The Cruelest Episode Of Wife Swap Ever 

Is the shows depiction of cousin andrew accurate?

@@IrisSnow yes and no, he’s very into video games and very goofy but he’s definitely not a slob and he’s very invested in Jaysons life, him and Lyn are still married and have the same sense of humor so it works

​@@m4nymoonsIt sounds like the show worked out if they could use the money to buy a home. That probably solved a lot of their problems right there

@@m4nymoons I figured, it's reality TV so they gotta bring the drama by exaggerating everything. Your husband's cousin and his son seem like very genuine people. Do you know what happened to his son? Like how did he grow up?

awwe...I heard the other father murdered the whole family

terrible script writing. The cheerleader sisters who are both in the same school, have different cheerleader outfits in the beginning, realizing they screwed up, grabbed another blue outfit later in the show

​@@Stinky_Couch_Pickleidk how cheer works, but they could be on a select club team and on the school team? that's what softball does

I know the kid, he played on a DayZ server I was on for 8 years, this shit is literally all true. @@Stinky_Couch_Pickle

@@Stinky_Couch_Pickle I’d assume one was on JV and the other on Varsity when that photo was taken The more questionable part of the image is that the uniforms don’t have the school name, letters, or mascot on it. Just blank shells.

@@krisdwooddeuxmaybe they did that to keep the children’s location/school private 🤷‍♀️

Coming from someone who is exactly like how you described they are doing such a disservice to their children. Knowing how to “get back up again” is such an important skill.

They are reading scripts. Reality shows are fake. Look for the inconsistencies. Where did the red cheerleader outfit go? Both girls attend the same highschool. Schools dont just change their colors..

It's tough, because they can rarely get 2 families who are willing, and also have opposite issues that can be resolved by a swap. Most of the time it's some goofy swap paired for entertainment

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Yeah that sounds about right. It was nice to see a wife swap where no one is hateable.

I just watched a luxeria wifeswap where the families were also very opposite but super respectful

bro 5 hours is the minimum amount of time you need to get anything done in a game today

@@imperialguardsman5726idk what types of games your playing but no offence if 5 hours is your minimum session you might have a problem. Idk how often you game so “might” is the key word here, but I’d still see 5+ hours of gaming a day as a problem, not a big one but let’s not gaslight our selves into believing 5 hours isn’t a lot of time that can be used for a lot of useful things.

literally used to play games straight from 11am to 3am

Yeah that’s bad. Kids having growing behavioral problems too which is concerning. Too many iPad kids instead of socialization.

@@shiftless215jsyk, I can do a lot of things in 5 hours. Crafting, reading, drawing… but if I wanna play video games 5 hours straight I should be able to without judgment just like any other hobby/activity.

kid had some smart humor at times to be fair though lol

*Jacob

LOL poor kid tho. He reminds me of myself, the guardians usual dont do anything with their kids and the kids play video games then blames everything on video games except themselves.

​@onesting Okay except the boys name is Jayson

​@@TearMeOpenIBelieve^

My dad is the same way. Real traditional men are protectors and providers. They don’t just do those things physically. They protect their woman’s emotions and her mind and they provide avenues for relief from stresses. These “traditional” men you speak of aren’t really traditional at all.

Yea I think that dad has Undiagnosed autism and I think the son has it to

dude was probably hit by the "men have to be tough" thing. and when he was told and shown that he didnt have to.. well, he saw how ood it was

@@pvic6959Or it was just a producer-fed line haha but yeah 💗

I had him for more of a To Catch A Predator cameo type of guy

My dad is similar, he is very masculine but also respects rules and authority so I can see how this played out unless it completely goes against his values he will go along with it.

​@katherineejessup yea I saw it as "we agreed to this so we are doing it."

But they made the son miss the baseball championship 😔

​@GunnarCline and that's where I think the producers may have played a hand for the drama, otherwise why wouldn't the wife who made that decision have focused instead on getting the girls, who actually expressed that they felt like they had too much on their plate, some free time.

