The Straights are not okay, the heteros are upseteros, The Straights are irate - and any other catchy of rhyming phrase you can think of for The Straights just being The Straights
Ikr? Like, I know that a lot of people still aren’t familiar with the word cisgender, but heterosexual? Like, that word was introduced in the 1890s lol
Asking “WhY iS tHeRe No sTrAiGhT pRiDe? Or wHiTe HiStOrY mOnTh?” Is like going to a to Veteran’s Day parade and asking why there’s no day and parade for non-veterans? Because why would there be?
It's actually quite fitting that you mention veterans, because these same people always complain about LGBT+ getting attention and not veterans, but you don't see any of them helping veterans at all :v
Exactly, pointing out and shining a light on oppression is important...white people such as myself don't really deserve a day like that and neither do cis-hets because they don't know what it's like for people like us, I've literally been yelled at, had a whole party stop and had a guy yell at me because I wasted ten minutes of his time for flirting with him and he thought I was going home with him....I'm Ace and a lot of the time that stuff just goes over my head and I think people are just being friendly. BTW, he also threw his drink all over my outfit, which was LIT!!!
Last time I read "you queers aren't so special, get over it," my response was "if I am not special, then why have I been singled out for special treatment all my life?"
"If I'm not special, why did you go out of your way to interact with me? People that aren't special get ignored, so i must be special because you just can't seem to ignore me!" It's so fun to do that and watch them sputter.
@Vlad The detailer then…… why did you feel the need to put in extra effort and type this out? as if the original comment doesn’t already negate your response by the exact fact that you responded 😂😂😂
When straight people whine about not getting celebrations it honestly feels like a rich little kid whining about how he doesn’t get a present from make-a-wish just because he doesn’t have cancer. Like yeah, you don’t have cancer, you don’t need a present. Likewise, if you don’t face discrimination, you don’t need celebrations to spread awareness.
Ironically, they're also the same Straights who are afraid to ever question their own sexuality or gender, because they might not like what they find. It'd be like if that rich kid believed that cancer awareness could somehow spread cancer to him, so he doesn't want to hear about it, let alone get tested.
@@sluttyMapleSyrup lmao have you heard people talk about how apparently gay people are mean to straight people. they can’t take jokes apparently. At least we’re not calling them slurs that come from the fact that we have been burned at the stake
"If I misgender you I don't care." Yet if you were to misgender most cis straight people and their dogs, they would be quick to correct and/or take offense.
And here’s me, a cis female, who’s been misgendered all my life lol. Am I the straight persons dog in this situation 😂😂? Should I not get mad? I’m sorry, I probably shouldn’t be bothered to be misgendered because I’m not trans but it doesn’t feel right nonetheless 😅
@@reni9k612 it's ok to not like to be misgendered, no one really likes it! The only problem is that some cis-het prople seem to act as if misgendering queer people is ok and that we are just overdramatic for not accepting it, while if you even ask them their sexuality or their dog/baby gender they willget mad. It's not about not liking people misgendering you but about not being a hipocrate Ps: english is my second language so i prob wrote quite some things wrong LOL
I speak for any DECENT straight person who is your friend/family when I say, honestly I don't give one flying crap about your preference in bed. I will try my best to respect your pronouns, but please don't try to shove it in my face. I'm sorry if I offend you by saying this, but I really hate it when certain lgbt members use sexuality as a way to justify certain actions, like yelling in my face when I accidentally use the wrong pronouns. Sexuality or being trans doesn't justify hurting the people that actually support you and your decisions. Me talking for myself I'm sorry if this offends you, but when someone yells in my face over my mistake it hurts. I'm a cis straight female and I have autism, so most of the time I don't catch social cues and make a mistake. I make it blatant that I have this and I make a mistake here and there without realizing. So when people say, "That's not an excuse for misgendering me" it hurts. Bc Autism and any mental or social disability is a real problem that causes people to accidentally say something wrong and not realize it or not be able to learn as quickly as most would like. Sorry if I'm rambling and it's bothering you. I will stop now.
Misgender a cis straight person's baby, and feel the wrath of all the demons from the deepest pits of hell descend upon you. Because it should've been OBVIOUS to you that this is a baby boy, he has a blue bow.
*transphobe uses wrong pronouns* " I don't give a sh*te about your pronouns" *I use wrong pronouns on them* "before you get mad, I don't give a sh*te about your pronouns"
Don't you just love how LGBTQ+ people will be told by straight people that we care too much about things like sexuality and gender but they'll be the ones to constantly bring up biological sex and post disturbing things like that last post that talk about genitals matching pronouns. They're the ones worried about genitalia, clearly, not us.
