The Empath & The Narcissist - The Most Painful Dynamic 

Hi

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But good vid

Not gonna lie, did not see this coming.

You unfortunately have allied with a very greed driven game when in comes to RAID. It appeals to anyone who enjoys beautiful RPG games, but is heavily relies on cash to get very far in the game. Trust a suckered who fell for it to the tune of almost $1000.00 during quarantine, onlynto realize that other had spent far far more and were in the same "grinding" predicament only to still be very far from significant advancements. I caution anyone who has a slight spending issue and time to kill. This game can empty your wallet quicker than having a teenager these days. My advice, play but never start giving into the constant barrage of advertisements to purchase in game upgrades. ✌🏼💗🖖🏼

............Madame. Sometimes, your genius frightens others around you.

There's truth in this. I'm an empath surrounded by narcissists. Only one family member is also an empath and he's the only brother i mostly trust and confide. In terms of friends, I got rid of all toxic narcissists. I keep only agreeable empathic ones. I'm happier now.

Yes, this is common, unfortunately. Empaths aren’t saints. They have to do a lot of work to heal or their emotional volatility can hurt others, too. Once healed, they can consistently bring many gifts to a relationship.

@@matthewlake2813 I second this but only one of my parents..it's more of my siblings and others I encounter that are usually narcissist

@@plaguedoc7727 unfortunately im speaking from experience. i think it will be a lifetime of unlearning and healing through the pain

I needed this honestly, thank u! It’s so hard being an empath honestly…

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This is very true:)) I needed this Ander, ty😫

So true

You're very aware, and beautiful for giving ththis type of advice. Yes, you're right.. I've known this for too long now. Funny thing is that I even need reminding at times. Thank you. 🌻🤘

Omg yes 😢 I feel like they are everywhere, now that I’ve experienced one for 2 years, I don’t trust anyone anymore. I am literally scared of people 😢

@@alicegoldenvalley i know the feeling but you will learn how to identify the signs and step away when you need. And when that process gets clearer for you, you'll also learn how to recognize and open your heart (IN YOUR TIME) to people who wanna see you happy and are able to give you the care and love you deserve! they exist somewhere, but they are harder to spot because they don't show off like narcisists do. But you'll recognize them and know how to separate your perception of them from the previous awful experiences you had with narcisists. Therapy is literally 100% how i started to learn this... and i still am learning. But it gets soooo much better with time. I'm only recently starting to open my eyes to the wonderful people that exist out there and identifying them. If your trauma is still recent, please give yourself time ❤️ i hope you have a beautiful life with people who deserve to share ir with you! i believe in you and wish you all the best 💕💕💕💕

I vote for this! Let's come up with a plan. I've thought about this before too. We need extra security for the communal narcissists who pretend to be empaths.

They’re easy to spot as they all wear mirrored shades

😁 Are there any islands left for sale? Or maybe a colony. Anybody know of available land?

You can do it, we can do it. I was in a relationship with a narc, nobody knew he was one. He charmed everybody until he almost killed me. After we spent a good evening together. We were in a relationship for 4 years. Healing from such people is hard. But we are stronger than them. We feel and understand emotions, let's take advantage of this gift and use it to understand ourselves. I wish you all the best!

I hear that. I don't trust anyone anymore. The only love I can expect and receive now is from God alone. Only Jesus has the power to heal. And He can do it as fast or slow as you want to go.💜 🤗

I totally understand how you feel :(

@@patriciarose2342 Amen!! I know your pain!!😟😯 God can truly heal us!🙏🙏🙏😇

@@dhihosilver7419 thank you so much Lovely 🤗💜. I believe it! The Lord bless you indeed!

I would wholeheartedly agree with you but I'm too busy admiring your lovely profile picture..

I can’t relate to this and it must be tough for you to have an unhealthy relationship with your dad. Don’t let any narcissist corrupt your mind. Because your mind are your own, and no one owns you only you.

This is the exact situation I'm in. Thank God I don't live with my Dad.

Jason T. Remember narcissist dont always say truths

Yess my dad is a narcissist and I'm an empath glad I'm not alone

"Love" is a double edged sword, being the one thing that can get either or both parties hurt eventually and it will do so and such is the ultimate form of emotional masochism.

It really is, i've been there. Great phrase.

I meant if you f up love then i guess you wont be able to fix it again.

@@samuraiboi2735 but if you dont allow it to exist for yourself you can never be hurt by it, that is what i meant, kind of like pets, sure they're fun for the moment, but you're really just gonna end up in pain from them dying or (in certain animals) the pet itself can get depression, you never get the pet, you never lose the pet.

That's the biggest load of crap I've ever read of course love can die naturally

I get punished like I'm a child

agreed. I was never physically abused, but I had to hide all of my emotions so my narcissist husband couldn't use my vulnerabilities as "tools to use against me". It took a lot of very bad choices of his for me to finally see reality.

