The ALPHAS Finally Confess Their Sins 

Sunk cost fallacy.

​@@joinsideke100%. She even said it when she arrived. She didn't want to leave after all the years she's invested

She wants a cut of that 100k, and minor fame on a niche reality show.

Some chicks want a bit of an asshole. They live for the drama a bit, they want to fix them. It is what it is. Not my thing, but there really are all sorts out there

100k on the line.

Aw that's actually really wholesome. He definitely has the most potential so far and seems like he just needed some soul searching, and understanding of his partners emotions. Seeing some of the where are they nows of some of the other ones (tiger woods 31 month affair) I'm glad at least one turned out for the better.

awww, that makes sense tho cuz he seemed most keen on opening up and chose to be honest with her

No they aren’t lol. He’s married to another woman and is a pastor now

@@vance9090sources? For either claim? I’m curious what’s actually real (YT won’t allow links tho, just so anyone knows lol)

@@SketchUT article by “The Cinemaholic” back on 9/14/23. First article that should pop up if you search “tool academy season 1 where are they now”…. “After the show ended, it seems that his life took a dramatic turn as he got more involved with his church. He started dating his now-wife, Laura Douglas, in 2012, got engaged in March 2016, and married in July 2016. Currently, Josh is working as a pastor for a Church named Calvary Cairns, where he often leads the worship with his wife.”

As someone who likes big girls myself, I can say I made a similar mistake years ago and it was innocent much like his was... he was basically being cornered by these clowns when it all came out initially. My takeaway from my situation was "if you have no issue *with* it you can never make an issue *of* it"... Never use numbers, and recognize it as something you embrace about her.... not overtly so, as this is just as wrong, but make it good and clear one good time that you love all of her and leave it the hell alone. When she gets insecure about it, a simple "Remember?" works for me. In my case I love a bit of extra fluff on a chick... it's soft and feels like I'm actually holding on to something... it's the "Barbie Body" that I find disgusting lol 🤷‍♂️ Maybe a better way to put this is... "there's always someone who will like what you have" Edit: That said, he blew it with the blow up doll comment... but I also know how guys can drag that kind of shit out of someone in a group by themselves... and women should never try to play innocent there... d1

he also turned down the makeup girl

yeah, it's very clear that he was provoked about his girl at the table, he didn't bring it up himself. and being the scrawniest guy in the room, he tried to make an attempt to fit in by making some comments that wouldn't fly. truth be told, aside from the whole 'blow up doll' thing, he responded to the situation pretty neutral. he said he never asked what her weight is, because he clearly accepts her for who she is, otherwise they wouldn't be together. but because there's cameras and money involved, the other guys were like "you need to hold yourself accountable bro" making him think it's significantly worse than it actually is, and he couldn't get the words out properly in therapy. she said herself it was the first time she heard about that sort of thing from him, which further proves that peace was disrupted from someone outside, not from him. for the sake of tv drama, his situation is getting scaled up on par with the secret girlfriend of 6 years, despite him making some of the best positive movement on the show

He won the season I believe

​@@MadScientist267dick jokes would be a fine rebuttal if men only talked about pussy. But they don't. They nit pick e v e r y t h I n g

It’s giving jealousy and mean girl energy. No wonder they are with tools, they ALL are insecure 😟 hoping they can all heal!

Apple doesnt fall far from the tree

I didn’t even do that shit in highschool. It’s just so mean

Really shows that some of them deserve these tools.

I think they got like that because it was kind of bs they let another girl take the place. Dude should've been booted. It's absurd they let him switch out gfs.

