The scariest and saddest thing is, is that my uncle sourced him as "an unbiased news channel", after he called my source channels biased... (I am aware that mine are biased, but everything is biased, let's be honest.) Along with that, he also called "Charlie Kirk, Candice Owens, Steven Crowder, Australia news, Tucker Carlson (Fox News) [...] unbiased news channels". To be fair, this is a guy [my uncle], that about 10 years ago, didn't believe in the moon landing, so, he's come a long way. More like he's working his way through the ages. *sigh*
@@bonniea8189 Actually, that sounds like some treasured childhood memories of Dad-time to me; you and your sister were lucky to have a dad who enjoyed sharing a favorite hobby with you, like my late dad did when he always had me as his "little journeyman" when doing various home or auto repairs.
@Project Fakémon Another kid exposed to the classics by a cool parent, eh? Very cool: the _Odyssey,_ retold as a radio series with a cliffhanger each night, was my bedtime story for a long while. FTR, gay man of non-standard masculine expression here, though I still have dreams of waking up as Apollo...😉
"Really, we need the kids getting bullied to ask the bullies what they can do to avoid getting bullied because it's clearly not the bullies that are at fault here" there's actually people that believe that, which just makes this analogy so much worse. I wonder how much overlap there is between transphobes/homophobes and victim blaming people?
The we are human thing makes me so sad. There's someone who has the spirit, but their views are so twisted they cant even understand where they've gone wrong. That legitimately pains me.
It's like saying "We are all humans, I want all Jews to ask Nazis what they can do better to fit their views and I want Nazis to give advice for the same."
@@prajwaljayaraj5887 or .. I want all Palestinians to ask Jews what they can do better to fit their views , and for Jews to give advice for the same. oh thats happening right now !
@@prajwaljayaraj5887 victim groups and oppressor groups sometimes switch roles .. do a 180 .. and are no longer the victims they once were .. or they become victim and oppressor -- a disgusting and hypocritical mode of being
I am a cis person, but I try to avoid being part of the cis. However, Ben was right on one thing: there is only one gender. We ALL have to share. Sorry but it’s the truth.
Slime Tank - I so want to find this in some long lost folklore somewhere. They did all sorts of weird things in Celtic folklore, this wouldn’t be too far off the mark. I guess we’ll have to settle for the next best thing: a D&D campaign in the faewild...
@@realrealwarpet actually yeah i shirt that says "i suport gay people" makes me believe that they are straight way more than a shirt thats says "i am not gay"
Exactly. Life is not about everyone agreeing with each other, or never being offended. As someone has a permanent disability, in addition to being bi and genderfluid, the idea of "accommodating" ableist or obnoxious straight and cis people is just insulting. I don't expect people to accept me, just don't treat me like something you stepped in. It's not that hard.
Hi Jamie! We have a trans grandchild, and I intend to recommend you and Shaaba to them. You two are such a beautiful and positive influence. Much Love, from Ontario, Canada 🇨🇦... Keli 💖
Hey, just wanted to say ur problems are valid, your emotions are valid, your choices are valid. and that your all loved by someone, no matter how much you think everyone hates you people love you and care about you. and also- drink water everyone stay hydrated and please eat. You are all so worth it and amazing and deserve to be loved and be happy.
This is the earliest I’ve been to a video in a hot minute and seeing ur comment really made my day (my whole month rlly but). Thanks for commenting shitblike this all the time, even if it’s pointless it means a lot to a lot of people
The best clothes are the ones that come from the section in the shops that carry the right fit for you and your body type. Period. End of story. Does that dress fit your personality? Does it fit your body? Is it comfortable? Great!! You’re in the right section!! Does that suit fit your style? Do you feel comfortable? Is it fit to your body type? Awesome!! Now you’re super dapper!!
We just need a wider size range for feminine and masculine clothes. When I was little, I loved Pikachu but was only able to find Pikachu shirts in the boy's section which were all too big for me ): It's not even just for trans people, it helps everyone
@@randomcat1962 I totally respect that. I’m personally cis gendered, so I don’t experience this too often. I do wear only pants; however, I’m lucky that I don’t have to deal with being misgendered. I’m sorry if I came off patronizing in my original post. If you don’t mind me asking, is there a polite way to ask for pronouns if you’re meeting someone for the first time? I’m a healthcare worker and I’m guilty of being too clinical sometimes. If you aren’t comfortable answering, I just want to say thank you for bringing that up. I didn’t consider that when I commented originally.
