I think knowing she's having a girl is what's doing it for her. She needs to be the first example of what a strong woman is and, subconsciously, Tamera is laying the groundwork for that. Especially when you're seated between two certain people, you need to be able to hold your own and stand your ground.
I personally disagree I feel like you getting to know the person personality and loving that personality instead of just being with a person just because of sex i think it is beautiful and shows that you care and love the person soul and wishes
Always! She has an honest and consistent opinion and I love her take on any topic. And then she always looks amazing. I always look forward to seeing her here.
+vice2vursa I think that god has a bigger plan for me being a preachers kid and having a parent in the military someone. will marry me for mind and love me for my soul, not just for my body, their is more to a relationship than sex. thanks for the comment God bless
I'm gonna go ahead & speak for us few that are completely abstaining until marriage. From ALL sexual acts. You're gonna have to put a ring on it lol 💍
Thank you! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! I feel so lonely sometimes. People who have no problem having sex always look at me like I should hurry up and do it (im in hs).
Believe it or not, men (regardless of race) tend to respect, admire and want to marry women who set high standards and aren't willing to "give it away". So important to cultivate a relationship where respect is two-way. Take time to learn about each other, then if the relationship doesn't work out, both leave with their heads held high.
honestly, people like loni are one of the reasons it's so hard to feel proud to be a virgin. she was making all those unnecessary comments while jeannie was trying to explain why it was good to abstain from sex before marriage. like, okay we get it, you LOVE sex, but respect jeannie and tamara's decision to abstain from sex before marriage. she was being so rude, trying to make them feel ridiculous for being a virgin (according to tamera) or celibate (in jeannie's case). idk, maybe it's just me, but i was like "loni, calm down, no one is trying to make you feel bad about how much sex you have, so stop trying to make them feel bad"
@jaybird5589 I agree! And joking or not, I thought it was really disrespectful when Loni asked Jeannie if her husband had a side chick while they were celibate. 😒
I'm 20going on 21 and I am waiting till marriage. it's hard especially when all your friends are having sex, but I made a promise to God and I plan to keep it!
Oh cmon, it's not about god... god isn't the reason to abstinence and chastity! the reason is to have a good relationship not based on SEXUAL PASSION that will pass some day, but on LOVE and FRIENDSHIP so your partner will not forsake you at the moment he wishes to "check out" another woman!
+John cage chillllle u need to chill first of all nobody said that we're NEVER going to have sex , some ppl for religious reasons wait 'til marriage if u don't want to wait DON'T But don't judge ppl who do
I love this topic. And I very much so agree with Tamera and Jeannie but that's not new. I feel like waiting before marriage is always best. I really don't believe in this "testing the car before you buy it" stigma that society has told us is okay. One of the reasons people are cheating in their marriages is because they're thinking about their previous lovers and had good they gave it to them. More problems arise when you don't wait. Sex is the deepest connection you can have with another person. And when you're just doing it with anybody, you diminsh the value of it. Waiting is best.
Well put! There's also something to be said about confidence as well. I believe women who are confident in themselves, know and appreciate their worth, and tend to use more discretion when selecting a sexual partner.
Whereas I know several who waited and then found out they didn't like the same things or had a lack of sexual chemistry and it either caused huge problems or actually lead to a divorce. It's more the value you place on it than waiting for a specific milestone IMO. Plus if you are doing everything but intercourse (oral, etc) then to me you are still having sex.
so they waited, spent time together, and did not know that they did not have sexual chemistry or that they didn't like the same things how? If u waitin for marriage these things should've been spoken about.
Through Christ, celibacy is totally possible! I've been celibate going on 7 years next January! I'm so thankful for the journey & I WANT to wait until marriage. God will keep you strong & honor your obedience every time!!
@@nomawethuphiri7636 I'm proud of you too! I wrote my comment 3 years ago and I am STILL celibate unto the glory of GOD! 💥 I wrote a blog in 2018 about my celibacy & faith journey. I welcome you to check it out and allow it to encourage you! ❤ followingtheking199017704.wordpress.com/2018/07/10/no-sex-in-the-city/
@@sweetulip2004 what if you never get married then you wasted some of your best years waiting on something that might never happen tomorrow isn’t promised .nothing wrong with enjoying sex with a good decent person.
