How To Create Attraction Naturally (NO Mind Games!) 

1. stop focusing on the outcome 2. take things slow 3. give her your full attention 4. having meaningful conversations 5. eye contact - non verbal communication 6. shared experiences and interest 7. emotional attraction BONUS: take care of yourself (hygiene, how you dress, etc)

I had a feeling you'd do a video on this at some point. If everyone can relax, chill, pace yourselves, and not follow toxic dating advice, I can almost guarantee that there be less frustration and resentment in dating

At the end of the day and also what Rollo Tomasi says, "Attraction can never be negotiated." You either feel the connection for one another, or you don't.

Good advice. No games or manipulation. Just basic human communication between a man and a woman that we have all set aside in favour of “winning someone over”

I think undivided attention like love is becoming an all-to-rare commodity/resource. Each of us only have a limited supply and I think, for the most part, everyone needs to start getting a lot more choosy about who/what we expend that limited resource on.

I love Courtney’s voice. It’s so soothing.

Courtney you have no idea how much you help me and I'm sure 1000 other guys say the exact same thing. Thanks for all your videos you go into really good detail about everything you talk about and it makes sense to us. Keep doing you Court!

All the advice on your channel is everything I wish I knew 15 years ago. Even as a married 35 year old I still find great value in the advice as it applies to my relationship with my wife.

It’s very interesting that the same advice can be said in two different ways with drastically different consequences. Courtney’s first advice here sounds like what some “game” youtubers would say “Be the buyer, not the seller, so you convey high value and make it seem like she’s the one who needs to impress you”. However, while you might be doing the same thing on the outside, the underlying mentality will have a huge impact on how well and genuinely you do it and how it’s going to lead the relationship on the long run. The same can be said for other points Thanks Courtney for shedding some healthy light on the youtube dating community

I like the first point of not being outcome-oriented because that's something that we all tend to be fixated on. Just go in with an open mind and no preconceived notions. Try meeting new people and see where it goes, but don't treat the interaction like a business plan. Also, closing the touch barrier is pivotal and is something that should be added on this list. You can be the most suave guy and say all the right things, but you have to be able to get physical (assuming it's socially appropriate, of course) to escalate the relationship beyond the platonic stage.

Thanks for this video Courtney. I watch a lot of diverse content on RU-vid, but yours is one of the few channels that seem to have dating framed in a healthy way. We seem to be lacking honest communication now and days and just letting things flow.

I'm cool with taking things slow and letting it build naturally, but I'm also terrible at reading signs and finding the right moments to make a move. So, for me, it's either make a move at the wrong time or wait and wait for a signal that I never see.

Remember before following any of this advice, work on yourself first. Putting it bluntly, if you’re ugly and have nothing going on for yourself, no dating or attraction advice video will ever work for you. - How to not be ugly in a few steps - Take care of your skin, brush your teeth / floss twice daily and use some white strips if you have yellow teeth, workout 3-5 times a week, get into the habit of having excellent hygiene (I.e shower daily and keep yourself well groomed) find yourself a good daily cologne, get well fitted clothing and a better wardrobe. Once you take care of yourself, everything else comes naturally. It’s hard to be considered an unattractive man if you’re doing all of the above. I don’t care if you’re 5 ft tall or have a micro pecker, someone will find you attractive, but only if you fix the things you can fix. I don’t want to hear the bull shit “oh she only wants a guy that’s 6 feet tall and a chad.” We are men, and a real man don’t make excuses, we make the best out of what we have. No amount of complaining will make you more desirable to women. That’s all I got to say, too many black pilled weirdos in the comments.

This is the best approach! Chances are, if either party has to resort to games things aren’t gonna work out

i needed this . thank you i’ve been working on myself for months but i want to attract certain kinds of women but they don’t seem interested, thank you for this !!!

I honestly just come to Courtney‘s channel because it relaxes me. Some people go to the spa some people go to the gym, and although I do those things there is nothing like Courtney‘s truths! Oh and the background music too haha

I have been waiting for this video so freaking long. About freaking time thank youuuu

Thank you Courtney I have had alot of trouble just communicating with people as a whole and your videos have really helped me out alot I really do appreciate the effort you put in which is why I have subbed to your channel have a great day and thank you again ☺️

Thank you Courtney! You're such a kind person, and I appreciate your advice

Taking it slow with women will lead to rejection and the friendzone since women a) have a million other options and can't wait despite what they claim b) will punish you for not taking action and complain about you being too passive c) will assume you won't like them Many men would like to take it slow but women actually force them to do the opposite.

Dear Courtney, that is one of your best videos for men. I appreciate you work and your channel. It like a fresh air for conciseness peoples.

Really neat Tips, i feel like i have been applying this more and more over the years but i still feels nice to hear about this in a video, You´re awesome!

Sound is closer to other RU-vid videos. Thanks for making it easier to listen inside a playlist.

Thank you for this Courtney I hateee the mind games

Thank you for your advice Courtney :) Please keep it up!

Thanks for all the advice Courtney Ryan! It's very helpful.

