Talking with QTCinderella about Confidence | Dr. K Interviews 

Lmao I was just thinking that

The universe will collapse. True story

Top 10 questions scientists can't answer

Happened before with Sweet Anita, though it was her Tourette's called Terrence: Dr. K: "Can I think for a second?" Terrence: "No, get out-" Anita: "Yeah sure, go for it"

The conversation would end I could imagine

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@@Yura-Sensei yes

@@LipSyncLover no

@@faux4780 yes

@@djordjenikolic1632 no (need to keep a pattern)

you have to remind yourself the sky hasn't fallen in just yet.

I would call that bravery, Confidence is more of thing that puts uncertainty away it is like knowing and being aware that you can do something by being exposed to it a lot already or having some personal traits that gives you some kind of security which make you act more confidently.

​@@user-bu6nq1ve6m Confidence is more like a stupider bravery, Bravery is like " I might not make it out of this alive but I'm gonna do it anyway" confidence is like " oh yeah I can definitely take on this 10 foot 3000 pound gorilla"

​@@mr.broski2427 I disagree. Confidence doesn't mean you are arrogant and think you will succeed necessarily. Someone who is confident and can go up to a girl to ask for their number isn't because they think they will get it if they ask but it's because they are ok if they say no and failure isn't a big deal. There are plenty of people who are confident who know that there is a chance and even a good chance that they will succeed. If your confidence is predicated on you knowing you will succeed then that is flimsy Confidence.

Facts!

Especially kids starving in third world countries.

Almost as good as a cupcake

Put that shit on a shirt. with dr K's grin face.

i stopped playing the video specifically to look for this comment. thank you.

It's a beautifully simple sentiment. I immediately thought of HiTop Films "Importance of Chocolate Cake" video on raimi's Spiderman 2. That chocolate cake scene is passed off as a seemingly throwaway scene by most people. But it is one of those moments that elevate it beyond just a superhero film. Peter is at his breaking point. All his personal relationships are in shambles, even with Aunt May. Everything bad in his life is a result of being Spiderman. And when he decides to give up the suit, people suffer and die. He can't be happy no matter what choice he makes. He's alone. Then, in his lowest moment, the shy girl knocks on his door and offers him...a piece of chocolate cake. It seems insignificant, but she gave him exactly what he needed in that moment; to be shown a little bit of compassion, even in the smallest form. We often underestimate the power and positivity that small, thoughtful gestures can bring someone. It's that simple touch of humanity we all need.

Yeah many people think attractive/successful people have an ironclad confidence and they just disregard any empathy for them at poking at their flaws thinking they can't be hurt.

We all have struggles, dont forget that! :) Consider what you say, before you say it

@@ralleks That's... exactly the point of my comment.

@K D Literally the most toxic statement I have ever read on a Dr. K stream. She is of course pretty, by any standard. And that shouldn't matter, that's the whole point. Her self esteem issues come from a complex past and not from whether she is pretty or not. And if she fixes those issues, it doesn't matter whether she is pretty or not, because she will be able to move on from those issues, succeed and focus on what she wants to do. Coming onto this stream to comment "she is not pretty and all her issues stem from that" is not only very toxic but also bad analysis. Her issues are, of course, more complex, and unrelated, to that. If someone feels good within themself, it doesn't matter how pretty they are. But yeah, coming on here to comment shit like that is unhelpful and incorrect. This stream is all about building people up and coming in here with half-baked and toxic analysis ain't helping anyone at all. Go work on your own issues before you comment on toxic shit like that.

@K D thanks for being part of the problem buddy think about how you'd feel having thousands of lowlives talking shit about you on the internet.

she isn't tryna be real just presenting herself as humble to her masses of simp followers lol

@@joshjonson2368 Yikes dude I hope you can work through whatever problems you’re having

@@joshjonson2368 you realize she doesn’t cater to “simps” at all right? She’s pretty chill and genuine about who she is

@@pleasedyes 'chill and genuine' kek whatever you wanna believe lol

@@joshjonson2368 Sure

She helped Dr. K help her by helping steer the conversation in the right direction

while i don't doubt her sincerity, and do i hope she overcomes her "problems" this community sounds like a bunch of whiners to me. maybe if you have a hundred thousand people bullying you in a stream that's difficult to deal with, but jeez, what do you expect? i do hope she improves, but really, there are real problems people have to deal with.

