Robin Lillian I have, just like countless others. I’ve been called anorexic, malnourished, asked if I ate enough... dragging people down just to raise yourself up is disgusting.
Robin Lillian did you even watch the video? People should be able to do whatever they want with their bodies as long as it’s healthy. I love working out and I eat a lot because of how much I work out. But people don’t know how much I eat and they literally tell me to stop working out and eat more because I’m too thin to be working out. Exercising is healthy and I’ve been told not to exercise because I was “too thin”.
@@robinlillian9471 when I was 13/14 I was almost taken from my family because people thought I was anorexic. I felt so humiliated and hated my body for being so thin at that point. That ain't positive
Bamababii I know right! It’s not fair when I’m a size 10-12 and so badly need the body pos movement yet some bigger people think I don’t belong. I’m recovered from a eating disorder. Any body size belongs in this movement!
Thank you. I love dressing with lots of skin open to the sun and the breeze. When I got old the world was frowning on it. Body positivity got me back into my short shorts and my small tops and I love being me. Also I am 115 lbs. I deserve body positivity too.
I think they should’ve burned pictures of themselves of when they had the worst relationship with their bodies, that’s ten times more healing than shaming models.
"Change does not mean you hate yourself, it means you love yourself enough to put effort into growing!" Cassey, thank you so much for raising that point, it is SO validating to hear someone else say it! ❤
i think the issue is a little more complex than that... sometimes i find myself thinking, i want to lose weight, i want to look more toned, i want lower body fat... but WHY do i want those things? i am already a healthy weight, exercise 6 days a week and eat healthy. so why do i still want to change? i feel it is disingenuous to say that the answer is as simple as "because i just want to". how can you decouple those feelings and desires from the societal pressure to look a certain way? i don't think you can. everything... from clothing ads to instagram to celebrities like cassey... it is hard or almost impossible i think to remove those stressors from the equation. even she has constantly talked about how being a fitness instructor people judged her harshly because she didn't have a 6-pack etc. maybe it is just me.
Body positivity is loving yourself, but I don't know how it turned into not wanting to better yourself. And your videos have always felt like the more real/healthy side of body positivity.
Body positivity has turned into fat positivity. Yes you can be happy and positive with your body while being overweight but glorifying obese isn't okay because it's not healthy same as being very underweight
@@celestialgoddess9859 you missed the point of it. Stop being negative about other people's bodies. Stay in your own lane and worry about your OWN body
When Lexi said "And I feel like they're mad maybe because they wanted a reason to accept their lifestyle and feel like their lifestyle is okay." Thats some deep stuff. I loved this mini doc.
As a healthy size 6-8, the "body positivity" movement doesn't seem to be including me. Models are either size 0 or size 16 and are completely airbrushed, which I don't think is body positive...
As someone who's also size 6-8, 5'5 and perfectly average, I felt you sooo much. It's weird, always from one extreme to another makes us, the middle guys, feel left out. Like, we're supposed to be the majority and it's almost never the case lol.
Tudor Miller exactly! To me, body positivity should be accepting and embracing a large spectrum of healthy bodies. Sure we're making strides in portraying things like stretch marks and cellulite, but we have so much to go. I want to see ads and positivity about women with say noses that have been deemed ugly by society, different breast shapes, different body shapes (pear, rectangular, etc). I want to see women with small eyes and large noses and freckles and every style and texture of hair. I want to see size 4s, 6s, and 8s, muscular, thin, whatever. A variety of ages, you name it! Right now I only see size 0 and size 20, and they both have the same facial features and hourglass figure. Idk that's just my 2 cents...
sometimes I feel they include only the "extremes" (thats not the right word, everyone is beautiful, but you know what I mean) and "we in the middle" are just average and not interesting.
in my opinion, one can be "body positive" whilst wanting to change their own body, but one absolutely cannot be "body positive" whilst wanting to change another person's body, I.e. telling anyone they are not allowed (wtf) to work on transforming their body, especially in a rude manner. Being positive about one's own body and negative about the bodies of others? - that's not how it works for psychologically mature people🤷♀️😆
I think real “Body positivity” is about realizing that your value is independent from appearance, “It is what you do with the gift of life that determines who you are.” -Mewtwo
@@gracefire9067 This, so much. Body Positivity should be about loving yourself enough to do self care (whatever that means for _you_ ) and also respecting other people enough that you encourage them not to hate themselves through fat/skinny shaming or even shaming them about their mental health/illnesses/disabilities/blemishes/birthmarks/whatever, but to love themselves in a way that makes them feel happiest and healthiest.
I’m thin since like forever. That’s just how my body is build. People used to make comments like „you don’t look like a real woman” or „men like curves”. „Why do you exercise? You’re already slim. You don’t need it.” „Careful with that food, do you want to gain weight?” I practice pilates not only to stay in shape but mostly to be stronger, confident and to develope my passion. When fat girls (no offence) claim they’re body positive and love their bodies it’s just fine and brave. When slim girls say so, they’re promoting anorexia. It’s just unfair.
Promotting anorexia or bragging about themselves. I feel you girl. Im like normal-curvy, I work out and always struggle not to loose weight because I don't like when im at a lower weight and want to become stronger. I don't even TRY to talk about my weight and struggle with people around.. Mostly they end up telling me im so lucky to loose weight so easily.
I have friends who WANT ANOREXIA. They think it’ll make them healthier and prettier. I even tried so hard to convince them that that’s not how it works.