Just the idea that he calls himself "celebrity" makes him a total used dbag. Dude is a total loser. This goes for the others that don't think naming themselves some ridiculous bullshit for everyone to call them isn't absolutely "tool" 🙄

His reaction sounded like a cope-out tbh... I wouldn't be surprised if he drank/partied his feelings away

​@@purrgundyprobably not he gave zero shits

He was just too much of a coward to do it himself

She went on to be a pretty gross pornstar before she quit because of hiv.

obviously idk anyone in this series, but her laughing while wiping away her tears and letting him hug her is what did it for me. i think she knew what it meant to him. :)

social IQ Einstein in the comments, bc damn you're right

thank u, it is exactly like homer and marge. lacking the social awareness to know that’s not actually romantic but truly believing with his heart of hearts that it is, so it actually ends up being romantic. like watching a bow legged deer

@@von...it's really not that deep of an analysis. she is making logical claims based on facial reactions, behavior, and dialogue. in fact we should stop calling analysis like this "einstein level". while she is damn right about what she said, i think more people in society should strive towards being as socially observant, thoughtful, and aware of theory of mind when approaching romantic relationships. let us not put this type of analysis on a pedestal. we should strive to make this the norm.

@@von...i also want to add, sometimes gunnar comes off as intentionally obtuse. either he is not paying attention or being disingenuous about how he perceives things. the whole spiel about "people always crying in church" shows me how ignorant he is. i have worked at a Colombian church for several years. everyone is not "crying". it is mostly silent contemplation and introspection. only an idiotic frat douche like this would belittle the significance of religious experiences and religious dialogue. he sounds like a douchy aetheist who

This made me laugh so hard 😭

@@josiea.3855 welcome to my life

I wish I had the whit youre on

As a fellow dyslexic I'm glad I'm not the only one 🤝

That also would be a good male stripper name

I viewed it as him basically putting his legacy, something he values, into her hands. Which is cheesy but does show a lot of trust and commitment. Because if she left him, she could just take that with her.

I agree. It's his Stanley Cup.

I completely agree with you. I can kinda see why Gunnar thought differently.

Maybe it was the delivery, he was so serious and than smiled like he was showing off

He was the least toolish of the group really

"Now turn and beat him"

I said wtf is she palpatine at that part too. "Do it, give in to the dark side" lol

Yep I literally put on my Palpatine voice and said "Let the hate flow through you!"

Do IT

Ha! Also married and turning 40 this year and I'm also way more into this than I should be 😅

Right there with you bud 😂

As a 16 year old who's never been in a relationship I'm taking notes on what not to do LOL

I swear, he's gasl!ghting them all, by saying all this, he's making his girl believe he's willing to be honest how he is and how he needs to change and might potentially change in the right environment

If he lasted the distance going by Clarence then that would be legitimately impressive.

You are an inspiration to children [aspiring to be alphas] everywhere.

I mean id go back to Celebrity too if my name was clarence 😂 (Joking obviously he’s definitely manipulative and not the best person)

@@cowboykodak2907 fr what kind of name is that😭

No they don't, bc going through the motions of violence leads to violence.

​@AmoraFaas what an ignorant take lol. It's an exercise. If they hurt someone else then they were already a violent person before they exercised. I cut down trees and chop wood as my exercise occasionally. Am I actually training to become am axe murderer?

Don’t some places have rage rooms? I remember as a kid going to this grief group counseling kind of thing and while I never got to go in it I saw there was a rage room with a punching bag. Probably for the A of DABDA

Abusive people abuse because they decided to abuse. If angry was the only issue, they would be like that with every person in their lives.

Ah yes so doing a selfish act is apparently selfless in your eyes? Lmao I know for a fact you'd make a great contestant on the show.

@@tortellinifettuccine oml it’s so funny to hear this from a deletelawz stan lmaoooo

Catharsis* Not meant as a diss, legit had me questioning if that was the spelling so I had to double check. 😅

I don’t think violent people should learn how to fight! I think a lot of therapists agree. You need to work on the mental of it not learn how to be better at what is destructive.

I went to a rage room recently, it was so cathartic and therapeutic it was awesome

@@jessicadavis3989 You're not a therapist, so what you *think* is irrelevant on the matter

@@onyx081 how do you know I’m not!?

