The answer always seems to be... embrace the fear. Welcome it. I had anxiety and panic attacks for a few years. It was terrible. I would fight it, hang on for dear life. Many times it felt like I was hanging on by a thread. But fighting and resisting fed it. When I finally learnt to just let go, embrace the fear... it just evaporated.
Yea.. what I'm interpreting him to mean is that awareness by its nature accepts the fear. Hence, if you notice that you're not accepting the fear, or "arguing" with it, then that simply means you haven't dropped far enough back. If you drop all the way back, into awareness, this will unavoidably mean that the fear is welcome. Awareness is simply that which knows. No more no less. So of course there's no resistance.
The moment you really really love fear as joyful energetic sensation inside you, that you would like to experience over and over again like your favorite meal it’s done 🌟 Works for all emotions…they need to be hugged consciously to be integrated as part of the experince of life. Otherwise life will generate more and more corresponding circumstances to give you the opportunity to do this…(and you will fall again and again out of awareness back into ego). 🍀
i was watching this video having a panic attack. I appreciate the questioner and of course Rupert for this conversation. I saw the fear pure for the first time in my life of having her as a unwanted friend. Its really just the feeling. And the story around it is just a way to distract. It could be everything. And which followed me my whole life and got stronger and stronger is the fear of the fear. Its the ultimative blocking system of survival of fear and the separate self. Much love to you
These kind of talks are very much needed.The real human being is the utmost beauty of existence. To find the goodness of life is what a human being is born for.
The first 60 seconds brought tears of joy to my eyes. That was an all-too-rare human experience that I felt deep inside me. Can't wait to see what the next 13 minutes bring. 😉
My experience with OCD and GAD, i Have what medically is considered OCD, and the first time i ACTUALLY MEDITATED my sense of self completely collapsed and the fear came up like lighting... i was deep deep in the grips of OCD, debilitated out of work.. totally on the brink... since that day i have lived with the feeling of anxiety in my mind and body and since that day my exoerience of life drastically changed.... as my body and mind relaxed i deepened very very deep into awareness... i could feel all my nerves relaxing more and more everyday up into my face where there is still some slight tension and experience low level anxiety and depression... but i remain mindful always and always my mind is deepening into the present moment... If you have an anxiety disorder.... especially on the more debilitating side where it basically runs ur life... the good news is.. you can reach enlighnment/recovery.... the bad news is.... its gonna be quite excruciating for some time.. months.. or if really severe like mine.. years.... its gonna be a bizzare experience and its gonna suck.. however.... if you want to truly free yourself.. its absoultely doable Rupert said something i totally relate to.. he said for some our desires r stronger than r fear and other fear more than desire.... my sense of self and attachment was extremely high prior to my anxiety disorder.. i lived in my world of the future deeply.. constantly fatasizing and chasing the percived future... and then i started getting these what if thoughts... shooting thru my story.. they were spiratic... but over time... they became more and more common and vivid until eventually my mind was all but consumed by them.. what little was left of my sense of self easily fell away and the ugly head of fear, anxiety, and depression was left... such hell i been thru.... BUT also this taught me.. the buddah first noble truth.. life truly is SUFFURING.. however.. it was the buddist monk in that picture in vietnam who burned himseld alive... that picture made me realize i could shed this pain regardless of how painful.. because we are not our experience.. and we can transcend r body and mind ..... hope this all helps anyone who can relate
It's crazy. Your description is word for word just like mine about my own fear. Same primal fear, same intact fragrance since childhood but different objects all along life with the same "falling for it" trap. I love Rupert's answer which I feel echoes Thich Nhaht Hahn's. Surround the fear with mindfulness tenderly, like you would hold a baby in your arms. And what Yongei Mynigiur Rinpoche says about his own panic attacks, the funny story of how he pretended at first to welcome it with the background wish to get rid of it. How it finally went away when he finally totally accepted it. Thank you for sharing this exchange.
This is very helpful. Thank you 🙏 It goes a bit further than the why are you so afraid of the fear video which I have listened to multiple times. Bring it closer. What you resist persists. Ding!! The scary monster has no teeth 🙂
False self, desiring self or egoic self is not an entity but an activity...a habit ! Wowwwww Thats such a sudden clash of lightening making things so clear and peaceful :) Thank you so much Rupert, love you :)
I love how he says if there's an attitude at all. This is assuming the person he's talking to has space, room to choose. Some people don't have opportunities like this. Growth never stops.
