The 'Heartbreaking Realization' That Ended Jewel's Contact With Her Mother 

Thanks so much for your love and support towards my career ❤️💝 and how long have you been a fan

Thank you, for reminding me .

Unfortunately some of us can’t see that until we open our eyes

Thank you. I needed this.

Wow! Thank you for that. Light bulb just went on!

we all want love…not all we give it to deserves it or uses it for good… thats why we need to look with in and really love ourselves before giving it away freely❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

However truthful that may possibly be (w/ any important relationship, let alone a parent).... still really difficult to hear. Phew, even harder to accept!

It is a very hard realization to come to, but so necessary. We can be manipulated far more easily by those who should give us the greatest protection. It doesn't matter how smart or successful or tough you are in other areas of your life, that need for a Mother's love leaves us terribly vulnerable. The realization and decision to stop the toxic influence and step away is so difficult and fraught with guilt and pain, but for many of us it is essential to survival. Blessings - Sherry

YahshuaBride (Sherry Griffin) Jewel's mother left when she was 8 so she never had her protection. I never had my mothers protection ever so after getting wounded over and over by forgiving her II finally realized my life's was better without her in it. Sure we all need a mother, but we don't always get what we need. I feel absolutely no guilt. She was always the one who threatened not to have anything to do with me if I ever did this or that again. I called her bluff because she did something that was unforgivable and it almost cost me my life.I than realized how dangerous she really was and all the times that she came close to sending me to the hospital but I was in denial.

Amen Meg Kampmen

I'm happy that you got to get away from, Meg. I can relate since I have a toxic family who made me so sick that I couldn't even go away and have a life, because all the troubles made me depressive and even suicidal... I feel glad when I see examples of people who got to get away from those sick environements, and I hope we can all find love elsewhere, and find our own team.

Well said.

Very true.

YES!

Haha. Touche

Say THAT

Same. My situation turned to her abusing my children so I haven’t seen or spoken with her in over 20 years now

It’s true. I didn’t really accept it until my 30’s, because it was too painful. But my mom isn’t who I longed for. She isn’t my friend. She’s not my role model. She wasn’t a good mother. Painful

So true.

I totally agree. I have learned to mourn the parents I never had. Neither were good parents and frankly probably should not have had children. If I was not related to my family I wouldn't ever pick them as people I would want to spend time with. My sister is a perfect example. We have NOTHING in common at all. I don't like her but I love her. Does anyone understand what I am saying?

Andrea Turnquist I completely understand and Im in exactly the same spot as you living across continents from you. How weird is this life?

@@andreaturnquist4855 Yes, I understand. You sound like me.

She is a human beacon of light, talent, heart and perseverance.

@Baby Hunn that’s the point of her book and the interview. She’s telling HER story , her side . This isn’t a court room . She doesn’t need to convince you of anything.

@@hr8839 I just found out she had a memoir. Jewel has always reminded me a lot of me and I have a cold and very different than myself mom, also. Is the book worth reading? I hope inspirational alongside the pains? If it’s on Audible read by Jewel 💎 I will definitely be listening. 💗

🙌🏻

​@@jedichild6815 thanks so much for your love and support towards my career ❤️💝 and how long have you been a fan

Parents are people too, full of flaws like the rest of us. I know because I am one and remind my kids I am not perfect and neither should they try to be. But yeah toxic parents is another level, but don't feel bad for not having contact with your Mom - she did her best and got you to where you are today, even if the foundations she built for you weren't ideal you still managed to become self aware. You got all her good bits.

That's sad. I work hard every day making sure I am a positive influence in my daughters life, and to give her what she needs to be a confident, independent person.

Shame on you! Probably owed to a divorce, it’s estimated between 20 to 70 million of young adults don’t talk to one parent. It’s owed to the gaslighting that one parent did of the other one. This didn’t happened on the 60’ it’s an epidemic now. The name is parental alienation.

@@mariapilarme shame on you.

Texan White Panther yep that’s the one!

Same

Almost exactly the same for me!! I would play pieces of you from start to finish on repeat in my room with my windows blacked out and just get lost in that album. It was very comforting and thinking back now, healing.

