M A I D S Let's talk about maids, Bump Lovers. What's the shortest time you've ever had a maid and why did they leave? Let us know your most interesting maids story in the comments below. #Househelp #Nannies #BumpLove #Motherhood
M A I D S Let's talk about maids, Bump Lovers. What's the shortest time you've ever had a maid and why did they leave? Let us know your most interesting maids story in the comments below. #Househelp #Nannies #BumpLove #Motherhood
72 hrs! I always do a routine HIV test on arrival so that day I came with her, took her the clinic, they took off the sample it was a Thursday so the lab guy told me results were not so good she he told me to go with her and bring her again in the morning for acomformatory test it also turned up positive and I had no one to stay with my kid that morning since we both me and my husband we had to go and work so my husband sucrificed that day and stayed home with both of them as we waited for Saturday when am off to take her back to her village but she went back home crying.
Another one was sleeping outside the main house, one week after her arrival we cought her with a boy and remember she was a sister to husbands friend who gave birth when she was at school so they wanted her to come make some capital then she goes back and she starts up as all business. So when Mr. found her with a man, he talked to her and left forgave her since it was outside home.,two weeks after she brought the same guy inside her bedroom and we found them having live sex.
@@richardssebagala6443 such a case needed counselling before sending back coz you might find nga she had been stop from going to school simply bse of the sickness
I WAS GIVEN ONE WHO WOULD STAY CRYING WHEN I GO FOR WORK, SHE WAS 13 AND I DECIDED TO TAKE HER BACK TO SCHOOL SO SHE IS PART OF MY CHILDREN. I GOT A BIGGER MAID WHO IS TAKING CARE OF HER AND MY OTHER KIDS😆
We had a maid for 9 years..and "Zaalika" left when she was going for marriage..till today she comes back and checks on my mom... She had her own room, she was like child at home yet she was mature ...she even taught us some things like cooking matooke the kiganda way etc.. My Mentor has had a maid for 8 years and she is still there..
I worked as a maid while I was in my high school vacation but It was fun as if I had left my village for exposure. The experience was wow after I did my internship at the embassy my former boss being my supervisor and guess what; marks were flowing. Thanks to aunt laurita.
I really pay my nanny extremely well and take care of her medical. This i did not bse i can afford, but my little son is in her hands more hours a day. Maybe that will change as my son grows. I do feel that we need to attach value to the work these ladies do and also have genuine conversations. I have only had one maid so far. Thanks for the conversation.
The shortest time I have had was 3hours, she came and when I went the bedroom, she ran off. Payment for me is 80,000/= also with timely bonuses depending on impressive performance, for example, she washes the cartens, or the windows. The payments depends on your salary and as well the kind of work in your home. That's my opinion
Thanks for the show but I have been a maid some time back in pandemic, I remember I worked in a car tain house a round bunga, the lady and her kids were so nice nawe nga owulirira ddala nti oli Waka but later came this husband of the lady who used to sleep there once in the whe more so in weekends mikwano omusajja nga webanywa omwenge that ki man nga kinsoberera nga nebase I only thank God that I could hear him snicking into my bed room and I ran out of the bed room and lock myself in the kitchen you people its a long story, naye one day I sat myself down and I was like what if one day katonda anvamu kuno ogusajja negumpamba nengamba enough is enough I love money but can handle the results from rape, I lied to a lady lady that I had lost some one en I have to attend burial cuz I was a bit scared to tell her wen I was still in her house yo make a long story short wen I got out I called her and td her exactly y I had left. Mikwano some times there things those maids fear to tell u that's y some just leave but not all maids don't know what they want nze Singa nali wakwetega I could have eaten that big man mu bitibwa but that's not my thing and it wasn't my agender nooooo
Team 254.. We don't hire under 18. You can be sued with child labour. Mine who lasted shortest was 2weeks. The brother died she went for the 3weeks 🤦. She was a luhya from west region of Kenya. I loving your content girls 💕💕
Why would a woman, a mother employ a child as a house girl. No matter how careless the government is, to not enforce some laws. Women should know better really, to not employ minors.
I was also surprised when I heard 13yrs. That is a child. I just put myself in the shoes of that girl. At 13 I may have known how to clean my clothes but a household responsibility I would not handle it. Am sure everyone from 254 will be shocked
Under the provisions of Employment act section 56 a child under the age of 16 can't be employed..... children b2n the age of 13 and 16 can do light work only. Employment of children under the age of 13 is completely prohibited...
