The hard messy reality of decluttering (things did not go as planned) 

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Thanks for keeping comments kind and respectful! I'm off to the park with Samson but will come back to check in. Happy Fall!!✨❤🥳🏡🍂

This lovely woman is so indecisive. She’s talking herself in circles. I’m not sure she’s really ready for change.

Bless her, she is terrified of letting anything go. It speaks that she is carrying trauma. I pray she finds the courage somewhere within her to break through this fear, she’s a gorgeous lady and I wish her peace and joy in her life.

I could see your frustration and it is understandable when someone wants help but is reluctant to let go. You are a wonderful friend!

In a studio, vertical space is your best friend!! She needs to take advantage of her walls for storage (in addition to having a smaller bed).

Moving the chair out made a huge difference to the space! 🎉 So agree that having a vision for what is wanted out of your space is so important for motivation and direction.

I have found the biggest block for me decluttering was letting go of my "fantasy self" where I had a whole life created around the things I owned that I never lived out. Once I was ready to let that go I didn't have less but I had more of what I loved, used and enjoyed!!!❤❤❤❤😊10 wonderful useful things was wayy better than 500 useless ignored items bogging down my space and my mind.

I haven’t watched this all the way through yet, but I just have to say how kind and positive you are. 💕 And you really listen without judgement. That’s hard to do with a situation like this. What a lovely person you are. 🤗 Deb x

This was sooo relatable in my early decluttering days when I just wanted to organize. Good for her building up those muscles to get things out of the space. Scarcity mindset and sentimental obstacles are real challenges. Agreed, smaller bed footprint would allow more living and breathing calm space.

You mentioned a basement. Can Gabby box up some of her clothes and store them in the basement? Things she doesn't wear but isn't ready to part with. Maybe the basement could be purgatory and after 3-6 months she'll be ready to make a final decision. PS I suggest separating audition clothes from regular clothes. I'm sure she doesn't need all the clothes she has for auditions. Keep 2-3 outfits for each genre: cool mom, prarie, period piece...

Mibs She’s not ready to let things go , equating things with people she’s lost .My heart goes out to her x You were so patient & kind with her . Reassurance that She didn’t need to if she didn’t want to x Big Love Carla ❤

I've seen worse hoarding situations than this, and her just moving furniture out and tidying I can already tell has made a huge difference!

Baby steps, Gabby. Baby steps. You are moving in the right direction!

So pleased Gabby was funally ready to accept that the chair was taking up room. Her bed is huge!, She would gain so much more soace with a smaller sized bed. It seems like the thought of not being surrounded by unnecessary things/clutter makes Gabby very anxious, bless her. Great job though Carla as always..you did manage to achieve space which is definitely needed. ❤

As soon as Gabi said the chair felt like an energy block it was obvious it was time for it to go. Decluttering is hard, but hopefully once she has some time to enjoy the newly freed up space she will start to feel more ready to embrace change

You are very kind Carla. She doesn't seem willing or able to make a change but living in such chaos is not good for

Carla you are so kind and respectful. I really just think she isn’t ready for this and she doesn’t know what she wants or what she needs. She is caught up with her things and how much they cost and the story behind them . Until she is ready to declutter and wants to declutter, no one can “help her”. I think what she wants from you is to help her organize her wardrobe.

Carla you have the patience of jobe , you’re perfect for this job and it’s a gift you have! not just anyone can do this! Ty for what you do!

I love when you visit/work w/ old friends/previous clients. It's like we're friends too. 😂😂😂

Hmmm…I have a few thoughts here. I live in a 576 sq ft place. Let me see if this helps. When I buy things I too have made purchases that did not work. It took me 4 tries at a dining table, yes 4. Two tries at a sofa. Two tries at a storage closet for clothes. I share my home with my husband. It has taken us 5 years to get it right. It finally feels right. I take up 3 drawers in a dresser and 1/2 of a small closet. I have one thing under the bed and it’s a comforter for cold months in a zip pouch, it could probably fit in a small suitcase instead now that I think of it. I personally don’t think Gabby needs more furniture, I think she would do well using a laundry service to stay on top of the laundry. Referring tasks out is super helpful in a small space. I think the other thing Gabby needs to do is really “define” her style. It sounds like a somewhat “costume” type of wardrobe is where she leans. So maybe dividing up the closet to reflect that might work. Living in the constant chaos of a cluttered space to me seems like Gabby is a SUPER imaginative person whose thoughts are always swirling above and around her. So some grounding needs to happen in her space to balance the energy. The space needs to be styled in healing colors. I thinks tones of greens & blues with some grounding brown and a little yellow. Whatever brings in a sense of feeling the need to “control” less whether it’s stones or something that “releases” that needs to be in place too. All of this after the space is truly organized. Grounding can only happen with a clear space. Peace will come when that happens because you are making the way Gabby. Pull the energy down from your feet (which create the steps in the right direction) all the way up. ☮️ ❤😊

Carla, the look on your face when she doesn't want to let things go . . . You're a good friend and very kind to her.

