God loves you and he wants a relationship with you he wants to give you peace even in hard times and his love that surpasses all understanding he cares about you and wants to free you from sin and he wants to save you if you would let him and accept his Son the Lord Jesus Christ who died on the cross for us Eternal life is getting to know the one true God and whom he sent the Lord Jesus Christ who loves you to give you his Holy Spirit and he died on the cross so that you can be saved from your sins if you accept
"we don't learn to fully love ourself in isolation because we don't exist in isolation" damn this hit. i always feel that im a better person when im alone and i like myself more when being isolated not realizing that it is actually because im not allowing myself to be vulnerable even with my own family
@@carasway_ I don't know why some parts of us feels extremely shameful, regarding our sexuality or neurodivergencies for example. I don't know, sometimes I feel like a complete stranger in a room of full-loving life people.
"If only I could give myself the same love and kindness and compassion I have for others" made me cry. I put so much love in the people around me and they hurt me in the longrun and then I'm destabalised all over again... I need to put that love into myself
There are two invaluable things I've taught myself.. one is the quote in your first sentence. The second one is that when people hurt you in the infinite ways they find to do that, it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with themselves. People don't hurt you because you deserve to be hurt, they hurt you because they are hurt in some way from their past. If you can convince yourself of that, it will hurt less. It will also help you understand why people do what they do.
Felt this to the core after the second heartbreak in two consecutive years I thought the first one was the lesson. Didn't know the second one was even harder 😢
"true self-love isn’t about self-reliance or self-sufficiency, it’s about our interconnectedness with others and allowing to be vulnerable in their presence" is hitting
@TrivedijiGamesthen you’re with the wrong person. Confront them about it, if they continue their behavior, leave. Leave, leave, leave. It’s hard, oh boy is it hard, but LEAVE. Stop talking to them, create distance, stop hurting yourself trying to make others happy when they clearly disapprove of you: you deserve more than that.
I cried. Searching answers for months on Google didn't help me, reading self-help books didn't help me, talking to other people about it didn't help me, but this video brought my anxious mind to peace, knowing that I am not alone, feeling this way, that I have not gone mad. Thank you so so so so so much for creating something like this. I'll watch this periodically to remember who I really am and wish to be❤️
God loves you and he wants a relationship with you he wants to give you peace even in hard times and his love that surpasses all understanding he cares about you and wants to free you from sin and he wants to save you if you would let him and accept his Son the Lord Jesus Christ who died on the cross for us Eternal life is getting to know the one true God and whom he sent the Lord Jesus Christ who loves you to give you his Holy Spirit and he died on the cross so that you can be saved from your sins if you accept
I love the part about how we don’t learn to fully self love in isolation. When I feel the most down on myself I feel the need to isolate myself from others because I’m not worthy of them in that space… but ultimately it’s about accepting that no matter how we feel we are deserving of the presence of others
fuck me I just want to be held dearly and find someone that I am comfortable with, I cant believe im so starved for love that I would start getting attached to someone in a relationship. They made it clear that they arent looking to leave that relationship and yet I still held on to hope that it happens. What a sick twisted thought. Im grateful for this video because it shows how someone that is as reflected and beautiful as you also struggles with these things and makes me feel less alone. thanks to all the other comments for sharing parts of your life as well. I hope to find someone like you one day that I could love and this community gives me hope that it may happen, even if its unlikely
Sometimes I feel like having hope is like a bandaid on that desire,... And that desire only keeps on festering.. I have moments where I take the bandaid off, go through the pain of believing that it will never happen for me,... And temporarily, I experience seasons of being okay with being alone. Until probably someone starts pursuing me, and for a minute I feel wanted and those desires come flooding in. I get desperately attached very first, and usually I am the one who turns them down because mostly the values I want are usually lacking. But then again.. I have to go through the painful experience of being okay by myself again😢. Atp, I feel like I'll not even give anyone space to pursue me anymore. I am more at peace alone and without having all those desires aroused only to hurt me again😢
@@studylamp3512It'll be okay. Remember to love and listen to yourself. Remember that you don't have to be perfect, you just have to be you. Your true self. And embracing it will help you find inner peace. The same way, the people around you, they try their best. Acknowledge their efforts and accept them whole heartedly. They're just like you, trying to be perfect and looking for meaning. Embracing them for who they truly are, instead of looking for perfection will put an end to the wild goose chase you're on. I sincerely hope everything gets better. Sending lots of love and hugs
@@jayvishnuvenkatesh870 I appreciate your message. But you have assumed that I am looking for perfection.To clarify the reason as to why I do end things... Considering that we live in a hook up culture, most people want sex very first. There is no patiece to know each other well.I am not looking for perfection but it's important for one to have values, and not compromise themselves just to be with someone. Because in my opinion and from my experience, it takes time to really know someone for who they are. Having sex with them very early no matter how appealing they might appear to be, is not wise but a potential recipe for undesirable outcomes. For example you might learn that it's all they were after when you are already attached. Or they aren't who they portrayed themselves to be. Or find out things about them that are absolute deal breakers for you. So, I am better of alone than risking any of these. Just see how f'd up society is as a consequence of casual sex.
