For me, if that man is aware of his pride and ego, and is ACTIVELY working on it within themselves I would be very willing to show empathy and patience. I would want that man to do the same for me. If the man refuses to work on his issues then I will not put more effort in trying to support his growth in God than he is.
THANK YOU!!! Finally someone is telling the truth! Men are emotional! I’ve been saying it, but everyone is always focusing on the women because we display our emotions more...Great video!💯
I think there needs to be more focus on men taking responsibility for their insecurities and trying to overcome them as opposed to simply laying out their feelings "this is what I'm insecure about" and making their partner adjust their behavior to soothe their insecurities. That's not really a mature way of handling it, and it's unfair to always expect or ask that the partner be responsible for their feelings rather than deciding to do the difficult work of improving their sense of worth and dealing with those insecurities head on to become more sure of themselves regardless of the situation. That would bring much more imporvement to the quality of relationship
How about women need to stop putting their insecurities on men and playing the victim? It's so easy to play the victim and not worry about the responsibilities. Because women love attention, they think they can just feed off of that and be satisfied. That's major insecurity right there. That's where it all begins.
As a woman I feel like both women and men need to understand that this stuff goes both ways. Its not just a men need to do this or women need to do this kind of thing. Its mutual work. No one is more wrong than the other merely because of their gender
But culture says Men are supposed to "make thier woman feel secure in the relationship" according to the Bible in a relationship man and woman should be equal that means both sides should be the same in mind and heart ......which means they should shape thier minds and hearts to think exactly the same in whatever problems they go through...... Galatians- there is no longer man nor woman for we are all One in Christ Jesus
I have never heard men open up and explain male pride and ego so well while still understanding the female struggle in understanding and handling it appropriately. This has been so helpful for me to be more understanding. I would love (and pray) that this will minister to many men and women. God bless you all and thank you for sharing.
Great convo I like the point made that men have to be open to communicate and commit to growth and not just saying this is how I am...can't wait for part 2
👏👏💕💕 @ 14:00 about communicating at an emotional level. That would be so romantic and mature if our partners could communicate to us that way. It makes us love you more😍 Advice: most women are attracted to intelligent men. Thinking through your communication that way shows a superior level of emotional intelligence. So admirable
Awesome video. This is a unspoken topic, but so needed. I know in the past I've had to study just to understand the male ego and why he had certain responses to things. The biggest discovery was understanding that we communicate and receive things differently. This life is about growth. I appreciate you guys for speaking and not staying silent.
Fellas yall can't let other men dictate you ego, your pride, or your security within yourself. For females that has alot of male friends like a sag, you have alot of female friends like a sag and allow her to worry about you instead of the other way around. You don't give the other males in her life power by worry.
I love this! Thank you for providing the ladies with insight on how a man deals with pride and ego as well as how to love on her man and support him through it. ☺️🙌🏾
So me a young lady who hasn't dated in 10 years. I am thankful for this conversation, and I am so glad I will only have to deal, understanding, and work with one man ego.
Thank you for sharing on this topic fellas! It really helps to hear because often in relationships it's tough for men (and even us women at times) to voice these concerns in a mature way that is clear to our partners.
I thank you guys so much for this knowledge. I thank God for bless us with these young men and women sharing their thoughts and knowledge with us in all aspects of their christian lives. amen. I'm very grateful!!! thanks so much for the advice guys can't wait to hear more
well done brothers! And I totally understand with the logic vs emotion communocation approach. That part actually enlightened the scholar in me. We talk about gender communication in Communication Studies and what you said was consistant to studies! Thank you for your vulnerability, humility, and honesty. To God be the glory!
Aye.... I think one of the main problems in our relationships with the opposite sex is not addressing it from the position of the Word. We gotta factor in how the Bible says we should address these things. Stroking the other partner's ego for a while may help a little bit... But at the end of the day it may be a lack spiritually that unfortunately we can't permanently address as humans. Don't get me wrong, I think as females we tend to overreact and get hot tempered often without sitting down to consider the issue from the guy's perspective... But those insecurities have to be something we go to God to fix. I can help you through it but ultimately I don't have the answer or fix that is necessary. I'll try to do what I humanly can from the position of understanding through the Holy Spirit
I definitely like the perspective of growth addressed at the end. My issue has always been having even Christian guys telling me... It's not like you never knew I was this way.... Like huh? I can't hug that up =/ lol
+Faith InMaName I agree. I think the best possible way to help our Christian men is to bring them back to the word. For a man who loves the Lord and seeks to honor God with his life & relationships, hearing the words "Bae, this is pride right now" should be received as such. STARTING WITH THE WORD could very well help us as women in dealing, because the word speak for itself!
Alot of men don't want to take time to learn themselves. So instead they blame out the woman and want the woman to change. As a man we gotta take that alpha and lead .