Rupert and Theo, I can’t tell you how very helpful this is to me. Huge! Also, it brings to mind what A Course In Miracles says happens when we actually start getting somewhere (so to speak): “...the ego turns from suspiciousness to viscousness.” Thanks, gentlemen! 💕
Fear is the screen saver. An automatic habit. Shine the brightness of awareness upon it. There is no screen without awareness. There is only awareness. Thank you dear Brazilian journeyer for your candid sharing of our universal yet unawakened experience. Thank you Rupert for your clear pointings. Much peace & awareness to all 💫😉💫
Love you Rupert. Keep up the good work. One of our great spiritual leaders because he speaks absolute truth. Refreshing encouraging and truly inspirational. ✌️
Wow, I fell into that hole. His anxious, somewhat pressured speech showed me my own anxiety. I went out and then went back in to listen. I pushed past the fear to find the screen and be more aware. The separate self is tricky. The moments of awareness are changing into something richer. Rupert says this is a good sign when we can observe the SS when it moves in. It feels like a set back but he shows us the growth. Thanks to you both for the dialogue.
This is so incredibly helpful, thank you so much for answering my own burning question that never seems to resolves itself. This is exactly what happened to me when I studied A Course in Miracles and what continues to happen when I go deep into any spiritual practice - this same existential crisis which keeps tripping me up in such grave fear and madness that I have not been able to get beyond it. But to understand that this a bottom line of the separate self that need only be courageously welcomed and faced I feel there is hope for me in getting to the other side of it into peace. Much appreciated for this conversation so succinctly and deeply expressed ❤️
I like how you said "fear and madness" because every time I also "get close" and start seeing the unwavering background of our experience, I get the feeling of horror of doom and quickly contract back and my mind starts going absolutely crazy.
I appreciate the statement that seeking and resisting are verbs which describe the action of the separate self. The separate self is not a thing, but rather by definition, the action of resisting and seeking. I continue to learn that acceptance is as a function of welcoming, not rejecting fear. And in that way the "scariness of fear" (fear itself?) and the anxiety/depression that comes by habit is dissipated. . Thank-you Robert, for myself and for the people I help!
This has been my "obstacle" too for a long time. And while I was listening to this, I felt this fear and panic slowly coming up but I couldn't fully let it in. But I have to say I feel some kind of sweetness I wasn't aware of before. But I also believe our character development and readiness to let go of the sense of separation are linked. I've done a lot of positive changes and I've strong desires to change my habits to better align with the truth, but there's still a lot to do. So it wouldn't even make sense from that point of view to be fully ready yet.
hello! it happen the same thing to me while I was listening to this. In a way I think is it normal that our ego self has the fear of losing its sense of a separate self existence...it’s like fighting against nature! If we have an ego in this dualistic world, is normal that the poor guy feels threatened when you meditate and become ONE with All that is.
What is helping me through these crazy times is kundalini yoga. Guided meditation with a great teacher in the comfort of my livingroom - cool! I'm told, the presence of fear is a sure sign that you are trusting in your own strength. Knowing that "The Ego Mind is the greatest "Con - Artist" of All! Keep this in mind 🙏❤✨
Douglas Hardings method of looking in has helped me"see"...a "place"... Christian calls the foot of the cross... Buddhist the ground of being 💖...my ego minds seems to constantly come of with "justified" reasons to hold back...if one doesn't"fly"it'll come up with a more "justifiable one...what a trickster... cunning baffling and powerful...but evaporated in presence 💖💖💖
Ah, such a sweet beginning of the conversation! I have so much respect and love for Rupert and spend more time with him/his teachings than any other person for almost a decade now.
Thank you so much to both of you. I rarely comment but this was very moving. Your candid conversation helps so much. I have fear that turns to anxiety. Have done some internal work and realized I have always had it as have had trauma from a very young age. I believe I had my first spiritual awakening 2012? And possibly a dark night In 2020, specifically the end of 2020. The fear and anxiety have become so loud, uncomfortable and frightening that I’ve had no other choice but to listen and heal. Now I know the fear has all been a gift for me to heal. Thank you RUPERT. You have become a loving support through my healing, process. I know now I am never alone….❤
I feel near-death experiences are a very good antidote to the fear of all fears - the fear of not existing. For they show we continue to exist, we are eternal, connected to each other and part of something greater. So, there is really nothing to fear, as so many NDErs reassure us.