Yes Ma'am! All of these points are good ways to not only build, but keep the attraction going. My favorite is at 5:10 Eye Contact/ Nonverbal communication... I'm getting better at eye contact in conversations and I'm an expressive person, so usually it shows in how my body is positioned, head movements, facial expressions, etc. I'm also picking up on how people Express their own body language. I would still like to Communicate vocally though, but it's something that is important. Everything will happen Naturally if you're interested...

We love Courtney Ryan! ❤️

Going on a 3rd date later today, really found this video helpful Thanks Courtney

Courtney, you Must have read my mind. The timing of this topic is perfect. I'm in the very process you are discussing of rekindling a long time friend ship with a beautiful lady from my church and I'm am following your examples as best I know how. This dear sweet lady deserves it .thank you, as always.

Definitely needed this crash course

Courtney is radiating more with every passing day ❤️

You are amazing Courtney Ryan!!! I adore you! 🥰

Great advice patience is a virtue

Thanks, Courtney. You’re my hero.

I guess someone is engaged. Congratulations Courtney! 🍾

This is great advice to become great friends with a girl! Just friends, not building attraction. This is very dangerous advice to get caught in that friend zone.

You're super amazing and super talented, keep posting helpful videos for us... lots of love and support from india

Thank you very much for this good reminder. You fleshed out the idea nicely and added new ideas. Your message today is GREAT. Oh yes - Thank You.

Thanks Courtney! You're that one sister and best friend everyone needed.

Courtney, you are my undivided attention, as always😍

Great information normal and Natural thanks Courtney Love your Content 💯💕

great video Courtney :)

Dominance is key at all times. Influence and Manipulation on women is the best power you can gain from them, no matter what you say. Women don't wanna be controlled. But, everyday they control us. They say they don't, but, the truth just burns they're hearts out. Sadly.

This advice would have really helped me in the 90’s when i was in high school or college but todays world is fast paced and females don’t reciprocate the attention because the social media is saturated with other guys getting her attention

I noticed the ring on your finger, congratulations on the engagement!!

Dashing as always

It's easy..just be yourself and let your purity make the best

Very true. It’s such a beautiful feeling and it’s before any achievement really. You are giving very very important bits of info here. Good job, I’m so proud of you Also making the conversation an “us” instead of you or they. Also creating things exclusive to both. Anchors

It’s an odd feeling to me that these are things that I have believed were important and that they didn’t seem to be for a few years or more.?. Thank you for reinforcing positive principles back into our lives from your platform.

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Love you Courtney for such no BS content videos🙏

Great video!

Such genuine guidance on a plastic world. The genuine heart 💓 will always win.. and be THE most attractive* Thanks and keep up the great work!

You pull off bright color really good!

Wow great advice...im actually quite impressed abt your approach.

"Meaningful conversations" can be a form of mindgame. Anyone can pretend to care. Some couples are just ok with being around with one another, and that's ok.

Hello Courtney. Love your content. Learning a lot about what I was doing wrong & working on myself now to become a better man, for the woman I eventually want in my life. Still have things I need to work on 😊😊😊 just want to say thanks. Subscribed & waiting for the next gem you drop ❤️❤️❤️

Thanks for your wonderful videos! They are very helpful.

Great video. I prefer these types of topics over fashion trends or other topics based upon bumping into someone on the street.

Just be Keanu Reeves

I get all psyched when get that new idea for the next video.... And then when I take action and it comes out SPECTACULAR!! Oh yeah baby!! 😎

You deserve millions of LIKES 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🌹

Asterisk- *this advice only works if you are a SMV 8 or higher. I.e.- If you are an '8' giving a woman attention is 'attractive' if you are a '5'? Giving a woman attention is creepy and simp-like.

This is a great healthy perspective on building attraction Courtney 😊✌🏽♥️. Looks do play a factor in it tho. However, all a guy can do is present the best version of himself. Don't ask questions that the answer results in a yes during a conversation. I definitely think showing interest in what a woman likes, is passionate about and things she put time into. Remember it's not just you doing everything. A woman should be trying to contribute and impress you too. Just have fun and don't text so much. Let a woman experience your personality in person or over a voice/video call. Don't be all up on her social media 24/7 either.

Great advice.

Harsh truth: for some women these tips Courtney has given won't be enough for them but the key is don't get discouraged. Let this information guide you in the picking the best mate possible don't get discouraged about how many times you lose but rather feel encouraged more to win.

These all seem like natural things that come to me. I was watching other videos where they put so much pressure on having to create sexual tension, have to kiss them otherwise they will see you as a "beta". Glad I found one that brings me back to when it was simpler and not overthink these things.

Thanks my sister this video really helped.

Build attracton whilst also being a decent human being? SUBBED!

Great video 📸

Just wanted to say, that shirt looks great on you!

Great information 😃

I think one of the main reasons men tend to neglect or place emotional attraction secondary is also a societal thing too. Most men are taught not to have emotions or be intimate or cry because it’s weak. It’s “soft”. I think we’re all getting better about it and it’s acceptance now but I do still think it plays a huge part. Not to discard responsibility, we are all responsible to teach ourselves healthy ways of living and coping mechanisms to be clear.