First and foremost, I want to thank P4CM for being obedient and placing this topic at the forefront because it is a conversation that can be difficult to have. I am fortunate to have a husband who has been willing to be open regarding his struggles. To the young woman Liz, the reality is that we do not battle against flesh and blood, so in a sense, it truly is a demon. However, the Word teaches us that a soft answer turns away wrath. As women, myself included, we at times forget that our love can help a man through anything. Love conquers all! Instead, we find ourselves fighting pride with pride. Fighting ego with ego in an attempt to “defend” ourselves when God did not create us as such. This is where I believe we should apply God’s command to submit to our husbands. Most women detest the idea of “submitting”, however, submission can be simply holding in that impulsive response when your husband is in a moment of pride. Not rolling your eyes and sucking your teeth, no matter how hard it may be at that moment because we too fall into temptation of our own emotions by doing so. Submission can be simply telling him you love him with a sincere concern for his feelings. Most women would be surprised and how much her love can calm storms that are rising up in the man she loves. God’s plan for us is perfect and he knew the battles we’d have long before we ever came to be. That’s why it’s important that as we seek Christ, we truly strive to follow his rules regardless of others because we have power to overcome ALL battles!
good video. a good book addressing male ego and how men and women express themselves differently is a classic, "men are from mars, women are from venus", by john gray. also, "the peaceful wife" by april cassidy, who is here on yt.
Upon getting into the relationship, maybe it's necessary that the husband/boyfriend is friends (or at least sociable) with all of the wife/girlfriends male friends (and vice versa) as a way of making that issue easier re. friends of the opposite sex. And if one person in the couple can't be friends with a 'pre-relationship' friend of the other person, maybe it's time to call that friendship a day for the sake of the relationship. I'm single and have never had a romantic relationship, but I'm enjoying getting some insight. Loving the videos.
They are using these sturdy words “pride” “ego” to describe insecurities: fracture self esteem, lack of confidence, doubt of self worth, fear, and jealousy and comparison. This is a very human condition that can be healthy when recognized and addressed rather than repressing it and avoiding the heart of the matter.
Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing this with us because due to life circumstances I have a hard time relating to men so I really appreciate your vulnerability and sharing. I do have one question though if men have this deep-seated desire to be understood and they want their woman to understand them and give them the grace that they’re requesting why don’t they give the same. Can we address the situation’s were women want to get closer to the man that they’re with they ask questions and all they get is a lot of irritation for questions that they’re asking? If this is what guys across the board and that’s a blanket statement but I mean that is what you’re talking about so why is it that with the women who want to give that undivided attention to the man and who want to listen to these things and give that grace why does that turn off to men. Also Id like to express that this whole BS about girls and guy friends I don’t feel it’s appropriate as a woman to be investing a lot of time talking to Guy friends the closest I come as I have a younger cousin he’s more like a little brother and he asked me for advice on stuff and I asked him and he’s gay but I don’t feel like it’s appropriate because I wouldn’t want my husband platonic or not to be doing that. I don’t even feel that that is insecurity as much as it is human nature. I’m woman enough to say it I’m sorry I don’t feel it’s appropriate or serving to a relationship of an intimate nature because those intimacies that you’re discussing with that guy friend should be exactly the things that you’re discussing with your significant other that you engage in an intimate relationship with . That is the very purpose of that type of relationship, to share and bare your soul to that one person. Things become very deluded when you start spreading yourself too thin like that on a spiritual level mental level and physical level. I’m not saying women shouldn’t have guy friends but the amount of investment that they put in those relationships if it starts competing with the amount of investment they put in a relationship with their significant other that’s a problem 100% if they have guy friends that are more like acquaintances now after they’ve gotten with their significant other well that’s different but as you said you know what guys motives are women it’s no different. Even if they have the purest minds and hearts women or men usually don’t invest a whole lot of their time unless they care about somebody it’s just human nature and I think that people are unwilling to swallow that because they want to be able to swim around in those gray areas to satiate any insecurities or even unrequited feelings they might have. Theres a lot of people who may have a problem with what I’m saying but that’s only indicative of the fact that it’s true I as a married woman have no business talking all hours of the night with a guy “” friend. However again the same goes for a man
I would tell my woman its okay to have guy friends but tell her to keep in the back of her mind ....whatever they talk about or do to ask herself "would I be okay with him talking about or doing this with his female friend?"
Jamie doesn't want to do any work. You can tell that he isn't in a relationship from the perspective he's expressing. If he were in sustained, intimate contact with a woman, he'd be talking completely differently. That's why the two gentleman who are married get it; you can hear it in their words.
