The Future of Love: Esther Perel 

If you're here ..you're a very intuitive person that wants to build deep long lasting relationships and you are a rare breed!! congrats!!

The way that she validates the emotional trauma of men and the paradox of our need to be vulnerable in the vacuum of a culture of careless indifference to men's needs is so fucking beautiful and healing to hear. The way that she encourages people to clap when one man finally has the courage to voice the pain and confusion of our existential quandary... well, it brought me to tears. Several times in the Q&A, people came close to talking about this openly, and there was a few claps, and I kept shouting, "clap, you unsympathetic bastards!" And she finally addressed it at the end. I can't tell you how good that was to hear.

To Alexander. I'm in 100% agreement with you on how beautiful and healing it is to have someone (in particular - a woman - a trained professional woman - Dr. Esther Perel) validate all of the contradictions vulnerable and sensitive men must navigate over the course of their lives while displaying masculinity and the ability to be the protector.. I was brought to tears many times by her explanation and clarity. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk has identified various kinds of traumas, including childhood trauma and how inescapable trauma causes structural changes in the brains of traumatized people creating cognitive gaps and problems with affect regulation. Dr. Gabor Mate' has worked with the same issues from a slightly different perspective filling and adding slightly different hews - or tones and harmonies in the "orchestral" masterpiece of an individual's emotional makeup. Both Dr Van der Kolk and Dr Gabor Mate's explanations of the emotional "how's and why's" are, thought very complete in and of themselves, leave notable gaps on the canvas and in the orchestra that Dr Esther Perel fills in beautifully, artfully, and then some. I have the utmost admiration, love and respect. Thank you Dr.Perel....

i am in love with the way she communicates

I have watched so many videos of Esther Perel, and eventhough all of them touch upon the same issue, everytime I get something new out of each video. I really like them!!!!

I just LOVE this woman. She flourishes with years in all aspects. Such an inspiration!!! You are my role model, Esther Perel. And I'm sure for many other young women as well

"The quality of our relationships determine the quality of our lives." That ending sentence is so powerful! 😘

“ The quality of our relationships becomes the quality of our lives “. That is speaking the truth!!! I Love this Ester, She is Amazing. Has helped me in every aspect of my life & #1 with my closest relationships & continues to do so. 😉

"Many of us have stellar resumes but that doesn't mean we'll have stellar eulogies. The quality of our relationships determines the qualities of our lives." ~Esther Perel

She's such a fluent and inspiring speaker! I gotta add Korean subtiles to this video to help other Koreans to watch this thought-provoking video and start to disuss more on the subject.

Just can’t stop listening to Esther’s interesting stories on life issues. So much to learn from this exceptional woman 🙏 She is a role model. We should bring this treasure of information to young people so they can learn at a early stage in life. Keep inspiring us !

Love has neither a future nor a past. Love is the capacity to care about someone, the capacity to transcend your own needs and a strong desire to make another person to feel better because they are with you. The ability to love stems from your past. That is where the future of your capacity for loving is forged.

Women need to catch up to stop having the same expectations of men that we had 50 years ago but new demands only for ourselves We have to give men the same choices and real freedom to make happy choices for their lives as well

She’s so smart and brilliant in her advice. She’s spot on!!

The Q&A at 29mins is the highlight of this video. Great advice across the board.

This woman is teaching LOGOS that is forgotten to our generation. 🙏👍

This made me cry. Such a great lecture. Thank you!

She is so wise and on point, charismatic and beautiful in and out! 🥰

She is an amazing ...Love the way she speaks her truth .

Thank you so much for your insights, openness & nonjudgementalness...It provides a conversation starter for many people who either won’t or can’t afford counseling’. It is so valuable right now in my life and the world! 🙏☀️🌝👏💖🌎

Also how good you are treated is a turn on, listened too, respected, spoken too, honoured, cherished , appreciated, adored, truely loved, protected. Betrayal, betayal of any kind, is the biggest turn of, accumulated betrayal makes the partner completely unsexy. And being just a stress release object pisses the biscuit of, a complete turn of.