At my home I never employ a maid less than 20 years. I need a mature. This time around I was brought a girl of 16 years. An orphan that I was suppose to be paying to her Aunt. I told them I only need someone for basic things like cleaning utensils and coming home earlier than me because I am always busy. I decided to enrol her in a nearby school. The girl is so Sharp. I encouraged her to assume she is at her mother's home .she should do the regular housework and focus on her study. I am a single parent of one. We are just three in our house. My son goes to school from 6 am to 6 pm. She goes to school at 7:30 am and comes back at 5:30 pm. She then prepares dinner which is always something light. Everybody has lunch from their school and me from my wherever. We converge home for dinner. I take full responsibility for my son except washing his uniform which the maid does. It's been two years. We are ok. I cannot have a minor stay with me and not do something useful for their lives. I don't need someone to stay 24/7 at my home.
Growing up, our domestic managers have been in their 30s and 40s. We have been very fortunate to have really good ones, especially if they are more mature, they are great. We had a Ugandan one in her late 20s for 5 years who left to get married, another one for 10 years who left to become a farmer, and another one for five years who is still with us. We pay fees for their kids, on top of their salary. The shortest tenure, in her early 20s, lasted a month before she met the love of her life, a nearby watchman, on her way out she shopped some major items from our house to start their new life 😂
In 2008 I sent back a 13year old maid that had been sent to me from the village. I gave her money for school fees, uniform and books and had promised her that I would pay her until she completed S.4. Unfortunately never contacted me again. She reached the village and looked for the next person who was looking for a maid. 😢😢. When my daughter is on holiday I can even spend a week without entering the kitchen. When she is at school I am in the kitchen everyday coz I am a picky eater and I love preparing my meals. I take care of my 5 year old son.
its unfortunate that the maids i have given much of my understanding, love and care, take that for granted and i dont stay long with them. However, those i dont pay attention to, those i pretend not to care for, stay longer and do what is reguired of them.
These thgs of maids are both sides and am so sorry to many but mostly very high so educated ladies treat these people like nothing. Have lived in my sister's place who works with UN but my God what l saw changed me about the stories most of us have on maids. The maid was waking up at 5 to prepare kids for school and later prepare breakfast as everyone is sleeping,cooks,washes cloth, irons ,deals with kids after school and others,that she sleeps at 11 at night but still my sis would be still shouting at her.and out of all this she was earning 60000 sh,she eats last, and she had posho and beans to eat everyday aside that thg broke me that everytime l was on a table l couldn't swallow my food until l said l can't stay here anymore but u ask her about Maids she will tell u stories that me who knew the truth can hardly take in.
I have had mine for over 7years now from the time I had my first child. I treat her like my own daughter. My boys know her as their only sister. Although I brought her in as a nanny, I realized she performs better with the house chores so we switced roles. She loves the kids but can not handle well kids' issues. We have a great relationship with weaknesses here and there but manageable.
This is really nice. As you discussed both sides. I personally think salaries play a role in maid misbehaviour. If we gave them more love and care they would work better but also if you asked them heart to heart why they are into business. You ladies are amazing. Great job done as this is the main problem among working class.
Above all,please pray for the maids who are coming to your home.There are some really weird stories about househelps from stealing,destroying marriages,gossip,teaching children weird characters,satanic agents etc. Thank you ladies for the topic
The shortest time I stayed with a maid was 2weeks, but I came back home when she had stolen my 6month son and spent 15hours with him without getting him but thank God I caught her before nothing bad has happened yo the boy
Girls don't worry about househelps in your homes. If your Husbands are cheats, they will even impregnate a woman dressed in a drum. Adultreous man is a adultreous all the way.
Hello bump love, thanks ladies for this topic I run an agency for domestic help but my biggest concern is, our society has categorically stereotyped all maids to be bad and unworthy so they're easily thrown under the bus. We need to change the narrative that way we will pay them their worth and also be able to understand that just like other employees in different places of work, good people also exist that can serve us right in our homes
I have never got a good maid. Either they can't do work, being moody, eating baby's food/snacks, kamanyiro. And yet when they come people who refer them say this one can work. Etc
I have also ever been a maid in 2013 when I withdrew from university in my 2nd year so my friend connected me to a certain lady. I didnt mind doing that kind of job coz I grew up with a stepmum and I being the firstborn suffered with all the house chores. So that lady was staying in mutungo and I was at kyambogo university so i thought it that it would be nearer for me to commute from her home to university. I went to her home when the kid was in p.1 but I left when I was going to get married. So some bosses are good depending on the maid's character while other bosses are really terrible.
We had one when we were kids, she was an adult lady. She left and lived on her own. When she got old, she could not manage Kampala any more, so we took her to our village. She lived there for over 10 years, till she died and she was laid to rest on the family grave yard.
Pumla has put into words my reflections on why a number of my house helps have failed to work for me; the differences in mindset are really something. And of course the patience wans easily when it comes to certain simple things that these twenty something year olds seem to fail to grasp and you're thinking, this is not a child! If I was financially better off, I would also be one of those people that don't keep live in helps. Some make you feel like you have to worry about your complaint not offending them, while they seem unconcerned about you, their boss being offended over washing utensils and they remain unclean. Sigh!
