The #1 Most Attractive Trait That Every Man Needs | Courtney Ryan 

Spot on Courtney. Integrity is also about boundaries for me. People of integrity have strong boundaries and they enforce them kindly but firmly. They also give the best of themselves and ask the best from the people in their lives.

Expecting: "Confidence" Hears: "Integrity" Finally somebody who gets it.

I listened to this twice in as many days as I was at work and finally had time to respond. I never really recognized this until my husband said to me how he never found integrity/morality and a safe sense of security in his family- seeing his mum be unfaithful to his dad for their entire relationship… then his last 2 relationships failing bc of the lack of integrity bc the women were unfaithful to him. I didn’t even think much of it until he said that I showed him and gave him peace of mind that he can now find safety and rest with me. It was hard for the first 2 yrs of our relationship bc other women didn’t show him we could be trusted. It was an uncomfortable learning experience for us both but 17 yrs later, we’re still together and our relationship has been the strongest it’s ever been! Thanks, Courtney! Your unique presence and gentle care and delivery shines through your video ♥️

My wife tells me I have an "Insane kind of integrity". Not sure what that means. For me, a lot of integrity is introspection. You have to not only know what you want and believe, but why you want and believe those things. If you don't know why you believe what you believe, you can never act on it in any meaningful manner. So I have spent a lot of time picking apart what I believe and seeing if it holds water, or still holds water. And changing what I believe if I find I am in error, no matter how deeply held the belief. It is painful. But without this, you can never be the person you want to be. In order to say what you mean, you have to mean what you say. Everything has to align, from belief, to thought, to speech, to actions. Then, keeping your promises becomes a lot easier, because you mean what you say, and believe in what you say. This introspection also defeats the ego. When you can admit, within yourself, that you were wrong about something, and you are committed to being a person that's worth a damn, it isn't a big deal to admit you are wrong on the outside. Morals, forthrightness, honesty and humility will come naturally as a consequence. So introspect, and work on yourself. Heal the past truamas. And yeah, it isn't easy. Life is seldom easy, but it is usually just that simple.

Props to Courtney.I thought your answer was going to be confidence.

"Close your heart to their desperation. Close your heart to their suffering. Do not allow yourself to feel for them, they will not feel for you." - Kratos, The God Of War

Proverbs 10:9 - "Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but he who makes his ways crooked will be found out." ESV

Thanks Courtney Ryan. I am a 62 year old white male. After 26 years of marriage followed a couple years later by a 7 year relationship, I am starting fresh. Fresh attitude. Fresh perspective. Fresh ideas about life, love and relationships. I’ve watched a lot of relationship vlogs recently in the last few years, mostly from the MGTOW and Red Pill community but yours is the only one on relationships from the female gender I keep coming back to and typically watch as soon as it comes out. I really appreciate the perspective you share. You’ve given me some great advice and helped me out more than a few times when I’ve gone on a date. Take care and as many hundreds of men have already said, ‘thank you!’

*My Top 5 (no gay)* - Authenticity - Ambition/vision & life goals - Healthy lifestyle - Hygiene - Stable emotions

I love how real you come across. In a sea of people pretending to be "cool" it's so refreshing to come across a real and honest channel. Thank you for your videos.

"Who are you when nobody is watching?" That is a great question and gives me a lot to think about when I will introduce myself to a woman. Great video as always. 👍🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

Courtney, As an older man who started to watch your videos for style advice I agree wholeheartedly with your words of wisdom. Younger men if you've ever wondered what feature or trait is the most attractive to anyone male or female it is this. I've often said to my own sons "without integrity you have nothing."

I'm actually glad you chose Integrity as the number 1 value besides Confidence. This is what ALL women should not seek in a man but also strive to have themselves. I also value Integrity a lot because I love my alone time and I always try to strive to get/refine the values/morals you've listed. Unfortunately, not alot of Men and Women value Integrity as much now-a-days so those that do are rare gems and should be careful the kind of people they associate with or hangout and of course be careful what kind of content a person should consume. Self-Respect and Boundaries are a big one as well.