@@saferides2474 the wait is the byproduct of obeying God. I'm not waiting on a husband first, I'm obeying THE LORD first. I will get married but I'm not worried if I don't. And actually there is something wrong with "enjoying sex with a good decent person." The Bible warns us that fornicators will not inherit the kingdom of God and will be judged into Hell & the Lake of fire. God ordained sex for marriage (man/woman) PERIOD.
Its kind of amazing sometimes. I would tell guys that I didn't want sex and they would ask why in a kind of annoyed way. They would try to change my mind in the matter to see if I caved but I never did. I now have found a guy that I told him I didn't want to have sex and he told me that he wants something real not something just based on lust. Its hard but don't let anyone change your mind in that whether its having sex or not having sex do what you believe in.
+Chessissi That's great you found a guy who supports you. Sometimes I feel like I'm going to be single forever, but I'm not caving in. Have dated a guy before who also tried to change my mind and the asking in an annoyed way, but already sensed it wasn't meant to be before then, so it wasn't a big thing that it didn't work out. Know there must be a guy out there who will respect that with me too, but it is difficult to remain hopeful sometimes when society says that a man won't wait, or will cheat, and the idea that oral and anal sex isn't sex. It's in the name, sex is sex and I'm waiting until marriage. Trying to convince me that oral/etc isn't sex is a darn lie. It does bother me when people think that it isn't sex only because it's not the traditional method of intercourse. Long story short, glad you found the guy for you. I hope to be blessed one day as well.
I feel like Lonnie tries too hard to make it a point that she "gets around" is "sexually active" "has lots of men". I sense she tries too hard to prove in EVERY show with her inappropriate comments of this to cover up her loneliness. The ladies can never have a decent conversation without her trying to add those comments. Just my opinion.
Loni is annoying in my opinion I love how she stands up for the plus size girls and body positivity, and as a women it's a double standard to men can have as much sex as possible and be a hero but when women do it we are sluts. But I agree like we get it you have a lot of sex, in the conversation to the girls waiting of sex I respect it because there is more to life then just sex lol In actuality it's really probably not that big of a deal and not that hard to comprehend.
+mary petrosino but one of the reasons why there is that double standard is bc a lot of woman lack knowing there worth therefore do not have standards. therefore a man could have a sex with mannnnnyyyyyyyyyyyy women and than marry a girl that only has one body bc we settle. men don't want women who have sex with many men but woman who have less than three or none will be ok with a man that had many. therefore , what is a man loosing by him having sex w a bunch of females. nothing. bc he will still get the good girl at the end.
Let them keep on running. If all they want is free sex, there are millions of other places they can get it. ( along with STD's, child support, broken hearts, etc. ) It ain't worth the troubles or the pain.
Not being racist or anything because I'm black myself, but I feel like white guys respect celibacy more than black men. I've experienced it myself & perhaps why Jeanie and Tamera fell in love with their spouses.
I can understand why u would say that but it isn't true. My husband would have respected it if I chose to wait. Which I tried and he was going to oblige but I said forget it lmao. But he was willing to wait because he had waited a long time for sex before we met. He lost his virginity at 26
You just haven't found the right black man yet lol I think there a men regardless of race who think sex is incredibly important in a relationship, while some value companionship. Just a matter of the man himself
It is NOTHING to do with their ethnicity, rather, its the man himself. Some guys appreciate a woman who hasn't had a lot of partners, and some guys don't care. You can only disclose what you're comfortable with and expect him to respect your needs. Don't presume about anybody.
Elizabeth Taylor, I have to disagree with what you said. I believe, just like KING090589 said, you haven't found the right black man. And I have to add, you surely haven't met every man of every race so your statement would therefore be false. IDK I just hate when I see people negatively generalize their own race. I'm sure if a black man said the same thing about black women all hell would break loose.
I waited 30 years to have sex for the first time with my wife the day after we got married. We may be few and far between but trust me, we're out there.