Exactly I remember Kaitlin Bennet calling lil Nas x obsessed with genitals coz he’s gay when she goes around campuses screaming about genitals. Also terfs in the U.K. have began attacking trans and masculine cis women and forcing them to lift up their tops/drop their pants to prove they’re ‘real women’ 🤢
@@andybeeres2452 Oh my god, I had no idea that was happening in the UK. That's harassment. People should be getting arrested for doing stuff like that. Absolutely disgusting. Those people are also incredibly stupid because your genitalia isn't what dictates what gender you are.
@@krimsonkatt To add to that - no law of biology forbids asexual, gay and lesbian folk from being donors/clients of a sperm bank (or even just having sex specifically for purpose of procreation, if they don't mind). And even on top of that, we also have to consider gay trans man that may still be capable of giving birth and lesbian trans woman that still may be capable of producing sperm... And that is without even mentioning intersex and nonbinary people. In other words, that statement couldn't be more wrong
@@xWolfDOFR To be fair, a lot of those options weren't available for the millenia of human existence; heterosexual activity was crucial to getting mankind as a whole where it is today. But it is a little silly in some places to full-blown assume 'WELL YOU WOULDN'T BE HERE IF YOUR PARENTS WEREN'T STRAIGHT EH?' nowadays.
As a cisgendered woman and a feminist, it pisses me off to no end when people pretend they are being bigoted to "protect" me. I can speak for myself. I am not your moral body shield, and I am not taking bullets of criticism for you so you don't have to.
As the dad of a strong, smart woman, I was delighted by your post. Excuse an old-fashioned grandfather for wanting to add you to the "daughter collection". And thanks for a great post, Sarah.
The whole notion of "protecting" women is so infantalizing. It's not a matter of protecting anyone, it's a matter of stopping the (actual) harms in the first place. The goal of feminism isn't, for example, to secure the "privlege" of fighting for reproductive rights. It's the vindication of the rights themselves.
There is such a thing as pride parades for the straights. They are called parades. Especially Valentine's day parades. Like come on people, you already have all kinds of representation and celebration, you don't need an entire parade for that. And meanwhile aro-aces are represented mainly in robots, and people who "don't know how to love :o but main character will teach them how to love again :)" and villains.
"Thank a straight couple for your existence". Well... Two of my best friends have a kid. He's 7 years old now and aboslutely adorable. One of his moms is a bisexual cis woman. The other one is a lesbian trans woman. That kid can thank two definitely not straight people for his existence. And he's one of the happiest kids I know.
It’s sad, my mom is not against LGBTQ+, but she is generally scared for my that I’m pansexual and genderfluid, not because she’s against it, she’s says I can be who I am and love who I love and all of that, but she heard stories about people being kidnapped, tortured, and killed just because they were gay and proud, so she’s scared for me to fully come out
You seem like you have a great mom! Remember what Aled from Heartstopper said, “When you find out you’re not straight, you think that you _have_ to tell people that. It’s like you owe it to them. But you don’t owe them anything.” You don’t have this some sort of bucket list and “say ‘I’m pansexual and genderfluid’”. Just be yourself, love your mom (she seems nice) and have some cake 🍰
i actually tend to forget that there are people like this out there because i was in luck and was put in a class where almost half of us are queer and the rest are just really supportive. i’m really thankful for it but i still need to remind myself about this sometimes edit: wow i really hope you guys are all right and know that it will get better soon. here, have some cake🍰
Dude thats great! I kinda forget about people like that sometimes but oooh boy when I see em I just really cringe. People should really just respect other people’s rights, its just that simple lmao
wow, judging by your username, it seems that it's REALLY hard to misgender you, considering the fact that there's like one set of pronouns you DON'T use yet people still do it for whatever reason ig
@@nah1557 been binging Jamie ever since the recommendations and I'm so happy I did. The candor that he treats his videos is inspring. Really appreciated the transition vlogs, the ignorant anatomy questions that us cishet men have (but honestly none of our business lol). Thanks so much for pointing him in my direction and your kind words 💜 I appreciate it
I watched this Russian video about bisexuality and the comments were full of people being like oh thanks for sharing your story and sharing their stories, and this one user answered every single comment with stuff about sin and Jesus. And like they answered each one not with copy-paste text, but with unique comments that were unique to the shared story. The effort that people put into their hate amazes me
He told me to make friends in the comments, and not only is the story crazy, but, you watched a RUSSIAN video??? Are you Russian? I'm Russian ~ you wanna be comrades lmao
A guy in my class is super homophobic and because his opinion is the "only valid one" all the other boys just.. agree (even though I don't think that's what they genuienly think about lgbtq) So we have this half of the class that makes homophobic and transphobic jokes vs me, a very queer trans guy (still questioning but I think this is what I am) that loves talking about my "future wife" (still look very much like a girl so yesh but yah) and what it's like having cool queer friends, I do it extra much because I know it annoyes the hell out of that one guy. Dressed extra gay with loads of rainbow for a while until I finally kind of found my style. Our current topic in English class is gender identity (my teacher is really cool and a friend of mine and me both think he might be queer himself) and I feel sorry for him because of all the comments the boys just make that are so damn unnecessary, but in todays lesson we watched a short film and the boys actually weren't so against it. One of them even avoided using pronouns entirely because he didn't remember "they/them" (we're German) but didn't want to just call the person a him and misgender them. I kinda have hope now lol
@@natkatmac sadly not, my teacher didn't show us the name :/ It was more of a fact based film, so not too interesting if you already know something about the history of gender Hope you have a wonderful day
Some kids at my school make some very light comments about it (the worst a kid has said was the gay f slur) and I’m waiting for the day they are and I just stand up and call them the hell out on it.
