The amount of value you've provided me for free over the years is incredible. I'm seriously considering coming to one of your meet ups if you're in the UK again. Cheers Todd.
This man is a generous genius. This is dense in utility and value. Thanks Todd for staying in the game. Game saved my life, and I hope it saves and improves lives of a million more.
@@bobby8630 didn't even know he had a wife. I think is not relevant. Maybe they have great chemistry and she is super fun to be with and most important, is bisex or liberal so Todd can continue he's adventures. Who knows. for me the important thing is that I resonate with lots of his teachings.
@@bobby8630because after you meet a lot of girls you realize that most of these interactions won’t give you what’s most valuable. And that’s a genuine connection on a deep level. There’s millions of hot girls in the world, that’s not what it is about.
It all depends on what kind of style of pick up you lean more towards Todd’s more of lay back and try to make them chase as much as possible I would get hella bored and not feel like I’m having as much fun because my style is more energy and not keeping our environment the same so I tend to move them around more so everything changes around her but I stay and am the only thing that’s consistent.
@@noahwallace3458that’s cool. But I think the main message you might be passing is that you are comfortable wherever you too are, more of a confidence thing and not stability thing, if I interpreted you correctly. Definitely adventurous too.
The more of your guidance I watch, the more I’m blown away at how methodical every step of the process is that you’ve dissected. I go all the way back to the David D days but still struggle because I’ve not committed myself long enough to break hurdles. Would you recommend your method course more than any other product you have to get going if you had to start over? Being 40 and trying to date nowadays is a mess lol
Have you tried going out alone? When I became single for the first time after a 12 years relation, I bought a program and did lots of study, but I learned the most of going out by myself. No wingman to retreat to, just start talking to people. Set some goals and do some review/log every time. First 10-20 times were hard, but after that it was so rewarding to know I had the skills to at least kiss girls when I went out. Also consider to stop masturbating or at least lowering the frequency, so that there's a strong physical incentive (no going out = no orgasm). Anyway, I wish you all the best bro!
Being 40 is not a good excuse. Many 20 year old chicks fetishes you just being 40 lol. You have many more advantages than me who Im 20 but I've put in the work so Im able to get older girls. It's really just putting in the work its a skill
@@Klarity_0 Who said anything about 40 being an excuse? There’s a difference between excuses and observations. I haven’t stopped learning or growing just because I’m 40.
One easy way to steer the conversation toward man-to-woman premise is to ask "What kind of guys do you like?" or "What is your type?" etc. I used to always ask about her relationship history, and that also works on a first date-but lately I prefer the "what is your type" convo more. More fun, more opportunity for teasing about her answers I think.
Don’t do this. Because if she starts describing her type and that’s not your look in that moment you’re setting yourself a hurdle now to explain why you’re the choice and not a man who looks her type Better thing to do is say something where the idea is that she’s chasing you - like after she tells a world story or something - “ I like how expressive you are when telling the story. Most girls bore me even when the story is good. But you, you did a good job. You’ll definitely be getting a call for another date. I mean maybe .. long as you don’t act weird later
@@lorenzolamas1768 What about if you're a little ways into the date, or have already talked over text before meeting in person, and then you ask "What about me is your type?" at the date. Is that a better strategy would you say? (I'm just thinking out loud)
I'd say for the redheads, use their stereotype to flirt with them by saying "I hear you redheads are the craziest girls in the bedroom." I believe these sorts of stereotypes exist to make game easier to play! 😂🤣😂
I find that a lot. I went hard with game and turned it into a casual side gig. A lot of people are way cooler and I feel insecurity some time but I still can get women because I understand the basics. I even become natural with girls because I will just act casual and a lot of times the "man to woman" vibe still gets you good results when ur not even trying
Also the book "ooooh say it again" is really powerful to get over the nervousness about just being sexual upfront. U screen for sexual girls vs prude and Segway to sex and if they refuse you ask them if they are sure, if not, bye have a nice day. From there if you get reciprocation, you just tell her about your kinks and boom. I have had more "sex under two hours" scenarios than most guys, and even then the "sex in 7 hours" is pretty easy
I wish this still worked in 2022. Every time I approach a girl on campus. She looks wall to wall with her eyes like she's uncomfortable. Sometimes it's just rejection and then sometimes it's the spin-off from feminism disapproving conversations with random men who approach you
I hate to say it but though a lot of the material on this channel has helped me with social stuff, and improving the quality of dates with girls I probably could have gotten anyways (5’s-6’s), when it comes to the girls I’m actually interested in, I feel like I get the same responses as you. Idk if I can blame the college girls of today or myself (my average/boring looks), but neither of those options are very reassuring.