I told my narcissist best friend who claimed to be an empath I didn’t want to answer her call or talk to her this one time because I was really upset and hurt with what she did, and then she went on to say I didn’t respect our friendship and we shouldn’t even be friends( plot twist: I would call her at least semi daily and not all the time would she answer the phone, it would be either later on or not at all that day, and I would just say to myself oh she must be busy that’s okay I will probably just hear from her later) the one time I said to her I’m upset with you and I really not interested in having any sort of conversation in this present moment when you want to me to call you now I don’t respect our friendship. And that’s how I realized she is a narcissist trying to desperately convince herself she is an empath.

It's not your fault if the other gaslights you, these are consequences of the way the OTHER has of not being able to deal with the establishment of YOUR limit that is legitimate just like anyone else, and that he can't respect at this moment. He will always find a way to try to cheat. Each one is responsible for their own maturation, as well as their own attitudes. You won't be able to change the other and you won't have control over his reactions. The secret is that you don't even need it. Because the moment you say "no", you are doing it for yourself, you are the one who is respecting your own limits, and that's why you don't need the other person's consent. Yours is enough. Because it's yours, it belongs to you, and you're taking back something you believed was in someone else's power. It's hard to deal with the other person disagreeing with a right that belongs only to you, but there are always ways out, no matter what the other tries to do to imprison you. If this narcissist is an abusive husband, you can always ask for help. If it's your parents, unfortunately it's more complicated to have autonomy if you're a minor, but it's a matter of time because it won't last forever. Until then, just be aware that this is abusive and keep living and waiting, and when you have the opportunity, grab the right to own your life with both hands. Even if you are censored by the other. Even if he doesn't recognize what's yours. You know and that's enough. You already have the conscience, that nobody can take down. Your conscience is the foundation for the exit, it will give you the strength to take action. It's the first step to getting out. Once you understand more clearly what is abusive and what is not, what is blackmail and what you are entitled to, you will free yourself from the guilt of reacting and know where the time to fight is. Then you'll find yourself taking action. Even silent no one will be able to take your conscience away. It is something that resists despite fear and inhibition, and the feeling of powerless. She is your home right now, choose to dwell in her and remain faithful. You will arrive the moment you discover that you are free. When that happens you will discover a force that you didn't even know existed inside. Consciousness is the seed that will germinate this. She's already there. On the contrary, you would not be here commenting, neither watching this video. Choose to cultivate.

Agreed.

nah i swear i wont do it again, trust me i will change.

Wow.... I needed to read that. I'm wanting to get out of an 18 year relationship/14 year marriage, with 4 kids together, that falls into the narcissist/empath duo... It's physically painful to see anyone or anything hurt. I can't hate him, so I feel his pain and don't want to be the cause of his pain! But I just turned 40 this year and I'm tired. I actually feel like my mental health is suffering from this life. Before it was him and I, (I was 22, he was 19 when we got together) it was my dad and I. If not my mom and I. I just wanted to make them happy and proud and love them. It was never enough. Just like my love won't ever be enough for my husband. I need out. Tax time is coming, and I feel that if I can't use that money to get my own place for the kids and I- and then him get his own place- I'm gonna run to a shelter. Because I need help and I need out... 😩

I did nothing wrong! You are wrong!

and "it's always your fault" they could never apologize

@@all.about.narcissism when you know someone's a thief and you continue leaving your bag open right in front of them, you're enabling the thief. if you see the person doesn't change and you go on putting up with it, you're enabling the narc.

True

Yes

And i'm like this😊 i want to cure them💔

We want to cure them because we are in love with them.

@@gingerrivas5354 or trauma bonded, like it's explained in the video. I'm just out of a relationship where i wasn't sure if i was in love. I was extremely caring and uncertain at the same time. I've felt such a strong connection, because we've had some similar experiences. But at the end she left me pretty brutally. Called it self care, and i know it was, but i was severely hurt. And after some time where i couldn't let go, i realized she's gaslighted me and herself. She was in a relationship with a gaslighter before, at least that's what she's told me, so i think she may has adapted some of his patterns. But it doesn't change the outcome. It was a really toxic relationship and i didn't realize it because i was too caught up in a pattern of "wanting to help" and "make it work" myself. It's so sad to see that she might be caught in this unhealthy cycle and i think i kinda love her, but at the same time: how could i be in love with someone who denies my feelings? So i think it was trauma bonding. The attraction was insane, that's why i thought it was love. I wonder if two empaths could be trauma bonding each other if they've adopted some narcissistic behavior by introjection.

I’ve worried so much incase I was the narcissist. It’s so hard.

That’s exactly the way I feel!

I swear you pick up narc tendencies if you’re with them long enough

Narc's favorite weapon is reaction abuse. Just learned about this and it makes it all make so much more sense. Never stop learning and therefore growing family. If we are alive here on earth we are community. Sending you love and healing thoughts all

I actually demanded my therapists to do me a test to know if i was the narc. And even with the negative results i couldnt believe!