@@studylamp3512 It comforts me that we have the same values. My bad for assuming stuff, as you said, it's very hard to find someone today that knows sex is nothing about a relationship, especially ones that are really young. With your values, all you have to do is wait. Your person isn't going to be born after this, they're already waiting for you. Looking for you, and awaiting the moment you guys run into each other. That's going to be one of the best moments in both of your lives. Until that person arrives, why don't you take care of yourself good, because I know that they won't like it if you've been harsh on you, and neglecting yourself. So, do them (and you) a favor and appreciate yourself, and embrace. As the video says, embracing yourself - good and bad, is the only true way to be self loved. It takes time, a hell lotta time. But it does happen. And it's one of the best things ever. Happy that you replied, have a wonderful day friend!
@studylamp3512 I can so relate! I get attached really fast as well and just want validation 😢. When she ghosts me I cope, then eventually let go 🚶♂️ 😔
That monologue during “shame” was something else, as if it were resonating from within me. I felt it truly, and I’ve always struggled with self love. Especially in these intimate moments when all I want is for someone to acknowledge my existence in the world and that I’m not alone in this journey. Thank you for making this
I'm a psychology student and this video helped me so much to realize things. You put exactly those words that were scattered in my mind, l was wishing someone would make me understand what I was going through. I think this video in itself is therapy. If I become a therapist I'll play this to my clients for sure 😭
This video is edited so beautifully just like a miniature movie it’s as if your not even talking about your self it’s like your painting a mural image with your words that slowly unfolds into real life from fantasy …keep going don’t force your self to be what everyone wants you to be life is difficult because we want to be accepted by any and all but the real acceptance comes from self 😊 I remember having a secret crush on a woman who was in a professional field but I could never express it directly so I felt as though I couldn’t truly face her life can make you feel all kinds of ways but never be ashamed of your natural feelings
“i don’t have to keep a perfect record, as long as i keep showing up, that’s all that matters.” that line spoke to my soul. thank you for being here + making the magic you do 🕉️
I’ve been searching for a video like this for a while that would truly resonate with me and how I have been feeling. It is nice to know someone has been through a similar process. Thank you.
I think it's so important that often times the things we see as weaknesses or flaws are also our biggest powers and our most important traits. You cannot have light without darkness
This actually brought tears to my eyes. Your words felt so sincere and you articulated so well things that I have also felt, but could not express. Thank you for sharing this video! I feel encouraged and seen. I’m cheering for you!
God loves you and he wants a relationship with you he wants to give you peace even in hard times and his love that surpasses all understanding he cares about you and wants to free you from sin and he wants to save you if you would let him and accept his Son the Lord Jesus Christ who died on the cross for us Eternal life is getting to know the one true God and whom he sent the Lord Jesus Christ who loves you to give you his Holy Spirit and he died on the cross so that you can be saved from your sins if you accept
i’m actually crying my eyes out typing this, everything about this was so beautiful, and hit home so hard. i’m so glad this video came onto my algorithm and while scrolling through the comments i’m sure most people who clicked on this feel the same way. self-love really is a process and even though it’s difficult to put a finger on the details of the processes, you brought it to life with this video, well done!!