I wish there were more women like you Courtney. Feminine, gentle yet strong, and beautiful, inside and out. That is very hard to find today, especially in my 40's after women are beaten down and jaded from past experiences. I fully agree, integrity is crucial. It has to be woven into who you are, a part of your everyday life.

This encouraing video is a breath of fresh air in a world where ethics and morals have sunken to the deepest depths of depravity. Thank you Courtney for fearlessly bucking the tide by raising the bar.

I used to, when I was younger, look for men that I could look up to. I found out that all the men I looked up to had no integrity. Eventually, I realized that I’m the hero I was looking for the entire time. I was listening to you speak and I was saying to myself, wow, I actually check all these boxes. And it’s a great reminder to continue doing what you’re doing if what you’re doing is living a life filled with integrity. Thank you, again, Ms. Ryan, for sharing your thoughts. I always leave feeling happier. For sure.

Good points. I'd like to see more more ladies take this advice to heart also. That's not a dig but rather an observation that I think has to do with how society often gives women a pass when it comes to these things more so than men.

#1 - immaculate cuticles.

Ms. Courtney, Integrity is one of my favorite words. You said a man of integrity admits when he is wrong because he is a “nice guy”. I don’t agree with the “nice guy title”, I agree with other quality traits on your list but not this one. A “nice guy” is a pushover that doesn’t standup for himself or others. A man (gentleman) knows who he is and can put someone in there place if need to and stands up to defend himself and others. He has strength of character. He does what is morally correct no matter what others think.

Very solid advice Courtney. Integrity is a beautiful characteristic not just for men but everyone. This world is would be so much better if everyone had integrity.

Having integrity to me is being accountable to principles that transcend self. Also, leading a quiet and simple life giving thanks to the provisions given daily help to keep your mind clear and your spirit pure. Great video Courtney. I'm 67 years old and have been married 40 years and I enjoy my children and grandchildren. I am truly a blessed man because the Great I am defines my destiny.

I thought the Answer was going to be Kindness - but Integrity wraps it all up perfectly. Well done!! I've been told by many that I'm very Authentic and Honest, to a fault I think though. I'm unapologetically me, I over share, I talk to much, I tend to let my Emotions run me a little bit. I'm flawed, but.. I'm also still learning and working on myself to find a better balance of it all.

So true. I learned this early on from one of my heroes: my father (mom’s the other hero). In order to maintain integrity, you must first know what your principles are. If you do not know what your principles are, it’s not that you don’t have any; it’s that you are blindly following someone else’s, or whatever new thing comes along. When you become scattered about like this, you are now dis- integrating like a rickety building collapsing in on itself because it was built with weak beams on a soft foundation.

Wow i wasn't expecting integrity to be the one trait but after watching all your videos; it definitely lines up with what makes a man a true person of value. Your explanation of it makes it easy to understand and to apply to my life. I will say you embody that word too Courtney. Im proud of your growth as a lady and success here. Have a lovely day ♥️🎖

As an autistic person (and human being 😅)… This is something that I strive for everyday! 😌🙌🏻💯

100 % agree and can get on board with this. If I can attest to anything that has made the most positive changes all around in my life is choosing to have integrity across the board. For one, it stops the inner dialect and 2nd guessing yourself and decisions you've made and also bears good fruit that you can look back on and see measurable results because of it. And as you stated, being positive and being the bigger person in situations of conflict will never be a bad choice. Much Love :)

Totally thought it was going to be confidence lol, but I’m glad you chose integrity. Come to think of it, a man of integrity will have natural confidence by default. This video was another home run, Courtney. Can’t wait for the livestream!

I have never had a problem with my integrity. My parents had it and raised me. Which made my time in the USMC very excellent. But showing someone that you are trustworthy and honest takes time. Most women don't want to give you time.