The only problem people that consider themselves high class is thinking that being a maid yr a failure, totally nothing n being arrogant!! These are fellow humans who are simply trying to find a a start!! Anyway, thank you ladies for the conversation
😂😂😂 it's a funny and informative talk....I had one...that I took as a sister...took her for Tailoring classes for three months.she felt she had learnt alot.....but she left when I told her about bathing cos of her body.. odour.... and that was towards the end of her Tailoring classes....
Kemi some men are not okay and they are so cruel munange I was 19 when I started working the gu man was like 40's do you know that after dropping their 2 Kids and they go to work, only him to come back and stay home the whole day trying to be friend me until he started touch touching me in an un appropriate way guess what I did direct telling madam face to face that am leaving coz of yo gu man and he's like abcd...... Only the lady to tell me that I know his behavior I left on spot with my ka 50k nempona omu monster ogwo.
But if your the wife to someone for real,make sure you take care of yr man,taking care of him yr keeping his spirit contented,women just don't know that.Wake up prepare for yr husband, don't let the maid do yr duties in the life of yr husband, really yr out and you know yr man is ever home early, really? Really?? Then who takes care of him when he enters? Please make sure yr man sees your face saying good day and he sees you again saying welcome back home.
Seriously, this topic will keep popping at us. I think good maids are rare, now days we have those that come to cause havock at home. Agencies r making money, the more u go to different homes the more money they make. Yes I have had good maids but only those I got from village, agencies it's God'grace. The challenge with us bigger homes, u get two and oh my God? Not easy. But we do appreciate for sharing. Agencies don't know these girls. They just walk in and spend a day with them or hours. The trust be told, good or bad, we need to pray to land on the right person. Good character can be trained and learn. Good luck
Great show,,u have 4 children and the youngest is 3yrs. I use a stay out maid who works Monday to Friday and Saturday he works half day so me and my children manage the home on weekends
I have heard stories of 13 or 14-year-old maids in Uganda. Is this a thing? Households hiring children as house helps? Isn't it illegal? Why does it seem like it's a socially acceptable thing? 🤔🤔🤔
I had to pose and get the scripture after Pumla told the story; Proverbs 30:21-23 There are three things that make the earth tremble- no, four it cannot endure: a slave who becomes a king, an overbearing fool who prospers, a bitter woman who finally gets a husband, a servant girl who supplants her mistress. A maid that takes the place of her mistress the Bible says is something the earth cannot endure.... God help us.
We have had maids at my home, my mother is too tough but they things these people loved in our home my mother told us to respect these girls upto now they check on her and one has her baby girl at my home
Maids... mine actually escaped and left my baby yesterday alone in the house.. just a day after paying her salary.. and I had asked her a night before if she really wants to work, and had said yes.. Olemwa
Am glad you guys have talked about house helps. Am just 22 and my house help is 26years. But I deal with her in a good way. I tell her what I want and I make sure we don't clash. She is really a good person.
Like i pray for every thing else in my home. I pray for a maid even before taking them on. For me it has worked Thanks for your brilliant views. Bump lover in S.korea
@@kristine_wangui so its wrong but you know that these people don't have another option but to find work since they can't go to school anymore...instead of being married off somewhere at that age employment is a better option...this is a different Uganda we as children fend for families...so I'll take their side on this one
How about we call them house managers? Maid is of the past and feels demeaning,as someone who has worked in Dubai as a house help for 8 years, it's not easy especially when bosses expect you to know everything and do everything as if there is a school where we are trained to do that kind of work,and most of them talk down on their helps thinking they aren't humans of educated,some are bad but most of them are good ,its just insecurities of some Bosses who get intimidated.lol
Interesting stories and me I've had two so far all of them have been nice to my kids i just connected them to better jobs bambi coz they've done great to us.
Kakati, it takes being outside of the society to see how sad this industry is. To say that 'maids are maids' or that they are too far beneath you, is much more than 'boujie'...it's similar to logic used to keep other people groups down in history. Kudos to Manuela for being able to truly see the situation for what it is. It really is not easy when it's the 'norm'. Thank you, though, ladies, for all your interesting discussions. I enjoy your channel.
Thanks so much ladies. This topic is wide!!!! For me *BAD Vs GOOD* just like Manuela, gave up on these girls coz I also want to go to heaven. Its just luck to have a good maid and however much you treat them nicely believe me u!!!
yesterday i was interviewing one over the fone, she asked me the "olina abaana bameka, osula munju yamaka oba zilimu nyingi" i asked her "kiki kyosinga okwagala" interview ended🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I like what came started with... As much as maids are problematic, other factors constant, sometimes we don't really show them how to do what we want them to do. As much as in our eyes the work is simple, easy and basic. To them it's diff, these people come from settings where housework is honestly not in any form of order or standard. Usually they dont know how to do these thgs, honestly some times they can badly lay their beds properly or clean their rooms. This shld be somethg to show u that they dont know. Orientation and and literally taking time to show these pple what to do and how to do it is very vital. Otherwise to them the work we look as basic can sometimes be so confusing for them, resulting in all their behavior and all that leaving as soon as they come. That second part of the conversation is also very important.
