@@survivingmypast6795omg I was just about to say this. My whole life I've been defending myself to everyone because my mom talks about me worse than any enemy I could have out in this world. And people just keep saying move on, get over it, let it go but its still happening and I'm 33 smfh
Omg! You've said nothing but the truth! It's when you are still around the people who harm you and they are telling you to get over the hurt they've caused because it inconveniences them and makes them uncomfortable 😖
I remember being downtown at Underground, years ago ... Tamika was walking by ... and gave me the absolute warmest smile as I spoke saying "OMG Tamika ! 🤩🤩 heyy" and she gracefully waved back and said HEYY BOO .. first impressions are the most lasting 🥰👑
Tamika is finally finding her voice. I love it because soooooooo many people can relate to her story. ❤🩹 I pray she continues to heal and live in her truth.
Tamika’s voice was always my favorite in the group, but I never really got to see her personality. Omg…she beautiful inside out! Caring, kind, compassionate, selfless, loving, loyal, & honest to name a few. I have to go buy those seasonings and the cookbook!
Tamika, I have 2 daughters. One is 22 and the other is 19. Unfortunately my 22 yr old feels I treat the 19 yr old better than her. I feel so horrible about this. It hurts my soul. I unintentionally made one of my daughters feel like I view her as less than the other and after seeing what's going on with your family my goal is to sincerely apologize to my daughter and do my best to make her feel loved, honored and appreciated. I hope that your mom will do the same. Thank you for helping other parents see that sometimes we do favor one child over the other and it is so wrong and needs to change. I pray you are healed from this pain and I pray my daughter is too.
I am so glad I read your comment. I have 2 daughters also 17 and 13. They 13 felt like I treated the 17 yr old better. Now the 17 think I’m treating the 13 yr old better. I told them both I love y’all both both of y’all are equal no one is better than the other
I really think this goes on in everyone family that has children it might not be our intention but it happens and once we hear a child say that it’s our job to listen and fix it even tho you don’t see it that way
It takes a lot of courage to actually accept and take action following what your child has shared with you. Hopefully, I am not coming off as rude, but your daughter doesn't need your prayer. She needs your actions to speak to her. Accepting and acknowledging her pain is a great step. Some parents will be dismissive of a child's feelings or feel like it is disrespectful. You may benefit from going over some of the things that makes her feel this way and do something outside of the box to show your love.
I totally feel you, it's never a good feeling to be into it with family! Stay prayed up. I don't feel like you was disrespectful to your mom or sister; I felt like you just wanted to be heard, I so felt that. We will be praying for you and the family.
This is a great example of how sometimes the "keep it between the family" mentality can be a detriment to us. Sometimes other perspectives allow us to see the truth of our situations and start the process of getting free from those intentionally or unintentionally holding us back.
I'm so proud and thankful for Tamika! She is helping our community in so many ways by shedding light on this toxic family dynamic so many of us deal with. ❤
The enemy working overtime in so many families including mine. 🥴 Y'all are not alone. Be encouraged. I'm a fan, love Xscape and hope you all can work it out. Love you, keeping everyone lifted up in prayer.
No one thinks you’re crazy, that was raw emotion. And until your sister is ready to admit her wrong idk how you guys will reconcile. Prayers to you guys!!
She admitted she was wrong when she changed her number and didn't give it to her. That's admission of guilt. When you're innocent, you stand your ground and have a grown up dialogue. Not run away like a stray puppy and hide from everyone and do sidebar interviews. Then start singing gospel for empathy. Chil' please...