The reluctance of some people to admit being wrong is such a pivotal one. You can instantly tell if someone genuinely cares about their intellectual growth, or if their only concern is winning by scoring social brownie points. People that are so rigid in their beliefs that they outright refuse to accept being wrong even when faced with new evidence are usually super egotistical and narcissistic. You can provide them with a million different counter points to their position and their kneejerk reaction will be to dismiss them so that they can save face.

This is how I live my life despite being offered “easy” job offers. I’d rather find a job with fulfillment. When it comes to relationships, I’m definitely picky with who I want to be friends with. I’m always genuine and factual in my conversations and most can’t handle it.

When nobody's watching or when somebody's watching, I'm always dancing... only when nobody's watching my dance moves are perfect.

I want you to know. I don't skip the ads. Only for you Ms. Ryan!

Honestly, just stop chasing and trying to impress women in general and focus on bettering yourself. You’ll be way happier in the long run and your life will be better.

I honesty put a playlist of her while I go to sleep her voice is so claiming

Courtney, I know it's difficult to ignore the haters and trolls, but you have to. Try not to let their comments get to you. Hang on to all the good positive comments, and there are many more good than bad. Of course bad comments always hurt, but take comfort in knowing that the overwhelming majority of us guys who watch your videos are very impressed by you, and not just because of your stunning beauty, but primarily because of all of the wonderful character traits that you demonstrate and that come across on your videos: intelligence, confidence, "integrity," vulnerability, transparency, and kindness, just to name a few.

I love to just relax, close my eyes, lay back, and enjoy every second I spend under your learning tree. TY.😊

Confidence and humbleness

“Compromise where you can. Where you can’t, don’t. Even if everyone is telling you that something wrong is something right. Even if the whole world is telling you to move, it is your duty to plant yourself like a tree beside the river of truth, look them in the eye, and tell the whole world, ‘No, you move’.” -Captain America: Civil War

My dad always said “your word is your bond.” Thank you Courtney for making this video

I'm a pretty straightforward person . Once I had a conversation with my former pastor about my belief . She said that I'm wrong about what I'm believing in , but I defend myself because I have a biblical proof about it and she didn't understand 😌 I just want to make her understand that even if we have different belief in life , even if we didn't understand the word of God the same way , we still only have one God and she should not treat other people not belong to them just because of his/her beliefs 😌

From what I've gathered, a lot of the content on youtube that could be perceived as 'toxic' stems from the fact that there are many (certainly not all) men who have lived according to the principles laid out in the video, only to find themselves less successful dating-wise than other men who employ manipulative and potentially immoral tactics. From a morality standpoint, your message is spot on for men who want to achieve fulfilment and success as an individual. But in terms of being attractive to the opposite sex, it is arguable that many men have found such advice to be less effective than other practical implementations, ie. building an athletic physique, improving their lifestyle and status, etc. In short, I think modern men are waking up to the fact that the social message of 'being a stand-up guy alone will make you attractive" is simply not the full story. There is a demand for guidance about how men can utilise and disinhibit intrinsic masculinity because it is attractive to women by definition, and this is neither toxic nor positive in itself. A lot of men have instead been taught that masculinity is not neutral, but a flaw. The toxic nature of the content you refer to is possibly that way due to the fact that there are many men who unknowingly think that they have to cater to women with a preference for toxicity (casual hookup culture is a factor). Another reason for perceivably toxic content is that a large amount of men have been morally upstanding, 'followed the rules' for years only to have been burned/cheated on for no reason. It is certainly very important for messages like that contained in the video to be conveyed. But to present them as a panacea for dating is potentially misleading for those who don't understand that qualities like integrity function more like the solid base of a cake that is comprised of several other ingredients, which by my own estimation, definitely DO NOT require toxicity, but certainly do require strong masculinity and all that it entails (e.g. integrity).