Did you watch it in English class? Or did you learn a decent German equivalent for "they/them". If it is the latter, please tell me because I have been trying to find one.
Also: Yay for your teacher and the kid trying to use correct pronouns. I hope many of the kids will make up their own mind over time and not only parrot the phobic loudmouth.
Alpha move is using the new set of neopronouns that transphobes say they use. Nor/mal? I hope nor enjoys mal's day! Pe/nis? Pe is so valid, nis pronouns are so cool! Do that and see how quickly the narrative changes for them
Reminds me of the story of a trans girl that came out, chose a new name, and then her *brother* insisted everyone call him Megatron. Then she called him that until he got sick of it. Think he came around at that point. :)
@@nesser52 well, everyone who can attend does so. a lot of people can't go because of homophobic parents/guardians, and there's other reasons, but I'm not sure what they are and don't want to spread misinformation.
"Thank a staright person for your existence" Mhm, and those straight people abandoned me when I was a baby and left me all on my on when I wasn't even able to talk. Then two wonderful, loving, gay women saved me and raised me as their child. They are better parents then my biological parents could've ever been. Ah yes, I'm so thankful for my straight parents
I think the fact that pride is a demonstration and not a celebration is something that many people have forgotten/never learned. Here's your reminder that pride started as a riot
At that point, they're pretty much admitting that all they do is kick downward. That they have all the power and privilege, and they're willing to wield it against others. Okay? Way to prove my point.
This reminds me of my friend who literally two days ago said "I don't get why transgender people (she said it in a much worse way tbh but I'm gonna paraphrase) have to debate their gender all the time, like who cares? Just live your life without talking about it" and when I said people shouldn't have to debate it because it's nobody else's business, but since they're discriminated against and literally killed for being themselves they have to defend themselves, she still didn't understand. She just said (sorry for thansphobia) "but what if women don't want guys who think they're women in their changing rooms" and I was just stumped. Like, people actually think like that outside of extreme internet echo chambers? She's also right-wing so that might explain it. Sometimes I forget people are so narrowminded, and then they remind me and disappoint me so damn much.
Maybe rethink that friendship a bit. Someone who can't respect and have compassion for people literally getting killed won't respect you or think of your feelings when you need it. I hope she rethinks some things
I’d show her a picture of a trans man, and ask which changing room she’d want this person in, and not tell her he’s trans until she’d-correctly-answered that he belongs with others of his gender.
Communal changing rooms are a violation of privacy regardless of gender. Changing rooms should be small, lockable booths for one person at a time. Likewise, toilets should come in lockable stalls. Likewise, showers should come in lockable stalls (except those that sometimes exist in public pools that aren't gender segregated anyway because you're supposed to be wearing swimwear while using them - distinct from the entrance/exit showers that are used to get clean before and/or after the main part of your visit). All of these should be visually insulated from floor to ceiling. No gender segregation, only individual privacy.
What always strikes me about the "why is there no straight pride" crowd is that if it was genuine, there would be a lot of diversity to celebrate. Biological parents, adoptive parents, bonus parents, love overcoming prejudice or racism, young love, finding new love at an old age, sex positivity, sex with disability... god forbid even kink. If you wanted to, there is straight pride to be celebrated that would make total sense, and be inclusive. But that is not what they are asking for...