Wow, that's incredible and motivating. But, I'm afraid that in this new generation no one is gonna do that. Since everyone is doing it, and shame you, if you aren't. (My experience)
Your body is a temple, don't allow thieves to see the treasures. I can honestly say, if you are easy you will be a toy. Some Pinocchios become human, some don't :/ just the honest truth.
L Cha I agree to everything you are saying I feel the same way about both genders but I'll be patience because I know the right one will come if you wait and stay humble. And thank you!
Loni is incredibly childish and ignorant. This segment is important for many to hear, whether you agree or not, I thought how she kept laughing and trying to divert the topic was disrespectful and she does it constantly!
This is my FAVORITE segment! Thank you so much Tamara and Jeannie! It's so sad these days how I often have to try to explain exactly what you both just said to others when I get questioned as to why wait. I will show this to any female (or male) who can't seem to get it. A relationship is just that, a RELATIONSHIP--communication, bonding, understanding, growing together etc. Sex is icing on the cake as Tamara said. I'd rather know what kind of cake I'm eating and the ingredients before just eating the delicious icing and finding out that it was just cardboard under it.
I think abstinence or celibacy in today's society enables individuals to identify someone compatible and worth waiting for, therefore, you can weed out imposters. If they won't wait for you, like you will wait for them, then you're not compatible. Also, "let's wait a while"- Janet Jackson
angelmushahf sometimes people appear to be waiting but are into poem and other women who will give themselves freely or prostitute, and treat them like God, of the Which they are not. Stop. Listen. And Keep Learning. (All of us. And love the Lord, ourselves , and others, for, if we do, we won’t even want to pull the next person down with a bad and personal choice.
Tamera and Jeannie are preaching this morning! I love it! And they honestly need a stick or something to pass around at the table so when that one lady has it, she can talk. All this talking over each other and cutting each other off is getting real annoying!
That's right, Ms. Tam Tam, you and lil ladybug-to-be, let the ppl know......and keep learning to tell errbody else to "sthu, I'm talking! " in the sweet way that you do! I like ALL of the ladies, however, they always want to over talk Jeannie and Tamera because a lot of the time there is truth in what they are saying. Most people just don't like to hear the truth, they continue to have that one sided point of view. You can't knock anyone for holding firm to their values and because they came up in a different way. That's why it's called a different walk of life. #Ijs
Personally, I think it hurts when they hear woman talk about celibacy because they probably lost their virginity super early (my guess for tamar is 14) and have slept with a lot of men looking for a stable relationship only to realize muchhhhh later that they may have gone about it all wrong. Tamar says all the time she wished could've erased some guys from her past.
Amber Dennis Girl. no tell thrm. I speak from my experience. If they want to stay they would and if they dont then they are not meant for you. There is no reason to do what you are not comfortable or adjust your life for somebody else.
Let em run sweetheart it's a blessing. There are millions of men in this world but only ONE is meant specifically for you to be your husband. When a man runs or rejects you he just makes it that much easier to narrow it down and get closer to your soulmate.
I'm 15 and I a hundred percent believe in waiting till marriage. It's the only way you can really get to know your spouse. How they deal in certain situations, who they are etc instead of just having the thought of how good he does it in the bed. Most times people fall in love with the sex and mistake it for falling in love with the person. It's an important connection between two people and that one person who truly knows you and loves you for who you are should be the only one who gets the privilege of sharing that important moment with you
Ashley Kay please keep those beliefs indeed. It warms my heart to hear you say such things at such a young age. Don't let any boy pressure you into doing that before he claims you completely as his own. Wait for Marriage. I really don't think you will regret it despite what people will tell you. God Bless.
if you want to wait til you're married then that's your choice, but then again a lot of people aren't sexually compatible and that often leads to divorce (if you're waiting til you're married). i feel like the people who wait are usually people who don't really believe in divorce so might aswell test drive the car before buying it because you don't want to take it back to the shop do you?
+holly b But people are people and they are not automobiles. I feel that you can teach a man how to please you. If you get to know your body (masturbating) then you shouldn't have a problem with telling a person what you want and how you like it.
