Could these symptoms align with relationship trauma? unresolved trauma showing up as anger, emotional withdrawal, disengagement and isolation? Causing trauma to the other spouse?
So, what happens when you don't trust anyone at your church enough to be counseled by them, you cannot afford counseling AT ALL, and you're very resentful because your spouse refuses to do anything to fix problems caused because he wanted to have fun instead of be responsible? Divorce is not an option but I am not giving anymore. 22 years is enough giving without getting. He also does nothing to support me in my ADHD struggles.
Hey there. So sorry that you're going through this. I pray your marriage finds healing from God. How about going to another church for counseling? Somewhere where no one knows you.
Can I recommend the Empowered Wife book or if you need a free resource the podcast of that same name is an excellent resource to find ways you can improve your marriage even if your husband isn't giving. I hope you find healing and some inspiration!