For real am amaid but I also have one.but guys pliz some bosses are mean yet they are also working for their bosses but before abusing someone put your self in the maids shoes and pliz.we are the same just the levels differ.be considerate.bigup to my boss she has been good to me in everything
This was a very meticulous discussion. Interesting as always. Loved the whole establish systems in place to save yourself the misery of complaining about what was done and what wasn't. Rushing now to Manuela's page. Much love from Kigali.
How comes this channel has been for long and I don't come across it until today when the RU-vid recommended your video Topic Labial Elongation Great and educative programs ####watching from United States of Arua##
am always here to get new lecturers you gals have really helped me out on motherhood i was a teenage mum but ma dota is now a teenager at times i get challenged but you gals have helped me alot
Mmmmm my maid is the same as the nanny and she is just God sent bambi...honestly she really handles both duties extremely well..so I think sometimes yes the maid can be the nanny
Av had a maid for 1 night... she was too rude I feared to leave my babies with her the next day I told her to pack her bag. I closed the door ohhh maid stories are stressing.
Maids maids…So usually when I get amaid I do general medical checkup for a couple of things.So this specific maid I get,day two I take her to hospital,they found she had a bad uti,PID coz dr.asked her and she said she had always had abig problem down there for yrs…So story short we get medz,treatment for her I remember I spent about 200k on her treatment.So we go back home,we slp..I leave her home the following day,left when I had made lunch,for my Mwami since his self employed and returns home for lunch.Since she was new,told her to just wash dishes I would show her other stuff when I returned in the evening.Mwe,as soon as I left for wrk,didn’t the chic call her parents mbu we are giving her medicine when she is not sick,oba for her she uses local herbs…Hubby called me and told me she found her on the Verander on katemba of shaking and shivering she wants to go back to her home.Immediately I left wrk,found her and off she went…Wabula maids….
Watching this from Kenya and I'm wondering if this is how maids are perceived in UG. The ladies sound so condescending, and are also comfortable employing underage kids? Most of these ladies sound like terrible employers tbh, esp the lady who said she can't have conversations w bodas and maids etc
I always bring in maids when am in my short leave so that by the time am back at work ,they have learnt . But maids ,they will still do it the other way round ,u just have to be patient with them
I'm just inagining. Ehy shoukd yiu even accept a 13 year old as a househelp jamani. I do understand the African context of it but an educated woman shoukd not have a 13 yeae old as a househelp
Being a good master or mistress to your maid is one of the best thing you can ever do. Especially if he/she is still young/teenager. I've been a maid twice while a teen due to various reasons.
Hi Ladies, thanks for having this discussion! To be honest, I found this conversation a bit dissapointing...I expected a much more mature conversation from amazing, highly educated and well spoken ladies such as yourselves, not insecure discourse like we see around. This today was more like something you would find on a ''mama Tendo'' page for me. Angie had some great insights though!
@UCHL5940741R63joWkxmyHJg No my dear, I was disappointed by the way they talked about maids. They made it sound like maids are slaves or something...except Angie. I expected better from all of them.
For each negative criticism, it helps to give specific points of improvement. But atte you can't overly compliment our credentials then not add value to the conversation. P
@@pumlanabachwa8668 lolest! I don't think it's a question of improvement, I think it's about personal view...and in this discussion, I personally didn't agree with your views...which is okay 😊. Just an opinion 🤷
I found this conversation extremly classist and elitist. We need to educate ourselves abit more thats all. We cant be casually be discussing child labour, Policing the way people dress because of personal insecurities😅. Nah
Thanks ladies this was very insightful. maids are a necessary devil but hopefully when children are much older I can do away with them. my take home was to have systems I think it will take the load off. thanks again ladies but I guess we shall need another more exhaustive conversation about maids.
Can we treat maids like other employees with a minimum wage and have specific rules and discipline in the home. The conversation and exposure is also important to understand who and where these girls come from
Can I tell you how God works, If He doesn't give you here (cute face) He can give you here! (big waist)... Naye Pumla Oli muzibu! 🤭🤣🤣🤣 You made re-watch 26:43 to 27:18 like 100 times! laughing aloud all the time.... Big up ladies.....
Manuela thanks am watching from Saudi Arabia my madam told me to take care of d house but as am talking her kids loved me and some tym we do house work together she can even stay out of the house for good days and t's me wth the kids and she is proud of me she doesn't want me to come back home