And straight aces, straight intersex people, heterosexual relationships between people in the LGBTQ community...ect; even straight people who are questioning aspects of their identity. Honestly, we really should have straights represented at pride, if nothing else than to get the bigots to shut up about that. (I am saying this as a bi nb married to a pan in a homosexual-presenting relationship just to be clear before anyone jumps to conclusions)
@@PlatonicLiquid um, those people are represented at pride. Asexuals, intersex people, questioning, those are all under the LGBTQIA+ umbrella. Heterosexuality itself isn't "represented" but there are plenty of people in the alphabet mafia that represent it by being themselves. Also, heterosexual relationships with LGBTQIA+ individuals aren't a valid reason. If two opposite gender bisexuals get together, they are both still bisexual and in a bisexual relationship. Two opposite gender heterosexual trans people can get together, too, and it may be a heterosexual relationship but that doesn't exclude them from pride. Even if only one member of that relationship was trans, it would still be a LGBTQIA+ relationship even though both people are straight. Maybe I read too much into that one in particular because it offended me personally since that's shit I've been told (you're dating X, you're basically straight now!) all my life, but I still feel my point is justified on that one. Plus, hets and cis people aren't bAnNeD or whatever from pride. They can join us to support their LGBTQIA+ loved ones or just show up to party with us. As long as they aren't rude or phobic, everyone can go. Heterosexuality doesn't warrant its own representation. Heterosexuality has no negative connotation in society; it's a default. Saying it needs to be represented in pride is like saying white people need to be represented during black history month. No, that's not for them, and pride isn't for heterosexuality. Pride isn't just a party, chief, it's about awareness. Everyone knows what straight people do, are, what they've done, etc. How many LGBTQIA+ inventors or scientists do you know off the top of your head? Do you know what common things you use were made or the creation/use of made possible because of work done by people in the alphabet mafia? Probably not, right? Pride is meant to raise awareness of those great things we've done but never got credited for, to be loud and demand equal rights, to say we don't deserve to be discriminated against for being born. Heterosexuality does not need that. The bigots can stay mad. They'll never be happy anyway.
@@keythealien All fair points. I guess I just wish more people recognized that you can be straight and queer, and that we can celebrate anyone's identity.
A lot of those things aren’t exclusive to heterosexuals. I definitely understand your point though-the straight pride crowd definitely does not come from a genuine upset, it’s just reactive and pretty homophobic. I wish they had some justification, but it’s mainly just “i am mad when we are not about me” mentality
i knew someone in a discord sever i was in and they put pe/nis next to their name so maybe likw that (i think the person was trying to make fun of peonouns and it wasnt just a joke but if i ever saw nis again i would love to refer to nis with those pronouns)
imagine taking an anti-nazi slogan and making it anti-LGBT, then actually being shocked people hate you for it. the mental gymnastics on some of the straights are just unfathomable.
The videos that you and Shaaba have done helped me find the confidence to come out as Bisexual to my sister!! the first person I ever came out to and it went perfectly, and saying the words out loud felt so right after 25 years of internalised homophobia from the church and my parents and trying to convince myself that i wasn't who I am. I just wanted to say thankyou so much to you both!!!! Also these straights not being okay videos are always great.
Congrats on coming out and hopefully you won't have any trouble with your closest ones as you continue doing so. As someone who's almost certainly straight, I do enjoy these videos but do need to intersect them with wholesomer meme analysis of 'straights being okay' or the ones from trans redit etc. just to not stick only to darker humor or remind myself how recently I held some of these views...
3:53 I turned to my mother looked her dead in the eye patted her arm and said "thanks for my existence mother. " And after and explanation of why she responded " thank you for bringing the rainbow to my life. " And patted me on the back. Great success.
Here's hoping we see a day where there is no need for lgbtqia+ pride. NOT because it's been banned but because it's as normal and acceptable to be lgbtqia+ as it is to be straight
Nah that spongebob meme is accurate. Let's be honest, so many companies use pride as an excuse to make shitty merch and sell it to us when they have no desire to show genuine support (not all companies but a whole lot of them). They're banking on us turning into that Futurama meme of Fry saying "shut up and take my money" and personally I find it infuriating
Irate straights/ super straights/ radical heteros apparently can't be satisfied with heteronormativity. They are striving for heteroexclusivity. And it's entirely too much and so exhausting. To my wonderful rainbow humans, you are so worthy, valid and patient. For an insufficient number of us you are loved, seen, and accepted. You have allies and we won't stop fighting alongside you until you are safe and equal in society. Stay strong my lovelies.
