The Dance with Pain - Tara Brach 

From one migraine sufferer to another, it makes perfect sense.

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How are you doing?

Aww..sorry💗

+Marlene Smith Yes Its true! We need to encourage each other! Much love, sister lucy

very well said💟

Lesley M The emotional pain resides in the body. You explore the sensations there.

nicb I don't know how to do that.

Lesley M There's pain...where does it hurt? Go there...it has to be in the body. If you feel really disconnected from your body sensations, maybe try yoga or Qigong. Otherwise, body scanning, breathing into tension, etc.

Stephen Levine's work is excellent and may be helpful. You may try Healing into Life and Death or his pain chapter/meditation in Who Dies. Both are wonderful books that helped me a lot with severe chronic pain and illness. Much of his work was with people with terminal cancer or AIDS. Blessings and good luck to you.

Do check out Dr Joe Dispenza's work . Hope that helps

I'd like to know more about pendulation and the theory you mention. Who can I read?

My family is living something similar like you are living. Eckhart Tolle's interview with Larry King about unconsciousness and suffering as well as causing suffering to others help me a lot to snap out great sense of despair and anxiety. I didn't know how to get out even when I was accepting it. I was accepting the pain but unconscious at the same time. May loving presence Stay always with us! Namaste

You say you tried it. Did you not stick with it? They may take years. Have you done any retreats? Have you tried a SSRI?

If you just forget about it its fine . the problem is when u force to ignore it , it just become stronger its like your fighting and not accepting it which'll create more suffering.

+selmo gliksman Pendulation - the movement between regulation and dysregulation

thanks a lot Jenna

and to call it a 'dance' is really insulting to those whose lives have been ruined by it.

She is saying the opposite of what you say. She says pain is inevitable. That means it`s not a choice, it`s legit to be a victim. What she is saying is to invite pain in, and being with it. Acknowleding it. Actually what you are asking for. When you invite it, you can dance with it. Who says dancing is only beautiful ? You can cry and hurt, and dance. The dancing is metaphor for staying close to the pain. Just as you want. That`s actually true love. Staying close to yourself in pain, instead of escaping. Suffering means that the source of the pain / a heartbreak for example) has stopped, but you will stay in the pain for ever, in stead of diving down in the pain, and figure out what it`s truely about: fear of loneliness and so on. I suffer too. It`s human to suffer. But I am trying to get out of suffering, by staying in the pain, dancing with it. Suffering can be a way of escaping the true pain.

@@marketingbureau also by escaping it the thoughts comes back to the mind and you will always try to ignore it . The thoughts starts controling you and ruining so many life moments and u may start fearing those thoughts to comeback and u will fall victim with nothing to do against them all that can lead to start doubting yourself ur never sure if you can do this or that in the future bc of that anxiety that leads to more suffering and it grows with time you became more vulnerable. One of the best cures be present in this moment

@@jackinthebox6143 What she is talking about might be a difference between one person suffering, and another living well with the exact same diagnosis, MRI scan, pain.

This is Buddhism 2567 years old. New Age means instant gratification. You are angry because you want instant gratification