​@@GunnarClineOh boy..... Wait till you see the Stockdale/Tonkovic episode.....

Yeah considering I’ve seen episodes that made me genuinely worry for the women’s safety, I don’t see how this could even be close to the cruelest episode.

Can you word that sentence worse pls

@@aristology6912I don’t know, man. I could read it just fine.

​@@aristology6912learn to spell.

@@aristology6912Yeah, it wasn’t the most eloquent sentence but, i still understood it. It’s a YT comment, not a letter to the editor lol.

I'm pretty sure Andrew has developmental issues. It's obviously scripted, but he behaves like someone who has a disability. Maybe even something that's genetic, passing down to his kid.

The problem is that for instance; my parents were already 40 when I was born, so what they think is best in the current world, might nog always translate well into the modern world. I know its the thought that counts for being a good parent, but thoughts dont pay the rent..

​@@dotonthehorizon9620 Current and modern are the same thing in this context. Don't worry its the thought that counts

Both of them seem like such good, loving parents who genuinely care. The dads are both real shitheads (Andrew is much worse as a person, but the other one is probably pretty bad off-camera) but those moms have their hearts in the right places for sure

They all looked so well looked after and healthy!! That’s how you keep them out of trouble with drugs alcohol and smoking….. you’re in their lives and wearing them out with activities, I’ll bet they’re tired by 9.30 and ready for bed! She was a great mom. Mine didn’t give a crp and yes I got into it all, smoked took drgs drank etc, I’d have loved a family like that!!

Wbo the bitch? Who cant have fun??😂😂😂

Having a life of structure is a defense against the loser world of people with no structure, no value, and no money

There’s a difference between teaching discipline and just roleplaying as a tough guy. Imagine finding the outside world is harsh (which they likely will with or without their parents stressing them out) and coming back home to people who are just as cold

@@chickenisindeedmystyle7316 Exactly!! The world can be hard and cruel, a flower cannot grow in barren soil. You have to provide that space for your kids and give them the ability to actually grow so they can handle the world.

@@Nyxspar IDK where I heard this, but teaching your children only about how hard the world is without creating a space for them to relax or feel safe at home is very harmful and can increase anxiety, burn out and set terrible examples of healthy work/life balance as adults. They care for their kids and luckily realized quickly how important it was to nurture while setting expectations.

I say teach your kids not to quit. But teach them to know how to walk away.

The actors in this show are awful! How are the two highschool sisters have different colored cheerleader outfits, then both blue later on?

@@Stinky_Couch_Pickle If your issue is with the outfits, then why are you saying the actors are bad. The actors aren't the ones who decide what they wear in a scripted show

​@@Stinky_Couch_Picklethey might do both highschool and competitive cheer

@@Stinky_Couch_Pickle Varsity vs JV can also have different colors

Yeah the 40 yr old gamer was definitely a walking L. Offered absolutely nothing. Crazy

I like the mom of that family but the dad reminds me of Ricky Bobby's dad. It's the "If you ain't first, you're last" kind of mentality that can be toxic

Im only in my mid 20s and I couldnt possibly tell you how many times ive lost, I lost count. I learned and moved on, its one of the absolutes in life.

Pffft only if they lose too much

Well, there’s an easy remedy to get used to losing just cheer for the Detroit Pistons. You’ll get used to losing real quick.

So if he wants to teach his kids how to lose, that would be a good way to do

omg he does! 😂😂

Thats a good one

frrrr, he also kinda reminds me of David Schwimmer (Ross from the tv show 'Friends')

reminds me of Matt Bush from the Goldbergs

It's late 90s Tom Green with insomnia

This comment made me giggle so hard 😭

You make a very good point. The amount of gaming i do now would have been considered insane for even an adult to do when i was a kid. Now people do 24 hr gaming streams etc. Shows how much times have changed

To be fair some of those monitors kinda felt like your eyes were being set on fire after playing StarCraft for 3 hours straight

@blazaybla22 i remember those things gave off static after being on for awhile 😆

spending less than 10 hours on my computer is an accomplishment

Yeah I always found it funny that the same people complaining were the ones who's careers were situated behind computers.

too bad these are actors in poorly directed reality show. Reality shows are all fake

Agreed, the dad though is a bit of a cold hard ass all the time…

every point she made towards gamer dad was a hit. bros a loser

She needed to loosen up (probably just by scheduling family time, date night, etc.) but her kids clearly weren't broken.

