Another perspective towards not having regrets in life is that whatever choices i’ve made, i thought it was the best back then. for example choosing a song for radio. yes, i should have chosen song B, but at that very moment i thought choosing song A was the right decision so even if I were to go back in time, I will probably still chose song A because i thought that was the right decision. There is no such thing as ‘if only I knew’ so instead of being so harsh on one’s self, acknowledge yourself more. understand that you had made the right decision just that it didn’t turn out true.
There's always an opportunity cost to doing / not doing something, so instead you should be thinking "which regret would i rather live with" than "would i regret not doing it" Because if you pick A over B, you will regret not doing B, and if you pick B over A, you will regret not doing A. This is human nature. It always happens, which is like why your mind tends to wander every now and then. What if i bf/gf A instead of B? What if I studied B instead of A? What if I said Yes to A and No to B. So instead, since we know you will 100% regret not doing the other thing, you should think, which regret am i willing to live with for the rest of my life? eg. my brother's wedding clash with my only chance to go overseas for this once-in-a-lifetime event. Is my family ties that strong that i rather regret not going overseas? or is that one thing so important to me that i will regret not having experienced it? Either way, you are 100% regretting the thing you chose not to do, and will have to live with that regret for the rest of your life. 50 years down the road maybe you think aiyah, if only i went to my brother's wedding, maybe my family ties wont be so strained. maybe if i went for the overseas thing, i would have developed my career in that path instead. Choose the regret you are willing to live with for the rest of your life.
If we're talking small decisions, sure there's many regrets like I shouldn't have said so and so but in terms of BIG and MAJOR decisions, you won't know what the alternative is. You really can't know how the other path would have turned out. Just pick the path you believe in and don't look back.
hi i just want to share my not so regret ,but to clarify imma azura type a person (that moved on quickly after regret some things that did not go as planned) 1. during my senior year at secondary school, i have plans to study abroad and secured scholarships (which i dont rn) and we do have to pass our national exams (spm just like sg taking o levels),luckily i passed w flying colors but the things i regret is not spending time with my friends back in high school bcs i busy prepping my future 2.after getting my spm results i got into our national uni and entering degree w scholarships, and then i try as many much going w my friends bcs i did not want to repeat the regret i had. thank you so much for making this ep on the day i turning 20 ☺️
Trip/travel is TOTALLY different from student exchange. Experience both and it’s totally not “a bit different”. Agree with the everything happens for a reason, grateful that I learned that in my mid 20’s as I was a person with lots of regrets and now looking back, I like where I am now after all that
whenever i encounter something that makes me regret, for me i kinda fall into the survival mode and instead of dwelling on the regret, i will think about whats the next step to get over the situation or crawl back up again . of course i take a bit of time to accept my feelings, but i will move on always. also when im given 2 options, onwhich would greatly affect my future, im more afraid of the future which i would regret than the easy path that i could choose now and lead the easy life.
