Taylor Swift's Troubling Advice On Forgiveness 

It depends on what your definition of forgiveness is. Some think of forgiveness as ‘slap paint on a transgression, pretend it never happened and go back to normal.’ That’s not forgiveness, that’s weakness and stupidity. Forgiveness is diagnosing exactly what transgression occurred in the given situation, and if the opposite party is at fault, choosing not to hold them in your debt for an indeterminate period of time. Resulting peace is desired but not always possible - forgiveness doesn’t always mean reconciliation. You can forgive someone and (in extreme situations) never allow them into your life again - that's wisdom. At the end of the day, choosing to hold someone in your debt in the deep recesses of the heart will only produce bitterness and resentment, and life is too short for that 😊

This is true. My only thought would be that Kingdom principles still apply in the world. Whether or not someone is a Christian, the consequences of unforgiveness will still manifest in equal volumes. There will be Christians who refuse to forgive and are eaten up with resentment, and there will be non-Christians who forgive and enjoy the peaceable fruits that come with it.

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Right, I can see where this can become skewed. Perhaps it's best if I articulate definitions of Forgiveness and Indifference to ensure that we're on the same page. Forgiveness is diagnosing exactly what transgression occurred in the given situation, and if the opposite party is at fault, choosing not to hold them in your debt for an indeterminate period of time. You 'release' them from your debt. Most situations require face-to-face diagnosis and acknowledgment of the transgression that took place, a consensus on which party is at fault, followed by an apology if you're at fault or forgiveness if they're at fault. This doesn't necessarily mean reconciliation, but that's another conversation. Indifference is (in psychological terms) the absence of concern for the human condition (particularly that of an individual or group). To become indifferent is to 'not care anymore,' but not in a good way. Most of the time, it involves the implementation of a superiority complex to justify the lack of concern, which if left unchecked, will result in nothing but trouble. My argument in this video (which perhaps wasn't displayed as clearly as I hoped, so that's on me) is that taking the path of forgiveness is almost always better than taking the path of indifference. Forgiveness is certainly far more difficult in the short term, but when done correctly, is far more beneficial in the long term. I hope the definitions clear up a few things. I appreciate you reaching out and contributing to the conversation! You're sincere in your approach and I appreciate that :)

I’m so glad to hear that - forgiveness isn’t easy but it’s by far the best way forward :)

Good question. Some situations can be resolved by choosing to forgive the perpetrator in your own heart through prayer, and that's all that's needed (especially if the perpetrator is no longer alive). However, I'd say most situations require face-to-face diagnosis and acknowledgment of the transgression that took place and a consensus on which party is at fault. This is an important form of Biblical judgement that we must do. Work out what exactly went wrong. If you're the one at fault, apologise. If they're the one at fault, forgive and set boundaries if you need to. The ultimate aim of forgiveness is reconciliation but sometimes that's not possible, and that's ok. Apostle Paul in Romans says: "If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all." The 'if possible' implies that there are situations where it's not possible. It's not easy to forgive, but it's always worth it when done correctly :)

This cracked me up 🤣 forgiveness for her means her career is over lol

And she's fine with being an old cat lady..she always embraced that imagery proudly...she owns 3 pretty cute cats...but i don't think she'll ever end up bitter considering how successful her life and career is.. atleast for the foreseeable future.

@@Azarath_Metrion_Zinthos Cats aren't the companions humans actually need! They're like windturbines and solar panels. They subsidize electricity, but they aren't the primary sources we have to have for things to function. She's young. She has a lot of time left to figure things out. The problem is there are too many people around her who will be willing to exploit her for money.