I love her message....it’s raw and true. She gives as it is.....no beating around the bush. Keep up Esther I love you😘

Excellent talk...

This is amazing! Thank you!

She's just Awesome!

I love her personal style❤️

I can listen to her for hours...

I love this lady......

She is the breath of fresh air!

Around 1:00 - I am 100% amazed at how well my daughter's father managed this! I had no appreciation for that until this moment!

Thank you you’re amazing

Thank You so Very Much for your education. I guess it's the best I have ever heard. From Sweden

This woman make think about my relationships in my life, they need to change

Dear Esther Perel...I have listened to at least 20 of your beautiful lectures and feel compelled to share with you some of my thoughts about “Love and Desire” and relationships. Love and desire are forces which almost always is headed in, opposite directions to each other. Love is spirited by what you want and can do for the partner, leading to your own peace and happiness. Desire is involved with what what you perceive to be your need to receive and deserve, in order to enhance your own happiness. Sexual acts and eroticism is the opportunity to express both, while still “caring, giving and receiving. The answer to me is easier to express verbally than to actually accomplish, but has no chance unless each one starts with the same premise of “first thinking of the other”...ie a “soulmate”. Alan S

Thank you for this video Upload. Thanks big time for all the light you brought to me ESTHER PEREL.... as you said there really is so much to learn

Love needs SPACE!!!!! Talk.

Thank you x

Excellent!

Qwality Communication… beautiful…💫✨💕

Love Her Videos!..Always Something New 2 Learn! lol

“ The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives” I suppose that is true if one identifies with quality . However if one identifies with what quality appears inside of , then quality becomes a speck in the vastness of that which is awake to itself.

Esther Perel is phenomenal

Thank you ❤️

👍👍👍 good, reasonable and at moments funny talk.

Thank you for this video. My brain 🧠 just exploded with knowledge and reason. Beautiful- Logical woman. ♥️

Thanks your speaker is reality

I love Ester Perel. She has taught me so much. Merci beaucoup!

Wonderful

The hero we all need 💜

I bring myself to this conversation.

She's just a wonderful speaker/communicator!! She has so much wisdom;;

Great! Exactly what I was looking for. Partner and I are in the middle of negotiating our relationship and not knowing what I want or need from a 'relationship' found this video to be insightful, informative and exciting.

Not the act but the enchantment.

Beautiful speaker.

Great talk

Genius !

One of the most intelligent women alive .

I really relate to the definition of infidelity being defined subjectively by each couple. My husband and I had that conversation within the first few months of us becoming a couple. It is something that really depends on your individual and collective (between just the two of you) comfort and jealousy levels. It also requires and implies great trust and respect because once you set those boundaries, it can only change through renegotiation. If it gets broken, it's so much more hurtful and personally offensive than just breaking some vague social norm.

Just brilliant

Amazing

Very good

God Bless You! Estele...☀️ the answer is the support that the Community (village) offers.❤❤❤ Peace, Minister Hanifah Hightower, Detroit

I was slap as part of discipline, once I was hungry 🤤 and stole a bread from my aunt grocery store, mom was at work I was left alone I was 7 . Aunt told my mom and mom burned my nails to teach me a lesson , never steal from no body. I’m 52 now and have flash back sometimes. Yes I learnt the lesson aside from it -grew up being afraid to be alone. Oh stories 😂

She is quite an amazing woman!

This is truly extraordinary. I read a book with a similar theme, and it was truly phenomenal. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

Navigating Relationships: A Series of discussions with Esther Perel and Jordan Peterson

Your a great communicator , i love your story

That was a thought one, this are the rough of love

As long as you give men and women the choice whether to experience or deny commitment, relationships will survive.