Drama

Same here, as in my first album, greetings hope you’re doing well

Strong, yet still so humble & not bitter. So admirable.

No, she seems kinda person that overcame it , and moved on and happy , atleast that's my opinion.

@Baby Hunn I think people are allowed to tell their stories without fear of judgement. Of course there are two sides to every story. That goes without saying.

@Baby Hunn Ok Snowflake lmao

@Baby Hunn Think of it as positive , there are many abusive mothers out there , lots of children has no one to aspire to , atleast Jewel can be a symbol of self respect and have a courage to tell the truth and move on.

It is so nice not to hear the word um from an interviewee.

She is absolutely deft in what she says and doesn't say in this interview on what I'm sure is a sensitive subject.

This is so true.

I had wonderful parents. Yet I still have issues. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Bobby - And some are just PLAIN GREEDY!!!!

Can you say "Brittany Spears"?

Don’t have to brag about it

Wow. Your comment helped me. Thank you.

Way to go Jory! 👍

So sorry , but glad you’ve found peace ✌️

@Texan White Panther nahhh when you come from such a toxic home they literally poisoned every body around them Its horrendous I lived it 💔👹

@Texan Panther Not if they're anything like the mother.

You are not stubborn you just wanted a mom which is a natural thing that all children want.

I could have written the same comment. I feel your words.

I’m dealing with this now, except it’s also the whole reality of my life, the relationship I had with her, the ways & the why’s of things past- all come crashing down & it’s as if my whole life was a lie. Reckoning with the fact it was my relationship with her that groomed me for the abusers that nearly took my life. And the fact if I utter anything of the sort out loud I am gaslighted & shunned for not taking responsibility for my life

@@lolawants2008 "Why your family hates you" Richard Grannon - very cool man - I'm convinced, you'd like him. Here on YT

@@winderofcoils research and move on. Best advise for those, who need/choose to deal with narcs is "Observe - don't absorb". Kinda turns them into psychology lessons..

Maybe what Jewel meant to say was "Blinded by the lies because your need for love is so great"?

So true! My mom just died at 64 and I had only had her close for 15 yrs....due to some poor choices and got her back only for her to die very unexpectly🤕 people try to stay close to your family! Tomorrow is never promised!

@@JaydeLarue So true.

It takes a while for the daughters to realise that too

We all wish we never had to know this. ❤️

You had the mom that many of us longed for.

this was apparently from 6 years ago. And somehow it got recommended. I only know 2 of her albums

You sure you are not victimizing yourself here. I mean who raised her

You have to take ownership to an extent. But if your daughter is an addict in any way, tough love & cutting ties is essential. Other than that you should be fighting to make things work. I HIGHLY recommend seeing an LMFT together. It will only work if you are willing to see your own faults. It takes 2

@@whereaboutsify glad you said this. Thought the same

💔 I understand sometimes the hardest thing is you want to protect them, but then you have to protect yourself. 💔💔

You are the adult. If there's abuse you are responsible for not getting the child and yourself help.

Inspiring. I'm in a similar boat as her, sought out success despite being abandoned and emotionally abused / manipulated by divorced parents looking to move on with their lives. Was homeless for 3 years and left the country. Now I live somewhere besides the USA and make quite excellent money, more than everybody I hear who brags about how much they make anyway XD. Still, finding home and love is so hard, I think her life is what attracts me to her. There's just a certain thing about people who push through despite their circumstances.

​@@skahler Thanks so much for your love and support towards my career ❤️💝 and how long have you been a fan

Thanks so much for your love and support towards my career ❤️💝 and how long have you been a fan

I'm sure it's difficult to have a parent leave, but I really wish my father had been no part of my life. I'd take abandonment over constant psychological abuse any day.

I didn’t grow a backbone. I grew CPTSD and chronic health problems.

@@valerievaleri I'm so very sorry. Some people who grew up with 2 loving parents don't have a clue. 😪

@@kathydbrumfieldb8753 thanks for the validation

Peggy Lynn Try to forgive your father. For yourself. When someone hurts you, its hard. I think me forgiving him, helped me. I know it did.

