The fact that, despite everything, you tell your daughters to remain respectful to their aunty & grandma says alot about your character, loyalty, & integrity 👏🏾
I would cut my mom AND my sister off FOREVER! Them girls know them two birds ain’t right. That’s why Tocha solo career never went anywhere…ole basic hussy
So true she said that as the little girl still wanting love and acceptance. And knowing Deaconness Wig she would’ve thrown that 2 jobs etc in her face as being a “good” mom.
@@ZonDAmour1 nah the other is just as beautiful you only said that because she lighter and have the colored eyes and that social media look. Both are equally beautiful
I really appreciate Tameka for sharing this. Parents always have a golden child that they enable to do bad things to their siblings and other family members. In some families it’s the oldest others it’s the youngest. It just depends. Latocha is at it with all the members and the group is sick of her ish. She needs to humble herself no one likes a narcissist. As an older sibling I’m not leaving first when there is danger. I need to protect my younger siblings.
I love how you’ve taught your girls, in spite of all that’s going on, to still respect your mom and sister. Those girls LOVE you and don’t want ANYONE mistreating their mom.. ❤️
Yes, her Mom is a textbook toxic narcissist parent. One child is the golden child and the other is the ScapeGoat. Sometimes going NO CONTACT with toxic family members is the only way, sad when it be your own people.
I just really have developed such a loyal admiration and love for Tamika. She is my favorite member now. I don’t have any brothers or sisters I wish Tamika was my sister. She is so cool.
As the only girl in a household of three brothers I know what it’s like when your mother has favorites. Everytime the boys spoke she fawned and listened but whenever it came time I spoke my mind she’d throw a fit and always say “here she go” When I have my own kids I’m gunna do what you did and not show favoritism because it was definitely discouraging. Funny thing is when my mom gets too old to look after herself it’ll 9/10 be myself that will look after her, for many reasons
Tamika did an amazing job singing LaTocha's parts at their concert! Although it was only three of them, their show did not miss a beat! Keep growing and glowing!!! (I saw Xscape in November 2022 on the Monica and Friends tour)
Honestly, unhealthy family dynamics need to be exposed. Blood is no reason to have to accept mistreatment. I love the fact that your daughter was honest. I don’t care how much we love ppl doesn’t mean their behavior is always ok and I teach my daughter that you can respectfully let even elders know when they are wrong.
Your mom and sister thought that they can treat you any type of way all these years because you're not going to say anything you're not going to air out their business you've been protecting their business for this long so they feel like they can be shiesty and do whatever the f*** they want because they feel like you're not going to say anything but I am so glad that you stood up to them and said something I'm going through the same thing with my family not my sisters but other people in my family
I've known Tamika since I was a child, and she's not a mean person, and I'm shocked. I pray that all this comes together for them. I'm so sorry for all of this that they're going through. Nedrea (Bee) Scott; Washington D.C.
We are on your side Tamika. I could tell by your sisters body language that she was lying and same with your mother. I could see the guilt all over their faces. It’s very unfortunate and sad how your sister is behaving. Your sister is going to need you before you need her.
I have so much respect for you, Tamika! Tears fell from my eyes because my heart ached for you. I’m happy you found your voice. God will truly prosper you.
Your daughter is an intelligent young queen. She is absolutely correct. Parental favoritism can be a form of psychological abuse if the parent subjects the child to behavior that can result in mental trauma such as depression, anxiety or self-esteem issues.
It was so hard to watch your mom whisper "She's jealous" to your sister when you were trying to explain your feelings and for them to minimize your feelings by saying you were just acting. You deserve support. Glad you have your daughters.
Yeah that was really horrible. I’ve only heard of this with some of our men, but wow I would’ve never thought. Now we see why Tocha act the way she does. She’s like a big kid! It’s sad.
Tamika this is how generational curses are broken!!! You are amazing!!! Your girls are right there in the thick of this situation with you!!! Keep shining for them. I hated the way they made you look like the bad guy. Anybody with common sense could see there were so many layers to this thing. My heart goes out to you all! May God step in and completely turn this whole thing around❤️🙏🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽🙌🏽❤️ #TouchAndAgreeWithMe
WE BELIEVE YOU, TAMIKA! I hope you find peace, and even if you never get an apology, just know: WHAT’S DONE IN THE DARK, WILL ALWAYS COME TO THE LIGHT! ❤ Protect your mental well-being!