In a relationship that'll has been going on since '97. We me after my divorce. She had never been married but had had a failed long term relationship. We have our own homes. We have not married. She is seven years older. Now she is retired. So now I need to understand how to navigate a geriatric relationship.

Honesty FIRST. Cheater’s are thieves; of another’s time and right to make informed decisions. Cheater’s are the lowest of the low * Find someone who wants an open relationship; don’t lie to another person.

This is an impactful piece. A book I read with similar subject matter profoundly changed my outlook. "Stars Aligned" by Olivia Whitestone

This woman is pure sunlight...

Once you are intimate with someone else it is hard to go back to the same place in a relationship. It is no longer sacred, trust is lost and you can never recapture the unity you had before.

Ayurvedic( including dieting )medecine without excluding allopathic-medecine, ...aka holistic food & apt medecine, takes us a long way I hope.

Eros transcends sexuality and originally is further more than this.Symbolical meaning of it is enormous, creative.Rollo May wrote about it .

a lot of assumptions made about how people felt in the past as you write today's history based on it! I don't believe anybody knows what was in the heads of two lovers a thousand years ago but they can definitely use what's in their heads today as a foundation stone! this part of humanity doesn't evolve because it's what got us here! it's a constant!

to the guy Ryan , at 1:02...don't worry what others think. Be your own "Model" ! It Is Already IN You ! You were born with the Gifts In Place within you. You are good to go ,right where you are.

I wish I can see her professionally for my own separation and divorce. I think that she has revealed about my situation with my soon to be ex wife. She makes me cry with her theories and I wish to lean more. My ex should have watched her many talks and perhaps she could understand how we should have moved on instead of breaking our family and divorcing.

Esther is so beautiful

👍👍👍👍👍 brilliant gal. I am in a relationship of 10 months which is outstanding and every level however he said something to me that rub me the wrong way and this is what it was “I had a good friend who was a pimp and he made a lot of money -I gave it a feeble attempt but it wasn’t for me I was too soft hearted.” So, what the hell? He said he was a wild crazy thing back then using party drugs etc. but has had a metamorphosis it is very spiritual and healthy and alternative at 73 years old.

The substance of this content is transformative. I read a book with analogous material that was a life-changing experience. "Stars Aligned" by Olivia Whitestone

I wish she was my Mother!!!

Freedom's just another word for nothing left to lose.

Octavio Paz

I don't need my partner to be my 'best friend.' I don't necessarily need to confide everything in him either. Trust and respect are essential, but he doesn't need to bare his soul to have trust and respect. 'Chemistry' IS important...though it doesn't have to actually lead to sex all that often. Eroticism rather than action.

Monogamy was never one person for life. Death was much more common and people expected they would remarry.

am simply blowen

Though I am unfamiliar with opposite sex...I believe in her IMAGO DEI, sprout out from my imago dei.

That first question was a great question to consider.

🙏🙏🙏

Gij bent een Vlaamse !! AAAaahhh Dat is verschieten :-D Love the podcast !

Yes Peggy

Would it be fun to have her and Dr. Jordan Peterson talk together?

She is fantastic but ai wish she would deal with people who are feeling really stuck in relationships because they have a platonic relationship with intransigent partners who will not give them any sexual love or affection or go to counseling.

Thank y'all so much dearest 🌹 Y'all such an inspiration 🥰 Appreciate y'all from the bottom of my heart 💖 Be Blissful Eternally 🙏👼🌈

Ok

The vast majority of men are not predators. The vast majority of men are afraid to be predators. That's why men need willing partners.

I dont mean to be crass, but DAMN do I find her attractive. I don't just mean that shes physically good looking, which she is (and extremely good looking for her age) but I bet her mindset would make not just for a "hot" date but serious connectivity. Her openness, honestly, and overall understanding about what turns us on and makes us tick is just astonishing.

I concur with all she says. The role changes with women working have not served us as well. Hence all the divorce