+holly b by that "test the car" logic, you're not gonna but the first car you see either. Your gonna try out more than one car. I'm definitely not having sex with more than one guy until I found the "compatible one". What's wrong with teaching them how to be a better lover?
4:39...*I. LOVE. Tamera being pregnant!* She plays no games when she's with child lol Sooner or later they gone know better than to interrupt her in the middle of a thought
Tamera, that's right. Get 'em together. Weren't these two (who shall remain nameless to prevent the intergalactic stans from getting in their feelings) the same two who had difficulty grasping the concept of monogamy while they were giving Adrienne a hard time about not taking another dude's phone number while she was with her man? Once Tamera said Jeannie was "educating people," those same two caught that low-key shade and changed up real quick and suddenly became serious. Sometimes, it's cool seeing adults discuss adult topics maturely... not like 14 year olds.
It's two different topics though. That one was about dating and this is about celibacy. It's two different things. They weren't telling her to sleep with the guy, they were telling her to have options. I didn't agree with them then but I do see the difference between the conversation that time and this one.
Sad that the women who were celebate before marriage had to explain themselves and stand up for themselves as the other made fun of them or cut them down. Such a twisted world, everything is upside down..
I always like Adrienne's views on sex. She's very open and confident about her sexuality but also respects the other girls' opinions on sex even if she may not agree with them.
I agree with Tamara and Jeannie for the most part. I think society as a whole lost sight of those values, because everything is overly sexualized now days. You could be advertising a piece of fruit and a sexual connotation will be attached to it. And as people we forget sex has consequences too. Sometimes major ones.
I had been celibate for three years and it was a great decision. In that time of singleness and celibacy, I truly got to know GOD and myself. Celibacy and abstinence are incredible
I respect Tamera's opinion, but I hate how she says it like her relationship is somehow better than anyone else's because she was celibate. There's plenty of happily married couples that had sex before marriage and still got to know each other and have a strong emotional connection. Nothing wrong with waiting, but I hate the holier than thou attitude and delivery. Tamera only knows one way of dating, so how does she know it's the best way? I had a friend that stayed a virgin until marriage, but she was divorced a year and a half later. Whether you have sex or not there's no guarantee on your marriage lasting. I think everyone should do what's best for them and don't let anyone convince you that if you wait you'll stay married and if you have sex you'll end up divorced because that's simply untrue. I still love Tamera though, just wish she'd stop acting like she has all of life's answers because she's religious/conservative.
Big up to Tamara and Jeannie! People seem not to understand that it is harder to stop sex for a time once you have already tasted it, compared to a virgin who never did it. I'm sex free for 2 years and 4 months, because I decided to be sort of "clean'' before I get to meet my missing 12th rib, and it is not easy. Opportunities are much more and temptations so many compared to back then, especially once they find out you don't want sex before you get married.
I would've taken Jeannie seriously until she started talking about 'there are other ways around it'. What's the point if your still being intimate? A man is going to respect you more because you only want to limit it to idk foreplay and oral? Really?
I so felt the same way you did. Had Jeannie never said that last part she would be far more respected on her stance. By saying there are ways around it negated her whole argument. Tamar even said so. Celibate means no kind of Sexual interaction at all it is Virginity without the naivety.
4daluvofnikki Perfect...i guess because shes so articulate with her stance....most people didn't hear the garbage she spoke, even Tamera said the same thing as well but to each is their own i guess
@@4daluvofnikki ....it's like the penetration is the ONLY way of having sex..remember fondling...carelessly....cunningly ...Bjs....and all sorts of sex...it's still sex...doesn't change the narrative...remember even women gets pregnant by playing with penis even without penetration.
@Rainbow swirling Island girl ..it is my friend....you will appreciate when you walk in that route....don't justify the reason you have sex..that's your choice
Tamera shares my views and morals. I genuinely love her so much. I watched a video recently on her and Tia talking about the Holy Spirit. I'm glad to see she kept her morals in HollyWeird.
