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@@JaneDoe-lw2bw of course the term came from Black women empowerment spaces. This space isn’t just for mutilracial/monoracial Black women though. It’s also for anyone who can relate to being thrown in and out of their identity by their community due to having features that are deemed too different, not [insert race] enough
"There is a jealousy and a culture shock that a lot of black people are experiencing when they come across my channel." Exactly! No one has ever said things like this before. It definitely challenges the status quo. I'm so glad I found you. Keep up the great content! ❤
I used to think " Why are they so mad ? I'm a Black girl, just like them " this channel really opened my eyes to Im NOT the same kind of Black girl, there is a difference. And thats why they're mad.
Right! I couldn't understand how people who clearly couldn't relate to me (mentally and culturally) simultaneously wanted to "claim me" like huh?? Make it make sense.
They have a crab in a barrel mentality. There content is basically “you look like me so you can’t be different because I’m not different” They see a women who has the same skin tone as her and automatically assume she must think like me, feel the same emotions as me, and walk the same struggling path in life as me. And when it comes to exoticals it about not relating to every black experience there is regardless of skin tone. The defeatism, woe-is me, and self hating is something we’re not experiencing on a daily basis. That why their multiple exotical channels speaking on THEIR own personal experience in life because not every exotical has the same story or dealt with the same thing so why not make a video discussing your life story and someone is bound to relate/understand it. (Which is no shade to darker or lighter or mix women every women even white can relate to one thing about YOU) I really hate the divide in the black community even though every community has their own division but it only meant to be around social class, economic status, and education level. (Like how a wealthy women won’t befriend a trailer park girly) When it comes to us (the black community) we divide only on skin color and amount of trauma one has… and if you dare say you can’t relate to anything of that liking’s your NOT BLACK!? can’t make this up 😂🫵.
“You look like me so you can’t be different b/c I’m no different”. UABP do this really bad to other Afro looking people. Most ppl of African decent that I have come across, we never have issues. We talk about our differences (I love learning about other cultures and history) and bond over similarities. I don’t take our differences personally and I don’t force my opinions or lifestyle unto them. I avoid the crazy and delusional. UABP have a huge problem with this and it builds antipathy against black ppl and black passing ppl. It’s not how they look, it’s how they act.
All of this they are so addicted to trauma and relating it to their darkskin/blackness. I’ve just come to accept that alot of black people won’t see me as black, because I simply don’t relate to their victim narrative .
This is so on point. I can't tell you how many times UADSBW have tried to guilt me into aligning with their plight because we share similar skin tones...
@@ExoticalsUnited😂 i just commented about this on another channel. There was a girl that made a comment saying “why are darkskin women trying to claim the term exotical and to let biracial and mixed women have something for themselves” blah blah. Like… maam… do you not understand that biracials and mixed ppl can also be darkskin?? 😂 i have yet to get a response. Mixed and darkskin are definitely not mutually exclusive.
Hahaha the “get yo ass back ova here” talking point was Regular Degular Black Girl! That was a great episode I LOVE how this space challenges Black America’s narrow attitudes towards racial and ethnic identity. It’s so damn freeing! The people who counter it are just comfortable in their mental cages. Like the saying “This is hell, but at least it’s the hell I know” Hell no to that mentality! I’m excited to see these talking points continue seeping into the mainstream culture.
I’m a multi racial black passing exotical ( lol lots of names) resemblance of Karruche, but I’m so happy I found this page. For years throughout my childhood and now into my adult life 23.. I never quite related to DSUABW, but I could empathize with their plight, but I never knew how to classify myself. Secondly, I am exceptionally attractive so I also felt very different considering I would always be the pretty girl, and that came with its own whirlwind of life experiences. This channel and all the other exotical channels has validated what I’ve always felt but didn’t know how to articulate. Funny enough it wasn’t until I started dating Cuban men , and expanded my circle culturally, that they would bring into conversation how I didn’t look ambiguously black to them, although black people would ALWAYS tell me, I looked black. I’ve essentially been gaslit by black ppl to be seen as black when I’m literally not, and don’t have black features. So thank you Exotical United, for making me feel seen.
Im East African and my mom had a unique look, has a wideish nose, small forehead (for an East African, average otherwise), long jet black wavy hair that was super silky, and dark gums. And she was considered the prettiest sister of the bunch. Colorism never infected my brain, I believe all skin tones are equally beautiful
Just like udsbp bullying Dominicans 🇩🇴 to say they are just black, meanwhile you can tell they're Dominican tho. (Not talking about monoracial unambiguous Dominicans).
The average Dominican is mixed according to the stats (heavy amounts of both African and European and a little bit of Indigenous blood). They want mixed people to be seen as solely black to make themselves feel better. They don’t want anyone that is mixed with black to be seen as “prettier” or more “exotic” than them. It’s a humbling tactic. Although, ALL women regardless if they’re mixed or not are beautiful. Insecurity gets the best of people smh.
They don’t want mixed people to believe that they’re “better” or “prettier” than them so they try to humble mixed people by saying things like “You’re just black.” To them black is “regular” and “basic.” All women with any features are beautiful, but some women project their insecurities hard unto others smh. Even some men have that mentality to make it easier to obtain you.