Yeah like I used to like my body and then I got comenta saying I’m too skinny, I’m a twig, I was told my fingers are too skinny, I had people asking if I could gain weight, they told my brother I look like a door, etc. And I didn’t see anything wrong with my body before
Exactly, body positivity should be loving yourself whatever you look like and supporting others whatever decision they make. If you want a 6 pack, awesome. If you don't, that's also awesome, it should be about feeling comfortable in your own skin and doing what feels best for you
I want one, but I don't think I can get one in a healthy way.... :( So I won't. Well, being strong and healthy is way more important. Looks are a bonus.
@xc5647321 xc5647321 " (it looks better though)" There's no arguing about taste. I don't think it looks better than a flat tummy without visible and defined 6 pack. It's a good thing we don't all like the same things :)
@xc5647321 xc5647321 Depends on what you define as a 6 pack. At my idea of a 6 pack (very cut and defined) most men answer that they think it's a little too much. Doesn't mean they wouldn't date her though. Everyone would date their preferred body if they had the sexual currency, but still differences in taste exist. My preferred body doesn't align with some other people's preferred body, I know that for a fact. Most men probably have the same tastes, with some outliers here and there.
Why not ? It's weird how size zero women or plus size women are celebrated. But muscular women with big biceps and hard tight abs are ridiculed. Or called Transwomen.
you can't support someone who becomes, on purpose, anorexic or overweight tho it'd be unhealthy for the person and not responsible from you to let it happen
Honestly, i stopped using the term "body positive" when it became commercialized and commodified. It has no meaning. It means whatever the person using it wants it to mean, for good or for bad.
Exactly, some people think of it as only one thing and think others aren’t counted in body positivity, while others think it means anything that is related to the body, as well as whether wanting to change something about yourself counts for being body positive or not.
My favorite thought I've heard about this topic is "instead of changing how we talk about beauty, maybe we should talk about beauty LESS" let what people look like especially women not be the main criteria their worth is measured on.
That’s wishful thinking.. women value will always be measured with beauty especially by ken cause men will always be biological inclined to be more attracted to beautiful women. We cant change nature and biology nomattter what we do
@@buyi249 shit like what you just said brings the movement down. Women do not exist solely to please men and attraction is so subjective. It’s not wishful thinking to change our minds, expect more from men and diversify our conversations
being someone who was extremely thin to being borderline obese - people have the same perception: you're never gonna be good enough. I never really felt like I'm me even when I wore nice clothes. Body positivity is not a movement. it's a mentality that needs to be addressed.
As someone who is in that "in-betweener" area, it really feels like no one is marketing towards me. There's thin models and plus-sized models but I haven't found any marketing to that 8-14 range. It's really discouraging cause I never feel like I looks right in the clothes i wear. Idk just food for thought.
@@LisaMarieDC Really tho! I'm pretty fit as well but my waist is super high and my hips are wide. No one makes clothes that flatter my body type. This happens a lot with fitness gear. My leggings never sit right.
@@raothon Thanks for sharing with me, because I really felt alone. As far as leggings go I've always had very good luck with Nike. I don't mind paying because they last forever, and fit me very well. XX
"Body positivity" should be synonymous with self-care, in the sense that you should self-parent instead of indulging in every whim. Eat a variety of vegetables, get your body moving, drink water, get annual bloodwork and checkups, monitor your mental health, keep toxic people out of your life, and much more. The takeaway message is "take care of the one body you get to have in this life", regardless of what size you are. Someone else who shames you for being a specific size isn't a priority in your life because they don't actually give a damn about your health or well-being. For reference, I'm 5'6", 180 lbs and a size 12-14, and I do most of the above (except exercise - sorry Cassey 😂) but I'm getting better about making daily exercise a habit so I can be a good role model for my family (no children yet). I won't lie and say I'm super happy or comfortable in my body, but it's only because I didn't start good self-parent self-care in my 20s and now I'm paying the price in my 30s (hip pain, chronic fatigue, poor aerobic capacity, PTSD, anxiety, depression, etc.). I don't care if I'm a size 2 or size 22 - I just don't want to be in constant pain or be winded going up/down a single flight of stairs.
That's such a good point about the self-parenting instead of the indulging "self-care" we see so much on social media! I'm wishing you all the best for your future journey :)
@@kotaniyumiko It is hard. But it can be done. Especially if you have the luck of realizing that´s what the situation is. If someone is being abusive or toxic, they are the problem. Not you. Them. Whatever they say, it reflects on themselves. It´s actually kind of pathetic if someone feels the need to do that to others.
I recommend reading a book called “Beauty Sick: How the Obsession with Appearance Hurts Women and Girls”. The author, Renee Engeln, talks about how body positivity doesn’t work because we are still putting beauty at the forefront of importance. She argues that beauty is like a computer program, you can’t delete the software but you can run other programs more, such as talking about our dreams, failures, hobbies, etc. Regardless if someone is thinking well of our bodies or not, the problem is not in our view of our body but our obsession with it, either positive or negative. Especially if we are not viewing our bodies as functional, and capable of activities other than appearing attractive.
"capable of activities" - obese people are capable of very few activities, and it is not someone else's fault. The reason body-positivity doesn't work is because it glamorizes unhealthy choices, people really don't need to try and come up with social theories.
I taught my daughters what my Mom taught me. "It's not what you look like that matters. It's what you attract that matters" I had no curves, Small breasts, Short skinny body. But at the end of the day I attracted a very successful Real estate developer for a husband.
