The Hospice | Episode Eleven | Full Documentary 

OMG yes! I so wish people had a realistic idea of what CPR actually does to someone. I’ve felt well over 100 ribs fracture under my hands, I’ve looked directly at a sternum due to all of the skin being torn off from compressions (mainly elderly there), massive purple bruises across the chest, and let us not forget the smell of burning hair and skin when a patient has to be defibrillated. That’s just the heart, opening and maintaining an airway is not for the faint of heart, intubation is brutal when done at high speed in an emergency. I have seen far too many patients suffer needlessly for days before passing away devoid of dignity and pride due to what they’ve gone through since the first compression.

Totally agree with you both. My late father was terminal and yet thwy kept reviving him with CPR . I felt bad when i shouted at a young intern for saving his life. Dad told me he felt like he had been run over by a bus.... He was in that much pain for a long time. Eventually we placed a DNR in place ..and he died peaceful in his sleep. I guess pros and cons should be fully discussed before hand ... ..but when someone is terminal , I dont see how prolonginging their suffering.. ..and actually making them ten times worst in pain and disability.. ..is actually beneficial. It almost seems cruel trying to force a dying body to stay alive. Dignity in death , and quality rather and quantity , is vital. We are messing around with nature too much now. Its not healthy at all.

I totally agree such a good man

I sincerely hope neither of us has to make that decision with our children, but I pray I’m strong enough to knowingly put myself in my worst nightmare to save my child the pain and misery of a slow death. I don’t pray often or for many things, but I very regularly pray for strength I need to protect my children from suffering.

I have to agree. Good cpr only really works in a hospital setting. Most people resuscitated do not recover. Those that do will probably have some sort of brain damage. In Sophie’s case I doubt her mum would be able to get her on the floor and perform cpr until help arrives. The mum unfortunately is being selfish but I suppose we are all different.

Sophie does have a good quality of life, just because she has an incurable illness doesn’t mean she doesn’t have the right to live.

Gosh, I would not dream to judge a poor parent who has a child like Sophie. It’s so beyond my experience to have such a disabled child, but I can see this mum loves her child just as much as I loved mine, ie more than life itself. She might be making a wrong choice but jeez, I’m not judging

I know you don't know me but I wanted to say you've done what's best for your mum. And you shouldn't feel bad about that (but I know it's hard from experience). Sending you and your family strength and love 😊

my Mom and I have discussed what will happen if my step - dad might get agressive with A&D - Mom is not ready to deal with that yet - and I'm praying it never comes to that decision .

You don’t know me and I know this comment was a few months ago, but I cannot go by your comment without putting my two cents in. PLEASE DO NOT feel you have made the wrong choice, please don’t torture yourself with thoughts of neglecting or tossing away your mother in law-you have done the exact opposite. Dementia patients require specialized care and 24-7 monitoring, they can often become aggressive and also begin doing things you don’t even want me to mention but let’s just say you would not want it done in your home. Without proper treatment and monitoring, they are a danger to themselves AND to those around them. Your MIL requires a level of care no one can do at home, and you and your family deserve to live your lives as well-driving yourself insane trying to care for her does no one any good. Remember, she will pass before you do, but it doesn’t matter if you’re alive if you lose your mind trying to care for her-you’d be just as gone as she’ll be.

I wish our do tors here in Canada 🇨🇦 were so kind hearted.

@@ickiedeer-lamb7282 same! I'm in Canada too and I share your sentiments.

Sadly , Dr. BEE died in 2022 following a car crash .( according to comments on a previous episode of this programme)