@@katlord586 I normally don’t say anything about my pronouns because I’d rather not talk to people and I’m just not good at talking. I have autism and ADHD so that doesn’t help. I feel like a nice way would be saying what are your pronouns after talking for a bit or something. You’re nice and comfortable clothing is good
Always when I see those takes of “uh I feel my gender is being weakened” or “I don’t feel like I can be a man/woman anymore” “I feel oppressed” I’m like “what are you saying?! Where are you getting these idea’s from. No one is forcing you to do anything! No one is oppressing you, no one is holding you at gun point and telling you what to think and say. Your own small minded persona is oppressing itself. Please for the love of everything that is holy, open your eyes, your heart and your mind and accept life for what it is, and accept people for who they are, and if you can’t get to the first step of accepting, please just keep it to yourself and don’t hurt anyone with your words or opinions”
Sometimes it makes me wonder if they aren't trans/questioning but terrified of NOT having that "you must conform to gender norms" gun to their head so they now try to convince everyone that it's there so they don't have to make any hard decisions that might upset their whole lives and how they see themselves. Or they're just desperate to be on top so they otherize us trans people to make themselves feel more special by insisting they're the ones under attack. (ie: gaslighting. "you aren't oppressed, I'm the one that's being forced to change so I'M actually the oppressed one and your struggles are actually nothing when I have to change ANYTHING")
Okay but hot take, what if the people saying that are actually realizing that they may be non-binary but their internalized transphobia has them quaking so hard that they are forcibly ignoring their truth and tryina bring everyone down with them as a toxic way of coping with their newly found identity crisis? Edit: Spelling
i have a cishet friend that's really annoyed that she's cishet because 1) "the lgbt+ is the COOLEST and i wish i should be part of it like all my lovely friends!" 2) "Do i HAVE to be associated with the hateful cishets??? uuuuugh but they're so hateful!!" and i keep telling her "Hey, you are in a position to help the most! A lot of cishets WON'T listen to the lgbt+ so you're the only person who can tell them they're wrong and have a chance of them listening! your job as an ally is super important too! you defend and help us!" and so now she's all "I WILL TELL THE WORLD UNTIL EVERYONE KNOWS!!!!" and I'm super proud of her! (i might have worded this badly, i just woke up but needed to share)
I just wanted to say I used to be transphobic. It was mostly because of where I live and who I'm around. Then I found out I was trans. I'm still working to break those thoughts down and replace them but this channel has helped a lot! Also don't entirely give up on transphobes some of them can change.
I'm a firm believer in 'people can change' and I try to spread that energy. I love seeing stories where it actually happens... Also I just noticed your name is Kiki and I have a trans OC whose family calls her Kiki... lol
2:55 "Why would do people feel like their gender is being taken away from them?" Because cis-heteropatriarchy literally defines masculinity as domination over the "other" which is Woman - by allowing a diversity of genders beyond simply Man or Woman, and by refusing to allow Man to dominate all other genders, you do thereby remove the cis-heteropatriarchal notion of Manhood. So - yes, their gender is being taken away, but only because they are defining that gender exclusively in terms of violence and domination. (This is also why TERFs can never be feminists - because in order to be transphobic they necessarily affirm the gender binary, which is defined in terms of violence and domination, and so they support and endorse cis-heteropatriarchy.)
@leet man I am sure the 97% of women in my country who have experienced sexual assault really appreciate how dismissive you are. Log off. Touch grass. Learn basic facts about the world. Then maybe you will realise there is more to life than just being an a-hole on the internet.
My favorite thing about being LGBTQ is that they make me feel like I’m a supervillan single handed-ly taking down the world with my incredible 💅✨ness and I am so here for it
Reasons I buy Dove soap: - Doesn't wreck my sensitive/dry skin - Smells nice - Comes in large bars New reason to buy Dove soap: - Brand supports trans peeps
The most recent, disturbing thing that I saw a straight/cis person say was that it is “emotional blackmail” to tell someone that they should be more supportive to the LGBTQ+ community because of their high risk of suicide when they’re not supported. Apparently, mentioning something they *should* care about is manipulating them into caring about it… The mental gymnastics he had to do to feel like the victim (and then later blame us for playing the victim card) astounds me.