I have always been a very slim girl. I get comments sometimes telling me to “eat more” or “get curves”. I don’t think that people realise that body positivity is for everyone,INCLUDING skinny women.
Why don't any of those same people tell you to gain muscle like s female body builder ? It seems everyone is into women being plus size. I've seen the RU-vid videos of women gaining weight to be in The Guinness Book Of Records as the 'Worlds Fattest Woman'
I love how Cassey is so bright and positive in this video but you can see her firm and controlled anger behind her eyes! Like she's taking all her pain and turning it into a calm but firm argument. Cassey, I am so sorry you'd had to go through all the stuff you've been through since August. I love you, stay strong ❤
Well it seems everyone is obsessed with either losing weight or gaining weight. But no one is obsessed with gaining muscle to get big biceps and hard tight abs. Why ?
Thank you for uploading this Cassey and for taking a stance against people who are shaming you to conform to their definition of body positivity. Ironically, those who flame you are doing the opposite of advocating for body positivity by making you feel bad about your personal progress. It's just a projection of insecurity - ridiculously gatekeeping "body positivity" is too common in today's "cancel culture." Please just keep doing YOU, cuz you're killing it as always! You continue to inspire me 7 years later. :)
Body positivity, to me, is doing what's positive for your body! I've been thin for most of my life but I gained 35 pounds in 2 years from dealing with a ln ectopic pregnancy, a near fatal asthma attack, and other stressful factors. I gave up on myself. I told myself it didn't matter if I gained weight because I still had that sexy hourglass shape. I've spent the last 10 months making healthier food choices and doing moderate exercise to help my body feel BETTER! Since losing 30 pounds my hips and back don't hurt as much, I'm able to breathe better, and I'm happier because I chose to honor my body and relationships. I want my body to be healthy so that I can carry a healthy pregnancy, and I need my mind to be healthy to raise healthy children. I never lost weight because I hate myself, I did it to show myself some love. If that isn't body positivity, I don't know what is.
you are so strong i know how hard those things must have been for you but it's so awesome to hear that you are doing better now! good luck with the pregnancy!!
This is making me so emotional, it's ridiculous. This video is setting a perfect example on how you can recognise a precious, strong and pure-hearted person that is capable of handling the hate and transforming it into personal growth, while also enriching the community, educating people and lifting others up. Truly positive and inspiring, two very much needed feature in today's world. Thank you so so much, Cassey. 💖
I really loved this video!!!! I'm 47, and have been overweight my entire adult life, I once weighed 320 lbs. I was always told to lose weight, your stomach is too big, etc. It made me feel less than, unattractive. In my 20's and 30's losing weight was about appearance. Now that I'm 47, losing weight means so much more. It means quality of life. It means feeling good mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically. It means being healthy. I understand the obsession many have to lose weight, because looking smaller means to many, acceptance. Many think that if they lose weight, they will feel better about themselves. Iit has been my experience, that you will not be happy until you fix what's in between your ears. The definition of body positivity to me is loving yourself for who you are at this moment, warts and all. But loving your body also means taking care of your body. Our body needs movement. Our body needs to be well nourished. Our body, mind and soul needs TLC. Losing weight should be the side effect of doing all those things. Fat shaming is wrong. Thin shaming is wrong. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes.
When Cassey said, "If a person wants to grow and embark on their own journey in a healthy way, LET THEM," I felt that. I think the definition of 'body positivity' is a bit loose so I'll describe her as a positive person because I've always known and seen her as a positive person. It means a lot that she still encourages us and made this video even after getting so much hate. She's truly such a strong and positive individual. Thank you so much for exploring what 'body positivity' means and always empowering us to be stronger, Cassey!
*I'm seriously shook by the double standard in the modeling agency. And in media in GENERAL! You're damned if you're too skinny and you're damned if you're too "fat", or not skinny enough or not fat enough. At the end of the day, I've learned to just do m regardless of what other people think. THey know nothing and they're not relevant.*
Right! Crazy how disproportionate a "plus size" model is to a "straight size" model. So media tells us if your fat you need to be extreme curvy like an hour glass. Where on the other hand be thin with no curves. Just look at history... It was really no different then either with trends and standards. Nowadays it just seems more acceptable to show more skin. #justbeyou Love your comment!!
The double standard doesn't surprise me. The fashion industry likes extremes because it is easier to visualize. If it is easier for someone to visualize then they might be more likely to purchase. They do not care about inclusivity or "body positivity" because it is the right thing to do. They tout it and say they are because it makes money. I feel like smaller individual brands can work on being more inclusive because they are more hands on but the down side is that as a small company they may not have as much money to throw at it like Aerie or Lane Bryant or Macy's.