@@L33tSkE3t Probably, but the way he pointed out it was unfair to make 1 person (the mom) cook and clean all the time (in the 2000s!!) made him a class act to me. Plus defending his wife and really caring about his son missing the game. Low-key Tammy seeing the gamer dad saved their marriage. She realized how good she had it and how bad it can get lmao

Gunnar had no clue what Wife Swap was prior to the last video he did on it. Chris James will always be more relatable. Gunnar seems like he was sheltered from the world till the age of 16-17

@@sam7259he didn’t know what wife swap was… so he was sheltered? I don’t see the connection. It seems like you’re just being an Âne du Cotentin

​@@ZerglingLoverprobably related to saying his life was similar to the super schedule fam + they had a cleaning lady. There's a solid chance he was a bit more privileged than a lot of people. That being said, Gunnar is still my absolute preferred person to watch. He gives total dude bro vibes but is thoughtful, feels less like watching a review and more like watching w a friend

@@ZerglingLover Gunnar has shown many times that he has various cultural blindspots to what a normal U.S. 2000s kid would've been exposed to growing up. I'm not the only one who has pointed this out. If you're Gen Y or young Gen Z you might not understand (aka you didn't grow up at nearly the same age or pace Gunnar did). I'm his age and it's noticeable.

@@sam7259cry

The kid wanted to feel loved

YES OH MY GOD THATS WHAT HE LOOKED LIKE

YOU’RE SO RIGHT I HATE IT TAKE MY LIKE AND GET OUT OF HERE

They did this before it was very easy

@@LyricalIAm This seems like it was written by someone who doesn't actually work all day.

​@@LyricalIAmwhat episode?

I am lazy after work

It would be so easy for the working dad to stay at home and do all the housework.

And meanwhile the dad has a shirt saying “-- you mind? I’m trying to ignore you” 💀

Realistically most children of that age would be MORTIFIED by that.

​@@Lindseyisloony that feeling is what makes it a core memory. When they reconsider it as adults they'll cherish the thoughtfulness.

@@Lindseyisloonyeh tbf given the contrast and given it’s a borrowed mom the kid probably liked it. Friends will just be too amused to bully him for it

Because he's not her kid. These moms to other kids are so sweet but to their own kids they are the strict tiger mom.

@@kpoppy9635she’s a cougar for sure 😂

@@kpoppy9635 They're nurturing to kids who are "off the path", but they don't want their kids to ever step up off their path.

The Kid Jayson has alot of potential and he likes sports, the dad should be supportive...he is too childish. Gaming makes his brain stuck in time.

She is great to everyone but her own children. Those kids are miserable and have a very messed up foundation of how life should be like.

I think he was just a bit peeved that that blokes shitting on his wife

A relative of the gamer family's has commented on this above. The dad was actually devoted to his son and not a slob. Apparently they bought a house after the show, husband and wife are still together and the kid is alright.

Bro this is actual psychological abuse I feel so bad for her

Yeah that just abuse. It’s one thing to want your kid to get a scholarship if they are legit close to it* but it’s another thing to punish them for not performing in the game.

Yep. But I won't feel bad if she leaves and never talks to him ever again. 100% deserved for being a shitty parent. @@lizek3515

That is absolutely disgusting. An example of how to turn a talented, passionate kid into a soulless robot who hates life :(

It’s better then the gentle parenting bs. I bet she is thankful now.