He was a good interviewer though I thought. He was direct and asked with respect. Often people that have been through trauma - I speak personally - want you to ask those honest probing questions because to answer them is part of the healing, it is cathartic to answer. Nothing worse than the elephant in the room not being called out, personally speaking.

I'm sure she knew what he was going to ask her. She is such an interesting conversationalist. They were both good.

CasSandra Wilcox what a mature thing to say.... I think part of being an adult is don’t play the victim card and deal with the cards you were dealt. Take ownership in your life. The world needs more ppl like you. I feel like you are a definition of a strong woman. I would be proud to have a daughter like you. I became a mom for the first time only 6 months ago

You are a strong woman, respect !

Good on you...you should be very proud of yourself..good attitude...

Kudos to you. I have a similar story. The best revenge is to become the best self.

You must consciously and subconsciously break the cycle

Some patents don't care about ruining their children.

This ^😔

Giving birth makes you a mother. Giving love makes you a mom.

Giving birth makes you a mother and giving love to your children makes you the mom God created you to be!

Are you a lesbian?

Let me shit on you are you an inconsiderate asshole, or do you just play one on the internet?

@@thatotherguy1 Thank you for your compliment

~I can’t imagine what everyone else gets so emotional about. I told my greatest dearest Friend, who started out more as a therapist but took me under her wing -Leo Dawson of San Diego and Carlsbad, Ca -I state this proudly -that my mother HATED me. She said that that it wasn’t possible for a mother to hate her child. Confusing, so what was this thing?, since she’d also told me “While I may love you, I don’t like you.” (-“May”?) 6 decades.. “mentally ill”? A monster? -Both. Certainly narcissistic to say the least, I do believe in fact, soul-less - they are here. But don’t take it personally. It’s their sh*t - not yours. It’s their projection. I should say their trumpism. There’s the model for the world. We’re just too dumbfounded that anyone can be like that. Stupefied. But we learn - we didn’t accept this second Hitler did we. I lived 15 years in Homer, Know the Kilchers. Grandpa Yule was -“difficult” - no, there’s that weird again - a trump. 2 of Natalie Portmans movies show these relationships - “Places in the heart” , the mother that shows up...(surprise, uncredited Sally Field, amazing as always) and “Anywhere But Here” -Susan Sarandon -I remember thinking “ ..But my mother was no where near that much fun - and she Certainly wouldn’t have done that at the end of the movie,unless a ploy to keep Narcissistic Supply available. Like the cop tells her -“ Don’t ever try to leave, until you’re absolutely ready to never return.”

Look at USA's prison and juvenile jail full of mother's problem. If only they were strong as Jewel they could have a different path. Some would blame it for Single mother epidemic in U.S. but no one really knows , even the crime rate was so high with those raised by single moms , that's a fact.

No one deserves abusive parents , but here we are.

@@lamagiduneinstant76 I just reread "Mommie Dearest", and I kept saying things like, "But Joan often told her daughter that she loved her, hugged her, kissed her," and other endearments throughout the book. My birth origin vessel never, never did any of that, just all MEAN, very consistently....

Jewel is a superb person and very talented singer and entertainer . She also keeps promises as she once promised to make an appearance in Alaska to the State Fair and the only temporary delay would occur if she was invited to be part of I Neil Dimond's world tour that same year which did force that temporary change. However , as I understand she recommended the contact person for Lee Ann Rhimes who was this young country singer in her very early teens I believe in which she agreed to and provided Alaska State Fairgoers that year a sensational and awesome performance,replacing Jewel. So , that was a great deed Jewel and her. representative, as well as promising to still return to Alaska in the near future. She kept that promise and returned to Alaska to the newly built Anchorage Convention Center and gave Alaskans a tremendous performance and concert that we all will remember and treasure. Jewel and her story and life shows her true love for Alaska and her growing up in a remote small community and still in my opinion is a wonderful and caring person and totally respects her roots and family . This video was an awesome story of a wonderful person as well as an awesome singer. God Blesses you Jewel and who you are!!!!

Such a Lovely post and lovely replies xx I never had a mother, its caused a lot of pain

"In the end only kindness matters". Yes, indeed - this is what it all boils down to! My favorite lyric of any song I've ever heard. What a gem Jewel is! :)

I feel you Susan. How I’ve longed for a nurturing, tender, loving mother who I could be safe with, loved wholly by, and accepted and encouraged by. It’s not my reality. Never will be. I’ll be kind to my aging mother, but I can’t love her like I wanted to.