@@HarryNicNicholas What a sad way to think.

@@HarryNicNicholas you do realize that the problem is not the twitch chat right? That's what they were talking about. The problem stems from the experiences she had early in her life that warp her experience of (or with) the twitch chat today.

@@HarryNicNicholas Putting a valuation on the legitimacy of someone else's problems is toxic as fuck bro

this

Its probably because they hate themselves

She's absolutely beautiful. We know it about others.. but we don't believe it when someone tells us..

And yet, even if she wasn't pretty she wouldn't be worth any less as a person.

well people have opinions. Everyone isn’t going to think she’s pretty and that’s fine.

What happened to her mom? How did she pass. That’s so sad I just started watching her

+1

@@Murderbits narcissists generally are extremely protective of their weaknesses and flaws and would avoid having them being seen by other people at all costs. Even if your assumption that most streamers were narcissists would be correct, the guests on healthygamergg wouldn't represent that majority because sharing your flawed human nature with other people is exactly what this show is about.

@@Murderbits Age of Empires healing

jim jones Dude that’s fucking far from the truth when it comes to people wanting to stream. Sure that might be a reason, it’s not a main reason. The most popular streamers and content creators stream or create videos because they want to. They enjoy what they like and want to share that. Because of that they blow up and then the attention gets shifted to making sure you maintain an audience, because now it’s a main job at that point. It’s the same thing with actors and music artists; they don’t do it because they’re narcissistic, they do it because they love what they can create and share.

jim jones Because it’s now a job for QT, much like other streamers. She’s signed to GenG; an esports organization as a content creator. Her job is to now stream on Twitch and create content through Twitch and RU-vid, which means most of the time it’s reasonable for her to play games earning money. As for what I said in the beginning of my last comment, yes people who are narcisstic would go into streaming; but they aren’t normally successful. It’s a reason for some people; but not for many. And who’s to say that people like QT aren’t donating most of their money; they don’t have to make that public. It just seems that you’re envious of people who have made streaming a successful career.

Always ask for marbies when you do

@@Elbow54 marbies or riot

QT's streams are always a safe space from my experience

I’ve watched ludwig for at least a year now (the guy screaming in the back of her vids) and that introduced me to her. They’re the only two people I watch daily

Unless it’s that horrible egirl rejections show

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As mentioned in another video he’s inclined by his job to agree with his subject so through that mindset it’s easy to ignore disagreements with those statements

Hes saying good because she figured it out.

@@ungface don't add context. Out of context dr. K is best dr. K

@@ungface (that was the joke)

As someone who has anxiety about saying the "wrong answer" his frequent enthusiastic agreement makes me feel good. Validated, I guess. Even though I'm just guessing the answer along with the other person on stream and have no actual input into the convo they are having. It's kinda great.

Afforded? What does that even mean? That they are owed something makes sense as one definition. That they have worth and value as people makes sense to me as a different definition.

@@VioletEmerald provide or supply (an opportunity or facility): "the rooftop terrace affords beautiful views" · "they were afforded the luxury of bed and breakfast" Its as easy as using a dictionary.

That's a very subtle but important distinction. Thanks, it actually cleared the use of that term up for me

Omg so true 👏🏽

Guys hating on QT won’t make sense. Females hating on QT? More likely. Random? no

@@LynnMVD?

@@LynnMVD i feel thats a rather stereotypical worldview if im correctly understanding you implying girls are more likely to put people down?

I do it too but I know it drives some people crazy when you don't give them a single answer

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Ego can be a copping mechanism to deal with feeling inadequate. If you trick yourself into believing that you're awesome and force yourself to be confident you don't have to deal with feelings of inadequacy anymore. It's a lot easier for the brain to handle fronting positivity rather than I suck.