I can't help but feel that the director told them to do that...cause that mom seemed OK with whatever her kid wanted to do that was fun. And sports is fun to that kid. So I don't think she would make the kids stop sports completely unless she was told to do so.

def feels like a director/storyboard choice to go that extreme

Yeah I agree, but his strong reaction could also be partly because his parents have taught him it’s THE END OF THE WORLD to miss a game, that he will be a failure etc. Of course you should take sports seriously if you play on a team who relies on you but it shouldn’t be THAT serious to a little kid.

Chill mom was probably going to let him go but Director said nah we want ~drama~

​@@wicked_awesomeyeah, no sane person would do that

Yep. One night I was too sick to practice and Dad canceled my piano lessons for good.

its a dumb mentality, you're allowed to take a break or have a bad day

It really upset me to see the boy cry. Pissed me off for the rest of the episode

Still is so crazy that she decided to cancel his son most important baseball match lol maybe it was part of the script of the program, that she couldn't be flexible or having a balance too soon, because the girls told her since the beginning that they like what they do, just wanted more free time, but she went to straight endless free time

@@asoret The point of wife swap is a week of extereme, not moderation, though.

What an accurate observation 🤣

I think they need to let the kids go visit family like cousins for a week, and Tammy should surprise Rick with her old cheerleading uniform, and they have themselves some good old fashioned hanky panky.

Gamer mom is with the bum. Women have to take accountability for partners they choose . And it is a reflection of the other person. And she’s overweight. Lack of discipline all around

Fr I hope they get a divorce because the gamer mom only has one child why should she take care of her husband like he's her 2nd ?

@@land-uknown7456 someone here commented that’s for gamer husband is their mom’s cousin (supposedly) and he’s not actually that bad, he is involved with his son it just played up for the show. And he is still married with his wife and used the money from the show to get a new house.

America is weird

I went to private schools my whole life and the onus was always placed on the parents and the students for stuff like this. I ran the concessions in 6th grade lol and we always had to bring stuff to sell

I don't even like sports and I had to help my mom at the concession stand for baseball because my brother was on the team.

@kpoppy9635 OSU (the college) arranges deals for public high school sports teams to assemble the chairs in their stadium. it was a requirement for parents and students to do it several times a semester. in my case, my siblings played, but i had to do it in their place.

My parents did this in the late 2000s, and both my sisters were in band. Bands a pretty big deal in Texas and the south, but they ran concessions and drove kids home.

yea lets pretend it's "just" the gaming, and not their entire lifestyle. chips and nuggies for dinner, how is anyone supposed to look healthy eating that?

@@hugepriapism3377it’s exaggerated. look at the top comment.

Y'all realize that these are scripted right?

@@gravity_TM yes! Exactly what I’m trying to get across. Andrew and the kid do like gaming a lot but they aren’t slobs and it’s just exaggerated

The dad's eyelids look greasy while the rest of his face looked ok. I also had that problem for a long time. Turns out you are supposed to wash around around your eyes, too. Really reduces the appearance of undereye darkness.

This is so true. My friends would often tell me that they would ask to do things they liked and are interested in but it would be thrown aside because it wasn't what their mom wanted or she didn't have "time" since the things she wanted took up all their time. The daughter had to move away just to escape it and the son just felt like the less wanted child because they prioritized his sister. Where as I was left to my own devices for the most part, but provided with literally anything I was interested in. Homeschooled on a computer with minimal interference from my parents. Played video games 4-5 hours a day but still excelled at piano, loved reading, learned to sew, got into knitting, decided to learn Japanese and even moved there for awhile just because I wanted to be around the people and language. I attribute this to why I am a self starter and innovator at work places unlike my coworkers who will just wait for someone to tell them what to do or follow orders exactly instead of finding more efficient options (because they never learned to decide for themselves). Of course some kids probably do thrive in this environment, but you have to communicate with your children in order to find that out. Which NEITHER family is doing. I think that is the overall failing for the parents in this episode (besides the video gamer dad who is just a man child) It's funny because my husband and I are both video gamers but we take turns serving the other "gamer gremlin" 🤣

I completely agree, and from how the sports mother was talking about showing love, it seems like she only shows her kids anything positive when they're winning. The husband even says that she specifically has a hard time showing it. Those girls need room to stretch their wings or they're gonna be screwed once they get out there after their big burnout.