I'm sorry you went through that but I'm happy it ended. May you find the love you deserve and want.

I lost a decade of my life to a narc-empath relationship, and I am _still_ noticing more and more abuse and red flags from that time. Like, I wrote her a ton of love letters, and one time she wrote one for me, but only because she felt obligated. And half of it was talking about how she's bad at love letters because a sheet of paper doesn't admire her while she says "I love you".

I have been through the same, my ex girlfriend was a narcissist. But I tend to think of it like this: a toxic person in your life is like a fly, you catch it or drive it out of your house; you are not going to burn down your house to get rid of a fly!

I am going through that now.l recently left him and l feel like l don’t want to be in a relationship every again

I know ur pain & I couldn't agree with u more. Its mentally, emotionally & physically exhausting. We all deserve to be happy in life. We all deserve to feel loved in the healthy ways of it. Namaste

I needed to use an unorthodox strategy to leave also.

I also dated a narcissist for 7 years. I tried to break up with him after my eyes were truly opened to who he really was. But he refused to accept the break up and even almost threw my phone in the toilet. I had to pretend I wanted to give him another chance but I needed some space and time to think and wanted to go stay with my mom for a little while. He actually let me finish packing (I had secretly started weeks before, 7 years is a lot of time to accumulate stuff) The whole time he tried convincing me to stay, but I held my ground, got out of there, and never looked back

@@ScarlettNyxx wonderful! Glad you escaped.DON'T EVER GO BACK.

Agree - educate yourself, know the signs, and get the help you need so you can take better care of yourself.

May i ask what your unorthodox strategy was please? Im currently trapped in one :(

I’m so sorry this happened to you. You are not stupid by any means. You were used, that is not your fault. I am sending so much love and encouragement to you through this journey of healing, it will be long but worth it in the end. Keep your head up. ❤️

Much love and light to you! 🌸❤✨ Bless you with healing!

Sweetheart :(( I am so sorry. Know that you're not alone.

Youre not stupid, you were used. And I'm sorry it happened to you.

I’m so sorry about all that you are faced with.you are not alone God is with you don’t loose focus

Finally some one on here who'd Amit to been a narcissist! Well done for been aware and trying to change.. better then been a empath bragging about been a empath.. makes me cringe. Not that every one does that. But adlist your honest and to your self also trying to get help for it x

Thank you for sharing this...its a light at the end of the tunnel

@@ellyroach7525 it's hard to admit to having a problem while spending all energy on proving you're perfect. It makes me wonder if they really are empaths, true empaths I've met never bragged. Anyway, 3 years of hard, painful work in therapy and I'm heald. Yay 😀 and he stayed with me- yay again 😀

@@fAnnY7lU you're welcome. If you're in a relationship with a narcissist please take care, protect yourself, support them if you can and if they ask for it but don't overspend yourself and don't try to change them. Narcissist will only truly change if they find a strong need within themselves.

@unicornishcornish yea I've tried to help them but ultimately they said they'll never feel deserving of me, that they'll just mistreat me, and that they can't see themselves changing as a person, they're gone now. Hopefully they won't hurt the new person too much.

I'm currently resisting the urge to chase my ex narc bf who I was going to marry someday, genuinely thought he was the love of my life and I still can't stop myself from missing him everyday. I'm an empath who desperately wanted to fix him, the harder I tried the more our relationship broke until there was nothing left but resentment. I appreciate your reminder to never go back.

@@alivc2458 Never go back. Stay strong. There will be someone who will treat you with the love and respect that you deserve. Don’t fall for the trap and toxic cycles.

@@alivc2458 honey, i married one and trust me its not good picture

They say they love you because they want you to tell them the same. They say I want to hear about you an support you only to fit the role of a good bf gf and so you won't leave

@@alivc2458 I’m so sorry you went through that. I swear reading your comment felt like reading my life. Everyday I try to resist the urge to contact an extremely toxic ex who I was with for about 5 years total on and off. He did everything imaginable to me outside of killing me. Somehow, I still have the urge to fix it because when it was good, he was the most loving person to me. I just don’t understand how one can be so kind in the beginning and just become the devil himself after. Why? How can they live with themselves. I still want to help him because I truly believe he’s sick and I want to help him because as much as he cut me deep, I feel like he’s so much worse off than me

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Thank you. I pray too.