I know right, me too :”) I relate to this so much and I feel like this video is the reassurance and comfort that I’ve been needing after all that self doubt about the way I am
At first I thought this video was going to be about relationships and was afraid that it would open up the wounds of my recent break up. The title and thumbnail just made it too hard not to open and I'm so happy I did because the message was something I really needed to hear. Beautiful video!
I needed to hear "We don't learn to fully love ourselves in isolation", it resonates with my daily habits. Cheers to you for making such an inspiring monologue.
I have been struggling for a long time to love myself and have slowly been falling apart while trying to pretend that I was okay. Self-love is a journey. Growth is a lifetime of baby steps. Today, I am taking the first step towards healing and learning to appreciate myself just the way I am. I am not perfect and that is okay. Thank you for sharing your words and feelings and experience.
As I played the video , I could relate to each and every word that you were saying. Then I suddenly said to myself , "I honor you and love you for coming this far and gaining stability". Thanks for uploading this!
the way you express yourself is very thoughtful and introspective and you still allow yourself to be confident in the words you say despite them making you vulnerable, its refreshing and not easy to do
My god, the way you put your feelings into words is simply outstanding! I've been feeling the exact same way but never been able to express it. This video has made reflect deeply and gave me a whole new perspective. Thank you for sharing this!
i learn to not fall for the trap of using pain as fuel, it's too volatile and burns out too quickly. i'm trying to learn that fuel just puts us in movement, but it's up to us to set the direction or face the inevitable wall ahead, 'cuz life is a road with too many curves. part of life is to learn when to fight and to surrender, but another something i learned is that we not only tend to fall for the same traps because we don't know how to identify when it's coming. most of the time it's actually because we don't know our habits the leads us to those traps. i don't know if awareness helps or allows us to overcome an issue faster. often time i feel myself better for knowing what's happening, but clueless on what to do next. it looks like to me that you know what you want from a relationship, but when you realize that your partner doesn't adequate, you catch yourself already emotionally invested. and i'm sorry if i sound arrogant or parasocial here, i'm only saying this because i think it's a good thing to know what you want and all of us set expectations based on what we want, especially when we think we found it. and congrats on the 20k subs. i'm listening the playlist right now 😄
Yeah, using pain as fuel is not sustainable, which I've only begun to unravel. Surrendering to emotions but still having the strength to stand back up again when the time is right is definitely something I need to practice more. You're right about the fact that because we don't know our habits, that leads us to those traps, but that's why I think awareness really helps, cos if we're not aware of the patterns, we would never be able to change. I don't think most people know what they need to do next in times of struggle, but I think once you surrender and accept things for what they are, the answer sometimes reveals itself. Thank you for always leaving a comment:) It has been a real pleasure to have you along the journey from when I only had +1k subs! I really really appreciate it🤍
this video perfectly encapsulates how I've been feeling for years. i am young, in fact, not even close to 18 yet but at my ripe age i am overwhelmed by the feeling of perfectionism which led to being overly critical of myself. for months ive been trying to heal on my own. neglecting my authentic self, burying it and replacing with a complete identity that fits the standard. this video serves as a warm hug and soft voice for me. thank you for this 😢❤
This video speaks so dearly to me, and gets at the core of my soul. Thank you for your words of wisdom and encouragement. You should be a therapist if that isn’t your current position ❤
I have played this video on loop for I don't know how long. I fell back into my old feelings just last night and couldn't stop shaking and frantically searching for a way out until I found this video. This video encompassed everything I had felt and saw inside of myself. Three days ago I lost someone who I put so much of my love into. I had been in relationships before, but this one I enjoyed so much I began to lose my confidence and small out of fear. Thank you for making me not feel alone
after listening to this just realised you have put down my thoughts into words and found the core problem between me and boyfriend maybe its not his fault its mine i am seeking validation from him, i have to find it in myself
Watched this video and instantly subscribed. Your videos are something truly special, they feel like such a comforting safe space. Thank you for all of your hard work, you are such an inspiration girl xx Also your singing at the end was beautiful!xx
I wasn't feeling very good today, and I saw your video and it would be an understatement to say that I LOVED it. Made me feel seen and everything good. I feel so much lighter now, it's such a heartwarming video. 🥺💌
This hit different, but thank you for putting your experience into words. It resonated with my experience so much. I start therapy next Wednesday to hopefully come out of it a stronger believer in myself and hopefully as the grander plan of things takes its course, I'll find someone that'll understand I just wanted to love and be loved in return.