*when she hosts streamer awards

@@kova1729 no she is literally at the top percentile of twitch, like 0.01%. I don’t think yall understand how hard it is to even keep 1000 viewer average

@@selvaa1592 is she? I mostly watch RU-vid so I only hear her being mentioned when the streamer awards come around

@@kova1729 the fact that you even hear her mentioned is fact that she is at the top of her game. the vast majority of streamers have much less clout in general

beautiful people can be the most anxious about their looks because people comment on it constantly. it becomes very important to their sense of value.

@@dr.bandito60 wow that makes a lot of sense

Not me trying to be break the peace. I already knew she has a confidence issue based on what she said or what she did or how she interacted with OTHER female streamer. Alot of of times, her low confidence WON over her decisions and pulled the toxic side out. Hopefully, Ludwig will continue to support her.

Yeah... I mean that's the whole point of exposure therapy as a treatment for anxiety. You have to sit in the discomfort. Desensitize your brain to the anxiety and it will eventually lower... But it takes consistency and TIME. So much time.

Stendaal Cartography It sounds like you were betrayed by someone you cared about or insulted by someone you trusted. Your mind probably created an instinct to think that because when you were young you needed a defense mechanism to keep yourself from being hurt again. But is it a lack of faith in other people or a lack of faith in yourself that you deserve to be cared about? Idk I’m just pseudo dr k rambling here

There are a lot of potential reasons. Perhaps you're modeling your behavior based on your parents. Maybe you're sleep deprived and thus misinterpreting the intentions of your friends due to impaired judgement(this is common and causes social withdrawal and a sense of loneliness). As Tracy Qin said, an experience in the past may have incited your cautiousness which isn't necessarily a bad thing.

@@tracyqin7589 Well, theres nothing wrong with some rambling musing here. I've been trying to figure out why I feel this way, and yes, I also keep thinking it had to have stemmed from some sort of painful memory. I have a lot, partly because childhood circumstances and my genetic disposition for good memory which i think is big reason why I'm so fucked up. Hard to know where to even start to fix myself because so much of myself(so it seems now that im analyzing) is trapped in the past, sealed away with powerful, painful memories. For now tho, Ithink it is more my lack of faith in other people. Certain extroverts or certain anxious people would try to give their trust right away, and that bothers me and pushes me away from them. You would think a random kindness would be perceived as good, in my mind, it's "never take that offering."

I grew up in a family of drug addicts and a father who was a bit harsh when I did things incorrectly. And was constantly picking at me in a way that hurt my confidence although not intentional on his part. If you've ever dealt with a drug addict that wants something they can be very manipulative, especially emotionally. Often they would preface asking a favor or something with seeming generosity or compliments to prime me to give them what they wanted. So now compliments feel calculated, receiving favors or gifts feels like I'm becoming indebted to someone who's gonna ask for a favor later. Someone seemingly "liking" or "caring" for me doesn't feel true because my mom and siblings have all done this to me and those are the people that are supposed to care for me but lie and butter me up to get what they want. Overall it's really degraded my trust in other people and I think my only value is what I have to offer someone rather than my own intrinsic value for being the person I am. The relationships you have early on really shape your relationships for life it seems. And these are some really hard models to break. I have anxiety over doing something wrong or being wrong. I have more anxiety about someone being nice to me than mean to me. The closer people get the further I lean back. I'm sure that your problems probably stem from similar circumstances and I'm sorry to hear that. Just understand that statistically you're probably pretty average and have no more reason to be hated or unloved than anyone else. You deserve love, you aren't lower in worth than anyone else, etc. And *you have intrinsic value just in being who you are without being funny, smart, or anything else.*

That’s simply just putting up walls so you can’t be hurt as easily

stereotypes can be a bummer, i've just hit 67 and although it's been a while i was number one player on three halo servers at one point, and until he left for uni playing video games with my son was the greatest fun.