Not really, I believe most of the stuff in this vid

As someone that somewhat relates to the narcissistic side, i wish more empaths to learn about narcissism and adapt. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings while trying to maintain my own balance. Even though i can't emphatize much, i still think everyone deserves love and respect so i try to listen, understand and help. It just makes me feel anxious to ignore my ego and relate. It's like flying a plane, i feel like i gotta keep my ego high, so i don't come crashing down in the smallest struggle but you gotta do what you gotta do sometimes i guess :o ( *prepares parachute* )

@@superDpermn im learning more about narcissist. However, egocentric will not allow you to grow and empathize with others. Learning to manage your ego will be the first step, when you learn to do this then you will balance your life better. Thx for responding

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Congratulations! :)

@Stacie R We are in the same boat, My father is a narcissist and I can't leave because I'm not 18. I believe that we will be able to leave one day so don't give up!

I have a narcissistic sister and mother. My dad also displays some narcissistic traits. I am on a path of detachment from them and from other family members who ganged up on me to protect my narcissistic mother from me when I left home and didn't want to talk to her, and when I dared criticise her. I am not currently responding to any messages from either parents or my sisters. My youngest sister always seemed like an empath but I have noticed she is essentially just a pawn for my mother and my older sister - she will empathise with me when we are alone but when she is with my mum and older sister she will blame me just as they do. So I have turned my back on all of them. I also have never felt more free, confident and peaceful in my whole life.

@@amybecca17 I'm so happy for you! Hope you will live your best life! 😊💕

The same happened to me a night mare im 61 she devastated me and super unfaithfull and a flirt with man in front of me.

Any advice for a 20 something ? How to deal with a narcissistic treating you badly ? I can surely need it.

Same here! I never paid enough attention to my “light” and for me that was my identity, my emotional needs and what I alone really wanted. I am going through it now and it was quite the lesson that I’ll never forget. Hope you are doing okay yourself.

Same here. Absolutely same.

@silkify thank you so much that makes my day

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Ty

Thank you! ✌🏼💗🤗 Signed, Someone who has been destroyed by loving narcissistic people most of my life.

@@josh3arch31 maybe you just haven't met them yet but I guarantee there is someone out there out of the 7 billion+ people on this planet who will love you and treat you kindly :) I hope you find them soon

What if I'm a best friend of a narcissistic and she's in the same school as mine, I don't think I can make distance from her without making her angry....

@@aartisharma864 tell a teacher. It all sounds very cliche, but I had a narcissistic friend in primary school that left me so many scars. It might hurt, they may cry, or get angry or throw a fit to prevent you from distancing yourself or telling an adult, but it’s the only thing that really worked for me. Trust me, it’s the best thing to do.

Why I learned along time ago to never let my gard down with the narcissist in my life. " Who is a family member . " Yes the empath and the narcissist will always clash like in and out, black and white, stop and go you get the picture. But us empaths feel sorry for the narcissist anyway. Because we know that the narcissist will die to be better, hateful and very lonely 🥺 and that they will burn 🔥 the hottest. " And we still feel sorry for them. " Meaning I still have my fingers crossed for you EL--CEE

Nice list but you omitted the "message from our sponsor" between 3:38 and 5:48. That's more than a fifth of a "helpful" video given over to a computer game.

@Making Memories Collecting Moments Sorry to hear that, we will be here with you ❤️

This is me🥺 facing a conflict with myself right now concerning a situation between a friend who I believe is a narcissist based on what I have observed

That sounds super complex, good luck on your journey

@valvetdelight8118 thanks. It's mostly learning that narc tendencies are easier because I can separate myself from my intense emotions rather than coping with them since I didn't get proper emotional support growing up. So now I'm relearning how to feel and that is making my empathy meter spike and naturally making my narc tendacies lessen. But it's a very big journey and a lot of pain to learn to feel again after forcing it down for so long

​@@DaxVerus Thank you for sharing! I think it's awesome that you are willing to put in the work in order to grow and evolve. Kudos to you and I wish you the best!

It's not easy to work on yourself, you took an amazing step to grow. I wish you good luck on your journey!

People actually evolve. No one stays an empath/narcissist forever. External factors like friends, environment and social media trends play a major factor in changing us

Agreed. Currently suffering from C-PTSD and the tremors, nightmares, losing weight, no sleep, unable to work, dissociation, hypervigilance.....the list goes on.....

Well, thank you for mentioning this! Same here :/

@@truthseeker8502 There are ways out of the pain. I was terminally suicidal as a direct result of narcissistic abuse. If I can do it you can.

Take time and make no commitment. Magic words.

wow that sucks, went to therapy yet excarcebated his synthoms. but good that you managed to get free

Narcissists will usually only go to therapy to silence the victim (see, I'm willing to change), only to go back to their normal behavior, or they will go to therapy to learn how to be a better manipulator. Even therapists get manipulated by narcs...

@@amyitis yep. When my ex finally went to therapy, he conned the therapist into believing his edited versions of stories. Then demanded I attend his sessions and found out he had pinpointed me as the cause of his bad behavior. So guess who became traumatized by that therapy experience? 🤚

@@kezbot2 My God! I hope you are OK, these demons are some of the most cunning monsters on earth. I pray you totally recover from this horrible experience.