I want to be man of integrity. So here is a comment for you. You are very intelligent, highly beautiful and are very good with your words. You have strong speaking skill, Ms Courtney. And you are doing great great service to us men by telling us things that are left unsaid and secrets that are invisible. Thank you and have a good year ahead. More than you, it's me who needs guidance and blessings and best wishes. Bye.

I had a lecture tell us about integrity. It’s pretty important in my profession (accountancy). He described it as “Honesty under pressure”.

Hey, Courtney! In my opinion integrity is someone who is born with a value character, but you can learn an education, but you can’t learn value characters. No matter women or men the values are something you bone with it. Thanks always for bringing up useful topics.

On integrity: "To thine own self be true and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not be false to any man." William Shakespeare

#1 Being a Man of INTEGRITY: Traits Characteristics: 2. Authentic - Positive and not a gossip, Staying calm, his words matches his actions. 3. Admitting when you are wrong. - Does not play the victim. Reliable and trustworthy 4. Empathetic - does not leave hurtful comments on websites or saying hurtful or mean things. Not one to tear others down, or no bitterness, 5. Keep your focus and be honest or you will be deceiving yourself. 6. Who are you when No one is watching... That is who your really are!

The timing on these videos coincides with current status of my life and I’m thankful.

Don't whether to laugh or cry...in another reality integrity is important..in the real world..the most important trait a man can have is looks or money or both

I 100% agree that integrity is tremendously important in a man. The precaution is a subset of modern women who view a man’s integrity as weakness thus setting these men up for destruction.

Best video ever not only on this channel , ever on RU-vid. This is content what exactly people looking for strong relationship thank you Courney hope you read this and pass a sign that you noticed it.

I agree 110% I’ve developed integrity over the past twenty years it’s not always easy I’ve argued with myself and felt bad when I’m not ..I like your channel thanks for being you it’s good 👍😊

'who are you when no one is watching?'--i love this sentence, thanks

I have always tried to be reliable to friends and family. I have an eagerness to be helpful and honorable. However, I also used to be so cowardly, non-punctual and non-confrontational in places where I was uncomfortable. When I started my current job, there was a situation in which a couple coworkers were behaving poorly and everyone was afraid to say anything. I stepped up, emulating a former boss, and corrected the situation without being disrespectful. I acknowledged their strengths but demanded improvement, promising future conversations if they got out of line. From then on, those coworkers actually changed and gained respect for me. This was the beginning of a new me, where for the first time in my life, I was surrounded by people who respected me and my honest ways. I maintain this and get to take it home. I'm not perfect, and accepting that is integral to identifying my problem areas and helping others with their issues. It all starts with standing by your principles and tackling issues as they occur. You may slip up now and again, but keep pushing forward and make the next moment count.

Only watching her videos for her soothing voice alone is totally worth it

Thanks for your insight Courtney! I’m definitely guilty of overreacting to things in the moment that frustrate me. A good way to know if your integrity is improving is seeing how quickly you reflect on that experience. Does the guilt hit you immediately when you do or say something that you know was wrong? Honesty and kindness unfortunately don’t come natural to a lot of people these days

This is the reason I absolutely love women and can't stand the bullshit everywhere about manipulating women to love them. Women love a person who is true to themselves and their values. The desire to be with a woman we love will ultimately bring us back to who we are at our core. Feminine energy brings out the masculine essence of a man and that is the key to a virtuous life and a happy life.

Courtney is someone that most if not all women should strive to be like.

First of all I have to say that I fancy your English speaking. On the integrity I could say that it is tough to be a man of integrity. We are all born with different character traits and flaws. It is possible to cultivate this trait starting from the younger age. In today's fast changing world, I think we have to be a bit flexible. Life is hard. I wish I could have been a man of integrity. Your words inspire me toward being a man of integrity. Cheers to you! You rock!