Tamika the People's Champ! I'm here for it! Breaking toxic cycles, sweeping things under the rug doesn't work. Nobody is gonna care about you but you. WE LOVE YOU! KEEP SHINING. KEEP GRINDING. KEEP SINGING LIKE A BIRD. It's all obvious! 💯♥️😘
I'm so proud and thankful for Tamika! She is helping our community in so many ways by shedding light on this toxic family dynamic so many of us deal with. ❤
Let me say this: Tamika this is your moment and time. Break free from being in anyone’s shadow. Finally I’m getting to see and feel your personality in this new show & I am thankful. You’re such a sweet mama and soooooo funny. Your personality and everything is much needed. ATP you, taj, lelee, and tiny should be in a group. 😂
Wish I could like this comment 100000x. Hope she sees this. Lmaooo @ you disbanding the 2 groups & starting a new one 😅. That would def be the turn-up group LOL
Love you T you’re the best vocalist in the group hands down ! Also u have the right to express your pain to your family hold them accountable. You did nothing wrong
Man! This hit different. Some parent don’t understand how to blend their love and attention without having favorites. My mom has her favorite and so do my dad and trust me it’s NOT easy! Kudos to you and I love that you broke that generational curse ❤
When you used your voice and spoke up for yourself to your mother and your sister, you gave a voice to many of us who have similar experiences and family dynamics. I actually felt you when you said that you’ve been dealing with this your entire life! People always show you how they feel about you through how they treat you. You have two beautiful daughters and a husband; that’s your chosen family. Pair that with your faith and your gift, and you have everything you need. I’m rooting for you, and I love you very much! ❤
I know that tocha's absence from the group will be temporary, but Tamika enjoy her time away because your finally shining. You killing it doing your leads and hers. We're finally seeing Tamika.
The only thing I love about this show, is the fact that I am getting to know Tamika! She was always in the background and never could show her individuality. She is touching my soul! I am praying for her strength during these trying times. I love the way she keeps pushing forward! Oh and I want that cookbook! :)
Tamika, I am so happy you found your voice!!! You are right, God don’t play about his children!!! This is your year. Keep going even if your family don’t want to respect your boundaries!!! AT THE END OF THE DAY IT IS TRULY ABOUT YOU PROTECTING YOUR PEACE!!
I love that you’re FINALLY realizing that YOU ARE ENOUGH! There was never a need to sit in the shadows because you are (if not more) just as talented as anyone else. The only validation you need is from God! No parent, sibling, friend,etc. continue doing great things beautiful!! P.S. I would love some seasonings and an autographed book! I’m from Alabama so I know them good southern recipes about to be slappin! Love you lots!❤
DONT YOU JUST LOVE LOVE LOVE TAMIKA?! I do she is so cool. And it makes me mad the way her sister is mean to her. How could she that’s her little sister. Darn shame. But I’m going to respect Tamika I don’t want to speak bad on her sister because that is her family and Tamika not having that. And that is another thing about her you can’t help but to love. Her loyalty is unmatched. We love you Tamika we got your back. Don’t worry about the heartache it will work out God willing.
Sometimes you have to love people from a distance because of the toxicity. I think it's great that we are getting to know you, Tamika. And you see how much support you really have.
I've been in your place with my preacher dad and his other daughter 3 months older than me and our brother 3 months younger than I. And I had to get therapy to know that I was ENOUGH FOR MYSELF.... So know that YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY ENOUGH 💯. I pray for healing and restoration after the bandaid of much needed TRUTH IS REVILED. So things, ideas, and conflicts of confusion can stop being swept under the rug. That you have had to deal with; for far too long....Black Beautiful Ambitious Queen 🎉 Xscape To A New REALity Of Your PEACE.....❤
I feel you. I chase after my father's love knowing my sister was his favorite. I could not believe it when I saw your mother said you were jealous of Latocha. When a mother blatantly sides with one child over the other, there is something else going on. Mothers can be corrected. I believe every word you say about that situation. Latocha's husband got her believing she's the golden child & she's trying to save face on camera. She & Rocki needs to save face in court. God got you!
I'm so proud and thankful for Tamika! She is helping our community in so many ways by shedding light on this toxic family dynamic so many of us deal with. ❤
Facts. I believe everything tamika saying about bout her sister and that punk ass rocky it seem like he something else and the momma is wrong for pending two her children against each other I feel for tamika.