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It's a constant battle fighting denial internally and externally but better than being a sucker. You made the best point.

Wow!

Beautiful

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👏

such a beautiful poem :')

Same. It’s just that scary level where you can’t even understand the kind of evil in a person. Like how does it even exist? I am scared for life and I have PTSD from being abused emotionally for 2 years by a narcissist.

In my marriage my narcissistic ex wife told me I had no empathy. She gas lighted me in so many different ways but when she said that I knew it was a step too far. It's horrendous being in that situation and truly terrifying to look back on.

My goodness, that sounds soo exhausting to me- how are you doing ? Maybe a lil in-depth research could help you to get the mental tools you’d need to 'handle' her. A little reminder: Everyone is responsible for their OWN feelings/ thoughts/ emotions/ actions. Sure, you can be influenced by outside stimuli (i.e. persons, circumstances etc.) BUT at the end of the day everyone is responsible only for their own feelings/ emotions and so on. - so, if she is reacting all the time to the emotions of others, you could politely state the above and tell her that it may help her to learn how to distance herself from others feelings. And maybe- only maybe- if you’re straightforward enough- tell her that what she’s been doing is 'slightly' annoying and emotionally immature🤔💛 Good luck!🍀👍🏻

@@KaiIchiRu96 You don't know what an empath is, judging by this immature comment. Being responsible for your feelings, doesn't stop you feeling hurt when you are violated. If you act in a way to harm someone, you can't throw it in their face and say ''you're responsible.....''. Its the ultimate in gaslighting. If you physically strike someone, you don't say 'you're responsible for your health'. Well yes they may be but that doesn't stop the pain from the strike.

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You are not alone. I have been through a very similar situation, and am somewhat on the other side of it now. It's pretty much every other day that I doubt myself, saying "There's just no way they're a narcissist." Then I have videos like this as well as family/friends to remind me that I deserve better treatment than that.

I left last year, after 23 years of marriage, 15 of which were emotionally manipulative and abusive. Whenever we fought (that is, he ranted and I had to listen), or whenever he thought I wasn't giving him enough attention, he would threaten to kill himself. I used to just be shy, but friendly, and a hugger. Now I can't stand most people, and hate to be touched. And believe me, once my kid was old enough to move out, she did, and helped me leave when I finally ran out of excuses not to.

coverts are dark and dangerous. in a 5 year relationship with one. finally free of him it was a true nightmare. my mother is a narcissist but I had never met a covert very dark mean people. with very low self-esteem.. I sometimes feel sorry for him. don't know why. because he honestly tried to destroy who I truly am. hope I never meet a person like this again. finally getting back to myself after questioning if I was completely out of my mind.. good luck to all who are dealing with this.. stay strong and hold your ground... God Bless to all..😇🙏

Yes! I was wrapped up in a covert for 3 years. She finally agreed to go to couples therapy. After a few sessions the therapist pulled me aside and advised that I research covert narcissism. Every question that I ever had about the relationship was finally answered. Packed up her shit that weekend, but it still took another 7 months for the stalking to stop.

I think u made the only sensible decision. As of yesterday I ended my relationship of 9 years. God it hurts but it's the only way in my eyes. Best of luck to you all! This has become a daily hell, so glad to be FREE

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Hell yeah! Good for you yo

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Glad you're better, you're really strong! I'm struggling with a narcissistic mom too, but I'm getting through it I don't love her, but I don't hate her either.

I had to leave mine too and she has some supply with my sister who’s a narcissist too so I’m lucky to get away. 🙏🏻🥰

@@mdbham oh yeah plz get away because dealing with more than one narcissist at a time can be a whole train wreck. I’m sorry you’ve been through this but I pray you give yourself time to heal 🙏🏾 I’m dealing with a narcissistic mother and she acts like she cares about me and the things I do but she doesn’t. It’s like I keep looking for the emotional support from my mother that I never had but I don’t want to look for it because I’m always getting stepped on by her like I’m so kind of roach and I don’t deserve to be treated like that and you don’t either. Move on and live your best life you!!💝🤩

I’m happy for you to have realized that and did what you could best for your own happiness

Thanks for sharing. That's a tough childhood and situation to be in. Be proud of yourself and your accomplishments. And hopefully you're getting the help you need with a mental health professional so you can heal and continue forward. Please take care.

🙏🏼 sending you strength. The PTSD is a real thing.

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My husband is the narcissist

@@Jen18lol leaving is extremely hard. But it was the only thing I could do. Blessings and kindness to you.

Is it PTSD or complex PTSD? Because being in a relationship with such an devastating trauma bond for years can leave individuals with the complex form. Wish you the best of luck, pal! It will get better. But it sure wasnt easy, was it? 😕

Both parents, sister, boyfriends (most), husband. Light finally went on.