I have a really good example of this. The other day in the lab I found a colour swatch book for paint colours, and they were in all just shoved in at random. I made a comment to a collegue saying they should have arranged it in rainbow order. He got mad and said not everything had to be rainbow and just because I was LGBTQ+ didn't mean everything had to be rainbow, bla bla bla. But that's not the reason I wanted it rainbow to begin with, it would just make sense for colour flow and would make comparing similar colours easier. And you could even argue they are then sorted into light wavelength with is super handy for a lab setting. Just because I like rainbows and use them to organize my space doesn't mean it is always linked to LGBTQ+ things. Sometimes, it's just a rainbow. 🤣
You know what, that last person should get a lil bit of recognition bc they acknowledged the existence of pronouns in terms of themselves and thats a whole step up from the “i dont have any pronouns” crowd
Then again it would be entirely valid if someone did not wish people to use any third-person pronouns whatsoever for said person. Legitimately of course.
5:48 that image with a (probably) heterosexual couple just kissing at some sort of festival and the "why is there no straight pride?" kinda quote on it is just... they were so goddamn close to the answer.
i asked the homophobic kid in my class why he was homophobic. 'Because they have so much more privilege then us and thats unfair!'. That was the same guy that harrased me for saying i was asian even tho i fully am asian. 'You aren't asian, you're just asian fishing!'
The only time my boyfriend has ever had a problem with Pride was when we were trying to get out of York station when seemingly everyone in the world had been there and were trying to get in, and that’s only cos he really hates crowds.
When I go to Pride celebrations, I usually go walk around the gayborbood for a couple of hours and find somewhere else in the City to have dinner so it's not so crowded when I'm taking the train home. I'll take a Pride crowd over St Patrick's, Cinco de Mayo or NYE trainload, though.
@@kidlitfanful the worst are St George’s Day here, mainly because it’s only celebrated by people who post “British by birth, English by the grace of God” on their Facebook and they’re the worst people in the world.
The SpongeBob wallet one was definitely just meant to be homophobic, but if they removed the "Straight Pride Parade" bit they'd kinda be into something about how corporations exploit pride to get more sales all while donating to anti-queer organisations or having unsafe with environments for queer people Basically if you remove half of a conservative meme and ignore all of its context you get a meme that seems somewhat queer positive, I count that as a win lol
Yeah- it's like people won't normally assume you're not straight if you don't say anything, so saying "I'm straight and proud" when nobody asked is literally only there to mock us for clarifying something people wouldn't just naturally assume about us.
I kind of like how the "Entering Heterosexual Area" sign has a kid in a skirt with short hair and a ball cap. So at least the kids are allowed to be GNC?
I think (might be wrong, feel free to correct me) that it’s not a skirt but just rlly wide shorts for kids? And since we can only see the shapes without any defining outlines and division, it might seem like a skirt. So the kid in the middle is probably meant to be a boy. But I like your interpretation way better.
That sexual orientation one reminds me of the time I was filling out a questionnaire at a therapist office and it said “sexual orientation: gay, straight, bisexual, transsexual.” I angrily wrote “Transsexual is not a sexuality!” 😑
some kid back in high school was arguing with a group of LGBT students and asked “why isn’t there a straight pride month” so my teacher interrupted with “every day is straight pride” she was such a legend
LGBTQ community doesn't even call people breeders, lmao. The childfree community use that word, and only for worthless parents who ain't being parents properly
Your videos are amazing and you have this uncanny ability to make me feel better no matter what kind of day, week, etc I've had. Thank you so much for that. ❤️
One of my trans friends got hit on by a cishet in a COD lobby I think and so he called her a straight man when she is a trans lesbian. Everyone else on their team agreed with her and the cishet rage quit out. It was hilarious to hear about
I am a proud straight person. I am proud that I'm not a lesbian anymore! Not because I was magically "healed" from my gayness but because I am a trans-man and I finally had my surgery. I am proud that I can like girls and be straight, because that means I am a real man
Im straight and proud! I guess. I mean im straight. And im proud., though of my accomplishments, my choices, etc. When will they learn that “pride” in this context, or in “im irish and im proud” in the 20s, or “ive had an abortion and im proud” isn’t about actual pride like in our accomplish,enta, but is a stand to say “im here, im just as good as you, stop erasing people who look (or act) like me.”
I’m not the most qualified, but I think a lot of this is a misunderstanding of what the purpose of pride parades are. It’s not just for celebrating being LGBT+ just to celebrate it. It doesn’t mean straight and Cis people don’t matter at all. It’s at least partly about awareness. It’s about saying “We’re here and you cant change us!” We’re not looking for more rights, we want equal rights. No one is trying to change straight or cis people. Just as a point though, please do not glare at a straight person/couple at a pride event unless they’re actually being homophobic/transphobic. They might just be there with their LGBT family. Maybe they’re trans. Maybe they’re bi or pan in a straight relationship. Even just allies. Come on, people!