Courtney: “who are you when nobody is looking?” Me: *flashback to myself doing the Risky Business Tom cruise dance all over my house while I dust and clean dishes* 😳

Thank you for good advises. I was married, had two daughters. after 10 years of marriage, no intimacy anymore, i was the worst kind of a father, i used to hear. i was thoroughly nervous, stressed and shouting too. Aged 52 i shouted to my daughter for no reason, i really wanted to change. I found books about keto diet which gave the advice to keep grains out of diet for 8 weeks and take butter instead. Taking butter felt like suicide but i did it. It changed me totally, i have not shouted to anybody, got peace of mind, my sight got better, butter did not kill me after all. Now i am 60, healthier than ever, i am in carnivore diet.

As soon as I saw the title integrity was my first answer. Without integrity you have nothing.

There is enough hate to go around, you're awesome for always aiming up Courtney.

Honest and kind people are left behind and being used in today's society that's sad because its what I went thru but always have your head up and you will find someone to be who you truly are

I think a lot of guys confuse integrity with being "Nice"...........integrity can actually mean being anything but nice. Telling the truth even though it might hurt someones feelings, disappointing them or making them angry at you. Doing the right thing even if everyone else turns against you. Holding to the truth and not compromising your morals for popularity or approval. Thats a man you can trust.

My integrity is top notch ,and it’s gotten me about to be homeless. Stepping up to care for my mom since the rest of my family abandoned her left me with nothing. She passed in May and I’ve been attacked at every turn since. By greedy, manipulative, drug addicted siblings to cold impersonal rental companies that are buying up everything.

Just glad to see these qualities being noticed tbh. I'm a bit older and hold on to certain principles in life, and it's just nice to see some, even if not too many notice, and appreciate that. It's not done to get praise, but it's still nice if appreciated. Much of the advice here on the channel should be taken by ppl twice your age, still acting like it's high school.

Integrity first. Service before self. Excellence in all we do.

This video was helpful this video taught me that whatever energy you give to other people your gonna received that same energy back and people talk about you you just stay silent and continue to work on your purpose because success is the greatest revenge

Lovely! i do agree that integrity is the most important trait that will culminate in all the other important (and desirable) traits! But i GOTTA add my piece to this: The path to GET to integrity is not just knowledge of searching and understanding it... The seed for integrity is WISDOM. A man that pursues wisdom will naturay fall into integrity because it will be a natural implementation of understanding life as wiser as one get. And if you must dig deeper, the tools to get to wisdom are Curiosity and genuine interest (not to confuse with general interest.) Example: someone interested in success will chase something already defined/known with steps and systems... But someone interested on the sunset or on a passing butterfly, is having that drive in a natural way with no second thoughts or complex thinking.

Wow. I was expecting it to be confidence but I was pleasantly surprised. I think you’re exactly right about the importance of integrity. It’s definitely something I need to work on.

What an important message. I’ve been successful in life in many areas of my life. However the one thing I have struggled at times is keeping my cool. Being calm and collected. Example I get upset if someone cuts me off. I am working on this and trying to manage emotions. There are a number of literary documents out there. Just wanted to share. If you struggle with this please work on yourself. It is probably the number one reason why I am divorced after 23yrs of marriage. I played my part and accountable for my actions.

I love what you say about integrity i’m 18 about to be 19 and I’ve spent the last six years of my teenage life in a youth prison but one of the biggest things that got me out was integrity most people fake it to make it but they never actually change their life they did the right thing in front of the guards and cameras but behind the scenes were doing things that they weren’t supposed to do how I got out was I started off the same way but realized the only way I’ll be able to get out and stay out was doing the right thing because it’s the right thing to do most of the time I don’t get along with people my age I only get along with people that are a lot older than me I want to be the best me that I can be and help anyone else be the best them that they can be I look at the world in a different perspective compared to most people my age i’m judged by a lot of people because of my criminal background people think that people who are criminals are automatically horrible people and can’t be changed even though that it is harder for other people to change and some people just don’t grow up there are a lot of people who can change and actually do change I am actually legally blind and love playing chess iamb a really nice person and love being productive I am hard-working and love to help people but as soon as someone hears that I’ve been to jail none of those things matter but I have feelings just like the next person I love that you talk about loving your self but once that step is completed the next step is to love the next person for everything that they are because no one is perfect we all fall down but it’s not how hard you fall but how you pick yourself back up and keep going