Just like you I started devouring self-help content, books, yt channels etc in an attempt to improve as fast as I could. At the same time I started to doubt that I would not repeat the same mistakes again. Your video is beautiful and made me once again realize that there will be challenges on the way and above all, made me remember this: "self-improvement is not a sprint, its a marathon". Thank you!
Wow, you’re a great writer! I expected to hear cliche from seeing the thumbnail (never watched any of your work before) but this was so honest and so thoughtful! Loved it.
Wise words Cara, I can tell a lot of diligent nurturing was compressed into this brief reminder. Sometimes I unearth these quieter corners of the internet that flabbergrasps my perception and slaps me into a completely different direction😌
This was really comforting and honestly shocking that someone else is feeling the same exact way I am. It makes me happy to know that I'm not alone. I love what you put out to the world, keep it up ❤❤❤
this is a beautiful work of art, it makes me happy how articulate and in touch with your emotions you are. Your work has undoubtedly made a significant impact to myself and others who resonate with your words and are moved by your cinematography. Thank you so much for creating this video and creating an environment to be vulnerable, you have a beautiful soul ❤
This is one of the most well thought out, most beautiful video I have ever watched. Thank you so much. Thank you for not only growing for yourself but growing for us and sharing it with the world. ❤️
My heart feels warm while reading all this comments , people coming here and sharing their personal experiences with others so that they don't repeat the mistakes , it just feels like I am reunited with a family that had been lost for years
this answered a lot of questions for me. i shed some tears, reconnected with parts of myself that i had been neglecting, accepted truths about myself that i had been denying... nowadays i had been struggling to translate these intricate feelings of mine into words. your words really helped me. they felt like a big warm hug. thank you, i love you for this ❤🫂
Glad youtube brought me here, your insights are wonderful. It's crazy how well you can put my thoughts into words. I'm not quite through chapter 3 in my own life, but this gives me hope things will get better
This’s definitely what i need rn 😭😭😭 The feeling of betrayal to all the process i made before hit me so hard that I barely can not understand anything. Tysm for being here, in an exactly time that i need this the most. So happy and grateful for you to overcome all of this and then spreading the messages for people out here ❤
God damn I’m only halfway through and this is so real. A year after my first real breakup, going through therapy and having my previously unshakable sense of self confidence and identity be totally crushed was rough. Wanting to be someone “better” and finally having to acknowledge all these vulnerabilities I never knew were there all this time is a really hard thing to do.
one of my favourite videos ever. it gives me so much comfort & happiness seeing people being vulnerable enough to show their struggles and not making everyone believe that they should be perfect or be independent all the time
i wrote something very similar to this a little over an hour ago, this cleared up a lot of things i couldn’t see from the emotional state i’m in, thank you for the honesty you brought to this video
I was silently crying throughout this entire video It perfectly summed up what I was going through for the past while (and my entire 18 years of life so far lol) and explained a lot of my emotions to me. Thank you for making this amazing piece of work. I'm already getting much better at many things and this video was such a nice watch while I'm healing :-D
I've realized this too. I think "I could love myself if I simply had control over my life and how I act, if I never let myself falter in front of people" but then I have to remind myself. I don't exist in a vacuum, I can't pretend like this world won't change or shift me, because it will. Instead, I can accept myself as a person, with flaws and insecurities that may never go away, and I think within the capacity to love flaws itself is what helps you to truly see that in other people too. I think that's what I have been missing honestly. So thank you. This helped me.