Yes Courtney im confident when im with a women that she will be into me now I have to make sure she's good with me. Yes I stare into her eyes talk to her let her know my intentions meaningful conversation but I knew this 🤔

This was pretty good advice. Be yourself and allow the other to be themselves and both will soon find if there is any connection. Having an emotional IQ is also very important. This IQ can be developed to a higher point of understanding. This is often an area men need help in to cultivate. Just don't imagine things that are not there by honestly seeing what your seeing/hearing...no rose coloured glasses.

Love the content, love the blue stripped white top 🖤

Que tengas un buen fin de semana Courtney! 😍

Masha Allah - Wow! I thought I was going to roast you ; being a former "Playa" and super busy guy right now :) the advice is great; Be Present, No Agenda, Pay Full Attention, have a real conversation (especially if you're into her which means save these conversations for girls you're interested in), and do things you "both enjoy" ...I got nothing but kudos and respect for your advice - Nice INFO sister.

I'm 6'4 and good-looking, it always works. Sometimes i give them my full attention, sometimes i don't. It doesn't matter. I still hit it 8/10 times

You know, it struck me that the reason a lot of guys seem to struggle with the idea of emotional attraction isn't that they don't feel emotions as strongly as women but more that men get shamed for their emotions by society just like how women get shamed for their sexuality. It basically means a lot of men never learn to understand their own emotions and can't see the strength there is in sharing their genuine feelings with another and thus they struggle to go deep and connect emotionally with the women they date because they don't want to appear weak when in fact not wanting to appear weak is itself a form of weakness. I think a lot of guys stuff down their emotions and forget that their emotions can propel them forward in life to achieve their goals and be the man they want to be. The issue really is in understanding the difference between being vulnerable and being needy and recognising that being able to express your emotions authentically is actually a source of true masculine strength. After all, if you have tamed your own demons and can connect at a deep emotional level with a woman I'm guessing she'll sense the emotional strength that rests within you and realise that you can provide her with some of that emotional strength when she's facing the great existential problems of life.

Been a while since I saw one of your videos Courtey, I missed your content

been on 2 dates with a girl from my gym and I've been doing these!!! proud of myself

Thanks!!

Good advice.

That white sweater looking cute on you courtney i like it more than the black one And great content as always

Awesome video!!! Can you make a video about giving advice to high functioning autistic men. I noticed a lot of confident women going out with the shy and weak guy that that they can control. I feel as if those are the men (high functioning autism) that have trouble communicating and reading between the lines. Yet women still prefer them because they are very honest and that they can never hurt them. I can’t really say much, but you have a greater audience to mention this too. So if you can give us advice for high functioning autistic men and dating that would be a life changer!!! Thank you 😊

Great Video! Thx...

Thanks so much for this advice i just hope its not too late too try and fix things ive been doing the texting too much thing and felt our relationship strain 😥

That sweater looks so cool ⛱️

No games. Be yourself and enjoy life. Love yourself and you'll automatically vibrate at a level that attracts that energy🙂

Courtney, how did you learn all of this great information?

When you've just met someone and you've conversed a bit (small talk out of the way) and you feel the energy or "Vibe" receding, you are struggling a bit to keep conversation on automatic, I do this: Face to face, ask her to tell the story, (describe), of a very exciting/strange/scary/astonishing moment of her life, of something she experienced in person, real time. Have a few of your own favorites in cue. If she balks or is a little hesitant, offer to go first. Stories of awe, fear, excitement, (avoid sad or gross stories here). Like the time you almost drown, a wild car wreak you saw or were in, extreme weather you've witnessed, have you seen a UFO, a ghost, an explosion, etc. Any kind of whoa, what the F? moments. Anything that you can tell in an animated, adrenaline infused way. The energy of your story should cause a bump in adrenaline in her. It will encourage more energetic conversation, lift the vibe and the attraction factor. This works well to energize a waning conversation.. One story leads to another and you usually find you have some similar experiences.

Going on a second date tonight with a girl. I haven't been too interested in dating, more interested in working on myself. This girl seems very genuine and positive. The issue I find is that she has never dated longer than 4 month, also back in school for her degree and living with her parents. I thought maybe after this date, I should let her know that she should be focusing on herself right now (also I'm worried about dating someone that's never been in a longterm relationship). What are your thoughts Courtney?

Be attractive, have money, got game. No point in lying to men saying that all these other factors matter for initial attractions. 🤗

I think the things you say, are, precise, and modern. Alot of things men do not, know. Your pose, calm composer entertain, your words Give thought, and precision. Love watching you. Much Love too you. 🍯🌹

Do you have enough of the required Locus of Control/Attention Span to give away in a relationship to a woman? Or is overwork, or some other diversion causing you to falter in your desire to give full attention to your love interest?

The vetting process should be taken slowly but getting that first or second date, I would definitely make it seem more rushed and urgent so that she doesn't drift away

I'm not new!! I know you're the Big Sis Courtney Ryan❤️💯🤪🤙