Usually: "Confidence" Hears: "Integrity" About time one gets it - but will the cousin sisters reciprocate? --- the quote "men of integrity value what is honest, true, noble, trustworthy & kind ahead of personal gain" - So in a sense integrity is honesty & empathy put together in one. Who are you when no one watches? Consistent! He is himself / authentic, goes after what they want, They are positive & reject gossip and negativity. They are cool headed - do they keep it even in conflict! or say personal points! Are You honest - words & acts match Admit when you are wrong - not just when you caught (but have wisdom) Empathy! - leave no mean comments. says she wants light over hate. ppl's friends have an impact on you like hadith says! As for how confidence plays in words match your acts, so you trust yourself & confident via your acts and moraIs, and this is a big indicator others can trust you! Integrity can make a person lacks drive, who are you when no one is watching, there is always someone watching you! ( if you are a Muslim even the angels) --- A girI of integrity is a modest one - not seeking validation or giving mixed signals.

Courney I do realy love listening to your voice, advices and everything you are describing to us in order to help us understand women more and mainly to understand ourselves too. I appriciate your kind positive words and non-manipulative approach that helps me to be a better man. Much love ❤

Integrity is very important as it directly goes to the issue of trust. For women, she wants to trust you. BUT you need to understand this. Trust feeds her COMFORT, it does not feed her ATTRACTION, at least not directly. These are the two factors that female love requires. Thus integrity is more of a long term factor in a woman’s feelings for you and by itself it doesn’t make her sexually desire you more. So no, she’s not going to smash on the first date because you have integrity! You’ve got to spike her attraction for that. Learning what behaviors feed the two parts of female love, attraction and comfort, is really important as you absolutely need to maintain both for long term success. Plus they need to be slightly in tension for the best results. Withdrawing a bit of comfort can spike her attraction for instance, assuming the underlying love is there. Ever had a ding-dong argument with your wife or GF? Make up sex was pretty good after wasn’t it? That’s an example!

I do all of these things exactly like she described, I am one of the most positive people you will ever meet. If someone is being mean to me I have reached the confidence to not care what anyone thinks and need only self validation. So if someone is being mean to me I actually refuse to let their behavior change my core self and who I know myself be which is treat everyone with respect and be nice and this mean person means nothing to me and neither does their opinion. I realized I don't have understand why their upset, why they are taking it out on me, if I did something wrong to them, and I don't have to worry about them having an actual valid reason because there is no valid reason to be an asshole to someone. NONE of their issues are my problem, if they are being total assholes and insulting me it doesn't make me mad because none of it is true and its meant to hurt me but none of what they say means anything to me or has any effect whatsoever on my life. I honestly kinda feel sorry for them because letting things make you sad and mad and lash out at people and destroy a happy state of mind that is absolutely horrible and toxic to you and so difficult to be in. Basically if you let anyone you don't know or even friends have the power over you to change you into a negative sad state and also reacting negatively to them in retaliation brings you into a negative angry type of mood. You over think things, you interpret things you hear or situations in completely the world is out to get you interpretation and none of it actually was anything bad in the first place. So I refuse to let some situation or person actually have the power over me to change my natural state of happy and positive and making people laugh and I improve the mood of everyone around all the time. I am an Empath and my positivity is super contagious.. If someone is being mean to you or something, its up to you to realize their bullshit doesn't actually matter to you in any way or that you need to react back and defend yourself against their words they aren't true and meant to make you upset. Guess what happens when you care so little about them and their words mean so little to you that you don't even need to say mean things back or get mad at them or feel like you need to understand why they are doing it. When you don't react to their bullshit it literally puts everything in perspective immediately, their whole plan to be mean to you and make you upset is doing absolutely nothing. Then its actually hard for someone to maintain that level of aggression when the person is not getting mad because it just makes them look crazy even to themselves. The funny thing is that since I take this non reactive nice and not mean and never insult people because I don't see the point, I don't actually need to make someone else feel bad even if they are being mean to me, I get no satisfaction at all from that. Anyways even if there is a legitimate reason to be really sad and angry like your friend did something bad, it is important to protect your state of mind from letting yourself be too negatively effected so much that you are hurting and depressed and now all you can do is dwell in that terrible state of mind. You need to stay happy and in a positive state of mind because then you can actually deal with the issue and solve it and be productive and deal with the problem in a healthy rational way.