I could see your frustration and it is understandable when someone wants help but is reluctant to let go. You are a wonderful friend! She needs to learn the “container concept” by Dana K. White for sure.

Maybe she can get a bed that lifts and there's storage underneath. She can downsize to a full size bed because of the space. She's doing a great job decluttering.

Hi Carla, Your videos have helped me so much in letting go of the things that were weighing me down over the years and I'm sure Gabby will get there too with your help! Your suggestions on a wardrobe is spot on. I feel like she needs different categories/sections for her clothing: 1) sentimental (put in the pink Ross luggage) 2. Audition clothing (keep in current closet) 3. Everyday wear (new wardrobe). If she gets a wardrobe she can easily maximize the sides of them like adding hooks for her dog's leash closest to the door and hooks for necklaces/jewelry on the other side. I agree that the chaise had to go especially if she didn't want to downsize her bed. I hope Gabby gets more clarity as she continues to declutter 😊

Thank you Carla for your patience and care with Gabby. Sending positive prayers and love for her decluttering chaos resolution. 🙏🏽❤️

Congratulations to you for your patience cus i would lost it and gave a speech about her way of living

That space would drive me mad…she is definitely not ready for this!! Everyone needs a sweet Carla in their lives💗

You are an AMAZINGLY patient and understanding friend. I admit it; I couldn't work with her. I hope she is able to do some work and be able to make some breakthrough so she can help herself live in a better environment.

Oh my goodness. I found this so frustrating to watch. She just wasn’t ready for the help she invited, and really needs. Unfortunately I foresee her space going back. She needs a breakthrough to push her to making the hard but necessary decisions. Bless you Carla! You were so patient.

The scarcity mindset is overwhelming and paralyzing. 😢

Omg, I relate to her about the wardrobe, so much of my clothes aren’t “me” but I can’t let them go until I have my “fantasy” replacements first!

Like others have said, this was frustrating to watch, but at the same time, it was a nice reality check for me. To see someone surrounded by things she doesn't love or need but is keeping for seemingly unimportant reasons (though they're important to her), it made me realize I am doing the same thing and have no right to feel frustrated with her decisions (or lack thereof), and then do the same thing in my own life. This might have not gone as planned, but it was very important to post and let people know this happens, some people have struggles decluttering, and that's okay. We'll get there in time.

One thing I noticed is her fear of letting go of things people gave to her, especially lost loved ones. It took me a long time to realize that the person and their love aren't in the things. It made it easier to let go of stuff.

She needs someone who deals with hoarders! It’s sad she lives that way! Just listening to her she’s living in a dream world! If she is too tired, and can’t motivate herself, sounds like depression. She really needs mental help. I’m not being mean but, just listening to her, I know she’s unable to help herself. I love Quince! What you chose from them, was perfect!

This was rough go watch.. she seems so lost and in need of maybe some therapy. You can tell shes so frustrated with living with so much, yet unwilling to make the changes to ease the stress shes putting herself through. "I feel so bare" and "i feel like im gonna have nothing" are very concerning statements. I feel without the metal healing, she will not be able to help herself. Sending prayers her way, that God will patch up that place in her soul and help her to let go and feel free and at peace. ❤

I wonder if separating her audition clothes from her personal clothes will help Gaby. That way she may be able to work out her own style and what she needs to invest in for her capsule wardrobe. She could also use the purple suitcase for sentimental items (even her mom's clothes she won't be wearing) and that way she gets to keep sentimental things and have designated storage for them 💗

I have found that when I’m working in a room that’s messy if the bed is made, it becomes a place for sorting. I would find it very difficult to not want to make that bad up and have it looked tidy to begin with so that there was something, that could be gained

decluttering opens the gates of opportunity including wealth! I have first hand experience with people around me also! ❤

Just a thought for the pieces Gabby describes as "audition clothes." It's easy to see how critical they are for helping to create a character and make a certain impression, but if they aren't clothes Gabby wears IRL, they don't really deserve places of honor in her grab-and-go closet/drawer/armoire. Let them live under the bed. If they are organized carefully in the right containers, they will be useful when needed and not in the way the rest of the time.