One time someone said of me, "if she was so certain she was a man, she wouldn't care what other people call her." And someone else, a fellow trans guy no less, replied, "I agree. If you're uncomfortable with other people using the wrong pronouns, you just need to be smart enough to avoid situations where that will happen." Like, oh sure, I'll just quit my job and never go out into the world ever again. Problem solved.
I will give them that: they did recognize sex orientations beyond heterosexuality and even homosexuality. Though I guess that makes that person’s transphobia all the more clearer.
Who knew transitioning was so simple and easy.... All you have to do is learn to fish if you're a trans-man or give up fishing if you're a trans-woman.
I'm always baffled in this videos, how this people are saying "gender is your genitals" and at the same time "if your attitude is not manly enough then you're in fact a woman". They manage to get 2 things very wrong and opposite to each other and believe them both to be true. One I could understand, maybe, but the two....can't they see they are in direct opposition ?
"She is unwomanly and unhuman and there is no knowing what crimes she will commit" Ok but that went from eyeroll worthy to absolutely hysterical within a second. I can see this as a tumblr textpost
The shirt "not gay" is so strange. :_D Especially when you remember about people like bisexuals and asexuals. So you can assume that person is not straight either. :D ...It's sad that some people are so afraid to be called gay they do ridiculous stuff. :< Thankfully, there are still many good people who are very accepting. :>
Actually, the "red football is not a football" thing has kinda been done. During the Spring and Autumn period there was a School of Names in China that was apparently kind of a joke because we have other contemporary scholars laughing at their views. Han Fei in particular made sure to make it clear that their "the white horse is not a horse" did not meet the standards of Chinese philosophical discourse of the 3rd century BCE.
@@SammyLammy1D Yes. So the School of Names is a largely lost philosophical group that focused heavily on logical paradoxes and other such lofty pursuits. But since it was a time of warring kingdoms the philosophers and scholars of the time were largely dependent on the favor of a patron who is perpetually at war. With the effect that they would constantly badmouth one another in their missives to prove how their own school of thought was most useful. Naturally, a school of deep dialectic brain teasers and paradoxes was not really what the day called for. So what became popular with kings was on the one hand the Confucians whose traditionalist-moralist teachings largely affirmed the social order of the day, and the School of Laws, whose prolific writers were ministers and ambitious officials, and who propagated effectively absolute monarchy with a robust bureaucratic underpinning and tips and tricks to survive court intrigue while ruling with an iron fist. The last point in particular made the School of Laws VERY unpopular outside the palaces, which is why it remained the secret teaching of the Emperors, even as it's principles governed the court. The first Emperor tried to break the Confucians by burning their books and allegedly also their philosophers, but that's the Confucians writing the history books. Anyway, the School of Names was a popular target for their sophistry and idle riddles among everyone who wanted to present themselves as a more practical thinker. So their weaker aphorisms were projected onto real-life situations. Han Fei tells of an occurrence of a School of Names scholar who was accosted by the town guard for riding his white horse in a pedestrian area, in which he tried to argue that the sign reads "no horses", but his "white horse" was not included in this because it's written differently. Which naturally did not work on account of how categories work and the guard being interested in public order over sophistry.
@@MrHodoAstartes okay, thank you. It's interesting, I will come back to you when I've talked to my English teacher since English is not my first language hehe, but I really appreciate it. ^_^
That "weaken your society" thing made me think of Mao era China, where people had to wear similar (blue) uniforms. It's been a while dince I took my history lessons, but I believe the point was to make the nation stronger by make the people unified. Totalitarianism and individuality don't mesh well. A strong people may appear uniform, but for an individual who doesn't fit in for one reason or another, it is a nightmare. But with that logic, if there were no genders or differing sexual identities but just humans, would everyone just mix freely? That logic quickly leads to a unified people of pansexual non-binary folks. I can live with that. I'd actually fit in for once! 😀
@@sakuraRyn Actually, I'm a bisexual demi-girl. (I'm kinda still figuring out the gender thing, but most days, I'd rather just be a genderless me. And my idea of bisexuality is pan-esque: it's the person and their mind I'm attracted to, not the body parts.) I'd fit in quite well into the non-binary pansexual world I described, it sounds a lot more relatable to me than this world where you're expected to be either or, with societal norms forcing you into molds I personally have never been able to fit in.