I felt everything in those scenes with your mom. These scenarios are real. In many families. Your mom has two daughters and they should be treated and respected equally. It’s that simple
Watching that scene hurt my feelings so bad. For your mother to side with your sister is unbelievable to me. As a mother I would try to fix it between my children, not choose a side. I pray it works out for all of you.
This sometimes happens when you find your voice and start making decisions for yourself and your family needs (children, husband). Sometimes family can’t stand to see you grow!!! Stay strong Tamika!!!
It’s just a sad situation. There’s 3 sides to every story, but I truly believe you. I pray that you all are able to get through this, but I understand that sometimes you gotta leave people where they are.
I feel the hurt and burden that you have been carrying for the love and loyalty that you’ve shown to your family and to witness the favoritism,(not because you told us, we saw it) is heartbreaking. I just pray that your mother can rewatch this and see herself and correct her behavior towards you. Sometimes parents don’t like what they see in their children because it reminds them of themselves. I know that you’re hurting and you still want to do right by them but also understand that this is your breakthrough and victory is the result. Introducing the full fledged Tamika Scott that we have always loved and was waiting on! Do your thing Sis!❤❤❤
Agreed!!! That hurt MYYY feelings to see her act like that towards Tamika. Like WTF was that?!!😟 But as soon as I heard her mama on the phone say, you need to hear Tosha side of it, I was like WOWWW ohhhkkk...🙄not yall need to sit down and hear each other or tell me what happened from your side so I can hear both counts of what happened.... It's really sad! They really need an Iyanla sit down for real!!! I pray that they heal from all this lifelong family dynamic trauma.
When she whispered to Tomika, "she's jealous " it irritated my soul. We have to get out of the mindset, that older people should be respected to the utmost degree or they deserve it just because they are the parent. She disrespected Tamika in front of her own child. I've had that happen to me and baby I gave my grandmother the smoke. My mother didn't want to disrespect her mother because she is from the old school, honor thy mother and thy father.....but baby I'm giving it to whoever goes at my Mom, period point blank. It really is a tough situation to navigate.
I just did not want to believe all of the things that even the public had been saying about your sister, but now it's very easy to believe it all. I'm so sorry you all have to be subjected to loved ones that are literal blood and treat you this way. My heart truly goes out to you. I pray for you, your children, your mom, and even your sister to get through this test and see the error of their ways and come to change 🙏🏼 Much love from Newark, NJ
It's really dope to see you model how you are processing this for your daughter's, although this is something you are still dealing with emotionally your still ensuring you are teaching them as young women the importance of processing with respect I hope they also know or learn that there are safe ways to do that and sometimes it means you have to love folks from a distance depending on how toxic the relationship is because they lived through a lot of these moments with you and it hurts them to see you hurt in the past and present. This looks like it was therapeutic for your family, wish you the best
I have a new respect for Tamika. She is not speaking with any malice in her heart. Also, though she is speaking and standing strong this has to be hurtful.
To be honest Xscape would be a great trio! Sometimes you just have to let people go and do what they want....and when they do, be sure you close the door so they can't come back! Let her go and stay solo. Tameka its unfortunate you didn't get more lead parts cuz in my opinion, you have better vocal ability than your sibling. Stay blessed Queen!
🙏🏽Thank you for sharing additional insight with us as fans of Xscape. ♥️🙏🏽 After watching this, my heart went out to you and your family💕🙏🏽 The world should Never see and know this much about personal family matters. Communication is Healing🙏🏽 Everyone has to hold themselves Accountable for some part of the confusion. This is why Jesus said to Forgive 77x7(it’s a metaphor)! It’s ok to say “I was wrong, I hurt you with my words, my actions, Please forgive me🙏🏽and turn away and do better going forward! Love Always Always Wins❣️❣️ See, everybody has an opinion, we have to learn to Work hard a Pleasing God, Not People❣️ Tosha experienced the world judging her body negatively 🙏🏽 That hurt runs long and deep♥️🙏🏽 I’m praying for Healing over her because she was and is still beautiful. It’s a Mean O World Out here🙏🏽 All these years and still unresolved is simply allowing the enemy to bounce y’all up against every wall he can. Time to beat the enemy at his foolishness! Seriously, we All got something!!! Nobody is truly right and we are All wrong!! Forgiveness, Hugs and Love… everyone make your favorite dish, come together and start with.. I was wrong starting with…. And please find it in your heart to Forgive Me?♥️🙏🏽♥️ In front of the kids and all! No one will be Perfect! Just try to be honest with each other and Love on Each Other🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽 Cut the Embarrassment- Be real to each other. Be the example we need to bring Peace to our youth and how to Rise Above🙏🏽 And it’s enough money for Everyone! Do your Solo and help each other!! And do Xscape💕 Come on Now, Step into it ♥️ All of you have beautiful voices, Sang and Show up for Your Children and Grandchildren 🙌💕♥️🙏🏽I Love Y’all
When her mo said "I'm the fifth member of Xscape" I KNEW SHE WAS THE DRAMA... and everything she showed us afterwards let me know that she is more problematic than even I realized.