Mom never told me she loved me. Never. Don’t have kids for the sake of having them, if you don’t know how to show love or be supportive. I had a roof over my head and good food every day. Otherwise, you’re on your own.

And Fathers too

@@Starfish2145 Yes, but that is not what this video is about, is it? This video is about how Jewel's *mother* damaged her as a child and then came back later to EXPLOIT the child she knew she had damaged so she could steal money from her. That is what psychopaths and narcissists do to their kids. Both are incapable of ever loving their own children...and both are entirely capable of scamming money from them and feeling perfectly entitled to do so, as they see their children as "objects" or property rather than their own people.

Yes. Well said. Watching this, I wondered if Jewel feels okay now or if it’s that deep shattered inside hurt that forever plagues you. I wish there were better resources for children of mothers like this, even if it was sensitivity training for these mothers, just something so they couldn’t wreck a life with that invisible emotional abuse.

@@tnijoo5109 There are resources for children raised by parents like this, but they are expensive and most can't enter the treatment center until the are an adult (sadly, when the brain is entering it's last phase of integration in late adolescence to about age 25-ish). We, as a society, do NOT protect or take care of children from these characterologically disordered adults, and we also PAY in many other ways for NOT protecting them and getting them help. Very few therapists ever receive the education they need to treat the actual personality disordered individual, much less perform a differential diagnosis, which is an education they would have to seek out post-doc (and incur more debt to obtain on top of what the doctorate already cost them).

@@le_th_ yeah. I know what you mean. I’ve been to so many therapists and it always feels like something is missing. I don’t talk to my mother anymore which is painful but probably fir the best. Wish there were resources or therapists trained in reconnecting people in a way that wouldn’t mess up my life. I can’t have contact with my mom without it completely destroying me.

2013 here. You're definitely not alone!! May that give you comfort!

Hello...Alicity how are you?

What song are you referring to?

She's also a healer. Her voice and music are channelled for healing, so it has that impact on people with trauma ready to heal (my opinion). I hope you're able to find the healing modalities your soul and heart and mind need to heal the complex PTSD - it's taken ages for me to trust shamanic healing, plant medicine and for God to give me trustworthy healers, hypnotherapist etc and I'm finally taking ownership for my own healing xx

She is the only famous person I would ever want to be friends with or meet.

MsTaly99 .. I too have had to cut contact with my Mother and Sister. That has been SO Hard .. but I have Faith 💛 And like You it is now only My Son and I. Sending Love 🙏

God bless you also, our sister.

Someone made the statement, paraphrased, that family is people that you would have nothing to do with if they weren't family. I happen to agree that just because a person is related does not mean that I have to have anything to do with them

You're not alone when you have a husband. Thats your family.

I cut ties with my parents too. They were emotionally abusive and the relationship was so toxic. I feel so much better now not having them in my life. Why people say you need to have your parents in your life bc they’re your parents, I’ll never agree with.

She wrote a book about her past in her words...not in your words. Chill Jewel's dad.

@@jackieeeap2 I wasn't referring to Jewel not mentioning her father's turn around, I was referring to the clip not mentioning it.

@@lj86metsplayonplaya28 oh I'm sorry. It didnt read that way.

@@lj86metsplayonplaya28 Her dad is still a piece of garbage. He is a self centered controlling monster.

Art may have sobered up, but he's still an asshole. Never liked him and still don't.

Hi Sade

Capronice Check out The Holistic Psychologist on RU-vid- she talks a lot about these issues and brings a lot of light! Thank you for sharing!

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Laurel, my dad was narcissist too but mostly from a distance. It’s tough when a nurturer does nothing but twist the truth.

😯

This is shocking. Hope you find your way out of that situation.

Wtf. Sorry man..Hopefully you’re free now

@@DJ-uk5mm It was a nightmare. But yes I'm home. If your interested, I told my story on RU-vid. In the " John Sonny Franzese Interview"

I am soooo sad for you. I am sorry Gregory. 😭

Hi Shelly

Exactly.. As the quote goes, 'It's never too late to have a happy childhood'. Also, I'm from Maryland too :)

Surrealistic Slumbers how can u have a happy childhood its gone they cn never hold u like a child again...

