATHER in CHRIST.Keep on Discovering It in Your Eternal Souls in Christ, and you shall experience It in Your Forward Life in Christ Everlastingly.
He did NOT say that. Recognition of God's beautiful creation is excellent, but your flesh delights in fudging the line. Paul Washer cuts a distinction between graceful and carnal beauty at 1:47 here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-4xbJhB7xqU8.html Do not be deceived about your heart's intent! Fear for your soul!
@@JonathanSaxon Nope. Jesus said to lust for a woman is adultery in the heart (Matthew 5:28). That includes unmarried women. This is because they belong to their future husbands.