💯 right there with ya.... I was in an abusive relationship (n EVERY way - fir brevity, all imma say is it was BAD. physical, psychological) he was straight up textbook narcissist & sociopath. publicly everyone loved him. charismatic, funny, helpful --- except to me - behind the scenes. literally, no one would believe and some heard rumors & DIDN'T believe he was that. some of those same ppl witnessed it on a rare occasion when i guess he said fk it & not gaf that day 🤷🏻‍♀️ ......but, anyway, to get bk on topic - the things you mentioned here that he was saying 🚩🚩🚩 had my red flags radar going crazy! im just like: dude, nobody wants to move in with you & share what's SUPPOSED TO BE the security of 'home' when you have ZERO empathy. the textbook beginning signs of abuse in a relationship, the 🚩, are usually DIVIDE & CONQUER.....that's how it starts!

As soon as he brought up letting her not get a job and stay at home I immediately out loud said "This man is abusive" 💀 Now, it is possible that he's not aware of how incredibly controlling and manipulative all the things he said were, but everything he described is literally THE recipe for abuse and it was ironically hilarious that he was acting like that life would be a gift to her and she should be grateful for it 😭 I desperately hope they break up 🙏

I think its terrible to accuse someone of something as heinous as being an abuser without ANY evidence. Is he a dbag? Yes. Is he hurtful? Probably. He just seems like one of those old school kinda guys, which unfortunately comes backed in with some toxic traits. He seems unable to let down the "me tough guy, no feelings" bs. It could be the way he was raised, could be many reasons. Not saying he isnt a bad dude, he's definitely a bad bf. But youre accusing him of evil. Seems unwarranted.

@@karenamyx2205he has abusive language and energy. It is obvious. Shut up, you are such a Karen!

⁠@@karenamyx2205 the way I read it they’re not accusing him, they’re just telling us how they interpret the way he acts. they literally said in the beginning „rob doesn’t even notice how his language is contributing to an abusive relationship“ so they even said themselves that he’s not doing it in malicious intent. and they’re right. he doesn’t see the reason for his girlfriend to want to be independent, i get that he wants to provide for her but isolating her and then holding a financial status over your girlfriend is exactly how an abusive relationship usually starts out. by trapping the partner. so there is basis to believe he could be abusive. they’re not accusing anyone without any evidence. some potential evidence is quite literally showing itself on screen

Yeah I was gonna say I'd imagine this type of therapy is probably great for some people, being able to talk but also punch it out

Hitting things is the opposite of controlling your anger. You found an outlet for it but aren’t controlling it

You mean *punching bag? Boxing bag? 🤣

​@@collinwiniarski4703Actually that's exactly what that is... it's called a "healthy release". Sit down 🙄

It is controlling it by not hitting a person@@collinwiniarski4703

well considering that the other girl was tiger woods's mistress i wouldn't say she was as innocent.

@@xsoultillerx I love how you think her being Tiger Wood's mistress years before show even aired is supposed to be a gotcha for why she doesn't deserve sympathy.

I dont think thats what he's saying? Lmao he said she wasn't innocent, not that she dosent deserve sympathy...​@@bling-tut

People do that all the time it is called self sabotage. Bro I have even dated a self saboteur. We were teens and he would say he doesn't deserve me and stuff then go and break up with me or something and be distant. People do this in many ways but I agree with you. He seemed to acknowledge it, now to see if he changes.

Yeah I don’t think his brain fires fast enough for that to not have been genuine

​@@pandaninja_19is it self sabotage or is it that he wants to get laid and is too much of a little b*tch to tell you he doesn't really like you lol

Lmao none of that was good, it's called self sabotage and its a manipulation tactic. That's also why he split it up into 3. He wanted to truly make her feel like she needs to fix him because he's just that broken.

God yes! How much do we need to fundraiser to make this happen?

Violence isn't healthy anger. Like he says, imagine a guy getting angry, beating the crap out of a punching bag, turning to his gf, and saying, "I wish that was you." Absolutely insane.

​​​@@Eeeeerissssswell it's not a guy. male violence is easily accepted cause it's so common. seeing a man punching that bag may seem as there's a big chance a woman can happen to be in the punching bag place. the woman punching the bag is just learning to show her anger in general (yes she can think of a bag as her bf but we all know there's a small chance she'll actually beatt him up)

Using punching bags in therapy sessions was used for years. For people who feel incapable of getting physical;Even when their life depends on it. And unfortunately it's mostly women.