@@Leena79 I get that, and you're 100% valid in your feelings and identity :) I hope you love yourself even more as you figure out who you are in the future~ You're awesome! ^-^
I never understand how people say that gen z is the worst gen, like we’re too sensitive or are too weird or out of the normal, when it’s gen z who is the most accepting generation. Gen z is the one generation that allows people to express themselves the most. We aren’t weird we’re expressive and we don’t make ourselves unhappy for your sake.
I love how people think that accepting trans people weakens our society when it literally does the opposite. Allowing people to transition without discrimination or judgement creates better mental health outcomes. Better mental health means that trans people can more readily contribute their ideas and labor to improving society. Even if all you care about is the labor market and profit, it's better just to accept people.
That subreddit shows exactly what we mean by male privilege and toxic masculinity; Thinking every living person in the whole world should fit in their point of view of a lifestyle.
Wow, the one with the women over 30 who don't lie about their age is riddled with so many insecurities and male gaze cringe. I have always hated this social norm that on a woman's birthday everyone makes banter about how she is perpetually turning (insert some age in the 20s). We all age and grow as people, to say otherwise feels like any woman that reaches 30 should keel over cause their existance from that point is meaningless since they no longer fit the social fantasy of "youthfull beauty". No one could pay me enough to want to return to my 20 year old self, goodness so much cringe I am happy I outgrew.
I am in my 40s, but look a bit young. Sometimes someone will ask me how old I am, and get embarrassed when I answer honestly. I tell them not to be embarrassed because I’m not embarrassed of my age.
As a cis-het woman I litteraly cannot understand why people have so much issues with hbtqi+ To me it's just strange. What made them this hateful? Don't they understand hbtqi+ people are just people, trying to live their lives?
We don't have to make ir easy or more comfortable for cis people nor fit one specific mold, we just want to be treated as people, respected, and to live our lives (trans enby here)
So I'm a ciswoman but I do really enjoy watching your videos, and I realized yesterday that it's actually really usefull. I'm a teacher in highschool and university and if there ever is a student who comes to me with a gender- or sexual identity issue I am now pretty confident I can respond in a way that makes them feel heard and validated. So thanks!
There were a couple of LGB Alliance supporters trying to join in on the protest for Manchester pride yesterday. Thankfully they were booed till they left. Then a guy on my facebook was saying how people should accept that others have different opinions (the usual sh8te arguments) and "Silencing" people was wrong. Funnily enough though, after i commented that i thought his views were wrong, and that he had gone so far down the conservative rabbit hole that his views were ñow so against Trans but still being gay himself, that he didnt see the irony in his commeñts. In the past He has posted gay pride comments and how homophobes are bad etc yet he still is unable to see his own prejudiced views as completely opposite to his own queerness. Oh and then he blocked me, after championing not blocking out other people with opposing views! Lol
Day nine of telling this amazing pillar of confidence and hope for those of us who don’t have as many allies how great he is. Remember to take breaks and much love ❤️
Fun Fact: Cis is a municipality in Trentino in north Italy, and in Poland are two Cis villages ;-). Cis, Warmian-Masurian Voivodeship and Cis, Świętokrzyskie Voivodeship.
You're so nice & comforting! I often come here just to hear your takes & reassuring that we all are just normal human beings. Hate is so wearing. I wish more people were like you.
I don't get when people say "don't call me cis, I'm biologically my gender " Because the word straight in reference to sexuality only existed when society realised gay people exist. Its like saying "im not white I just have a lower amount of melanin in my skin than a specific group of other people who have more than me"
Hindu myth nerd here, there is actually a story about a king who was bigender (androgyne), his name was Ila (ila) he had a wife and a husband. He fathered children through his wife and mothered children through his husband. And this is not a regional story, it is discussed in most of the Puranas (holy texts) and nothing wrong is said about the situation. P.S.: The husband was Budh the god of the planet Mercury (not to be confused with Gautam Buddh - founder of Buddhism) and in some versions Budh himself is said to be transgender. There are many more stories and events, there's even a Wikipedia page search : Hinduism and LGBT topics.
