The 4 Overlooked Challenges of BPD in Relationships

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As noted in many of the comments, there is a grammatical error. I certainly apologize for that and hope that you can still get some thing positive from the video.
Cope with your BPD symptoms using my BPD Card Deck: The BPD Card Deck: 50 Ways to Balance Emotions and Live Well with Borderline Personality Disorder. Available at: www.shorturl.at/jBHJV
Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
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In the video, Dr. Fox explores the connection between borderline personality disorder (BPD) and insecurity in relationships. The discussion covers topics such as the choice of partners, strategies for identifying and managing relationship insecurity, the distinction between the desired and necessary aspects of a relationship, and examining personal beliefs about oneself and the partner. The video aims to provide insights into overcoming insecurity associated with BPD in relationships.
Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award-winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 20 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.
He has published several articles in these areas and is the author of:
The BPD Card Deck: 50 Ways to Balance Emotions and Live Well with Borderline Personality Disorder. Available at: www.shorturl.at/jBHJV
Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
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Antisocial, Narcissistic, and Borderline Personality Disorders: A New Conceptualization of Development, Reinforcement, Expression, and Treatment. Available at: tinyurl.com/2anv8dww
The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD. Available at: goo.gl/LQEgy1
Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner): goo.gl/BLRkFy
Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Silver Award Winner):: goo.gl/sZYhym
The Clinician’s Guide to Diagnosis and Treatment of Personality Disorders: goo.gl/ZAVe9v
Dr. Fox has given numerous workshops and seminars on ethics and personality disorders, personality disorders and crime, treatment solutions for treating clients along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum, emotional intelligence, managing mental health within the prison system, and others. Dr. Fox maintains a website of various treatment interventions focused on working with and attenuating the symptomatology related to individuals along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum (www.drdfox.com).
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00:00 Introduction
00:36 Why you're attracted to certain people
03:57 Reasons you're in those relationships
05:16 how to make different relationship choices
05:27 Afraid of partner abandonment
07:12 Trying to keep your partner
11:07 Beliefs about you and your partner

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@tessah.7641 Год назад

The self awareness I experienced watching this is both enlightening and terrifying. I pray i have the strength to make the changes I need to make with my husband

@thorzyan Год назад

"You're" 😉 (Great content as always doc, just had to feed the OCD grammar demon)

@helenga666 Год назад

Yes, whew!!!!

@FollowmedowntheNumberWhole Год назад

Yes, I came here to comment to him, “you’re not using your grammar correctly.” 😅

@hollymorelli8715 11 месяцев назад

I thought the same thing haha😅. But then I realized hey he is helping me think in the gray 🩶, even the smartest people in the world make grammatical errors!

@user-xs3tv2lt3s 9 месяцев назад

Yes, it should indeed be "You're" and NOT "Your"

@levitatestudent Год назад

Here is the one area where I actually got it right.....married for 37 years to my number one favourite person. My mum used to say he was put on the planet for you......she knew somehow. But whatever the reason we have stuck by each other.......in sickness and in health.

@VeronicaNicole4778 Год назад

I’m looking forward to this one. I feel like I’m dating a great guy (8 months now) but I get in my head a lot still. With all the work I’ve done, I finally feel I’m worthy of a healthy relationship but sometimes I don’t know if it’s my relationship insecurities or a real issue when something comes up inside me and it can be challenging knowing what to address and what to let go of… He’s not scared of BPD or anything and he’s very mentally strong. I think that is my absolute favorite thing about him.

@vannhinguyen6171 11 месяцев назад

Relate to this!!! But I haven’t worked on myself just yet, I’ve been recently diagnosed with BPD. I do think the issues coming on from me other than him and the relationship itself

@brybaby89 Год назад

Honestly, if I don't have my partner... i unfortunately don't have anyone, literally. No family or friends. I'm working on that though... Long road.

@chilloften Год назад

I’m such a loner and isolated. So I do want to change that fact and I want to need people. But it can be heartbreaking. I rarely find a soul I’m both attracted & interested in. So when it happens, it’s not working out. 🌲🌺🦋🌸

@karisanahodil3406 11 месяцев назад

Thank you so much for all your time and effort you put into these videos. If it wasn't for me finding your channel, I wouldn't be able to start to grab ahold of my own mental health steering wheel and taking back over my life again!

@DrDanielFox 11 месяцев назад

You're very welcome. I'm glad the video was helpful. Be well.

@itsalorikatpnw 9 месяцев назад

Thanks so much for sharing this video!

@mackamacmillan5875 Год назад

This is a great educational and insightful video. I so appreciate all of your insights and advice!

@DrDanielFox Год назад

Thank you very much and I wish you all the best.

@Hinatafan4ever666 Год назад

I think that I developed an attraction to people that will use and abuse me, ridicule me, and cut me down because my first experience with s*x and love, aside from the domestic violence, gaslighting, and general abuse etc. I constantly witnessed, was with the abusive brother that molested me and then left me feeling abandoned once more.

@gregorym7588 Год назад

You'd be probably correct.

@DrDanielFox Год назад

Thank you for sharing your experience, and I think a mental health provider may be able to help. Working through these issues can really help to manage it and move forward and develop secure relationships.

@jackiegrice714 Год назад

This was great Dr. Fox. I can think of a few situations that should be want vs need based, but I think you described the most important one. The hard part is convincing yourself that things can change.

@DrDanielFox Год назад

So true but recognizing it is the first step.

@jameslutz3835 Год назад

Thank you for breaking this down

@DrDanielFox Год назад

You’re welcome

@edfreese2409 Год назад

If your comment on this post is about you're, then you probably have BPD. 😉 I have BPD and was going to comment on the misspelling but people beat me to it. 😀😀😀 Thanks for you videos, Dr. Fox!