I second this notion✋🏻✨

Same here. Same! 💔😥

Ditto

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@@m2b785 what content?

@@m2b785 u have 7 subscribers, ma dude 💀💀

@@m2b785 If it was better you wouldn’t need to prove it by responding to a silly youtube comment

Just face it bruv. They care more about your money than your mental health.

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Guess that's a bit late for me, but I'll manage

I wish I could learn how to do that

Then why didn't I know he was lying?

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@@m2b785 Bro I don’t think no one’s gonna watch your one unlisted video if you promote it like that.

Been there too. I wasn't aware bc when I told him that he needed to be a little more considerate of others he kept twisting it as if I'm being to naive and selfless (I'm not, really) and people are gonna take advantages of people like me. It wasn't until recently that I realized he did everything throughout the relationship for his own ego and that I deserve to be loved right.

@@sunshineinthesky2532 Yeah that's how they twist the knife, making you think its YOUR fault because they're so apathetic. It was only after I met her grandparents I found out just how she was. Her grandparents were nice people, really kind hearted and they were very religious. She had been coddled her whole life, allowed to do whatever she wanted and what was worse she was given EVERYTHING she ever wanted, whether it was money for college, her own car, her own phone etc., nobody ever told her no. Me I had to work for everything I owned. Should have seen the writing on the wall the moment we met, would have saved me a lot of heartache.😢😢😢

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@@m2b785 shut up

@@sunayocarissime5309 yeah. Do I need to tell my story, is just be reiterating all of yours. Entitlement, apathy, soaking up everything that you are until your have nothing left to give. And when you finally speak up, admittedly with anger, you are the worst person in the world. And you do genuinely feel bad for losing your nerve.

I'm trying to do the same. Last night I watched this video and then spent four hours figuring out ways to help her. Now i feel i should just cut her off. But if i drop her shell try and get back at me

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Wish I had had the courage to say goodbye...

Usually the narcissist empties your life of people Glad you got out

(As someone who's *not* an emphath) I think you should take notes on what exactly they experience and then write down what you can do to help them. When everything's in your head it can be overwhelming. This really can help you disconnect from their feelings when you need it.

Yes, I know that. They point their finger and scream at you. You feel hurt but also understand what they are going through at the same time. So you are hurt twice.

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superDpermn is right if you are overwhelm its always better to take note on whats going on, make a plan for it and stick with a plan it would be better than following your feeling. Try to make everything a plan from now on. For example, take note on how your are feeling and how the other people feel, then brainstorm some solutions that gonna fit you and them. Never hesitate to discuss these solutions, especially with your love ones. You got to remember if someone truly care about you they wouldn't refuse to grow with you. And if it did turn sour then you already got your answer. Its not selfish to leave someone that weigh you down however it is selfish to become someone elses' burden.

Love ur png my dude

Thank you :)

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I could have practically wrote this comment, I was just in the best and worst relationship I've ever experienced. This video describes it 100% its a big pill to swallow but we cannot allow ourselves to let such dangerous people stay in our lives. It hurts like hell but I have hope I'll be thankful someday soon that it's over. You wrote this two months ago, how are you doing now? I'm still pretty heartbroken but each day gets easier.

@@alivc2458 it was tough getting through everything at first and it still affects me currently. The trauma from the relationship affects a lot of current relationships and how I react to things. I’ve been doing a lot better and I know it’s tough at the moment, but it does in fact get easier!

@@emmccasland2147 Thank you I appreciate your insight.. I just don't know if I'll ever be able to trust anyone again.. nor do I trust myself anymore to be able to make that judgment. My ex came across as the perfect person in the beginning, I was completely fooled, I thought he was my soulmate, I told him I'd never love anyone again the way I loved him, but my love was never enough to satisfy his needs. Now im left picking up the broken pieces alone. How can someone tell if a person is genuine and trustworthy if they are so good at faking it? Makes me not want to ever risk getting hurt again.

@@alivc2458 That’s completely understandable and I feel as if your comment spoke words I’ve only ever thought. I’ll admit I don’t trust anyone or myself currently. I felt the same as you did in your relationship, nothing I ever did was enough for him. It was always my fault.. but it’s all about patience and time with yourself. After my last relationship I was all alone too. I had friends to help me through it and while I appreciate them immensely, they can’t glue my heart back together for me. I know you’re hurting but you will survive this. He didn’t deserve you and you deserve better. With this heart break time is all I can tell you to hold onto. Try your hardest to accept and allow yourself to heal before looking ahead into future endeavors. The present you needs to be your focal point. You are strong and worthy and powerful. This break up will not be your downfall

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I've had enough experience with narcissists....u cud say I've a whole family full of them and I know it takes a lot owning up. As a person who's went through a lot of narcissistic abuse.....ur comment gives me hope that might still be teeny tiny way out for the people I still love somewhere in my heart. Keep going, one day u'll reach there❤️ - from an empath

You can do this! Keep going and don't look back. Take one day at a time. Establish Self love/care routine that works for you. Those work s well for the days we feel drained. Children will understand when you communicate with them, you must save the children because usually they are the next supply...