Respectfully, this client should get therapy first.

Visual clutter can be very stressful. Couple of suggestions: 1. sort all clothing in colour order, ie rainbow order, it will look less chaotic. Secondly, put the curtain back on the cupboard to hide clothes, again it will make room more peaceful. Thirdly, store clothes or linen in the big suitcases, then pull them out when you travel and then put them back when you are back, reduces more visual clutter. Next, look into second hand cupboards, or cabinets with doors, they go cheaply, and definitly replace the cluttered open clothing rack. Don't use open shelves In a small flat, it creates more of the loud visual clutter, best to get cabinets with doors or drawers If you want more peaceful energy. Also u could get couple of narrow storage ottomans and fit some clutter inside, and use as seating. Think dual purpose. Think how you could use heights, ie floor to ceiling cabinets are ideal. Wishing u well x

Carla, you are very patient. I think Gabby really just wanted a friend over. Making the few changes ye did will definitely help her mindset. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 👏💪👍🙏💐🐶

Whenever I watch your videos, I declutter. I have watched this episode several times today. It has inspired me to get moving. I have released so many things today! Thank you and Gabby! ❤

I need a running start …my weekends are when I have time to clean/organize/declutter, the work week is when I try to make a plan, a REALISTIC plan. I know myself much better now, I try not to have great expectations. Small chunks, sometimes they’re bite sized pieces but I take them as a win. Gabby might just be needing to work in the small bite sized pieces we saw today. She can do it, I believe in her. ❤️

Definitely if you get the right bedframe one with storage underneath in that room. It will give her some added hiding places, even if it’s nothing but bedding.

Bless you for your patience with this sweet lady. I like to organize so first thing I would do is make the bed, do the dishes, fold anything out and put in a neat pile. Wipe down all flat surfaces. Straighten out the closet. Off season clothes can be stored in the suitcases. Do laundry and vacuum/ wash the floors. Her puppy would feel better too. She can keep her belongings just neaten it up and she would feel better. I’m still decluttering and I can’t explain why I can’t let go of some things🤷‍♀️myself. My kids won’t want anything when I’m gone.

As soon as she started talking , I knew she wasn’t ready for any change. We know her place isn’t too small…She just has too much stuff. Hopefully she’ll realize that one day. Refocusing was a great save!

You are remarkably patient. You allow her to talk through her reluctance to part with things, reason that she doesn’t wear or like items, and finally donate. You go back to the reason why you are with her and what she truly wants to accomplish. Good video!

I love when we have return places on this channel. It really shows how much of a process it is to declutter and that it takes time!

i was so much like her, kept holding on to everything and had difficulty letting things go. then i found my happiness elsewhere and i was able to clean my space. many items had good but also bad memories attached to them. i thought with letting go of items i was letting go of myself and all memories.

❤ Comment 1 (before watching) I love her space! It just dawned on me that I would personally put a bed where her little office area is and enjoy the room you walk into as a living room/dressing room. There's space for a couch and a clothing rack 😊 Just putting it out there!

Oh it’s so hard. She is not alone. We all struggle and her space is so so tiny. I think she has done amazing considering her very small space. Her style is amazing and so full of fun and energy like she is. I’ve had to do 3 rounds of purging with time in between and I have found it gets easier each time. I love the freedom it brings.

Carla, you are a gem and so very patient. 😌

It can be so hard to let things go! The lovely Gaby has a really tiny apartment, actually she has not at all too much stuff. But the reality is that it is still too much for the space she has, and that makes the situation very, very difficult for her. I feel for her! I wish she had somewhere another room, a basement, a rented space, where she could keep the things that she does not want to be parted of, but she does not use regularly. And then, maybe in a year or two she can let go more. Or if not, embrace it and do not let it overwhelm you. All the best and good luck to you, Gaby, you worked so hard in this process. ❤ And big thanks to Carla! ❤

I’m thinking there’s a train of thought to really do a deep declutter to open up space for new things and opportunities. I have been in your friend’s headspace and it’s really an emotional challenge. You’re a really good friend.