So grateful all the qualities you mentioned as components of integrity, I do have (saying it with humility); proud of myself and super grateful. Sending you infinite support, compassion!

Everyone on RU-vid says CONFIDENCE is the #1 trait to have. Our girl Courtney focused on what is the most non-superficial long term trait that will keep the girl. Confidence can be faked, Integrity cannot. TY for this buddy!!

All you have is who you are...and who you are matters.

A subnote about apologies is that it is only a means to an end, that is, the end of correcting a mistake and rebuilding a relationship.

It's confidence as the number one.

Threw a curveball, I was expecting confidence. Then again, true confidence comes from integrity. So I what I thought was true, from a certain point of view....

I think the most important trait for men is toughness. Integrity might be necessary to maintain a relationship, but toughness is what attracts women in the first place. Without toughness, a man has little chance of entering into a relationship with a woman.

Integrity is critical to life success. If someone's words do not match their actions, then it is called hyprocrisy and they cannot be trusted. I keep my distance from them or have nothing to do with them again. Self protection

This something I didn't have ..years ago..but now I'm totally have a different mindset ..you change what's important to you and realize what you have. Lately I been fixated with word CHOICE ..I woke up to the fact everything is not about me ..love this video ..and all your post ..thank you .stay well be safe ❤

Okay - So I have a TON to say on this topic. While I completely agree with you 10000000000000000%, where this comes into question is that this rarely leads to success in Corporate America. I believe what happens is that in your 20's you're idealistic and see the world for how it "should" be.... then as you age... you see the world exactly how it "is". Sadly, in Corporate America, backstabbing, exaggeration, blackmail, nepotism, nihilism, complacency, compliance, etc are all Tremendously rewarded/enabled/encouraged MORE than any of the positive behaviors, traits, thought processes etc that you've stated here (just ask anyone that's older than you are). This is why it's now more important than ever for both GenZers and Millennials to start their own businesses, and get out of Corporate America. We all love the movie where the hero wins, but from what I've seen, and I'm sure many here would agree - We're now in a place where dishonesty, learned victimhood, mindless compliance, ego, etc are sadly seen as somehow, in a strange mind F, as Celebrated. There's mass brainwashing that's occurred to many having gone through your garden variety K-12+4 school system (please watch the darkhorse podcast on: "what is school and why are they failing..." it's profound mic drop material that will render you speechless!!!!) While the majority of that is out of my personal control, what you'll see as your career progresses in Corporate America (should you choose to go that route), is that you'll witness those doing wrong as being rewarded. Think that "open door policy" is going to work in your favor as you "speak up".... yeah no.... (remember wells fargo? and how those people spoke up and got canned like Tuna!?). It's very very sad, and really, honestly, I know this may come across as a bitter statement, but women don't care HOW the guy got the house/car/lifestyle/material possessions/nice clothes/etc. Whether they earned it from a nobility perspective, or they stole it, or they built it by stealing, or dealing drugs; Women simply do not care. As Rich Cooper says: "They hangout at the finish line and wait for the winners....". My fave are all of the stories where when the guy gets nailed and tossed in prison, they always come to the same conclusion: The wife "had no idea..."