Your sister is showing the world who she is. Your coming forward with your truth has a purpose. You are helping others address their similar sibling traumas. Wishing you healing and wellness.
Tamika, I'm rooting for you! And you're gonna have wins after win! Plz scale this into a podcast covering all things entertainment. You definitely have "talk show" personality. I would love a solo album from you, and acting parts.
right? She so down to earth and all this time the things Tamika did was not cause she wanted to but because she was being loyal to her sister who aint loyal back. SMH!
Hey Meek, I’m so proud of you for telling your truth no matter how difficult is was/is. God pulled that out of you not only for you to heal but to help others heal as well! I pray that you, your mother and Tocha can mend things but perhaps Tocha needs something to spark change and growth in her own life so please be patient, open and continue to love and pray for her. Now, I need that cookbook and the spices!!!!! Much love and countless support! We love you! 🙏🏾💜🙏🏾
@@TheRealKeymonReactsTV since it's only six episodes I bet she will. It seems like the first three maybe four episodes will be on them and the rest on SWV?
Rocky is rotten. The scenes between him and Tocha are so telling - it’s like she’s a shell of a person when he’s around. He appears to be abusive. Tamika - you most definitely are enough! So glad you see that now. ❤
Darling I am 50...my mother is constantly calling my name..but remains silent towards my brother...her fav he can do no wrong. Glad your standing firm...you are believed💞
Mrs. Tamika, even though you didn’t want to bring drama to your family but your spirit needs to heal which is why you revealed the hurt you’ve experienced. You’ll have to move forward in truth no matter if you might have to move on in life without them
Tamika. Everything happens for a reason. You have an opportunity to minister in this moment. I have heard so many people who have expressed how they can identify with your pain. Please take this opportunity to continue to minister.
Mrs. Tamika I am 55 years old my mom had 6 children and I was the black sheep from being a baby. She gave me away to the state of Texas and she kept the rest of her children. Never did anything wrong but that's how she felt. In saying this still to this day it hurts but I've stop crying and the heavy heart has somewhat left. She has passed away but, I can never go home because I don't know that family. I have 2 kids 2 grandkids been married divorced. Now single and enjoying it. No matter what keep God there baby he got you just like me. Focus of the family you have enjoy them and your music. Let God take care of the rest. When you get down or want to cry look at all you have accomplished and know you are truly loved and blessed. Keep holding your head up and stay strong. God Bless You. Ashe' Ashe' Ashe'❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Baby girl you needed that, it's apart of therapy. So proud of you baby girl, and you look great. You have lifted 1000 pounds of stress off of yourself, with your truth. May God continue to bless you and your family.
Tamika, sister or not. Mama or not - do not allow anyone to mistreat you. You stand your ground, you stay blameless, you stand on the truth and you let the chips fall where they may. Don't you feel guilty for telling the truth! God meant for the truth to come out!
It is good this is being documented. This is evidence of the treatment you have received from toxic family members so you don’t get weak and let them cross your boundaries again. Favoritism is the worst! Sending you love and hugs ❤✨
Im so glad Tamika finally spoke out about all this...this has been pent up in there for years...all those childhood traumas are finally bubbling up to the surface.. God bless you Tamika 🙂❤️
✝️GOD BLESS YOU TAMIKA THE TRUTH HAS SET YOU FREE. THE DEVIL IS A LIE & WHAT WAS DONE IN THE DARK HAS COME TO THE LIGHT! YOU, KANDI & TINY HAVE OUR SUPPORT WE LOVE YOU STAY ENCOURAGED SIS.
You don’t have to get over how your mother/sister has mistreated you over the years. It’s just now coming to a head. That’s your experience and you’ve been strong long enough.. Happy you were able to be transparent and everything will turn out how it’s supposed to!!