You can reclaim your childhood and embrace your inner child. Be around nurturing and positive people. If your parents were dysfunctional or didn't meet your needs, there are older adults out there who can act as mentors and sort of fill that role in a way. Lastly, festivals provide a great opportunity to have fun, dance, and act like a little kid all over again, but this time you are fully in control of yourself and have no one to stand over you and reprimand you for having a good time :D Even just the release of playing a musical instrument is therapeutic and unleashes a lot of playful energy. Having a good laugh at a movie or a friend's joke. All these things are ways you can reclaim your childhood in your " adult " years.

Surrealistic Slumbers How about getting real and develop an inner relationship with the Creator! Go dancing about all you want but in the end the only way out of this place to know Thyself.

MrDream5 ,me too. We then have to all be good to each other. 💙

It is what it is...sounds cliche' but these words helped me through it...

Me too... and people who judge that's never been through it don't know.

Me Too 💛

@@dylswife8048 Exactly, because "in the end only kindness matters" - to quote our darling Jewel.

Elizabeth Culver Edwards Thank god she was homeless, that pain made her bloom!

@@daniluchison I don't think thanking god she was homeless is quite right. There are plenty of homeless people who's experience doesn't make them "bloom." Perhaps you could reword that to thank god she was able to utilize that experience to bloom.

@@writerconsidered brilliantly stated!

@@cindyb8775 Hello...how are you Cindy?

Joshua Castillo, I also agree with what she said about her most painful experiences we're when she had deluded herself. Seeing the true nature of reality and understanding that much of your worst suffering you chose yourself we're the best eye-opening principles I got out of Buddhism.

💕

I feel you, my 9 years older sister did everything she could to separate me from my mother. Mom had dementia, i was her sole care giver, my sister visited twice in 7 years. Just to steal things. Such as mom's will, that's when the shit hit the fan, i divorced myself 100% from this lying, sociopath, narcissistic woman who was my sister.

Try to let it go. Please don’t be a prisoner to your past, and their mistakes.

@@Sharsung thank you, very spot-on wisdom, much appreciated!:):)!

Let your sisters go.. Live a virtuous life.

@@Sharsung Sharon, I will be taking your advice, finally at 74 & a half. Thanks

Tanya Brown that's because you recognize your offspring is actually your daughter: a beautiful, unique human being with boundaries and needs of her own. Jewel's egg donor has zero concept of that

Tanya Brown, my mother feels the same way about me but she is an emotional vampire with no boundaries. Sadly, I have to keep her at arms length.

I can’t imagine taking money from my own daughter. Seems kind of fishy that she abandoned jewel when she was a little girl and then floated back into her life when she became rich and famous. Poor jewel . She wanted her mom t be in her life so desperately.

@@katierojas8066 Hello...how are you?

Buy those tickets, so you will have your chance!

She said it....Go back and listen. Then look at all her old songs, they aren't in JewelVEVO they are under Atlantic Records.

Al Czervik The World Isn't So black and white there's grey areas that are quite convoluted, her mom is obviously a con woman

Al Czervik she trusted her mother, and didn’t think she had to control, anything...

hallmonitor98 she won’t say it, because she is a woman who has class....

because that would be rude, and it wouldn't solve anything. - They now speak to each other - albeit seldom.

Unscathed no- but better and stronger- yep

@@blessed7927 i said "relatively" unscathed. many people wouldn't come out of that situation as well as she did.

Hello...how are you Denise?

Jewel is a damned Jew.

whip master what do u care if she is a jew

If she wasn't a Jew you'd never heard of her.

@@whipmaster44 Wrong, and stop with the hate. She is one beautiful woman, inside and out, and has more talent than most performers out there.

@@lizhagar3434 Hello...how are you Liz

Mina Cerra I’m sorry. I didn’t accept the truth about my mom until my 30’s either at which point the pain of coming to terms with the truth: my mom was not a good mother to me, in fact she was terrible; it’s been difficult to take in

Das right!