The big issue is woke culture in Southern California on College campuses. There are UCLA professors who are leaving because the school board is changing their philosophy into the woke culture. Adds a whole new barrier how to use Game and talk to women because of political lifestyle
Todd: introduce yourself like saying "hi, Im todd. Nice to meet you" Me: making mental note me when the conversation dies: "hi Im Todd..." "shit, I mean, I'm Miguel.. nice to meet you"
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That can be a very strong story and a very strong frame. I stopped drinking and when I went out alone almost always girls asked about the no drinking story. Also it's a sign that you have your own frames (you don't use those things because they are socially prefered, you find your health important, you have been through stuff, etc.)
exactly what Jordy said. i heavily binge drank from when i was 15-26, and because the main reasons i stopped were three different drunkenness-induced accidents which all landed me in a hospital, i thought those stories would excite girls i was going for in a "what an adventurous no-cares kinda guy" way, but they either didnt do that at all or they pushed them away. when i started reframing my decision to quit as me taking charge of my life and learning how to be more in control i began to notice more curiosity from females, which is energy that is super easy to leverage into a man-woman premise. it's all about perspective, my friend. you don't have to abide exactly in the way people who have more experience than you suggest-it's more helpful to filter it through your own life lens first.
If you must take her on a food date (dinner, I don't like dinner dates), I arrange ahead of time a seating situation where we are next to each other, not across from each other. I don't like dinner dates but they can work. When you're sitting next to her now you can escalate with words and touch to gauge her response. Literally grab her hand and examine her freshly prainted nails and talk about them while holding and looking at her hand. This helps break the ice a lot on a first date. I then tell her "I'm a physically curious person. If you're nails look great, I'm going to grab your hand and want investigate"...I could go on. You're on a date guys, she's there to decide if she's going to mate with you, lol. You can grab her hand in the first 10min on most dates. Of course there is a balance of time, etc., not being a creep
Hey Todd. Awesome content as usual! But FYI your email marketing system seems to be down. Haven't received any more emails from your website as of late. Thanks!
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If you are someone who believes in law & order and doesn't want to be fake about your views than frame it like you are a bit(or varying degrees) misogynisticly disagreeable. The reason women evolved to like guys who are disagreeable is so men could be assertive and true to themselves when needed without being worried about offending anybody because you can't be assertive without incidentally offending someone. Not just when it comes to views, but assertive in anyway for that matter.
What happens when the conversation has become sexual, do you continue and explore the whole thing or capitalize on it by saying let's go somewhere and do the things we just talked about.
I think that would be a high risk way of escalating. Most women don't want to feel slutty, so better to ask her without explicity stating the sex part. That's very much implied at that point.
@@Jordy_NL still if it happened, and you approach the borderline topic such as how long should a guy last or some mainstream pornstar like mia khalifa, do you switch the topics then?
@@vaidikguha81 I don't think I can answer that question from a logical perspective because it depends on so many factors. I would say that it sounds like a question that's too logical to be of pratical relevance, unless you are like on such a high level that I can't grasp. I that case I can't help you. Do you realize that the topic of the conversation is not that important? It's mostly about energy and having a strong frame. If you are in the moment with that girl and you feel the vibe I think you would know what to say. And if you don't, it probably isn't because of lack in language skills or something like that, but more because you are too much in your head. Anyway, I wish you all the best bro!
@@vaidikguha81 But in general, yes I think you should capitalize on the high 'temperature' by escalating. For example getting more physical. You can switch subjects but don't switch out of the sexual dynamic.
"What I have to say may surprise you" automatically makes people tune out. Its in every cheesy or nonsense video. Its like everyone went to the same seminar and now use the same gross marketing lines
Bruh g shit trining the convo to sex and making her think about you in that way is like %90 of the work done after getting to that set I back off a lil to make ‘em chase for it then 👌 I feel like a lot of guys don’t know how to set up the convo to go in that direction with out coming off as hasn’t gotten laid in a while. I’m editing my comment cuz I haven’t watched his video fully yeat but wanted to say that bring up sex topics and are finding it hard to start swinging the convo to talking about it with you and her try asking about they’re passed experience it makes it really easy for you to slip in a what you would’ve done or making your interest in asking about your past which from that point. You can pretty much go directly into you and her. It’s crazy how much higher the chance of fully pulling for that night goes up just from that one dynamic
I've never been able to navigate banter even with other men. I wouldn't know how to start with any of this. Miraculously, I was married 13 years and have had a few girlfriends but...
Let the girl become a lil more comfortable with the conversation and then just ask about passed sexual experiences 9 times out of 10 she’ll ask about yours and when she’s talking you about hers try slipping in comments about what you do in that situation it could be negative or a positive it really doesn’t matter that sets her up to start thinking how that would be which will turn her on since you’ve made clear signs of interest, and she wanted to talking to you if she wasn’t somewhat of not fully interested as well
yo im just losing interest in having sex period... i dont want girls to get attached to me, i dont want to waste time taking girls out on dates. i have only been interested in two girls my whole life all the others i didnt really care about... just had a date last night and she loved it, i had a blast talking with her and walking with her, when i walked her to her car i didnt even care to really kiss her, even though thats what i knew had to be done, and she wanted one too... i hate replying to texts, i hate setting up dates.. i just want to be alone for a while.