@@cinnamonbits26 This seems like the most plausible and reasonable view of it. Decision paralysis, especially in times of emergency is likely a huge issue, that might stem from a traumatic childhood, or just an upbringing of violence never being an option, like women, or particularly physically fragile or timid men etc. What follows is a rant, not rly aimed at whoever I @'ed, but I get generally frustrated with generalizations, or careless characterizations and the fucking boogeyman that is Patriarchy. It's exactly like the matrix for the red pill guys, or the Masons of previous generations. Some shadowy bullshit, that you conveniently can't define, or limit but use as an excuse for everything you've been told and think is wrong in the world. Women aren't seen as "crazy" when they express healthy anger, they're seen as crazy when they key a fucking car, or throw clothes out the window, and change locks seemingly unprovoked, because neither party in that relationship communicates properly AT ALL. I really dislike that generalization of all women as "crazy bitches" because in my experience, it's very specific behavior that gets you labeled as Crazy, and they're almost always coupled together with some type of diagnosis that goes untreated. Keying cars, changing locks, throwing clothes on the porch, snooping through phones, freaking out over the dude glancing at another girl. That's generally the type of behavior that I, and those around me colloquially recognize as a "crazy" woman, your boogeyman of a nonexistent patriarchy has got nothing to do with it. Male domestic violence is a much bigger issue than anyone probably realizes, but because of the lack of proper coping mechanisms and boundaries, or just general self care that men are taught, the only solution they come up with, is to bottle it all inside. I don't believe that men and women have the same need to vent, but that doesn't mean that men can survive not venting at all.

I agree on the blaming patriarchy part but saying women don't get called crazy bitches for expressing reasonable anger in reasonable ways is just wrong. It happens all the time. Honestly, in general, the shit middle aged men get away with just thoughtlessly doing every day that a woman would never without being called crazy or a cunt is just a shit ton. Blaming the "patriarchy" for every shitty Stereotype is bs but so is just straight up denying that there's differemces between how women and men are treated for the same bullshit coping.

I bowl, that was a 299 game. I've seen one 300 rally irl, the guy got a 299. The entire bowling alley is electric watching someone go for a perfect game during league play. It's like watching magic when you yourself know how hard it is to do. She might not know the particulars of the skill set but she knows his dedication to the sport, and one doesn't casually happen upon a 299. I personally thought it was a super sweet, deeply personal gesture considering it was a point of contention in their relationship. I wish everyone recognized it as such. 😢

That is the most insane mindset I've ever heard in my life. "Ah yes, in order to show my commitment to you, I give you my highest bowling score award and that apparently means that I'm gonna make you as high of a priority as bowling". You have a toxic mindset lmao, please fix it before you get in a relationship. What he did was completely selfish, and she was so hurt by that point she was just doing anything to cope. They're still together by the way...like most of these couples

​@@tortellinifettuccine Um, yeah... I think you misunderstood what I was saying. All I did was compare the effort he puts into bowling with the effort he should put into the relationship. I never said anything about demonstrating commitment this way. This is merely symbolic for them. Let me give you an example from my own relationship. I've been happily married for 6 years and with my husband for 13 years total. The worst fight we ever got into was around the time he went to his friend's bachelor party in Florida. I won't get into details, but I was hurt by something he did (wasn't cheating or anything like that). I was about to call off our engagement, I was so mad though. Anyway, he ended up bringing a cast iron crocodile home as a souvenir and afterwards, we talked everything out and forgave each other- I too needed forgiveness for how I reacted. Now we display that crocodile prominently in our living room as a reminder to us both that our relationship will always stay strong as iron and that we should always be ready to forgive each other when we are fighting or being selfish. That is our symbol. No one else gets it- the crocodile doesn't exactly go with our mid-century modern decor- but it has a deeper meaning for us. I believe the same is true for them and the bowling scores. As outsiders, we don't have to get it. But if it means something for them in the privacy of their relationship, that's all that matters. I'm glad to hear they're still together. I always root for true love and forgiveness! Moral of the story: every relationship is unique and relationships can be complicated. But that doesn't mean we need to give up on them when things get hard. Sometimes, we just need to practice compassion, selflessness, and forgiveness... just like one has to practice bowling to get good at it. That is maturity. And that's definitely not toxic. 😉