@VeronicaNicole4778 Год назад

Great video! I was responsible for the chick in a cage environment I brought to my 20 year marriage. Feels good to be changing my relationships from that to a more free style although it feels scary and foreign at times. I hesitate to move further in my current relationship as I’m so afraid of going back to old ways so I move very slowly but with the right person, that’s ok. 😊

@DrDanielFox Год назад

Sounds like you’ve developed really good insight and I would encourage you to use this to move forward and develop healthy relationships and strategies. Be well.

@user-fj2wj5hj9d 3 месяца назад

I love your videos

@lke4907 Год назад

I can't tell if I'm BPD or Disorganized attachment.. it's extremely confusing 😕

@VeronicaNicole4778 Год назад

I think it’s possible to be both and I think I might be one who has them both. If you have the insight as to why though, it really helps to manage it. 😊

@xyandi4870 Год назад

if you don't know see a psychologist. Don't diagnose online via a video or youtube comments as it has the ability to make things waaaay worse, I say this as someone that put it off for years and clinical help is all I needed to get things right. Good luck!

@VeronicaNicole4778 Год назад

@@xyandi4870 thank you!! And good luck to you too 😊

@brybaby89 Год назад

Disorganized attachment style is generally a part of BPD...

@brybaby89 Год назад

@@VeronicaNicole4778 Keep in mind though, that a psychologist is still a human (who is also flawed) and have the ability to frequently misdiagnose. Ultimately, if you're self aware enough, communicate your symptoms, all of them as detailed as you can to your health professionals. They're only as good as what you give them to work with.

@sofp Год назад

I have an interesting case for you. What about a narcissist who thinks she’s borderline ? With reactive abuse the narcissist or even the borderline can transform the partner into a situational narcissist? The partner who is abuse suffer narcissistic wound that makes them temporarily narcissist. This way the borderline or narcissist can still blame the partner of being the narcissist or the toxic person

@DrDanielFox Год назад

This creates a complex dynamic that can feed itself and sustain the unhealthy relationship.

@Trashpanda888 Год назад

I am not sure if I have BPD or not.. my last relationship brought out a lot of BPD traits.

@albertcassler8763 Год назад

I need you, like the flowers need the rain, you know ❤ Bread

@hayleymoll4582 Год назад

I know most people talk about leaving a BPD relationship but I haven’t found how you leave a relationship when you have BPD especially if it is toxic.

@DrDanielFox Год назад

I think this is very complex and individualistic. I would recommend talking with a mental health provider to help you. Be well.

@lindaweedmark6025 8 месяцев назад

We love you.

@DrDanielFox 8 месяцев назад

Thanks

@raakchik Год назад

have you done any video on "how to convince someone (spouse) you suspect of BPD to visit a psychologist ?"

@DrDanielFox Год назад

Yes: studio.ru-vid.comK6EzUQa0JFQ/edit

@lillym.1091 Год назад

Wonderful video!! I wouldn‘t have used „the chick“ as the example🤭a bit distracting because what about „the dude“? 😉 I think that learning to pick a better partner is just as important as not putting that partner into a cage/ enmeshment because if you keep picking abusive or narcissistic partners the relationship is going to fail no matter how well you manage your part in it. I guess the question that remains is how do we fill the void so that we can turn the need into a want. I guess building self esteem?

@madmanesprit Год назад

is the needed relationship a fixable relationship??!

@raychelalise 2 месяца назад

I know this video was posted a while back….but I’ve noticed I tend to be attracted to men with dark humor. I love dark humor,but I’ve noticed that the men I date laugh at dark jokes and have blinding mental illnesses and a taste for abuse….could there possibly be a connection?

@hawaiigirl8089 Год назад

Need based vs want base

@JimmyJosephJoy Год назад

Why you’re

@pauljay482 Год назад

*you're*

@DrDanielFox Год назад

I apologize for the oversight.

@CatsArePeopleToo 8 месяцев назад

I remember having a friend at work who announced to me with pride that she'd bought her daughter both a cabbage patch and American girl doll, and I said, "Oh, that's great," while thinking, those are the ugliest two dolls I've ever seen. Congratulations.

@DrDanielFox 8 месяцев назад

Thanks for sharing!

@CatsArePeopleToo 8 месяцев назад

@@DrDanielFox Lol just my opinion. Thanks for the video, appreciate them all.

@LauNoodle Год назад

*you're

@DrDanielFox Год назад

Thank you, I am aware of the typo.

@Synerco 9 месяцев назад

*You're

@DrDanielFox 9 месяцев назад

Thank you. I know typos happen.

@Synerco 9 месяцев назад

@@DrDanielFox You should be able to edit the title. Though it may be a little pedantic to address the typo, some people who need your help the most can be a little pedantic. And I really appreciate the service you provide. You're making an incredible contribution to society.

@JohnDoe-fu4qd Год назад

sound like an attachment syndrome

@DrDanielFox Год назад

That can absolutely be a root component.

@la381 Год назад

Please correct the misspelling in your title.

@user-do4eq8sr5c 11 месяцев назад

too old and poor.

@projoebiochem Год назад

You’re 🤦‍♂️

@pixie9422 6 месяцев назад

Who gives a shit

@clouddancer46 Год назад

No thanks to most of this video, 😢 Language is presumptive and suggestive. You're like this" You're like that. Their are untrustworthy partners, if you feel insecure there is a good chance they planted those seeds. I have been in relationships where I feel secure and insecure, More often then not My nervous system was telling me the guy was a creep, I am not blaming myself or denying my intuition. Granted I don't have the cabbage 🥬 patch box issue. Where I relationship jump, would definitely prefer to be alone then denying my intuition or having my insecurities invalidated in a relationship. Maybe I am not fully understanding.