I'm 19 and a very proud virgin. Most people are complaining how they have kids and that their life ended or weren't financially stable or this or that, well should of kept your legs closed until you were really ready to settle down and able to support yourself abd your child. And some people who have sex to much with different people that end up with HIV/AIDS, shouldn't be be complaining because that's the decision you chose to make with your life so don't be complaining when you actually get HIV or Aids.
I like how you're being analytical about this rather than giving up for pleasure. More women should have this kind of mindset. I am one of them too. Just do our best to carry ourselves as Woman of Faith and God will take care of the rest.
Jeannie is a Christian too. Actually, I believe they all are. But why was Tamar acting that way towards Jeannie's story? And Tamar's the preacher's daughter.
my guess is that Tamar was speaking on the ppl today, and how nowadays its not realistic to abstain for 2 years and have the guy perfectly ok with it...Jeannie found the 1-in-a-million guy in her husband that respected her for it and waited until they was married...Tamar was speaking on not everone can abstain like Jeannie did nor stay 100% faithful like Freddie did...she was keeping it realistic...
justin aviles People choose what they are going to do. You can abstain if you want to and if you have a strong fortitude. Or if you jsut know caving into peer pressure won't work for you. I don't believe people have to have sex to survive that is just something people tell themselves to justify going on and doing it. You are right now so many people just do it that everyone that does cannot fathom that there are people who are willing to wait. But they are out there and probably more than you know about.
justin aviles realistic hell. any two ppl can hold out if they both want to. if they can't even if they want to, its not a relationship worth anything anyway. if they don't even want to, then this convo doesn't even apply to them. why is she even chiming in on this? isn't she married already? she's probably just trying to justify her and other ppls incompetence in this department.
Yeah i would think that she would agree but she has some odd logic like a few months ago when she was encouraging hooking up to "crack her back". But tamar also has never been obedient in terms of not engaging in premarital sex so thats probably why she disagrees.
People act like if you're having sex in a relationship, you never talk or try to get to know one another. You can still get to know someone in an incredible depth and be having sex with them. There is no shame in choosing to have sex, or choosing not to have sex.
I feel it's a way to weed out people that might not be compatible with you but not to weed out people that are unserious. I don't believe a guy or a lady isn't serious because s/he doesn't want to wait till marriage before sex. I feel it just means they're not compatible but I don't believe it means the person isn't serious
I grew to absolutely love Tamera after watching her on this show. It's obvious that she was raised by a Caribbean mother. I love the way Tamar and Loni make fun at her old fashion, innocence but it's truly refreshing. Getting rid of Tamar was a big mistake. She balanced out that table.
Yesss that’s right!!! We waited until marriage and it was so worth it! Made us sooooo much closer!!! Our communication is on point and we know each other so intimately because of the way we dated
Love Tamera and Jeanie's outlook. Sex can go either way but if whatever you're doing isn't working (usually sex too fast) then maybe another perspective will benefit a person! So great job you two! On a sad note, I am drained with Loni and Tamar's super judgmental perspectives.
I didnt like how everyone was cutting everyone off. Big ups to tamera for being polite the whole time, and for hushing jeanie so she can wrap it up lol
Love this segment! It's crazy how these days you get the side eye & the "whaaattt?!" For keeping your legs closed & saving yourself for the man who your body ACTUALLY belongs to- your Husband, yet high-fived for giving it up to random dudes. In my early 20's, I'm proud & not ashamed of being celibate & i take pride in being selective of who i share my body with.
Preach Tamera. I'm sorry Jeanine but its hard to believe anything that you say when it comes to sex seeing that you've admitted that celibacy to you is exclusive to vaginal sex
Tamera said "absolutely" tho right after jeannie said that, so... I kinda think Tamera did have oral sex too, just not vaginal. Which is still the deepest possible connection, cant compare it to oral. But im virgin so what do i know, just a thought. I would still consider myself a virgin after oral sex tho.
Jack Hearts Eevee Tamera I believe in the pilot season vaguely mentioned that she also engaged in foreplay before she had sex when she was discussing how she waited so long. I did the same thing, although I had vaginal sex at 21, not 28 (waited until college to date, started experimenting around sophomore year and then it was more just nerves and anxiety over having vaginal sex). But I would still let partners know, I've done oral, but I haven't crossed that threshold yet, and I still got myself tested once I started oral, and to your doctor they ask you about all of it. It's all still considered sex, even if degrees of sensation vary lol.