I'm a very thin girl, whenever I see girls posting body positivity all I see or hear is "it's okay to have fat belly" or "thicker the better" It feels like I don't belong in that community even tho I really want to, I got body shamed my entire life especially from fat people, it's like they have the right to judge me. Why do people think that skinny people don't have feelings and can say shit about their bodies. I never say anything back coz I don't want to hurt their feeling
Sonia Susan YES, EXACTLY THIS!!! I've been thin my entire life. I have an extremely fast metabolism which always made keeping and putting any weight on difficult, so as a result I've been underweight my whole life. Everyone around me would comment on my body: the curves that I "lack", how skinny I look, how sick I look, question whether I eat anything, and question whether I deliberately have an eating disorder to be thin. A huge misconception is that everyone who is on the thinner side wants to be thin, and that's absolutely not the case at all. Nobody has ever told me that I am allowed to be okay with my body no matter how it looks. I was never taught that, so I struggled so much to accept it. The thing is too that even when I was underweight I still felt very healthy. I never got sick, I never had issues with fatigue, I still very much loved food and would eat a lot even if I couldn't keep any weight on, and I also had a healthy consistent menstrual cycle (when you're underweight, depending on how severely underweight, it can cause you to not have any menstrual cycles). I have successfully put on a bit of weight and I'm at a "healthier" weight now but honestly I feel no different than where my body was before the weight gain. I did want the weight gain, and I'm happy that I don't look super thin anymore, but I wish that I didn't have to feel so much shame for having a naturally thin figure, I wish I weren't so hard on myself before the weight gain, and I wish I could've loved my body throughout the entire journey.
Sonia, I'm not thin girl, but I've seen and heard this happen which is BULLSHIT! I've always stepped up to say something because I've never been okay with it, and it's so HYPOCRITICAL! I've always thought, putting down others does not lift you up. If loving myself as a fat woman means disrespecting thinner women then my self love isn't really love and is coming from a place of hate and shame. I'm sorry this happens to you and I understand the stigma you would receive by speaking out, but I support you and your body, no matter what.
My personal definition of body positivity. Loving your body. No matter if you change it or not. Workouts, surgery, or just doing nothing to it. Whatever will make you happy with yourself and not judging others for doing the same thing their way
There are probably a lot of other things feminist publications say that you’d be surprised by. There are a LOT of lies in the feminist movement. Including the idea that women weren’t allowed to work or go to school before they came along.
So you think the message that black lives matter ISNT meant for white people?! That makes no sense. If you want the world to be better for black people then you gotta have the white people who effect their lives on board. Duh.
Body positivity is all about being happy with your body, loving your body no matter what shape colour or size it is. Body positivity to me means keeping your body healthy and happy. Loving my body through the belly bloats or through the breakouts or tan or even through the flab when I get sick or during the holidays or whenever I'm lazy and just don't feel like working out for the week. You have absolutely made a huge impact on how I see things before and after i started watching your videos because now I accept my body for the way it is..... All thanks to you Cassey. You definitely are body positive because you promote us to be happy in your own skin by sharing you experience of having insecurities and still accepting them. I don't think you wanting to make changes to your body should mean you're not body positive anymore. Besides before every one of your videos you tell us that the changes don't have to be physical, like it's ok to have cellulite, it's ok not to have a bigger booty .You helped me realise I can be happy in my body without having to beat myself about not having a bigger booty or having man shoulders or having no curves at all. You make us realise body positivity is all about accepting our body and loving it through changes. You go gurlllll💕
Oh wow. OH WOW!! Those superficially "tolerant" people just simply lack empathy --and *that's* a true shame. I feel so sorry for you! You did nothing even remotely questionable! Thank you for still continuing your youtube channel and not letting those *severely* insulting comments bring you down. I am amazed how well you take such rude attacks! You go, girl! Kudos for standing up to all those bullies! 🙏
To me, to be body positive is to celebrate your body even for all it’s “ flaws” it’s to make anyone feel comfortable on either side of the spectrum. It’s also about celebrating all the wonderful things our bodies are capable of. Ladies, please allow all women to live as they wish, even if it means making changes. It’s up to the individual. You have to be happy and most of all healthy mentally and physically.
I prefer BODY HEALTHY over body positivity. THere a many that are living unhealthy (medically unhealthy--- thin and thick folk) lifestyles and are positive about their body (good for them) -- ultimately one ought to strive for BODY HEALTHY. anywho...…...this whole video felt like a DIG to those that are not in agreement with the journey. DO you, give the hand to the naysayers and move on.
Funny thing is that there are some people who would take issue even with that, unfortunately. I've seen people claim that promoting health automatically means being disrespectful towards people living with some disability 🤦♀️ Goes to show that even with the best intentions you can never win everyone. Probably the best we can do is strive to feel the best in our bodies, whatever that means for us practically :)
What I don’t get is that a lot of fat positive activists / groups take their ideas to the point that nobody is allowed to change and improve their body... like loving yourself enough to make healthy choices is one of the most body positive things you can do!
Amanda F the intention for fat positivity is also to not see being skinny as inherently being more healthy. improving your health is not the same as losing weight. there’s some new studies that having more body fat is healthy especially when fighting diseases. because stored fat protects you.
@@shadowwolfgems8134 You wouldn't think so, but there are science-deniers who think it's healthy. You can still be a beautiful, good person and be unhealthy.
This is gonna sound wild but imo rather then making "body positivity" about "loving oneself" it should be about "acknowlaging self worth". I feel in putting all the focus on trying to get ppl to "love themselves" the idea has mutated into a type of mental bondage where ppl feel more pressure to change or stay the same regardless of whether or not it's in their best interest. Imo, in encouraging ppl to acknowledge their self worth and the worth of others as human deserving of respect over trying to "love themselves" we better allows one to say "I don't like this, I want to change" or "I like this and I am fine where I am" without guilt. Tbc I'm not saying ppl shouldn't strive to love themselves on the contrary I think in working on acknowledging their self worth, the loving self AND others will come naturally regardless of where they are at the moment. It all about mental framing.