I used to firmly believe that all the advise from women on women was wrong. But I've been listening to a lot of Courtney's vids and they make a hell of a lot of sense. It's really a shame so many of us men were spoon fed lies about women which causes us to come up very short for what women are looking for. At the same time it's causing men to despise women because people despise what they do not understand. Case in point, 60 years ago with race. Once people are familiarized with things and understand them for what they are they can grow to accept them and adapt. Honestly I wish Courtney had more subs and viewers because women like her are a great help to men and women alike. Rather than women repeating red pill talking points to cash in on lonely men they could reaffirm views from those like Courtney or Jennifer Moleski. We younger guys bash on women a lot and we have a right a lot of the time because of how they act. But what we fail to realize is that a lot of us play into the same trap those girls did. This is less of a gender issue and more of an overall maturity crisis we are having in this country. We grew up with too much and so we appreciate little. I think we need to be more real with ourselves and our situations. Lots of us came from broken homes, but we dont have to let that define our futures. We can push forward and make something more of ourselves, grow, and share our wisdom with our own children when the time comes so they don't fall into the same traps.

Courtney - I appreciate the time you put in and the knowledge you are dropping. A lot of what you say and suggest are things I am already doing, so it's a great reinforcement. This multi colored top is fantastic and I love how you keep one side of your hair exposing an ear with the double loops. Your style is tres magnifique!

I feel like I've been struggling the past few years, even now (but less), with being my real self. Not more, not less. I've had this attitude I guess because every day the guys who had success with girls, were always ones who kept acting like they are cool, always exagerating about every single they say and bragging about how that drunken party so much fun was. Integrity is definitely a value I have to keep in mind.

I mostly watch channel for dating/relationship advice. But I like how it's going in the direction of just being a better person in general/best version of one's self.

There's going to be at least one person who watches this video and feels as if they have these traits but their life doesn't improve, or that their efforts go unnoticed. I have been feeling this way for the past couple months, but that's because I was focusing on the wrong things. I have never had a girlfriend before, women still curve me despite my efforts. What I had to realize is that there are people who notice how much work I put into being a man of integrity. Nothing feels better than when my little brother and sister come home from school and run straight towards me. The way they look at me, it seems as their eyes are sparkling, makes me feel appreciated and like I am someone others can look up to. My parents will often brag about me to their friends or co-workers. I personally think they gas me up a bit much, but they take pleasure in how much I have grown as an individual and that means a lot to me. Your best efforts do not go unnoticed. You will fall, but I am confident that you will not stay down for long, and that you will continue walking in the way you feel is best for you. Please don't stop being a great individual, do it for the random guy in the comment section of a RU-vid video.

I feel so positive when I watch your videos, Thankyou Courtney. ❤️ 😀

Spot on! Thank you. What puzzles me is how I can show integrity when what I say in 'man speak' is misinterpreted by a woman. Some women will ask questions. Other women simply decide they understood me and based on what they think I said and did they decide I have no integrity. And yes, part of it is my failure to communicate clearly try though I might. Such is life.

No.1 trait - be good looking, preferably white and 6’

Integrity is what people you know and just met do use to fill in the blanks of mystery. Integrity saved my life.

Try not to become a man of success but rather try to become a man of VALUE

Courtney's outfit and the background looks very cool and fresh ❤️

when I right I know I'm right , when I'm wrong I admit I'm wrong , and I'm right about that too !!!

My wife says my most important trait is my selflessness, she loves when I put others needs before my own, which really surprised me when I asked her. But that is who I am, if others needs are more important than my own then I do what it takes to meet their needs first, mind you I said.. needs not wants, I know when to draw the line.

Oh man a trait I’ve learned to really hone in on during my time in the army 👍