Your virginity and celibacy is your own. No one else's. That's why I dislike this topic because it's no one's business, especially when people get judgy. You define your virginity for yourself. It use to be, "if your hymen is broken/teared". If you're waiting till marriage, it's likely that your hymen already tore when you were 10 or something. So who cares because you know that your virginity is still in tact according to YOUR standards. And that's all that matters. Jeanie wasn't pure when she started her celibacy journey, so it's fine that a year in a healthy relationship led to other sexual acts, including kissing.
LaTonya Roberts I'm just concerned because that definition, "oh oral is not considered sex" is just as slippery of a slope because people take it less seriously when they have that definition and some who are virgins might not understand that considering most virgins are young. You can still contract things from unprotected oral/anal sex if you don't ask your partner what is going on.
Jack Hearts Eevee tamera has admitted to not being a virgin when she got married, but she was celibate up to a certain point before they got married. She said this in an interview.
Tamera is officially my new BFF!! I love her wisdom, the way she carries herself AND how she never bows to peer pressure from being on TV or the playful nagging of her co-hosts. I seriously want to know her personally, I feel like she would have great advice for me lol, but seriously!!
Loni was really annoying this segment. Her humor came off as disrespect and continuously cut the cohosts off! I really wanted to hear what they had to say.
Young girls who are watching. Please don't be afraid to stay a virgin or to stop having sex with a man. If you don't want to do it, don't do it. When its all over, you will not feel good (if you were not ready). Know that there are millions of girls around the world who are willing to wait and thats okay. If you can't wait and think you are ready, just know the consequences (unexpected pregnancies) and take what ever step you want. Until you feel ready and responsible, then do it.
At 41 years of age, it seems like the chances of me ever finding that girl I will fall in love with are almost non-existent. I believe I am more uglier than most guys plus over recent years I've experience more chronic social isolation. Meaning my social isolation is hindering my social skills. This has further worsened my mental illness. I am hoping in my campaign to train and compete in world cup downhill ski racing in my 40s that I can help raise awareness on mental illness and other factors impairing social interaction and maybe along in my journey meet that woman. For now, I honestly give myself a better chance at a podium finish in the 2022 Winter Olympic games in the sport of alpine downhill ski racing. That is the truth!
Ok...so this is for my fellow Christians out here. *Sometimes I agree with what Tamera is saying but sometimes I feel like the things that she says don't agree with God's word*. For example, I think Tamera has talked about "foreplay" before marriage and here in this clip Jeannie seemed to mention something about foreplay and Tamera responded "I agree with you 100%".....Galatians 5:18-21 says: "19 *When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures*, 20idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, 21envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God." Things like foreplay and *ANY SEXUAL ACTIVITY* outside of marriage is a sin. God is not foolish. He will not tell you "Pre-marital sex is a sin, but it's ok to do everything else as long as you're not having intercourse". Absolutely not. Galatians 5:24-25 says: 24Those who belong to Christ Jesus have nailed the passions and desires of their sinful nature to his cross and crucified them there. 25Since we are living by the Spirit, let us follow the Spirit’s leading in every part of our lives. Let no one misunderstand my intentions. I'm not here to condemn anyone- everyone has free will. But I am here to stand up and support the *TRUTH* in God's word and to help others see the seed of deceit the devil is trying to plant in people's minds and heart. Dear reader, do not let the devil think that there are exceptions to sin. Sin is sin. There are no exceptions! It's your choice.
Loveeeeee this segment! The girls look beautiful and Loni is cracking me up. Great topic! I'd have no problem waiting for sex. There are several ways to please an individual and it's definitely fulfilling getting to know a person before delving into bed.
I don't think its ONLY better not to have sex in a relationship at first and that concludes your relationships in the future . I am happily married with children and that is how me and my husband started off and we connect on so many different levels so what works for you and your partner KEEP DOING IT !