Yes, but you keep existing as part of something greater but your separate self is lost, so if that’s the case it’s normal that our ego doesn’t want to lose that, right?
When I hear humans talk about these experiences it makes me think of Tillich's Courage to Be. And then I wonder what would have happen if Tillich got to meet a chat with Swami Vivekananda and how this could have advanced the level of consciousness of the west by generations. Of course these are just silly thoughts and everything is just as it needs to be. Love you guys!
After having eaten of the fruit of the tree of good & evil in the mythological story of Adam (man) and Eve, Adam’s first words to God who asked him how he knew he was naked, was: “I heard you …and I was afraid”. Indeed, it seems to be the primary response of a separate consciousness.
Wow!!! This really REALLY resonated with me DEEPLY. I had the same realization couple months back. It’s always a “what if” thought that triggers the worrying but at its core, for me it’s always the same exact fear: “I need to prove my worthiness or prove my salvation.”
We have the illusion that we are separate individually in this earth, but actually we are one because we are deeply merged in the Field of All. This field is the one that brings things that emerge in our experiences because of our potencial.
Thank you, I felt so many similarities with what Theo was experiencing, including the childhood experience of realising you don't exist. It seems my screen-saver is sadness/despair rather than fear. I am trying to greet it and witness it, but it's a fine line between doing that and indulging it. Rupert if you have any help to give on this point that would be much appreciated.
I have been paying attention and redirecting the waterfall of mindless thoughts! It makes me smile when I caught myself on some sort of swirling around thought of one little thing that has nothing to do with me or with anything worth anything..always delighted to redirect those. If makes any sense…☺️
When I transcended I saw many people, but landed on a man with black round glasses who I didn't know. You were just smiling at me. I was a little bit afraid and I guess I just faded back. Then your videos started appearing.
grata, Rupert e Theo, por trazer o tema do medo para ser iluminado e dissolvido na correta compreensão da sua origem e destino/Grateful, Rupert and Theo, for bringing the theme of fear to be enlightened and dissolved in the correct understanding of its origin and destiny
This happens to me when i expand. Its lightning fast! I worked it through only just yesterday to being rejected as a child but i could only do this after Ruperts Yoga meditation! Uncanny im just seeing this! Fantastic!
I have been on the run from it for 38 years so now I must trust the source over the panic attack. I need to do more deconditioning yoga meditations of Ruperts before im going to be able to I think hmm?
you can't imaging how that helped me, I have been having this problem for the past week in such an intense way, and I didn't know how to deal with it. exactly as the question said. the synchronicity of my question these days, and this video poping in my home page is amazing. thanks to both of you . much of love
The mother of all fears, fear of death, turns out to be a complete illusion....but for many, the 'dark night of the soul' has to be gone through, to facilitate that dissolution of apparent separation. Or, allegorically speaking, to 'die before you die', can be a very real crucifixion, before resurrection. Whatever it's labelled as, suffering is unavoidable, and, as with everything arising, this too will pass. 🙏🔥
This helps so much thank you!! I love this. I always get stuck in, wait, what am I supposed to tell myself now? and this really helps! Greatly appreciated! ❤
Muito legal ver um brasileiro aqui, não encontro muitas pessoas por aqui que se aprofundam nisso. E a conversa foi ótima da pra sentir a conexão. Obrigado
@@luismoref Oi Luis. Tenho alguns amigos que estão em seus caminhos espirituais. Tenho mostrado o Rupert pra eles ao longo do tempo mas eles não se empolgaram muito, rsrs. Cada um é um universo próprio com suas afinidades. Mas eu sou fascinada por esses ensinamentos sobre a não-dualidade. Sou de Fortaleza, e você?
@@georgiagm Comigo também é a mesma situação, e eu procuro alguém para conversar sobre isso em português justamente por isso. As vezes tem pessoas que podem se interessar porém é difícil vc explicar algo em português com termos que só lemos e vemos em inglês. Posso te mandar meu email em algum comentário de seus vídeos para trocarmos uma ideia? Sou de Ribeirão Preto/ sp.