I was thinking IKEA wall unit too! 👍🏾 you are so awesome and patient. Thank you for all you do!!

You are so Patient

I find it so hard to know what to keep when I have so much and nothing resonates. For some reason, I love my things more when I just have fewer. I think it helps to calm my ADHD. Lotsa love to you gals💞💞

Totally relatable. Thanks for helping and thanks for sharing.

I can totally understand her!! Clothing for me is hard too because as she said, capsule wardrobe or better replacements like sometimes it’s not possible money wise or body wise..

The ikea wardrobe and possibly the queen ikea bed with drawers underneath would be perfect for the space. She doesn't seem like she would put things away when there is a system in place.

Wow, this video is very relatable to me right now. I have a small room and I just cant /dont want to get rid of my stuff and I dont know what to do. I just keep going around in circles. This video help me. Looking forward to seeing the upgrades

Challenging! Getting organized in such a small space is hard. I’d store the suitcases in the basement along with any audition clothes assuming it’s a locked space for her use. New bed situation for sure. Large storage unit with drawers and hanging space. Get rid of the old dresser, rolling clothes rack, add doors to the closet, and paint! It’s dingy and Gabby is vibrant and creative!

Her apartment is not small....she just needs to work with her hoarding mentality....how can a woman live like that? How do you clean when your stuff is all over the place? Why would she seek for your help if she is not ready for that? She is in complete denial and I am sorry to say but I thimk you know that too because I ve never seen you this upset in your videos...

Carla you are such a wonderful friend with such a big heart and what seems like unlimited patience!! Gaby is clearly struggling but was brave enough to let go of that chaise. Her mattress seems too large and looks like it’s hanging over the base. It would help if Gaby put a hold on shopping of any kind, no matter how cheap. She would benefit from the 1-in-1-out rule. Thrifting is probably filling some kind of void and her scarcity mindset makes her believe she’ll never find a deal like that again every time she spots a bargain. Her overwhelming amount of clothes are diminishing her quality of life. She deserves a peaceful home. I wish her all the best❤

I love her apartment! Its such a vibe! Maybe she can get Walmart to sponsor her for their memory foam mattress. She definitely could use a smaller bed. And that mattress is unbelievably comfortable.

I think Gabby should categorize and store her audition clothing in her suitcases and in under bed storage. Also could upload pics of every clothing item to a closet app. With a cheap metal king size bed frame from Amazon, she should have plenty of space. Then I would keep the chaise lounges chair at the end of the bed for relaxing, working on laptop, and watching tv. Could face it towards the window if the view is more important than watching tv. Good luck Gabby!! Just keep trying new ways to get everything how you want it. Right now I’m doing the KonMarie method and I’m still in the messy middle but it’s been worth it so far. (PS- hope it’s ok I mentioned another decluttering technique.)

I recently switched my queen bed for a double and moved an armoire out of my bedroom. My new bed has storage space under the bed which I didn’t have before. I’m now doing another declutter and organize and feel so good about what I’ve done so far. Sometime down the road I’ll do another declutter/organize session. It’s a work in progress. ❤

Omg Gabby I feel you. My moon sign is Pisces and I felt that eclipse so hard. Thank you Carla & Gabby for showing us real life and the mental and emotional decisions we can wrestle with while dealing with our physical possessions. Lots of love! 💕

Life Pro Tip from a Mom: put your shower curtain liner (yes, the plastic ones) in the washing machine with two or three bath towels (bleach safe towels). Use hot water, large load size, normal amount of laundry detergent, and a small amount of bleach-a smaller amount than you would normally use for a small load of bath towels. As SOON as the load finishes washing/rinsing/spinning-take the shower curtain out and it is going to be holding water and water goes everywhere if you aren't expecting this to happen. Shake it out gently and take to the bathroom-hang it back up on its hooks and let it dry. (I dry mine in the dryer on high for 3-4 minutes with two towels but I'm not about to tell yall to do that-because you'll forget-melt the liner in the dryer and what a mess.). PS-I'm 62 and I have never had a liner melt in the dryer because 3-4 minutes and I am taking it out. We have to stop the wasteful lifestyle we all live to some degree. Great video Carla. Your sweet client has a shopping addiction-getting those endorphins from finding a deal at the thrift store--don't ask me how I know this. She should turn it into a side hustle but she will have to get way more organized to do that. You have to stay on top of your orders and mail them out-same day you get them! She's got the eye.

gabby looks stressed and tired, she seems like she is stuck more than in the other videos. i hope she finds serenity and hopes she can let go of more things very soon. in my case, i have trouble with clothing from the past, i hang on to nice things that are two sizes too small LOL !!