"Body positivity" and "fat positivity" aren't necessaril synonymous. Body positivity is loving your body. Wanting to be healthy and taking care of your body is still body positivity. Its okay to be happy where you are and still want to change. Be happily discontent :-)
@Bubble Buster I don't agree. Source; I went to fashion school. Plus sized models exist because the market wants to see what the clothes look like on bigger bodies aka there was a demand for it and the industry responded to that demand by having plus sized models model plus sized clothes, plus sized models don't exist to normalize obesity or to pretend it's healthy. Underweight models exist because of a variety of reasons, including saving money and time (and time is money) on sample sizes and to create a bare canvas to let the clothes shine in a matter of speaking. Underweight models became standard in the 90's (60's Twiggy wasn't standard in the 60's so that doesn't count) and from then on it has been difficult to remove from the industry. Designers found out they could save a lot of money by having every model be the same small size. Designers found out having a model with almost no curves (and no bouncing breasts and swaying hips) meant that the focus was on the clothes a lot more, and in the hyper minimalist haute couture of the 90's they needed this. It's also much easier to add to a figure than to take volume away. So designers can build around slim straight up and down figures by adding padding/volume where they want to add it, and sell a variety of different looks that way. I also don't think using underweight models was to promote that as the ideal. It has been an unfortunate side effect of it though. Whereas plus sized models became more common because of the rise in obesity, not the other way around.
@@tudormiller8898 I only know of one female bodybuilder who complains about body positivity. But that's probably because l don't know any other female body builders, so who knows how many there are. When they do talk badly about body positivity imo that's kind of a not so wise choice of them since that just opens up the flood gates more for the hate they already receive for deciding to look a certain way. The following strikes me as s little hypocritical too: the female body builder I've seen complains about body positivity but also complains about people telling her she looks manly. So she takes issue with body positive people who are working hard on accepting their natural flaws (stretch marks, hip dips, bow legs, etc.) and she says body positivity is a bad concept, but when someone calls her manly or says something about her body that isn't positive she's suddenly the victim.
My thought: body positivity is about loving and caring about your body no matter what stage it's at... and not shaming anyone else for whatever stage their body is at, and instead celebrating all that each body is able to do. But I do know some people who say they're body positive while they tear others down which is quite irritating.
I’ve also been told that I hate myself because I decided to change my lifestyle to become healthier, but I have never felt so good about myself as I do now. I’m not body positive, I don’t stand for it, I don’t get into it and I don’t support what it is today. However, I believe that everyone should be the best version of themselves, regardless of how they look. Everyone deserves to be happy, everyone deserves love and support. But I see very little of that in the body positivity community and I think that is why it’s scary to try to step into the community. The body positivity community helped me a lot back in 2015-2016, and helped me look at myself a different way. But I can’t support what it is today, it’s toxic and people are being bullied and silenced when they talk about changing and wanting a healthier life.
I love this comment! I mentioned that I wanted to lose a bit of fat around my stomach and my arms and a close family member immidiately (she is very Into the BP-movement) went Into how "I don't love myself and how what I'm doing is toxic." But I don't see it that way. I was never happy with my body growing up and I was bullied for it. In the last couple of years I have been able to lose a bit of weight and I am so proud of myself. I feel so much better. It's like conventionally thin people can't be unhappy with our bodies which I think is just plain stupid. Shaming someone for wanting change isn't positive - it's toxic. Now I can definitely see how what I'm doing can be triggering and may sound dangerous, but I'm not trying to lose weight. I'm actually happy with my weight. I'm keeping track of what I'm eating and I exercise, and I sometimes weigh myself to make sure I haven't lost weight. I don't think wanting change should be met with so much hate.
Thatd be awesome :D ObeseToBeast already made a video on this, i need to see the rest of the "Swolevengers" (as some people have been calling them) react to this as well✌
This video was on my recommendations. I clicked it out of curiosity. And I must say I loved the video. This is one of the few videos that gave a balanced approach to this. Taking perspectives from different people and coming to a conclusion that actually is acceptable to everyone. I believe this is what body positivity should be like.
This video is amazing! Thank you. I’ve been so confused. I have always struggled with my weight from a child, and have had some horrendous experiences with being shamed about my weight. I managed in my late 20’s to control my weight at a size 14-16 going to the gym. Then had a car accident that damaged my spine and made me less active. I ballooned to 23.7 stone( approx 138kgs) by the time i was in my late 30’s and was constantly shamed for my size. I had emergency surgery 15 months ago to stop me being paralysed from the waist down and it was successful. I have since lost a lot of weight and now weigh 67kg and all my health problems have disappeared with the weight. I hated my body when I was large due to the reactions I got from people. My partner stayed with me through out, we celebrate 27 years together this year. But with the weight loss I have experienced sagging skin and am now trying to love myself for a second time round. I have watched vids on ‘ body positivity’ and have been left confused as to what it means.....do I need to be large to feel it? And this has made sooooo much sense! It doesn’t matter what size, colour, shape, height ECT you are, being ‘body positive’ is loving yourself and others for who you are no matter what you look like. And striving to be healthier cannot be deemed as a negative thing! Why can’t we all just accept and love each other regardless of what we look like, if that’s the size we are, if we have any ‘imperfections’ ( usualy socially motivated ), our colour, what clothes we like to wear, ECT, ect. We should all have the basic right to feel comfortable in our own skins, regardless. We all have feelings, we are ALL beautiful in our own ways and we all have journeys that are unknown to the person judging us. I hope one day I can wear the things I would like without the stares I now get when they notice my ‘shrinkles “ on my upper arms. A ‘seconds’ glance I can understand, but when they stare and you can see the almost disgust on their face (and some people can’t seem to stop the stare once started) makes me feel so ashamed, and I’m working on ignoring this, believe me! Just wish people would think, like I said, they don’t know your journey in life, and stop and think how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot, we are all the same really, all human and all have feelings. Thanks again, this video has made me understand ‘body positivity’ and I am going to strive to achieve this as soon as possible.