Oh dear! You must be so exhausted! Can I please ask you a question, because I need to understand my mother who has been in your situation for 27 years and she eventually left my father. Why did you stay in this marriage for so long ?

@@FantasticFouzia Thank you 🙏

@@Badobadee Yes I am. Thanking you & all those who have shown support by their 'thumbs up' 🙏! Initially I did not realise anything was wrong, it was only 4 years ago I began to notice following the passing comment of a psychologist. As I mentioned, he is a COVERT narcissist so it can be difficult to realise until many years down the line (they present differently to the usual narcissists we are familiar with). I became more alarmed when he told me to end my life - I was frightened so I told the police. I stayed mainly because of my daughter who has just become 14 years old. I have contemplated leaving many times but haven't ( it can be difficult leaving someone you known & loved for many years but it's still on the table).

@@user-gg3qh4di9s All respect for taking so much responsibility ❤️ it’s right it’s difficult to identify a covert narcissist, especially when you didn’t have the awareness! Do you love him, or do you sympathize with him because he always see himself as a victim? Is it fear that’s keeping you in the relationship?

Sorry you went through that ordeal. It takes time but you will heal and you will come out of it stronger. We recommend you reach out to a mental health professional who can help you with the gaslighting, manipulation, and abuse you may have experienced. Please take care!

The payoff from their behaviour is very good. It's us who lose in this dynamic. So yah he's been on a win win, and its a lose lose for you.

@@yoya4766 we lose in the dynamic they lose for life !

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My mother was the same, right down to the self-righteous christian. My mother wanted me to be a servant to her is why she was desperate to keep me around.

Narcissistic abuse is truly real because why is this EXACTLY my life and of many others? Something that's so obscure for others to understand because of it's insidious and often covert nature yet so painfully accurate described by complete strangers who also suffer from it. Only people who gone through it can truly and clearly understand. More often than not, victims are further gaslighted by the rest of society. Growing up from abusive conditioning is so hard to wake up from let alone break away from the viscious trap. It's literally invisible abuse since birth and will grow up victim-blamed by default. It's sad to think that the people who most likely at least lost half of their lifetime and will be completely shunned if they chose their well-being, will probably also end up healing without support from family and friends and fighting by themselves if they want to stop narcissism. It's a poison that alienates people not only from others but also themselves. You are killed twice: childhood trauma that affects your potential and your pure empathic nature. If that isn't evil and the cause of societal problems then I don't know what is.

Call the police and tell them to arrest your mom >:(

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Felt.

Wonderful

my parents are great and try their best to take my needs and wants into consideration and I feel really bad for people who struggle with this dynamic with people in their family

Specially my father

I dont think so, not every.

Whyyyyyyy did you marry him?

@@FLdancer00 at this point I wish I hadn't. We learn from our mistakes and it was a long hard lesson to learn.

Alright i am an Empath then i guess. I usually see and feel others Emotions quite easily and feel most of the times the same way then. I have a Coworker which often looks so sad and unhappy. I asked her i think 3 or 4 times if everthings okay. Of course she said all is fine and tryed to hide it, but i am so sure that she is unhappy or has some Issues with herself. I always feel the Need to help but that is often not wanted of course even though it would help. Especially with Women it is like that. Maybe it´s like a typical Male Behavior to tend to help or uplift a sad Women i don´t know. But i feel with Man the same sometimes but not that strong.

@@peter10245 id say youre an empath. We usually go through life and people, strangers approach us and unload on us, telling us their life story. Id say she might think youre maybe hitting on her... i see peoples pain, its not something we can try to force out of people. That can be dangerous to them. Id just let her know if she ever needs an ear that youre there for her. Shes probably in relationship with a narchole and is hurt and confused. Lol, its a really common occurrance.

@@christymckee8133 No she is single. I think she did make some bad Experiences with Men. I asked her for a Date two Times but she rejected me of course. Sometimes she is so angry and Moments later she looks like she is about to cry. She makes herself unhappy and doesn't even recognize that somethings not right. I can't help her but it hurts to see her that way. I had Feelings for her but she destroyed them pretty good. Now i am just sad to her like that.

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Holy shit thats because being an empath is not a real fucking thing. It IS common to have empathy. It IS a human trait to be sensitive to emotions and thoughts. Get a grip on reality, you're not a fucking powerhouse for other people's emotions. You literally cannot tell me my thoughts and feelings, everything that is said about empaths is literally universal towards anyone who has literally any level of emotional intelligence

Thanks for the suggestion! Hope you're doing okay!

And the difference between Male and female empaths if there are any as a suggestions as well. I would definitely be interest in both these suggestions.