That's not...lmao dude you have a incredibly toxic mindset my God. You would do great on this show. That was the most selfish thing he could have possibly done. She was so heartbroken at that point she didn't know how to react, it was just cope.

@@tortellinifettuccine are you artistic?

Whoever said "elimination" was a safe process?

"That's ones of the targets 47, in that tutu"

Fuck now i wanna buy hitman 3. I have 2 and one but it's not the same I've already played each map a million times.

Compare that to what the dudes taking pot shots on the tool were doing. Yeah, impressive follow through!

I kinda feel like the fact that Matsu has never had sex with her is like a good sign it's hard to explain

​@@heresJohnny73 Yeah he clearly doesn't value the women he has sex with and somehow has stayed with her despite how much he supposedly needs sex? That means he for sure feels SOMETHING for her. I hope he can grow and change fo the better

spoilers, pretty sure bowling guy got married to his girlfriend(IIRC from another comment so don't quote me on this)

@@Fluff_Noodlesno, I bet it is just because she cooks and cleans for him and he has sex elsewhere

tools with tools

Yeah literally the first chance they had to be toxic they went all in on bullying the odd one out just because she didn't start off in the house.

It's because they feel insecure and weak in their relationships, so bullying helps them feel better about themselves. Like, "I know my relationship is crap, but at least im not my boyfriend's second choice." That's my theory.

I think it was their way of trying to show loyalty to the first girl, who they bonded with first. Aida showed up and acted accusatory towards her off the bat, even though she had no idea about the cheating and he’s the one who betrayed her trust. It took them a bit to adjust and give her a chance after that. Of course, their mean girl behavior wasn’t okay, but they are human and I think it was their own way of trying to stand with their new friend who got totally screwed and replaced. The guys on this show have been forgiven for so much behavior that was way more concerning. I think the women also deserve a reasonable degree of understanding, empathy, and grace.

I think they're projecting onto her. Like she's the other woman to them. Theyre projecting every girl their men have cheated w onto this one girl. Girls can be mean to eachother. And this esp thrives in these mysogonystic environments. That is why a big part of feminism is girls supporting girls and not blaming them for the actions of their male partners. Back in this day especially absolutely women were cut throat. My mom was incredibly mean and judgemental of other women. Still is. Fat shamed me quite a few times. And she also is someone who defends men constantly even after all men have done to her and me in our lives. Its really sad. These girls are halfway there. Theyre attacking the new girl out of loyalty to the girl from before. The next step would be confronting the fact that the man is in the wrong and we shouldn't blame other women for the actions of our partners.

The taking pictures is good cause he's letting people take pictures of this guy in a tutu The letting people hit you I less agree with its him saying I'm strong and I can prove it The flipping is hey look at me I'm cool look at these flips

Josh giving his bowling certificate was meaningful. It's like his Stanley cup.

Well the clown "Mega" (I'm assuming this means "make em gag anyway") obviously has no idea he only has one mother.. yet he's going on about his "moms" 🤣🤣🤣

​@@MadScientist267well maybe he was adopted by lesbian, it would explain why he's so fruity

​@@MadScientist267not out of the question he has multiple women in his upbringing he views as being his mother.

Agreed, but honestly i think he's genuinely sorry, he def has alot to make up for

"Hate him, hate him" 😂

I used to be able to cry on demand when I was younger...then I grew up and saw messed up stuff and now no matter what I can't cry unless I'm in a serious situation or mood. Not even for family members passing, it's so scary honestly, I just feel like my soul died.

AGREED, like seriously that is an insanely important item to him, it's not about the item itself, it's about the emotions attached to it