I'm so so so happy you made this video and addressed this situation. Body positivity for me has always been about loving yourself despite what society may say and I think that everyone has twisted the term to mean something it's not. I'm so glad you talked about this and spread the word about what's happening❤❤
All the articles you linked, all the research you did, all the people you contacted, it's truly amazing. Your body, your choice, applies to everything's.
I love how u actually gave an effort to become educated about the topic! And in turn, u educate others. Thats how to take criticism to grow (even if I don't agree w how people shamed u for your 90 day journey)
So when I see this types of things I think, imagine if I love my long idk blonde hair. I love it so much. But then, one day, I want something new. My hair takes to much time to take a good care of, it makes my neck feel sweaty, it makes me feel hot. So I cut it short, maybe I dye it red. And I STILL LOVE MY HAIR, I love it now and maybe I love it more than when it was long and blonde. Changing something doesn’t mean that 1. Something was not good enough 2. The change will be worst. If you decide to lose weight because of health reasons, because you want something new, because of looks because of whatever it shouldn’t matter why you do it, just how. It should matter that everyone learned to have a healthy lifestyle, to be body positive and love themselves just how they are, without engaging in ED. Body positive should be a sign that you can love your body through the whole process, that even if you gain/lose weight you don’t need to be obsessed with that number on the scale because you are enough no matter what. That does not mean you can not change, it only means loving yourself even before the change starts, sometimes it even means loving yourself enough to say “this is harming me, I want to stop and take care of my body”. And by that I don’t mean only losing weight because your doctor said so, but also gaining weight because that’s what’s healthy for you. There are always two sides and extremes are never good in neither of them
Body positivity to me means accepting the way my body looks like at any given time while working on making it stronger and healthier everyday. I've been a popster for over 3 years now and I'm so so happy to have someone as amazing as you, Cassey, as a part of my life. I've never even realized that body positivity can have so many different definitions! And they're all beautiful as long as they make who said them happy!
This is such an important topic! I feel like the meaning of body positivity gets misconstrued all the time and the minute you talk about goals for yourself, you can be seen as having bad body image. So grateful for your videos and your attitude!! ❤️
You are the most positive, real person and trainer . You are so beautiful and awesome . You made my own personal life special by sharing your struggles and thoughts. You are such an inspiration 💖
I wanted to see this video a long time ago and finally I sat down and saw it calmly: I think that body positive is about recognizing how you feel in your own skin and if there is something that you think has to change (like eating healthier, choose a type of exercise or just getting some rest) you go for it! Just because you notice and for some reason, you want to make a change in your life, for your body and for making yourself feel better, it dose NOT mean is bad! I don’t think that being body positive is only about accepting your body(which btw is super important). But like Cassie said, is a way to evolve… so later we can teach others, in a good/healthy way, when it comes to their body acceptance! ❣️ I loved the video Cassie! Thank you for teaching us things like this!❣️
Weight loss often has nothing to do with body positivity. As an ‘in-between’ I know that struggle, I am too thin to be fat and too fat to be thin. I have been my whole time life, always on this balancing point of either end. I realized one day that I am normal, and I am happy with being normal. I don’t feel comfortable in my skin some days and other days I love that extra layer of fat around middle. I read your post about your results and have some of the same risks you have. While I am working on weight loss and healthy life styles changes it’s for my HEALTH. I am 27 and at risk for becoming type 2 diabetic, along with having extremely high cholesterol for my age. I am choosing to loose weight thru working out and practicing yoga, so I can live a life without fear of having to be on medication to maintain my cholesterol or blood sugar. Watching your journey and your choice to leave a diet that was benefiting you once you knew it wasn’t the best for your body make up, proves how body positive you are. Because to me being body positive is loving yourself but also loving yourself enough to know when to make chooses to take care of yourself. Everyone is beautiful and everyone is great the way they are. But it is your body and your CHOICE, so everyone who says you aren’t being positive isn’t being fair. If you want to build a more athletic shape do it! It’s your body and you are more of an inspiration for loving yourself enough to stand up and say ‘Hey! I’m doing what’s right for me back off!’. So thank you for helping a in-betweeny gain more confidence in her choices. And thanks for always having videos that kill my calves and make me yell at you in the video, because your attitude helps me push myself to becoming healthy and making my life longer. So thank you.
Body positivity to me means loving and accepting your body throughout ALL of its stages - whether you’re trying to lose weight, gain weight, or grow stronger. It’s also learning to love and accept the changes in our body, such as stretch marks, body hair, hair loss, acne, cellulite, etc. We all have different goals when it comes to our personal lifestyles, and I think body positivity should involve everyone rooting for each other - regardless of the body type you have. Less comparing and excluding, more support and love! ❤️ P.S. I’m one of those silent subscribers that rarely comments on videos, but I just wanted to show you some love because I’ve been a fan for at least 8 years and I’ve always loved your energy and positivity! Thank you for being real ❤️
Body positivity to me: doing things that are good for your body, treating your body kindly, feeding yourself good food when you need it, enjoying the world through your body., enjoying all the things your body can do, experiencing the world and your fullest potential physically. Which is why I have unsubscribed entirely from the "body positive" and "fat acceptance" movement. My body moves best when I'm in a certain weight and size bracket. My body functions best on whole foods.