what a beautiful video! every sentence of it made us reflect… i am genuinely impressed with the way you interconnected all these seemingly different themes… i loved every part of it
I’m now crying at 3 am bc I’m constantly insecure about the relationships I have with people and it’s 100% that I’m not being vulnerable enough with them. Thank you so much for this. Your gift is beautiful ❤️ please keep sharing
Throughout the whole video, I felt heard and understood, and being heard and understood is being loved for me. Your each word was extremely relatable. This is what I badly needed today. Thank you, Cara.❤
“We don’t learn to love ourselves in isolation because we don’t exist in isolation” hit unexpectedly hard. I am not lonely. There are a few people that I can call friends, they are nice, caring and fun to be with. I’m in good relationships with my family, I’m comfortable with them. I have no social anxiety, people even seem to like me… but, apart from my family, there are no people I genuinely love. Once I recovered from long relationships with a person I gave all myself to, the person that was my only friend for two years, I lost my ability to love. I still try to reach out to people, but I never feel it’s worth it. When I lost her, I hoped that I will certainly find a substitution, but it was never to happen. I don’t think the void somewhere inside me will ever be filled.
Howbeit don’t give up, I enjoy my life, my work and my multiple hobbies. The only thing that makes me upset is that I cannot fully share it with someone. I still believe that I’m not hopeless.
This video is so beautifully filmed & edited. It resonates so much within me, love this so much and the beautifully crafted words from the video. Sending much love 🥹🩵🩷
When you mentioned that you only loved the parts of you that you're proud is such a great insight that many of us can relate to. A lot of self help information revolves around taking the steps necessary to reach your goals so you can ultimately feel happy. As much as I feel this advice helps a lot of people, you have rightly pointed out that just focusing on and praising your achievements/highs leaves little room for loving the other, less desirable, parts of you. Loving yourself unconditionally puts you on a path to anti-fragility, where one cannot just withstand a shock, but actually improve from it. Great video, love from Scotland
Every time I go through a breakup(it happens a lot sadly) I tend to lose myself. I get so wrapped up in trying to love someone else & make them happy,they end up leaving me, then I hit rock bottom. It’s a cycle:/ Thank you for this 🖤
this video couldn't have come to me at a better time. im going through this exact situation rn, and ive been having so many profound realisations. this needed to happen to me. they needed to leave me so i'd learn one of the most important lessons; the truth of self love. thank you, what a beautiful video
i was in the turmoils of a short relationship when you posted this and now after the breakup what you have created showed me how much i lock my emotions inside just like the little girl in me did. he told me i was too clingy physically i felt unloved now this video made me realize how much love i needed to give to my inner child especially in a relationship. how i need to ground myself in having a separate identity that’s different from my partner and it’s perfectly okay. how it’s perfectly ok to feel deeply about everything and in the long run how beautiful pain can be. he may not have loved me but i would have loved that clingy girl who just wanted to be held everyday and be listened to with an open heart
I don't know.... These 3 words blurred everything in my life..i m at once proud of myself that I gained so knowledge abt ppl thoughts hopes reality at such young age of 18 but at other point I m just that which u described urself in the vdo abt shame self doubt frustration sadness emptiness fake desires n etc.....i m not dissapointed by the prsn at all bcoz we knows ppl comes n leaves n it's normal in everyone's life, but by the thoughts that I changed myself for something or someone's that I never even wanted to. I lost my energy to be able to dare to live in the present moment. my inner self which is so open n vulnerable has been taken placed by that negativity filled within so deeply which I wants to get over but again comes to that old points of self doubt and all. I have realised it that "it's gonna be taking time" but yet every second of minute I feels empty which I m not n I knows that but still I feel. Yeah I m grateful for everything but then why I feels lost from my own way? I yet did not able to figure out whether the prsn I was wishing to be with me IDK anyhow (which is impossible) was/is right for Me or not...maybe I m too young to bring such thoughts but I DO na...its the way I m my thoughts n I'll whether I m proud of it or not. I truly wants to love myself but wasn't able to go deep in its meaning which u helped me atleast little bit to understand.... ND I THANKS YOU FOR UNEXPECTEDLY POPPING UP ON MY UTUBE... ♡♡♡
I've never thought someone in this world struggles with deep emotions as I. Thank you for this great content! It was nice to hear these words. I realised that I have to acknowledge that I am sad and lonely. That, I don't have to rush it all the way down. I needed to feel and go throught my emotions and not hide it or rush it under the surface. Thankss!