Gabby, it sounds like you’re not happy with the items in your home. Maybe it’s best to let go of the things that aren’t making you happy to make room for things that you love. Let go of the old to make room for new. Wouldn’t it be better to have 30 clothing items that you LOVE instead of ones that are shrunken, you don’t wear, or aren’t comfortable in? Let it go, girl!

I was just literally thinking about Gabby and wondering when you were going to have her back on. 😂 I’m going to grab a hot cocoa and relax whilst watching. Yay!

I think I would have her separate out her clothes into 3 categories. One space for things she wears all the time and loves, another space for her clothes for auditioning, and then the clothes that she doesn’t wear but can’t part with them yet I would tuck them away in a bin somewhere else. Maybe give her a time limit, if she doesn’t use it in 6 months to think about donating them.

You did good😇Remember patience is a virtue!

Oh my goodness, Carla! You're so close to 100k subs 🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤

Sometimes we want something we’re not quite ready for.

I am decluttering by necessity. Moving across the country to a much smaller place. Moving is expensive so it doesn't make sense to pay to move things I don't need or could live without. It's still hard, but I have gotten tougher and let more go. I think it would be impossible to let a lot of it go without that motivation.

I understand wanting to upgrade my wardrobe, but yet getting of rid of items that I paid for can be hard. It takes time. Gabby did great!

Before buying new big furniture, would love to see if she is open to like renting a small uhaul truck for like a weekend to hold things, emptying the room, steam mopping the floors, paint the walls, etc to start with a clean slate. Then she can have a better idea which items she loves to add back in. It might make her feel uplifted and brand new. I'm decluttering my mom and dad's house one room at a time, everything is sentimental, so it is a struggle, so I feel her.

I think Gabby is holding on to the past dream she had for her life which is keeping her and her things stuck. Perhaps pivot and create a new realistic dream for the future, then break it down into steps. Then she can start taking incremental steps to move forward. I think she more wants you to come over periodically to help her just organize and clean rather than declutter. Is that really the service you offer. Getting a smaller bed would help so much and removing that chair was the right decision. She was on the right track when she realized that some of the clothes will not serve her in the future. I hope for her sake she will have that big realization soon.

Also, maybe a separate wardrobe for her audition pieces? It might be nice to keep those away from her everyday pieces.

Much love to Gabby and you for meeting her where she's at. It sounds like she really does want a change in her space, but is really struggling with a lot of internal fears, attachments, and guilt. She might just need some more time to work through her feelings and clarify her goals. Good job to you both for the little wins you made!♡

All she has to do is to get a fabric shower liner and wash it when she washes her towels. Problem solved, no need to replace it every six months😊

If Gabby is not ready to let go, could she not use her suitcases for storage then just get a extra one for travelling, then a lot of her things would be off the floor and above her closet.

thank you gabby for being willing to share the times when it's not easy. i think it's important to share since times like that are realistically when you might need help and a different perspective the most. I hope people here are respectful especially when you don't know her or all the things going on in her life. it's difficult to impossible to actually declutter or change things by yourself when you've reached a level of fatigue/overwhelm where it's hard to make any decisions at all. I've definitely been there many times. sometimes you need to take a break or to change things up. working through stress/grief/anxiety about not having enough/guilt of getting rid of things you spent money on etc. is very relatable to me. i don't have much money so i can't afford to replace the things that i don't like or aren't really working and i'm stuck keeping things for practical reasons. that's just the reality for a lot of us and it changes how you make certain decisions. I think it might help her to write some things down or do some journaling about what she wants out of her life and space. this really helped me put things into perspective and set realistic goals to work towards or have things to look forward to. as far as her clothes go she could maybe write down what she has, what she likes or needs, what she doesn't like and doesn't wear or need etc. and plan her wardrobe a bit and find a way to make it more fun instead of stressful? to be honest though sometimes it takes a large mindset shift to change how you do things or how you've thought about things for decades. it can take years to really make some of those changes fully, so i hope everyone dealing with something similar isn't too hard on themselves as it can be hard to tell when to push and when to take a break. As far as things that might be less overwhelming to do, I think it might help her to separate her clothes for auditions from her everyday wardrobe and make another box for sentimental clothes she doesn't wear but wants to keep. you guys also mentioned this in the video, but her space would definitely benefit from some multi purpose furniture pieces. i think taking out the chair already really helped the space and gives her more options! i think she's worried about changing things and then it turning out worse but it could also turn out better! i've found that experimenting with my space and making non-permanent changes to try them out helped me transition. anyways sorry for the novel or if i overstepped with giving advice normally i wouldn't comment this much but i just related a lot and I hope she is able to make her apt work for her and find some peace in her space 💖