Off topic but Yara Shahidi may be the most beautiful Woman the planet 😭 Everytime I see her on the screen I'm in awe of how gorgeous her features are. Especially those lips and cheekbones that look like they were sculpted to perfection by the gods! My goodness!!!
We NEVER said that having our features makes us prettier! Thats what UABW believe about us 😂😂❤ anyways haters, thank you for the compliments. You tell on yourself EVERY time 🤡
@@princessaroyale We have the right to celebrate our ethnic heritage. But the nasty things she and other Exoticals say just gives High School Mean girl energy. It’s Low Vibrational. Sending hate to other groups isn’t benefiting us Mixed girls. 🤷🏻♀️
I completely relate to this content. Ppl have actually gotten annoyed by the fact that I even consider myself dark-skinned. My features & hair texture seems to cancel me out of that category, despite my complexion.
Kind of off topic but, but another thing I've noticed is when they say that black women can grow long hair too, they use alot of clearly mixed black women to make their point. Even the dark skinned long hair ladies are multi racial or mgm.
They're just mad that even though exoticals come in their darker shades, we'll never still share the same experiences as them, unambiguous dark-skinned women. Our natural features & and hair textures are often mimicked but downplayed.
I see it happen all the time. But for the longes time I thought something was wrong with me for not having their experiences, and I thought I looked just like them until they kicked me out of their spaces
I’m so happy you are talking about this I am a multi racial black woman. My dad is a native American and white. My mom is a darker brown skin black woman. I identify myself as black but I am a light skinned woman and often get asked what I’m mixed with. I always found it weird that I’m only allowed to identify as black when it’s convenient for the black cause but at times I am excluded from conversations and the black plight when it doesn’t fit the cause. I am supportive of dark unambiguous black women’s plight and don’t understand why they try to make it hard for me to support them. I still will even if they don’t want me to but it’s frustrating when they exclude me or make me feel like I’m not black even though I have a black experience and acknowledge colorism.
I love all black womens and hate how the community is so colorist. I understand why dsbw feel unheard and unappreciated but the way to fix the issue is unite with all the women of the community. There are definitely light skin women that feel superior to dsbw but there are some of us who value them and want to uplift them. I don’t want the colorism convo to go away but we need to acknowledge the two sides of colorism with negating the other side
Keep bringing up complexion around me to see what I call myself. So I just call myself my first name complexion to avoid them playing random games with me. They are racist because of insecurity.
I hate hanging around some DSBW bc they go out of their way to insult me. There is one who likes a biracial man, and the man has always expressed an interest in me. I’m not male centered so he pursues me hard. She has latched herself to me and stays in my face the whole time he’s around. She went out of her way to tell me I just look so plain the other day. As she wears frosted eyeshadow on her skin. Like ma’am, we are not the same. At alll lol
Both of my parents are black. My celebrity look a-likes are Nicki Minaj, Jayme Lawson, Megan Good, Cassie and Samantha Logan. I use one of those celebrity look alike scanners and I always get them as my top 5. Anytime I use a celebrity look alike filter its says 47-55 percent Nicki Minaj. I also get told that in person quite a bit as well. But I have a chocolatey skintone (Fenty 425). People of various races ask me where I’m from and what I am. My eyes are super slanted this might be problematic but my mom calls me “Chinese girl” or people say my eyes look feline like. Lastly I get told by various races I have unique facial features. I’m still trying to understand if this space is for me or not? I’m open to feedback!
I saw him as well. I didn’t fire him up because he wasn’t biased. He actually agreed with some of the talking points. I honestly don’t mind people commenting about us. But let’s be clear, there will be no bashing The PGC and @ExoticalsUnited!
If you can't RELATE to an exotical channel then its not meant for you. Plenty of things UABW say that I cant relate too and I just keep quiet cause why would I speak on something I don't understand.🙄
I’ve been told I look like a regular UABW so many times😭 that’s always their go to clap back like okay idc. I still post myself on here and other apps bc I think I’m pretty, whether I look unambiguous or not. They try to use it as a humbling tactic bc my skin is darker but they have no idea it boosts my ego. I don’t even contour my nose or wear foundation either in my videos. Just concealer, mascara, lashes and I still get ppl talking shit abt my phenotype and I have to hide comments
First off let me just say THANK YOU EU❤ and of course to Regular Degular ❤ I have literally waited YEARRSSS for someone to speak on this topic. My experience thus far as a darker skinned exotical (and proud of it) has that of been uabw trying desperately to force me to "claim only my black side" as if thats all there is to me and for the life of me i couldn't quite figure out WHY it was so with them..till now... i would constantly hear "your just BLACK hon" ,oh your not? Well thats just how white poeple will see you anyway" etc.. same group would also give me the most grief about my features or try to copy said features. Other ethnic groups would accept and respect me as i am EXCEPT for dsbw/m! I cannot be the oly one with these experiences 😤
i’m light skinned and have 4c hair but i have gotten confused with asian a lot due to my eyes to the point where my family jokes about it lol 😂 my mother is african american, my father’s dad is mixed with black and indian, & my father’s mom is mixed with black and white. would i be considered mixed and an exotical?