This newer generation recognizes all forms of abuse. I love how your daughters don’t play about their momma. Grandma or Auntie…they can point out the dysfunction. That’s a testament to how well you and your husband have raised them💜
You are so strong Tamika. I love that you are speaking out and standing up for yourself. Mental abuse is never okay. It's worse than physical abuse because those wounds take much longer to heal. I relate to you a lot. Just remember sometimes it's best to cut the toxic people out of your life and love them from afar. Your daughters are so beautiful and intelligent. You are being the mom you deserved to have. 🖤
I grew up with a similar upbringing of jealous sisters. I just realized this after my mother passed. We have similar hearts as far as always loving our sisters no matter what. Praying for your sister and family❤
Even now with “coming clean,” Tamika is still protecting her sister. Notice how she isn’t saying most of the things her sister said and did to her. A real class act.
I agree with your daughter that it was mental abuse...and emotional abuse when you really think about it. The way your mom whispered "She's just jealous" to your sister behind your back not validates what felt but also exhibits mental and emotional abuse. Prayers to you and your family 🙏🏾
I’m so proud of you Tamika for raising two beautiful daughters and speaking your truth but you didn’t deserve to be done wrong at all and God got you and your daughters no matter what y’all keep shining 🌟🌟⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️🌟🌟🌟🌟⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️🌟
I am so happy Tamika’s second daughter is her rider fr. She has clearly seen her aunt and her granny seriously mistreat her mom and mentally abuse her like the daughter said. I’m glad Tamika is loved properly by someone other than mom.
I love how well spoken Niya is and she made a good point when Tamika was saying that in spite of the favoritism that her mom was still a good mom. “Isn’t that still mental abuse?” It doesn’t have to be physical to leave scars.
Gurl everything you have done has been out of Love....God knew you would never remove yourself from the toxicity so he allowed their heart to become obstinate (like he did Pharoah) and she removed herself from you. You see it hard to get the respect from the older siblings because you followed them blindly all your like and now that you are older with children you expect respect but instead of giving you the respect you have earned they try manipulation and intimidation. Anything bit owned where they are wrong. Continue to stay prayed up but respect your boundaries you have established As long as you know you come from place of love that includes mutual respect..let go and let God....this is a marathon not a sprint. Try to always pray before speaking and remember God said vengeance was his and he shall repay. Don't allow them to gaslight you. God will settle all of this baby girl...keep loving them and praying for them but you don't have to lay down and get walked over....You are so kind and compassionate. I felt your pain and I know this happened to you.
I’m just sitting here in tears because I go through the same thing with my mom. I’ll be 41, and I have tried to fix whatever. But, nothing I do…u know what, I luv u for this
Tamika you have to love your mother and sister from a distance, let them have each other. I know they've hurt you but you have your husband, children and grandchildren to get you thru it. We love you and hang in there. The sun doesn't shine everyday, nor does it rain everyday. Let go of anything that doesn't serve you.
I agree but now they are locked down by BUSINESS... I wished before she entered into the deal, she would have made it clear NO discussing she and her sister's issues on the show... I know it's GREAT for ratings but this is a serious matter that requires serious attention...