idk what to say. i’ve been struggling since college started bc the self-doubt was so strong and i’ve felt so out of control due to my thoughts yet i think i’m going to be okay now. this vid was comforting to watch. tysm bc you explained it so well
What a beautiful, kind, heart-warming video it is! 🤩Scenes, sentences are so real and at the same time so magical for healing. 😊😊Thank you for this peaceful video🤩🤩😇😇
hi dear, just wanted to say this video helped me a lot. it also break me to the pieces, i had to pause the video go to bathroom and cry for half an hour. i watched it once then i watched it again. i think the good part about it is, how seen i felt. your words felt like a hug, like gentle wind on my shoulder. knowing that i know my problems, i know where my scars are, knowing everything because i am too self aware feels like punishment sometimes. but being loved is being known right. everyday i am trying to love myself better, the same love that i am willingly give to everything around me. i am trying to reach out more instead of isolating myself, i am trying to hold my own hands in the days everything feels wrong. i cried a lot in this video but at the same time it helped. so thank you, i hope you know how many people feel seen and understood thanks to you. sending you lots of love
I agree so much! The turning point for me was to lower my expectations from life and from myself. As a result, I finally could see what it's like 'to live in the moment'. When 'this moment' is not about your greatest moments, but the insecurities too
Great video. I'm trying so hard to love myself more and this video spoke to so much of how I feel I've dealt with trauma, loss of relationships, friendships dissolving, and through all that I've learned so much about me, and I'd like to think that I'm much farther along But I also hurt sometimes. I get lonely and self conscious, the floodgates of negative thoughts can be overwhelming... I've wanted a life partner so much for the past 30 years, and sometimes self love feels like just another barrier to overcome to get there, like I need just x amount of self love points before I get a soulmate. But I want to just love myself and love life. I love this video and I hope one day to get to where you're at. 🫶🏾
Never felt as validated as i do now as i watch this video... The jumbled mess in my head put into words...i felt so lost, especially beginning a year without making any of the progress i expected of myself.... gained back the weight....fell back into bad habits... which made me feel so pathetic and worthless...i didn't know where/how to start AGAIN,but this video is a sign😕🫶🏾
in chapter 3, when you talked about the parts of ourselves that we feel ashamed of. this is what i’m trying to tell my friends, that i truly wanted to accept that broken part of me, to let myself heal in my own pace. what hurts more is they invalidate me by saying that it was also my fault for dwelling into it when it’s not worth it. i know that it’s not, but can’t i have my moment? can’t i let myself feel the pain until it withers away with my tears? i just don’t want to force myself to move on as if nothing happened, i believe that i only can truly move on if i let myself feel the pain until it no longer exist within me than forcing to turn my back on it.
as far as I can tell, they aren’t really your friends. you’re right, you deserve to have your moment, and heal at your own pace ❤ people who discourage you from doing so should not be called friends sending hugs 🫂
Thank you for this video. I need this and had made me understand a lot of things though it will take time. I thought I loved my self after getting dumped from 6 years relationship and move on to another love but I never actually fully loved myself, I was insecure about myself and just like that I also saw my confidence crumbling down about the other person and suffocated him, till few minutes ago I kept blaming myself for losing this man but after watching this I realised I just needed to love myself the same way I loved him , only then if I ever find love again I’ll be able to healthily love the other person. Now I’m focusing more on self development and face all my insecurities and get rid of self pity and come to acceptance that my parents are death and I’m an orphan but whatever I have right now is a blessing from god and I need to cherish and accept it without thinking how would it be if I had parents. I will work on accepting that it is what it is now, I cannot keep looking back and wish for parents, I will work on accepting reality and work on myself and be a confident and self loving lady. It’s not too late I’m just 23, and I can do it. Thank you so much for this video, it gave me a sense of reality. I’ll love the life I have now and work on making it better and beautiful and live a happy life
love love LOVE this! these are probably my favorite types of youtube videos because i always find them when i most need them, and knowing that every person has these thoughts and feelings makes me feel less alone in this process. thank you for making this video