Yeah in this one it looks like there was left out pizza??

@@sfooshy4517 on the german one, the camera team took dirt out of a plant pot and rubbed it into the carpet to make it look nasty and shit another reality tv show in germany used to be "schwer verliebt" (heavily in love) where an overweight woman would date two guys and decide which one to keep dateing. yes, the fact that the female candidate was a bit overweight (she wasn't even obese) was the whole point of the show. they made fun of her taking off her top for one of the guys and so on. except, as it turned out, they had signed extremely strict contrcts that forced then to do as told. the camera team told her ti take her shirt of. the camera team told her which guy to choose. the camera team told her when to kiss which guy. and worst of all: she was contractually obligated to tell people she is in a relationship with that guy for a year after it aired. these shows live off of people with IQs that border mental disability range and many of then are in desperate financial situations where a few hundret bucks for this shit seems like a good idea it's honestly an absolutely vile industry. i'm not generally some moralist preacher but damn

I read the contract for I think it was Hell’s Kitchen and the contestants have to sign off on allowing the producers to craft a narrative that may differ from actual events, agreeing to basically allowing them to make them look bad to serve the show’s narrative. It’s really messed up.

​@@jurgnobs1308Crazy how these reality TV shows can be the fakest thing ever but also super real. Here in the US we used to have a show about cops. You'd imagine everything was scripted and that all the criminals getting arrested were paid actors, but no. They had to cancel the show because in of the episodes the things got out of control and the guy holding the mic was shot BY THE POLICE and he passed away. The man recording the whole thing was HIS BROTHER and in the footage you can see how he rushes to help him and starts to break down once he realizes his brother was gone. IIRC, the guy sued the show and the police because they obviously opened fire without any care for the innocent civilians as usual. The suspects were also unarmed. The guy LOST the case. This happened in Salt Lake City if I'm not mistaken.

Someone who's related to Andrew basically said the show played up the situation. He's into gaming, but Jayson is into soccer and plays, and Andrew's invested in the activities Jayson does.

Scripted well enough for an early 2000's reality tv show. "fake"

Lol no they aren't like that

@@AgentSquiddydumb

I wouldn't call either set of parents abusive in this one. Obviously the son loves baseball. The mom is just pushing her kids a little to hard but its out of love.

Abuse and abuse by neglect. Poor kids all around!

I think he's on the spectrum

@@danielleburke87 I dunno man, me and my friend are Autistic and have Asperger's and we're NOTHING like that. I mean, we're DEFINITELY lazy and love to play games but neither of us have a child we only talk to through games and we still agree to do chores around the house. Hell, my friend with Asperger's goes to the GYM!

@@danielleburke87I thought so too

​@@connerthewubbzler1062people think they know what Autism or AuADHD looks like but they don't. Most high level business and sports people are not neurotypical. ADHD are more likely to be successful in business than neurotypical people. In fact it is often the "structure at all costs" parents that are undiagnosed rather than the iPad parents.

Wdym he's @m4nymoons uncle!!

I was waiting for the joke to drop and it never came 😂

Wait I just finished the video, where was that at?

@@LaMelJWlike 6 mins in

I commented too soon! I liked the karate thing with dad.

I mean part of it is the show does have to make the rules overly dramatic usually to make for good tv and the 'point' which honestly is seen in most eps because we see after he also get happy thus 'learned the lesson' too. Very much in reality it'd be a dumb rule and something good to talk about or figure out a way to balance relaxing time and sports but I wouldn't over think what the other mom did either.

feels like a director had influence there to make conflict, cause otherwise I feel like that family would have been very relaxed and would just be about adding some freetime instead of drama and crying and conflict like the directors probs wanted

I guess just to show that a week wouldn't change anything and the world wouldn't end because you lost. Buts that's a stretch