There is one fake thing about this "waiting" thing. Anything around sex is not exactly waiting either. The lady on the right was talking about everything under the sun you can do around actual sex. I'm one of the very few that feels that is still sort of cheating since that is still sharing your body, but just in different ways. If you're "waiting", you're really only kissing. It is supposed to mean not sharing your body sexually period. We live in a world where no one just kisses until marriage. It's possible that Tamara might have.
There are so many benefits on waiting. I'm 21 about to be 22 in April and I'm still a Virgin. I'm waiting to find the right man that I will have a Spiritual, Emotional, Mental and Soulful Connection with first. I'm waiting for the man that I know will truly love me. Then, We would both be worried about Sex.
while I AGREE with jeanie and tamera. You can still get to know a person, learn to communicate and explore life in your relationship, while having sex.
Goodness you religious girls are disgustingly judgmental. Isn't there something in your bible about not doing that. While I practice what Jeanie and Tamera said there is NOTHING wrong with Loni's and Tamar's preferences. A lot of you sound like you got your men taken away by "promiscuous" women. Please stop with the self-righteousness it's annoying, and speaks DEEPLY of your insecurity.
RedToeNails026 Pieces of themselves? Maybe they don't consider it like that. To them sex may just be sex. If they protect themselves it really isn't your right to judge their behavior. Your point about relationships is moot as Tamar is involved in a 10+ year marriage.
Alex-Ian Adams it really all comes down to these girls wanting to feel like special snowflakes when they know at the end of the divorce rates are the same for them as everyone else.
Ok but Loni is pissing me off🤬!! Let Jeanie talk!! Just bc she decided to do something different, doesnt mean y'all have to put her down or try to prove that y'alls decision is better👏🏾. And we stan Tamera for defending Jeanie & spitting facts!!🙌🏾🙌🏾❤
I agree I think once you've dated long enough to see potential in the relationship it should be important to try make a point to not have sex. By making that point to set that foundation by building that bond on something other than sex. I don't know about waiting for marriage cause all individuals are different and not everyone is looking for marriage but to abstain for as long as possible and to have your significant other respect that is lovely. When you're looking for a long lasting relationship (since a lot of people enjoy causal sex) sex should be had when both consenting individuals are comfortable and have no doubts about the decisions. I say this because to set that goal of waiting til marriage is amazing but a lot of people don't always wait and it that make me them feel like they failed. So the goal should be to do it with someone you loves you, is committed and respected your decision to not do it until you were ready.
I regret not being a virgin. I wish I was because when I was I really held back from sex. I just kept adding body count so now I’m just holding off on sex. It’s funny how many guys leave when you tell them no I don’t want to have sex.
im a virgin at 20. guys say they're impressed, but leave. they say they dont believe me cause im so pretty, they leave. they say thats good they can compromise-but they cant-and they leave. i want to wait til marriage, and im perfectly fine with not talking to a guy- im so busy with school n work.
I feel like rather you are a virgin or not you are still someone of value and deserves love.It really is a beautiful act, and I think rather u have done this with more than one person or not if u loved them, and they loved u even if the relationship did not last it is still something that is special.Why devalue yourself because u had more than one sexual partner? It is possible to fall in love more than once.So therefore it is possible to make love to more than one person.And not that it matters i am waiting for marriage. i just dislike when people make one another feel guilty for experiencing such a beautiful human experience before they are married. The whole marriage thing can get over-rated divorce is also a possibility there are pros and cons in everything.....
Well now Jennie is engaged to Jeezy. We all know she gave it up to him she didn't make him wait. She even eluded to their sexual relationship on Instagram. Funny how people talk and change over time.
I feel the same way! I wasn't looking for hookups to to get my first kiss and my first time over with, I wanted to wait to share those moments with someone I had strong feelings for. So I didn't have my first kiss or do it for the first time until I was 18. I have no regrets. I'm 20 now and I do have some friends who are a bit disheartened that they haven't had a boyfriend of even their first kiss and I tell them there is absolutely nothing wrong with that because once you find a man who you really like, it's more special to share these memories with them. It's worth the wait!!!