To feel that almost all your clothes don't resonate with you, but not to want rip them off, is the definition of fear. Poor girl! Is easier, and healthier, to rip off the useless clothes than to buy an armoire. With your help she will be able to get a better situation.

It’s not easy making these changes. Please move slowly so that she can feel safe. Congrats to her for seeking support.

Are her suitcases empty? If so, she could put clothes or purses inside to store.

Girlll look how close to 100k you are!!🎉 I’ve been subscribed since early-early on. Love this for you. This video was so nice to witness because you were such a patient support person for her, but still keeping on track and checking in on her true goals.

This is unbelievable, and you're so patient. I find it difficult to understand how there's no space when the person wants to keep everything. There's so much stuff, and no place for her to live. The place is taken up by a bunch of useless clothes. Thank you for your precious work.

I think taking a good honest view of the current set up, and comparing it to her ideal/the perfect space, would help. Aiming to change/remove all that isnt the ideal

This was an interesting watch. Gabby has some stuff, but you made a great point that the small SQ FT makes it difficult since it has to be used wisely. I lived in a studio a while ago and everything I had was multi-functional, specifically for this reason. I think with the clothes, if Gabby can see a consultant for that, I bet many of the clothes she dislikes will go or can keep a handful of pieces for auditions only. For anything sentimental, I am wondering if she should make either a quilt or some shadow boxes or something similar, since she is holding onto some things since they were from her parents but doesn't always like everything she finds.

Here are my suggestions. I agree with smaller bed with risers so that bins can be stored beneath. She should sell the dresser and mirror and replace with a tall dresser and mound a full length mirror onto the closet door. Beneath the picture, she can fit an "apartment size sofa". I used to own one of these sofas when I lived in a small apartment in NYC. Furniture stores actually have sofas specifically for small apartments. I think money may be an issue with her, maybe that's why she has a hard time letting go. I would suggest she sell items instead of donating. Hang in there, Carla.

I have the Ikea "Stall" shoe cabinet and absolutely love it. It is really narrow, only about 7 to 8 inches wide, so it is perfect for narrow or small spaces, and it has the flip down doors that you slide shoes into. I love it because shoes are stored out of sight and it takes up very little space. Highly recommend for anyone with a small space that needs shoe storage but doesn't like the cluttered look of an open shoe rack.

How many times have you heard “oh I don’t think I have any clothes to let go of” and then you start going through one by one and low and behold, there are some things they realize they don’t use or need? That what I said when my friend and I went through my closet. I thought maybe one small bag. Pfft, 5 full black garbage bags later… It was difficult to start but wow what a difference it’s made. The container concept by Dana K White also helped me greatly. I’m praying for Gabi to get the clarity she needs to move forward.

Props to Gabby for removing her favourite lounger. It definitely opened up the space alongwith turning the dresser. 👍 Both good changes. A new wardrobe/cupboard will definitely be useful to reduce the visual chaos. The coats hanger can be removed. Audition clothes can have a separate section inside the wardrobe.

I have been binging your sister’s declutter series and was very impressed with her willingness to legitimately try to improve her living situation. This video, I made it about half way through and had to tap out. My frustration level with this woman is through the roof; I can’t imagine what it was like for you. Moreover, the irony of her “ResetMindset” sweatshirt is not lost on me because she is clearly not ready to change her mindset as it pertains to the way she lives. What annoys me the most; however, is that there is a poor dog living in this environment. She has made the conscious decision to live in chaos, the dog is a victim of circumstance. Hopefully, and especially for the dog’s sake, she will be more accepting of the process in the future and be able to turn things around.

This is how I got over the “I paid money for it thing”… Whether you keep it or get rid of it, the money is gone either way. Keeping it isn’t going to give you your money back. And you’re not getting any use out of it, so let it move on to someone else and you can create your new life without it. And when it does hurt a little financially, I think it makes it a better lesson to make better financial choices in the future. I learned a lot from it.