Tameka, I just want to say KUDOS to you for being such an amazing mom and an inspirational role model to your precious daughters. I have two grown daughters too and always encourage them to do the same thing you’re teaching your daughters to do which is to separate themselves from family drama between me and my sisters and always love and respect them no matter what. As Roman 8:28 says, “All things work together for the good for those who love the Lord.” I pray that everything work out for you and your family. Love you sis 🤗🙏🏽🙏🏽💕
I "especially" loved how you recognized the expression on your daughter's face who has the glasses on and allowed her to speak, express herself and be heard without interrupting. That right there, speaks "volumes" about you as a Mother. That part gave me chills and brought tears all at the same time. But all in a good way. May Blessing continue to follow you and your girls and your entire family. May we all be loved and blessed 🙌 I love you all 💛
I understand what you're saying but just keep in mind that Tamika is a brand and she still has to have the main control over the comments and it's direction. As a professional she knows what she wants released and not released. Her daughters are not fully in the business so they may run on with info that's not due to be released yet. Just giving an insight on this, coming from someone in the business who has to curve things in interviews all the time.
I saw Xscape 3 a few years ago and Tamika was having a full blown conversation with a random fan who was on the front row. Tiny had to come get her, so when she said that she don't think she's better then anybody I believe her. She's definitely down to earth and cool....
Her & Tiny stood in the parking lot with my roommate & I for AT LEAST 30 minutes after a show laughing, joking & having a good time, so I second this comment.
Love you ladies, thank you for the years of extraordinary music hats off to you legendary ladies to both groups. I am in 😭 hearing this I am praying 🙏 for you all, and with you all, God is more than able to bring you all through this all 💕.
To see the Scott sisters fighting is hard to watch, but to hear what Tamika has had to endure from her mom and sister all this time is absolutely heartbreaking, and I believe her 100%. She has such a big, bright personality that you just assume she's always happy. Good for her for finally standing up for herself. Loving and respecting your family does not mean subjecting yourself to abuse or painful interactions, sometimes you have to love them from afar to protect your peace. Nobody gets this many passes just because they're family. Love is a verb.
We gotta start calling out family for mental/emotional abuse just like your daughter said. Parents need to be held accountable for that. Sometimes we get to a point where its best to love them from a distance. Whatever you do, start protecting your peace. Show your daughters how they can protect their peace.
I adore everything about you ... how you ensure your children remain respectful to family, how you communicate respectfully at all times, there's so much about you that I love and respect....I NEED MORE!!!!!!!
God bless this family ❤🙏🏽 Tamika, you an excellent Mother! Your daughters are so beautiful and loving. I just wish you would love your mom and sister from a distance. It's hard for me to see them treat you the way they do, I cannot imagine how much it hurts your beautiful girls. Cling to the ones that love you most.
I watched last night and was taken aback by the gaslighting and mental abuse that I witnessed. I think the good thing that’s coming from this is Tamika coming to see and understand what’s been happening to her and choosing to stand up for herself. Before seeing this I was so misinformed. What I thought was way off. Seeing how the sister and mom acts is all I needed to understand the dysfunction, blame, manipulative actions, & childish behaviors that the group has had to deal with. I was like WOWWW 😮
Goodness. I feel triggered watching how they gaslighting and trying to make tameka look bad. Man is mind boggling and that mom is a demon and tocha is weak needing mom and husband approval and is jealous of tameka. Tocha a heartless bitter bitch
Yes they seem mature, level headed, and conduct themselves like normal healthy minded young women. There’s no jealous or envious or narcissistic energy from Tamika family. Her sister family with their mother are shady twisted people trying to put up a front it shows.
I completely understand what you are saying and what you are going through.. I went through the same thing.. distance makes the heart grow fonder.. if they really loved you and they want to be apart of your life.. they will show up .. praying for you...all Dallas loves you and thank you for creating beautiful music for history
Sometimes your sibling relationship can be toxic AF! And I'm proud of you for speaking & sharing your truth Tamika!! And I'm grateful you have support around you that is genuine!!!
I just watched a video of you singing the song written for Yolanda Adams and it made my heart happy. The way that you stood with and for your sister all those years. And in my opinion dimmed your light just a little is selfless and the epitome of love. But you are shining now! I love it! And you may not have your sister and Mom’s support at the moment (love conquers all) you have a world full of woman rooting for you. We love you
I lived that life, being a OutKast’s in the family until I was 46 years old. My mother pass away in 2015. I have gotten help for my codependency and I can honestly say at 54 years old I finally know how peace feel🙏🏽. Neglect is never OK parents.
Your daughter is on point…emotional/mental abuse should not be tolerated and or excused/downplayed…we wouldn’t want to set that example for our children to think it’s okay to be treated this way. Sometimes it’s best to walk away.
The saddest scene I've witnessed in a long time was her with her Mother and Sister. I don't care how hard she worked to provide financially, the emotional support is not there and it's toxic.