Todd in The system you say that all the attraction tactics are means to create a narrative , which is what long term attraction is. I dont understand how frame or narrative is corelated to attraction pls explain.
my brother in jesus. women are O B S E S S E D with the romantic seduction fantasy they come up with in their minds. it's one of the main reasons cold approach works so fuckin well when executed proficiently: they cant get over the "ohhh we just met in the grocery omg it was sooooo serendipitous". if you can keep em engaged in the romance novel they're writing with you in their heads it basically does the heavy lifting for you. i would say narrative is responsible for a huge chunk of my results! ex: i've basically let my diet, sleep, & finances go in the last year and yet there's a girl 6 yrs older than me (met her when i was in a better place self-care-wise) whom i convinced that we were meant to meet each other bcoz we have the same random scar on our pinky (& we both got heavily into De-Loused in the Comatorium by The Mars Volta at the exact same point in time) and she's soooo down that she risked blowing her personal life up and cheated on her bf of 6 yrs with me for a whole year so we'd continue hanging out.
Because in order for her to want you at all there needs to be some attraction there so the rest of the attraction weight so done by bringing them into your world which boosts the attraction to you but it’s kinda risk because someone that’s closer or high to her attractiveness that knows what they are doing are more likely to get them to bite but she won’t leave if you’ve got her deep in your world but she might try to see if they can pull her out of your far enough to where she’ll make the decision to distance herself to find out what choice does she make
Tod i was in Croatia and iv got 2 dates and some in 4 days from at least 8/10. In the UK i have to bust my balls for this for like 3 weeks...can you do a detailed vid on how to read different types of chicks. ...i know made a similar vid not long ago but a detailed one would be good
I asked a girl out today. I expaected s.th. like I have a boyfriend, but then she said "I don't have time for THIS", looking at me as if she has seen a spider! I realized that age is not an issue, but what is it then?? What is it?
Not building up a sold connection it’s like when guys go up to a girl to stop them for 2 minutes just to get the number only to find out theirs a high chance she’s not really going to text back because because there was no real emotional thought of the encounter developed it’s like asking someone you just started dating to marry you
Tod I have a question, what if I really want to join your course and talk with you (no bullshit), but I cannot afford the money for the courses. I am 18 and freshly working on to a minijob to get paid 350 $ and need to pay 200 $ to my mom. Pls give me an honest answer I really want to talk to you, you helped me so much, and I am so glad that I found you
absolutely not even close!! if anything the ultra feminists weeded themselves out of the dating pool for guys like me who don't care at all for women who revel in the absence of critical thinking-and i've always believed that the venomous side of feminist culture came into being only as a desperate self-preservation response to all the weak ass male leadership (like 99% of men in high impact decision-making positions, such as big corporations & lawmaking enclaves), so when "feminist" girls come across someone who genuinely demonstrates grounded masculine power it's not the same as what these dudes are complaining about on U.S. college campuses.
The worst part is this is how they would have men the don’t think is trash because the man can become more emotional in tuned with them plus guys don’t really leave relationship to often so they would have a higher chance of staying together
I see the value behind all that is being said but I would argue that you are avoiding risk a little too much. The redhead example for instance by the time you got the point of saying "sexy" why skirt around it just call the girl sexy. You're one of the best in the industry which is a fact but often times too inderect and complicate things that can otherwise be simple. Still great video and content.
Because hot girls knows that already and it depends on how attracted they are to you if it’s like a who is this guy let me find out a lil more there’s a higher chance of turning her way because she’ll feel as if oh it’s just another one of thos but if it’s someone that has a high attraction to you the it could act to helping her feel a little less insecure around you this same dynamic affects both man and woman in almost the same way
All of this sounds *way* to complicated and time consuming. Instead, just tell a girl, _"you look great in this dress"_ or _"you have gorgeous hair"_ or whatever similar and start touching her immediately. Complimenting her visual appearance (clothing, not boobs or booty) immediately sets the premise of a man to woman communication. Same goes for touching.
That's basic game. You're not wrong but Todd teaching is trying to go more in-depth and I personally find it helpful if you want to take it to advance (hotter girls)
Lol you won’t get it then girls are more emotion driven so you gotta take her up and down it’s probably like that since relationships have fights and it’s a small test to see how good or if you can make up quickly afterwards
Not really your focus, but no cannabis is not a gateway drug. Very unlikely. Alcohol is much worse. Don't lend credence to crap like that please. Make your analogy and move on
Really? Pretty simple, just in depth explanation. You try to playfully stir the conversation to sexual topics, tease, and use a "slightly indirect" approach. OK, not always easy to pull, and sometimes you do have to think about it, but it's not that complicated. Who wants to be friendzoned? "Girls just wanna have fun" is a truth. Guys are too nice, polite, and jump in the friendzone all by themselves" I recall some GREAT conversations I had with new gals, intellectually speaking. And guess what? They liked me but "didn't feel the tingles". No thanks, no more of this. I recall one that was so boring. Nothing happened. Well I kissed her full on, tongue in mouth when leaving, just like that, not even wanting to do it TBH, just to "do something" out of this boring evening. It turned into a long FWB type relationship as she was all over me after that.