😢 it’s a different kinda pain when it’s family issues from past and present. I have always loved you and your spirit and I pray for greater peace and comfort for you 💯❤️
I would love an autographed book!! My mother passed unexpectedly last October. She was the best chef there ever was, however, now I’m trying my damndest to follow in her footsteps. It’s nice to see you in such good spirits!! What God has in store for you, no one can take away!! ❤😊❤
Girl.... I swear we are mirroring the same family dynamics as far as parents and siblings go. I had to say enough is enough and had to step away and love from a distance because it was mentally draining. No one can tell you to get over a trauma. That's like telling someone who lost a loved one to get over it. We operate on our own time, and no one elses. My energy, mental, and happiness became more important than trying to fix a situation where others were not ready or willing to fix themselves, so I walked away. I have sad moments from time to time, but I am mostly happy and at peace once I accept people for who they are and where they are at the moment. We love you girl, and know we are rooting for you, your happiness, and your success 😊❤
I hate that she feels so bad for what someone else did to her. I can tell that she loves her sister and mom, but was just at her breaking point. Praying for them ❤
Tamika, at 40 years old my dad still pits my older brother and I against each other. My brother and I recognized it years ago, so he and I talk about everything our dad says to both of us. Got to have that line of communication with your sibling. It’s sad to have a popular song like “Understanding” and lack so much in communication. I hope Tocha and you can figure it out.
Tocha seems to love disrespecting her sister so it’s best for Tamika to step back til Tocha changes her behavior. It’s not fair for Tamika to keep getting emotionally abused
So how is your relationship with your brother??? I’m glad I found your reply. Cause your a man and it’s a father telling two brothers against each other. So how is you and your brother relationship just wanted to know…. From a brother
@@productioncode Hey thanks for asking. It took many years for my bro and I to get to a good place. We have a great relationship now and are very close.
If someone is telling you to just get over it they're not your real friends. Thank you for sharing your story. You are helping so many people. I pray for your continued healing. Therapy can do wonders.
Tamika You are Beautiful Inside & Out! We Love You! I’m so happy you are standing up for yourself. My Granny always say>>> GOD will make a way out of no way. Congratulations on ALL your new endeavors. 🥳💕 GOD BLESS YOU & YOUR FAMILY! YOU ARE A DIAMOND! 💎
I love you tamika! I’m proud that you’re finally speaking your truth and standing up for yourself! No one’s attacking your sister but her husband is controlling and making her look weak… I’m praying for you both! And would love a cookbook and seasonings plz 😍🫶🏼😘!
I'm so glad you got this off your chest. I dont think you disrespected your mom at all. You were TIRED. That's a lot! I can't believe Tocha and Rocky won't take accountability for hurting you. Also, Rocky seems to gave a hold on her, it's scary. Yes, you are loved. You are loved by so many fans. Your voice is powerful enough to sing all of your sisters parts. So pleassssseeeee continue to tour with or without her. ❤
The viewers that saw the episode know that you weren't being disrespectful. That was raw emotions of a daughter crying out to be heard. Trust me I know this all too well because I have the same dynamic with my siblings. Parents causing division, favoring one more than the other, playing one against the other I KNOW IT ALL. Tamika you really did a good thing. Your money being stolen should have been told no matter how it came out! Do you know how many families are at odds??? I believe every word of it and I also believe your mother had a hand in it! And sometimes you have to love family from a distance (because I had to do it). Keep shining Tameka!
I absolutely Love you Tamika 🥰 All the way from Melbourne Australia, I grew up listening to your Beautiful Music. I Pray that Our Lord fixes this situation and reunited you with your Sister ❤
I see a brighter, rising star emerging that should've BEEN shining all across our tv's, social media, movie screen, and boom boxes! I love your energy and your spirit, and I know there's nothing but "ups" coming for you going forward. ❤️❤️❤️
This episode made a tear well up. I'm an only child, but i have cousins that have a similar dynamic. While it may be your family's pain, yall are helping start the process of healing for some who don't know how or where to start the conversation.
Gurl the world needs this version of you!!! Speak your truth and heal from the toxic family drama as God is using you to help heal others. Everything happens for a reason. Be your authentic self Sis!!!