I agree with your definition of body definition completely, and I can definitely relate to it. I think that instead of removing ourselves from the body positivity movement, we should try to remove the strict “rules” applied by others, encourage others to love their bodies without forcing them to change, and help people see that they define the term “body positivity” themselves - and that they are allowed to do whatever they please with *their* bodies. We should try to take our focus away from the fat acceptance movement, though. That is a whole different movement than the body positive movement, and it tells those who wish to lose weight because of health issues - or because they simply want to - that they should stay the way they are & if they don’t then they don’t truly “love” themselves.
^It’s also great to see that you know what your body needs to stay healthy and that you have your own individual way of viewing your body positively :)
Cassey, when I was very depressed and unhappy with my body and life 2 years ago, I found your videos and your workout plans. They were free, I could do them at home and they made me feel empowered. In a year, I lost 15 pounds which was a really big deal for me. I support you in your 90 day journey because I understand wanting to make changes in your life. What turned me off though and made me feel slightly uncomfortable is that you had numerical goals. In a way I was projecting my own issues, I admit. I stopped weighing and measuring myself very early on when I started working out with you. After the first month of working out with you, I was feeling really good about myself and my strength and then...I got on a scale and when I saw the number I sobbed uncontrollably. It was the heaviest I had ever been. I felt like such a failure and was even more negative to myself. My whole life I have struggled with the numbers. My whole life everyone has told me that I had to weight below 140 pounds for my height because that’s the standard. But my body retains water, bloats, and has large hips. My weight fluctuates depending on how much I sleep, what my mental health is like, what kind of food I eat, what my bowel movements are like...and so forth. I don’t have a goal weight anymore. I have a “do these pants feel extra tight?” goal now. I had to be realistic and tell myself the number on the scale was my enemy. Getting stronger and breaking my own preconceived notions about my strength were my new goals. Long story short, what I’m trying to say is that when I followed your 90 day journey, what I saw was a person who would work herself to death to achieve a certain number, be it weight, be it fat percentage. And that scares me because your life should not revolve around numbers. Again, I know I am projecting my own issues and that’s not fair, because we all live in our own bodies the way we want to, and no one should tell us what to do, but I do worry about other women who are struggling with not achieving the weight and look they’ve been told they have to have who look up to you and now are told by the person they trust the most that reaching a certain number is advisable. Keep doing you. Keep spreading positivity into the world and know there’s someone on this planet whose life you saved with your videos.
This is exactly what she has done for me! I used to hate myself but now through her I'm learning to love myself while going on my weight loss journey instead of using the journey to hurt myself instead.
I've found that focusing on practicing healthy behaviours instead of focusing on the number on the scale or on calorie counting has been an extremely body positive change for me! This doesn't mean I don't want to lose weight, or that I won't lose weight in the process, but it does mean that I am loving and caring for my body in the best way I can at any size.
Love this video, Cassey - you did a fantastic job addressing this in the most respectful way. It frustrates me that people think gaining weight is okay in body positivity, but losing weight suddenly isn't. Fluctuations in weight are not terribly different from fluctuations in your general appearance like your clothing style (you might go from preppy to street fashion// loose clothes to tight clothes), or your hair color/cut (blonde to pink), or what hobby brings you joy (dancing to painting), or even how you feel about certain people. It is so stupid to me that people think a person should stay the same forever, when we are constantly changing. Our bodies, thoughts, friends, belongings, homes all change "naturally" -- and "naturally" includes when we feel like it. People nowadays get too involved in the lives of influencers and other personalities, and, just like Lexi said, want you to be their "model" and "justification" for their lifestyle. They take the label of being a "follower" on social media wayyy too far.
This was an amazing video. I've been subscribed to you since around 2011 when I was only like 14 years old. I stopped watching for a few years, and recently found your channel again after all of this crazy "controversy" went down. I know exactly what you're talking about with the whole body positivity movement being so complex and hard to understand. I'm also a relatively thin person who sometimes wants to lose a few pounds, wondering if I'm even technically allowed to be body positive by the many definitions of it. The past 10 years has also been a confusing time to grow up, as the "instagram" beauty standard has changed so much. I have proportionally bigger hips/butt compared to the rest of my body and when I was younger I was constantly insecure about it. At some point in the last few years there's been this crazy shift where people will tell me I have a fat butt and mean it as a compliment instead of an insult and IT'S SO BIZARRE. It would be amazing for you to make a video analyzing not only body positivity but the crazy shift in 'body trends' in the last decade that's gone along with it. To me, body positivity has meant accepting that my body is always changing and always will be. Not allowing myself to define my mood by how much i weigh, and accepting that fitness is a lifetime journey that will never be a straight line. If I set a short term weight loss goal, realizing that I may gain it back and it's not the end of the world because I have my whole life to repeat and evolve the process. I make a conscious effort to not talk about my own fitness or weight around others unless they specifically ask, because it's such a fragile topic for so many. Also supporting that other people are on their own individual journeys I know nothing about, and to not really ever comment on someone else's body even if I think it's something positive. (Ex. People telling me I have a fat butt as a compliment, when it makes me extremely uncomfortable. Best to not comment.) I know that everyone has different definitions, but this is roughly what makes sense to me. Really, our bodies should be the least interesting thing about us. The problem is, as women we've been raised with the media ingraining into us that our bodies are the ONLY thing that matters. All we can do is try our best to do whatever makes us feel good. Thank you for making this video.