They are tooo smart and have no empathy

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I'm both in a way so im neutral

Please do not hate on narcissists, some do not know they are bring so rude and if they do they apologize like a week later- I say this from experience because I am one.

@Whychilly I know, I have BEGGED people to stop Hanging out with me, they simply refuse, saying they know I genuinely care and do not want to punish me, and the look on an empaths face, I just, can't argue, it hurts more then you think, narcissists are not heartless you know. And yes, sometimes it is healthy to cut them out and I encourage everyone to do so but, if they show that genuinely care, do not give up on them yet!

@Whychilly Yes, but, most describe me as a empath and a narcissist, saying i am very self centered an seem to lack empathy but at the same time say I have to much empathy, I might just be self centered like you are saying, idk but, thank you!

I have also had to walk away from a friendship! We had been friends for 14 years.

Same 😥

I feel the same way, friend. cuddle close

Lol

anyway im both narcisis and an empath, im just that good you know?

Agreed

And genshin impact is empath

😂😂😂

I'm astonished ,same situation here. All I can say focus on what you want to accomplish , your happiness is important too!

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They have found a new supply they will either break up with you, hurt your feelings and make you jealous and in turn you leave. They will ask to be just friends, just to keep you as recyclable energy. Run and go no contact

There are narcissistic tendencies and there is the narcissistic Personality disorder. Nevertheless you have the right to call out hurtful behaviour and to be treated respectfully and with empathy and sympathy.

My mother was a narcissist. She believed she was perfect and couldn't understand why everyone didn't want to be like her.

Be aware, people. The FALSE NARRATIVE: "oh, so NPD people are all hurt people that hurt others, they don't know the impact of their actions" can literally kill empaths. Doctor Ramani (a psychologist and Author) who has a channel about narcissism, talks exactly about this. Important to watch, empath people (and also enablers): ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-P6Hvu5TT8D4.html

They know, but here's the deal, they just don't care.

I have some slight narcissistic tendencies and I know it.

Empathy is not a choice that you either select or refrain from. Its innate. You can only learn to regulate it to a certain degree after lots of deliberate practice. If your "empathy" is selective, its not empathy, its probably psychopathy - pretending to care about people only when something is needed from them

@@muricanecount8211 Let me elaborate, I *hold* my empathy for people that are way too bad to have it I mean in their shoes, *I wouldn't constantly refer to someone as "stupid" for looking weird* I mean i don't even look weird it's just rude When i see them hurt I'm just asking Dud r u k *Nothing more or less*

@@Illette idk why people think empathy makes them a good person, it’s fine you hold ur empathy. I have autistic friends because of their neurodivergence they don’t feel much empathy but they can still be very compassionate and sympathetic. :)

I don't think empathy and any of that makes me a good person I just don't wanna look too rude or too caring I prefer staying natural NOW'S YPUR CHANCE TO BBE A [potato]

@@Illette I AM A POTATO

Same. My life finally got better after she died of cancer.

I finally saw through my narcissistic mother abuser. She destroyed me constantly and I finally woke up and realised I had been this broken before and so many Times. It clicked she did this

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Felt this so much. I constantly pour my heart out to my mom and she always ends up giving me the silent treatment and gets mad at me for being “sensitive” even if I tell her I love her and I don’t wanna fight with her she still gives me the silent treatment. It’s so hard and so painful. I don’t know what to do anymore. I hope you are in a better space today and I pray for your well being 🙏🏼🤍 happy new year!

@@Ari-yg3iu hey no one including you deserves this. We can't pick the parents we get but we have to best in the situation we are in. At this point I have giving up on trying to build a relationship with her. And have mental boundaries between us untils she realize she got to get help. Until I get the chance to move out, unfortunately I just have to face the fact that I don't won't have a mother and daughter like others. It hurts and it saddens but it no point constantly hurting myself if she doesn't do her part in the relationship. I hope the best for u as well I can tell you mean well and anyone who Mets u will be glad to have someone caring.

@@Ari-yg3iu also happy new year 🎉

You are doing the right thing in standing up for yourself. You can only set aside your needs for others for so long

I have been there, I had an awakening some years ago relative to my friends, and I realized that they were all narcissistic and toxic and when I started putting boundaries, they become furious and resentful, and it continued till I had to completely withdraw, and I stopped seeing them. Though I sometimes feel a bit lonely because I lost my friends, but deep inside I know that new people will show up on my life who would love me and respect me and respect my boundaries .

@@Badobadee I glad you had the courage to step away from them and keep hope that good unconditional people will find their way to you ❤️ I’m haven’t been able to step away yet(have stepped back) but I know that I need to remember that one day I’ll have friends that I can share my love with unconditionally. It’s how I cope with the loneliness.

@@fritzginger15 stepping away can also be a process, but it’s fine as long as you are asserting your boundaries towards these friends . Good luck with finding new people ❤️🙏🏼