What is the point of doing sports? If you’re not trying to be the best? Maybe that’s why there’s so many mediocre players

Big mood. You gotta find a balance

ofc there's a lack of structure but to me it also seemed she was just a lil too swamped with stuff to do to taking care of 2 kids to fix that. plus maybe a lil low self esteem but that's purely speculation

I guess she wanted to show that they could live without it. 🤷

People need to be addicted to success. Look at her she’s overweight. No structure. No boundaries. Who the fuck wants to be like that. That is what is wrong with most of the people now. They don’t have any discipline. Mediocre is acceptable. Get rid of the trophies? Tell me you’re a loser without saying you are.

I saw getting rid of sports as her trying to make them understand that they don't need to be so stressed over things. They're kids, and sports are supposed to be fun, not anxiety inducing. They were all at a point where skipping even a day made them stress out. So basically, "the world won't end if you take a break". Kids raised like this have to learn how to relax

@@milkyard8431 oh yea they definitly could and should have cut back a bit, but making him miss his most important game of the season is something even those without an addiction would stress about. it's giving the wrong lesson with the right intent

I found this comment hilarious purely because I grew up with a dude named Cody who played baseball. He's actually a coach now if I'm not mistaken...

I haven't played baseball in 20 years and that swing hurt my soul, I wonder how much the coach has tried to tutor him.

Yet every professional in the field disagrees, but what do those nerds know 😂

@@99Plastics did you even read what I posted lol.

@@99Plasticscitation needed

huh? they were very different and Tammy learned something. Andrew was an ass the whole time

I think she said that because he plugged his ears

Personally, he seems a bit on the spectrum to me. It would explain how much he doesn't like the changing plans and his communication issues.

​doesn't excuse being a shit father imo

Social anxiety isn’t real. Excuse liberals came up with

She's soooo nice. Andrew got lucky to find someone like her seriously bc I dont think there are many women who would put up with him.

Perhaps with a program like this and this was a lucky episode..its that extra notch up from regular therapy where ypu are forced to confront things with the planned family swap...ups the game that much more that people are likely to get those crucial insights.

Dad and kid are on the spectrum . In my opinion

always fake, reality shows evolved since this show.

@@Stinky_Couch_Pickle “reality“

Both the dads seem like real losers

the gamer dad was not a good person

@@cybertalkwithdevin debatable. He obviously loves his son but has an extreme addiction. Hopefully he continued to get help for it.

Another comment mentioned it the dad was not nearly as messy IRL and was very dedicated to his son.

@@littleferrhis yeah that's kind of what I figured to. Plus his funny personality was very warm and loving even when he was arguing. I'd say overall that appears to be a pretty good person. And not some scene out of south park when they get addicted to world of Warcraft.

right i was waiting with baited breath for a shoe to drop like a big reveal of one of the couples breaking up or something but this felt very wholesome!

Click bait.

an alpha wife for laughter

They dont make it anymore

@@chargestone96maybe it was a fever dream but I feel like I heard they were rebooting it

@@maggiee639 it was rebooted a few years ago on paramount+. had two seasons. wasnt nearly as good.

​@@chargestone96I don't know why my first interpretation of your comment was "wife machine broke"

I completely agree. Or Slow. He definitely needs help.

My thoughts exactly

Thought the little of his chat I saw during the video calling him autistic was only saying that because its video games he's specifically addicted to but now that I finished the video, I wholeheartedly agree They were also calling Jayson neurodivergent too and yeah he does act a lot like Andrew too But overall, I'm not a psychologist so I'll just say they need help with their addiction in the same way they would need help if they had a gambling, drug or alcohol addiction

I am only at 3:31 and I can already tell that Andrew and his son are definitely neurodivergent! I guess it’s easy to spot when you yourself are too.

@@ecueto395did you notice the kid’s shirt is inside out with the tag not touching his skin at 39:59? I do this and I’m on the spectrum. It also looked like he only wears red shirts and legitimately wears 2 shirts, but I could be mistaken. Have a great day/ evening.