I have been following you since forever, I even remember and still love some of the very old ab workouts. And honestly you are the most relatable trainer EVER as I feel like seeing your body change through the years is very similar to what I’ve been doing and how my body has changed through the years. I love how you do things for you especially the 90 day transformation because it was for you. Sometimes we just need to something for ourselves and enjoy it and love it. In my case I workout for health reasons, I have severe asthma and working out helps my lungs a ton but I also adore rocking a bikini and looking strong and fit and I really don’t do it for anyone else, I do it for me as I just love how it makes me feel. You do you ! Thank you for all of your videos 😀
Thank you Cassey for this video. I was also very confused regarding the 'body positive'. This video really cleared my head. For me body positive means to love your body in all stages and not be ashamed of it. Love you 💖
I have to really thank you for explaining your thoughts..I love you and thank you again for educating me and making me feel myself..I think that body positive cannot be defined but in general it means that loving your body with or without wanting to change it for yourself🌷
The media doesn't make sense. I totally agree with you Cassey! You have helped me start the healthy habit of exercising and doing this is real body positivity, loving your body so much that you take care of it by being healthier! You've helped me feel stronger and more beautiful. I want to do the 90-day challenge now. You are awesome! lots of love
Literally just started the video and I have to say something. You are an amazing and lovely woman. Don’t let people define what that your body should be. Your body, your choice and people shouldn’t bully you into what they think is being body positive.
Body positivity: loving yourself physically mentally and emotionally no matter where you’re at, and accepting and appreciating others bodies (physically, mentally, and emotionally as well) wherever they’re at, loving yourself is doing things to make yourself the happiest and healthiest version of yourself you can be and loving yourself through physical mental and emotional growth
I love this video! I think it‘s an important topic because I feel like some people just try to make their definition of body positivity an official definition or rule that everyone has to follow. Maybe to feel better about their body or lifestyle, maybe for some other reasons. In my opinion, body positivity is loving your body for what it can do and the way it looks like. And if you want to change your body to get stronger, faster, healthier, prettier (in your view),etc. it‘s your choice. It‘s your body, take care of it and love it, doesn‘t matter which shape, size,… it is.
Good job girl. Take that high road. I'm taking the thought away from this video that we shouldn't strive to fit definitions without fully realizing what they mean. This was cool of you to talk about.
The body positive movement has had a similar effect on me. Everytime I want to set goals and work out I get similar backlash from friends and family and coworkers. I have become unhealthy and unhappy in my body, ironically due to me suppose to be "body positive"in a body that is overweight and affecting my health. I completely agree. Body positive is not a weight. Unfortunately the movement has seem to put this label on it that skinny is bad and doing exactly what movement was trying to prevent in the first place:body shaming. There is a massive difference in wanting to be healthier or achieve a certain look than having body dysmorphia which is what I think is what the movement was orginally attempting to combat.
So if you wanted to go to the gym and tone your body like a women bodybuilder. Would your family, friends etc be more positive ? Or is it because you want to lose weight ?
hi cassey! I am so proud of you for doing this because for a few years ive been shamed for leg fat and being to chubby even though im under weight for my age. so yeah. thanks for this!
Totally agree with the founder of body positivity. If it makes you happy, if it makes you healthy (physically and mentally) of course weight loss should be body positive. I am losing weight in a sustainable way with my nutritionist, I work out, I eat healthy (but not restrictive). I feel great, I feel strong, I am developing a healthy relationship with food, my PCOS symptoms are decreasing, I feel confident in ways i never had before in my life. Why shouldn’t that be body positive when it’s doing me so much good? Thank you for such an great insight on the matter
Body positivity can definitely include having a weight loss goal - when I was at the absolute pits of depression, my physical abilities had deteriorated so much that I could barely get myself up off the couch (literally - not just emotionally but physically) and every part of my body literally hurt. It felt like my skin would split open at any moment. It doesn't matter how accepting the world around me is (and I do hope we push the world to be more accepting of every shape, including my own former shape), I was so uncomfortable, physically, that I could never have been happy. I got into muscle-building activities specifically (my ankles rebuke jogging, but I do try to get cardio in via swimming or riding my bike when I can...its just harder to work those in) and I'm still a chonky person and I know I always will be (unless I strike it rich and can afford to pay people to shape me elsewise, but that's not something I'd want to do even if I had money, so...), but I definitely lost weight in the process. I had to set specific goals for myself, though, because otherwise I probably never would have budged.
Thank you so much for making this video. I never knew the background of body positivity. I never knew that padding was a thing for plus size models. For me body positivity is loving yourself the way you are and supporting others in how they are as well, on the inside and outside.
Ive got to say that this video was really insprational. Ive only just started to watch your channel because I was looking for lower ab workouts to get rid of my muffin top and I found a creator and community that seems very supportive. The message of body positivity also helped me realize that wanting to be in better shape doesn't mean Im body negative, but that I am strovong for better body positivity and body confidence. Thank you for this 💕
Cassey, I have been following you for eight years and you have brought so much joy to my life! Keep inspiring others to live healthy! Your true fans aren't going anywhere!