You don't suck at homemaking... you're just doing this ONE THING wrong. 😬 

That! 👏🏻👏🏻

So sorry that you are going through such a tough season. Praying for you! 🙏🏼

Amen!!

Agreed. It's so important to acknowledge our weaknesses but also not dwell there. Wishing you the best!

That would probably just have to be a conversation with our husband that needs to be had. I know sometimes it’s hard depending on the type of man your husband is. But pray about it first so that your words are chosen by God and with a gentle spirit.

Yes, this can be very difficult and discouraging. I have tried to ask my husband what are your top priorities in the day. Good dinner, good homeschool, good s#x? And I've had to just say, I'm really depleted right now from xyz, I'm doing my best. Also, ( I'm assuming you stay at home, I could be wrong,) remember that even in his full day of work, your husband gets a lunch and a break. You have the right to sit down and do nothing or something you you enjoy during the day too. You don't have to feel shame for that ❤

Something else that isn't necessarily fun to do, but is pretty revealing is an exercise I have done when trying to find productivity gaps in my work: if you are able, throughout one day (or two, for consistency), document each activity of the day and how much time is spent doing it. Have a notepad out and just keep track as often as you can. You don't have to be minutely detailed, but thorough enough to have a proper grasp of things. Of course it will likely be challenging to do if you're already juggling household chores and spending time with kids, but if you can commit to it for just a day or two, you can see for yourself whether you are truly productive, or whether perhaps a bit more structure may be helpful. In my own experience, it has been both a private revelation about my own need for greater discipline, as well as a validating proof of just how much I have been tasked with in a day. It is in these moments of realization that we can either make a change and improve our methods, OR, we can bring the evidence to our partner and say, "Look, here is all that goes on each day. I need to be able to prioritize; what do you think can be set aside in order to accomplish our most important goals?" This way, even if deciding what to drop is difficult, you will both be so much more on the same page and will be better equipped to tackle the problem more effectively! Wishing you the best and hope this is helpful ❤️🙏🏻

I love this idea.

Interesting! I was older when I started having kids, wrapping up at 41 w newborn twins.I was a very involved mom. I used to think they could stay w me forever etc but there comes a natural point where you feel your kids are like birds that have become too big for the nest and they are running the parent birds ragged trying to feed giant fledglings. If yours are like mine they will kind of wear out their welcome if you just have to serve them without a break or if they don't contribute in any way in the household. i know it is our fault tbat we did everything while our kids sat around or slept late but that happening over the years kind of changes it. It is kind of a relief when you are in your 60s and your youngest kids are mid-20s and now you can do for them as you desire.

We were married ten years prior to having our daughter. She's now 21 and our son is 17. You're ready when you're ready.

It’s also interesting when you said some people feel like a slob, some think they need to make bread… or having a decluttered house, I look like trash most days but I do home cook meals and make bread, so we all do what we think is best for us. Makes so much sense and reminds me not to judge the ones who always look put together.

He probably just wants it validated that what he's doing is hard too. A lot of times trying to tell them how hard we have it makes them feel like we're saying they have it easy, so he's just trying to show you he doesn't.

@@kristinotto102yes I agree with this. I have found that when I spontaneously tell my husband “Wow! You are doing a lot babe. I know it would be hard to manage xyz that you’re doing. Thank you for working so hard for our family”, he reciprocates with encouraging me and noticing how much I’m doing too. The first time he was really surprised, lol. Then it got easier for him and now he initiates the compliments for me more than I do!

We were superb swamped with multiple kids, self-employment, etc. to the point that I actually feel like I kind of have PTSD. Our wires were so tight that even now in retirement it is like we feel guilty if the other sees us take a break or something. It is ridiculous. I keep a daily planner even now.

I will be 69 this fall. Can't believe how tired I get in a day. Some days I do so well and the next I can barely keep up my daily routine. Been retired for 4 years and slowed down so much from a very physical job.

@steveschumacher5470 I retired from IT several years ago, but raising 2 granddaughters for 11 years now, they are 14 and soon 17. The hubs is 75, also retired IT for 15 years. The 10 acres is just TOO much.