@Chawday 39 so heartbreaking. Sending love your way. No child deserves that. Lord knows my childhood was messed up. Seeing your parent is capable of being there for you but chooses to not be is a pain I wouldn't wish on anyone. 💔❤️💯
You are so blessed to have your daughters. Even as disappointed, betrayed and hurt you may feel, you have to reach a place where you choose you. Your mother is 100% wrong for creating a space where you feel as if she is choosing between her daughters. I know it's a southern thing, but respect is earned and you deserve to be respected too. You should be free to speak your peace without being made to feel like a villan. Sometimes you have to leave people right where they are, even if they are your family as much as it might hurt, especially for the sake of your own serenity and peace of mind. I speak from experience and I started making sure the very people who acted like they didn't want to be bothered by me, didn't have to be. Stop making people a priority when they keep making you an option. You are beautiful, you have a beautiful family and you are worthy. More than anything, I pray for you to be able to find inner peace.
This was beautiful sis, it's good to see ALL of your daughters in one spot, the show made me sad, seeing everything go down like that, I pray that everything eventually works out between you and your sister, no one wins when the family feuds! i'm glad you let your daughters speak and express themselves as well. ❤☕
Sometimes you have to cut ties so you can fly. You can love family from afar and keep them in your heart but it’s not fair to suffer emotional abuse and keep breaking your back for people who don’t show the same love to you.
I was shocked to see her mother lean over to Tameka’s children and whisper that their mom was just jealous! That was tough to see and really shows the mom as messy and extremely immature. Tameka’s been through some trauma for sure.
Sometimes, you have to let family go. Would you allow a stranger mistreat you? No one has the right because they are blood to treat you like trash. You are extremely talented. Use your beautiful voice to do other work without the group or your sister: duos, commercials, voiceovers, etc. Peace of mind is everything. I hope you get it. Your girls and you deserve it.
I'm praying for the healing of all families . I'm so proud of you you are handling this chaos so well and I know it hurts I'm going through similar things. The way you set that boundary. I wish you were my sister. We will master this and there's something greater got us when we do. You are worthy remember that. One day they may realize they're wrong and vibe back around but you can't hold your breath keep moving sis. They will see when everybody they mistreated you for mistreats them and they long for you. Continue being the graceful beautiful soul you are, keep doing the self work. We have to focus on those that do right by us. I wish y'all could bring a therapist in and have family sessions. It looks like you're the only one doing the work. I'm praying for y'all. I love you stay strong Queen ❤❤❤
I applaud her for holding her composure and keeping it in THAT long. This ain’t $30 or $3000 she said $30,000 my sister would’ve had to wear a serious azz whooping over that! I feel SO bad for her bc her mother is clearly bias. It is OKAY to separate yourself from people that do more harm than good. Blood included!
There’s no way. I would’ve created a lawsuit then went no contact. Unfortunately black women tolerate their black relatives to always have a fake bond. You don’t have to pretend you love these black relatives. All blood ain’t your blood like that, they’re people who share your DNA. I don’t care if it’s a mother or father or sister or brother or cousin, don’t cross me like that.
Your hurt could be felt through the screen in that episode. So much respect to/for you Tamika. I pray that you all can (genuinely) fix this. It's a hard thing to grow up and finally start speaking your truth when you don't have the support of those who are supposed to have your back. No disrespect to your Mom, but it didn't help with her whispering "She's jealous" about you to your sister during that scene.
That scene was so heart felt for me I went though the same things with my sister favoritism like she was better then me had me with so much low self esteem I needed therapy once we got older she went to jail twice 9 years all together an me have 7 beautiful children's an 8 beautiful grandbabies have my own food business God is Amazing YOU SO poised and you an your daughters are beautiful keep up the good work as I see you are God bless you and your beautiful family .
Truth be told they are the ones that is jealous of Tamika..esp Tocha..I believe she always been low-key jealous of her fine ass sister..cause who been fine her whole life is Tamika...
Tamika! I believe in YOU!! You are Loved and Supported! Period!! The way your Daughters are there to support you shows how beautiful of a job you and your husband did raising them! Your heart shines! We see it!! Prayers for reconciliations, apologies, ownership, moving forward, and healing! Love you!!
You're a wonderful Mother. You're a wonderful person. You will ALWAYS WIN because God fights for you EVERYTIME! Sending you and your girls love from Kenya❤️❤️