I am happy to see this series address the level and depth of communication between men and women. what I find unfortunate is that the understanding asked for in regard to pride and ego is discussed from the point of being prideful and egotistical. I would expect that to gain understanding of my or male "failure", to be prideful or egotistical in a given situation, I or he would have to step back from that place, admit that the thinking or actions came from that place, and then rediscussion of the issue can occur. one gentleman said he was uncomfortable with male friends knowing what he does not...did he hear himself say that a woman must give him full disclosure at his timetable, not when she grows close enough to him or reaches that level of intimacy with him. There was also a retelling of a scenario where the woman said she would never be able to "understand"...there is a difference between empathy and understanding. Relevance is required for understanding, I must know what you know, as a woman I will never know what it is to be a man. But I can empathize with a pain, an anger, a fear experienced by someone I want to engage with...if that information is conveyed from the proper perspective. I believe, unfortunately, that currently men and women, and often just people in general, discuss the same subjects but in different languages, and aren't as willing to allow for that to be so, resulting in taking offensive quicker or in not understanding or working at understanding at all. but I thank you for the televised discussion.
i dont want to say but i say i am PROUD TO BE A MAN!! i am glad that we are simple and can understand each other i like to have conversation with them i hate liberalism i dont care about patriarchy i odnt care what manhatread feminists will say i am proud of boys!!
This talk was very instructive, but i feel like you focused more on ego and it’s relation with jealousy. I was personally more intereyin ego as a defense mechanism, for instance A guy who doesn’t apologize when he does something wrong, or a guy who doesn’t try to talk to you after an argument even though he was wrong. That kinda behavior. I really wish you’d tell us more about this.
Thanks. Is there an episode that speaks to how men can stand among other men? A show for men who want to learn how to be among other men. Brotherhood, Leading other men etc.
Olivia is on the money. Constantly having to massage the ego of all the men in my life is exhausting. Whether it’s my sons, father or partner, it feels like I am always having to cater to their egos and put mine down. The double standards are constant. The same things they say or do is seen as acceptable but not so when I do it or other women in their lives do it. Exhausting…
Nadette Ralliford that can be one reason, yes, even with women. But here is a warning, even those who appear not to be prideful, can look down on others using scriptures to belittle them, and not open to that person's wounds. We are all wounded, needing not just a savior, but love. Protection and needing confirmation of love is important in how God created us.
We need to pray for our brothers more!! Brothers & sisters insecurity is something that we all struggle with. Your security should not come from any human being. We are to find who we are in Jesus Christ: Pride and ego are things we need to lay before God. Not before one another! Humble yourself in the site of the Lord and He will lift you up!! James 4:10 As humans we are not in the possession to change people. It is the power of the Holy Spirit and the Holy Spirit alone. We need to love one another and pray for one another. Maybe if we would pray for others the way we pray for ourself we will start seeing change. Not because the person in changing, but because you will be changing. That's what the presence and the Word of God does
Just seeing men talking about subject is the rarest thing to find that’s how big the problem is.I saw man sending me to the abyss to prove they point and not agree to let it go of their ego .Im a reasonable person enough! I dont do that my self when someone is on the true side i agree. And this topic has literaly destroyed my life,instead of talkin how we can understand you ,you man amoung youselfs should talk more about how to improve this part of yourselfs cause every one should try to be better.And ego is what caused the wars and violence simply put.No wonder all the evil stories basses on ego as the king of all.I live in a 3D world country I’m just sick of the development ego has reached amongst men. It’s suffacting literally no space!
Yall can't be sitting there like you thirsting for attention, you have to do things in your own time while you not spending time with her, and you can't act like worried about what she doing or who she with.
I liked the conversation but I think I was looking for them to bring it back to the word and dying to the flesh because both men and women deal with pride as humans. its the root of all sin. So in the context of this conversation, when a man has a pride moment , he and his partner should talk about it, after he's taken it to God and he repented. As far as their relationship the woman definitely should acknowledge the way he feels etc and they communicate how God would want them to handle that situation. basically always invite the holy spirit in. Pray. Those basic tools can help get to the root of why they feel that way.
this whole series is just so awesome! I devour like 3 episodes in one sitting. That said, could you guys have more "older" guys? ...or are they all married? "older meaning over 31, please...though even if they are married, it's good to hear their opinions.
Brothers, I'm hearing you. I pray for all men and women be more Christ like, humble and love one another first before asking humans to provide security. hold strong in the Christ identity, accept we all are sinners and confess our insecurities to eachother. Get healing from God not from human. In Jesus name.amen
please pray for me to help me overcome this addiction of porn , ive willfully sinned and it hurts me so much is it to late for me ? someone please help me.
It's never too late. There are a couple things to consider as you deal with this addiction. 1. Believe that you actually have the ability to deny your flesh through the power of the Holy Spirit. You are not a slave to sin so don't live with a slave mentality. 2. Spend more time in your Word. Meditate on Romans chapters 6,7, and 8...also, Psalm 119:11. We will be praying for you.