The Cis(tm): you cant change your gender, youll always be a (assigned gender at birth)!!!!!!!!!!!!!! also The Cis(tm): if a man cant fish, he's a womaaaaan
"Hello, I'm hair." 🤣 Once the humidity goes down, I think we all have that "hair feels a bit extra fluffy" 🙂 I didn't even keep up with some of those, they were so out of proportion that most of the videos I was just baffled at the missing logic of those comments you found lol! 🤨 I can't believe how many people out there think "cis" is a pronoun, and don't want to be "labeled", or that people get trans so screwed up that they don't know what it really means! WOW. Thank yo Jammie! LOVED THIS! 😍🤩 More please! 😃 Loves from Minnesota 😎
I'm a cis- white-passing male (gay or maybe pan-) and I don't know how you remain so calm. Some of these posts absolutely infuriate me! Your ability to dissect and respond to these with poise is stunning.
5:10 plot twist: the parents are bi and pan, the backside of the "not gay" shirt says "I like men", the backside of the "don't hate the str8s" shirt says "hate bigotry", the son is trans, and the little sister is super supportive of her brother, the back of her shirt says "I have transparents"
This week in latinamerica a video got really viral, like REALLY. It is about a non binary pal who had a mental breakdown in a class and screamed "No soy tu compañera, soy tu compañere", it doesn't make a lot of sense in english because it is literally "i'm not your classmate, i'm your classmate", "compañera" is the femenine way of calling a classmate and "compañere" is the nb way. But HOLY LORD, it got out of control, and people just started showing their ✨transphobia✨ and ✨lack of empathy✨, i hate it here.
Yeah, say what you will about English and people who speak English but at least English doesn't have every object and adjective gendered like Spanish, Portuguese, French and Italian, etc do.
@@kraziiXIII ¿? I didn't say anything about english. And, i mean, there's always a way you can talk without gendering in spanish, but people who don't speak the language don't know that.
@@SaeSaeyoungyoung @김새영 I know you didn't talk about English. I obviously did not word my orginal comment clearly. I was just stating how confusing gendered nouns and adjectives are to native English speakers when English has very few gendered nouns and adjectives. The entire idea of gendering nouns and adjectives can feel very new for native English speakers even though we do have gendered nouns like lion/lioness, waiter/waitress, etc. Those words are not really explained as gendered nouns/adjectives to native English speaking folks since typically the masculine form is used as a gender neutral form as well ie lion, waiter, etc Like you talk pretty directly about how in English the sentence translates the exact same way, but in Spanish it has a gender component to it (feminine vs gender neutral in this case). I was agreeing with your overall sentiment that native English speakers wouldn't get the context in a translated dialogue script without that additional explanation about how the Spanish language works and how non-gendered adjectives and nouns exist but aren't talked about oftentimes when being taught to native English speakers. The same can be said about English neopronouns and the entire concept of a singular usage of "they/them". I've spoken with a lot of folks who weren't native English speakers who couldn't understand the use of the singular "they". I mean gendered nouns and adjectives still exist in both languages but when it comes to prominently having gendered articles, nouns, and adjectives Spanish, Italian, French and many other languages have rules that differ drastically and require more than an "a/an" or a "the" in front of a noun to indicate what the plurality of the noun, is ie "el/la vs los/las".
Latinos... Pero no te creas, aquí también la transfobia es rampante, la camuflan más eso si, siempre es por "otra cosa". El gatekeeping y la luz de gas aquí es bárbara.
@@eldron29-a54 En mi país más que gatekeeping es un "lucho por lo que me conviene" por lo que no hay ningún derecho lgbt Vengo a editar mi comentario porque eran como las 6 de la mañana cuando lo escribí. Perfectamente sé de la transfobia de acá, soy de Guatemala y de verdad que el estado laico es pura broma porque los "ideales" del gobierno son basados en sus "valores cristianos", porque sus valores aplican a dejar que violenten homosexuales pero no cuando se roban el dinero 😍🙏
thank you for the video. I did not know what Cis was or how it was spelled so I could not look it up. Don't be to mean as I 64 years old and don't know anything LMAO. I found you on RU-vid and thought I can expand what I know ,and it has thanks again.