The Importance of Being Single 

"I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone” - Robin Williams

I've been single for most of my life, and I honestly really enjoy being independent. Of course, if the right person comes along, then it would be great, but it's important to love yourself first and foremost before anyone else can love you romantically.

The only person you're with 100% of your life is yourself. So if you don't have a good relationship with yourself, odds are a relationship with someone else isn't going to fix that. ❤️

Being raised by parents who definitely we're not and are not happy with their relationship really taught me how important being at peace with being single truly is. It does not make you hasty when it comes to picking a partner and it honestly gives you time to figure yourself out imo. Being single and happy and at peace is genuinely so much better than being in an unsatisfactory partnership

This year i'll be turning 50 and celebrating my 25th year as a single person. I invested all my time, energy and care in me. Now it pays dividends. To all the young people out there i want to say know yourself, love yourself and do you. If someone comes along who understands and respects you and wants to walk in life hand-in-hand with you that's great. If not, life is still great because you got you. As Oscar Wilde once said :"To love oneself is the begining of a lifelong romance."

"When someone is starving, they will eat anything" I can't believe how well this metaphor fits..

I was single from 23 to 28 and during those times I made a lot of progress. From finishing some courses, switching jobs and to actually moving by myself abroad.

Being single has one problem only, it’s addictive. The peace and quiet is addictive. Mainly when you see people around you miserable and a whole batch of problems because they keep jumping from relationship to relationship. And even stable relationships bring a plethora of problems. So yeah, being single is addictive, when you have no problems with being single

I’ve been single my whole life and having parents who had a toxic marriage didn’t really help motivate me. I used to get unbearably depressed, to the point I had to get myself to therapy. After turning 30 last year I started accepting myself for who I was, and surprisingly my depression started going away. This even helped me finally have fun and started going out more. Sometimes we try so hard finding happiness that we fail to forget it was in front of us this whole time.

My last serious relationship was 12 years ago and I can tell you, being single has been trascendental for me. I've had enormous personal, spiritual, physical and intellectual growth that I'm 1000% sure would've taken me a lot more time to reach if any, with a partner. For some of us, we can only connect to powerful ideas while being alone. Is very hard to have the introspection you need to grow if you're always surrounded by people. So, don't feel bad for yourself if you've been single for a long time. You'll become a great person because of it, trust me.

I’ve hated my loneliness for awhile but I’ve finally started to fall in love with it. The quality of people in my life matter so much more then the quantity.

My life is full of peace and tranquillity, but sometimes i tell myself it would not be bad having someone with you with the same vibes, not so easy when you're an introvert.

“We will only look for someone who can deeply contribute to our life. Not someone who can laundry with us or keep us company on sunday evenings” Being single for the past 3 years made me realize this statement is true. What I am looking for is someone who can add value into my life. Being in a relationship for the sake of just not being alone can feel lonelier than being on your own. Looking for the right partner is just like finding the perfect job or the diet that works for you. It takes time. In the meantime, I am learning how to self-sustain whether I am in a relationship or single.

Last night my mum made me feel so miserable about being single but Im glad I found this vid. I feel a lot better now before this day ends. Hope my parents know and understand this.

I lost myself in a pretty dull relationship, and ending it was the best decision of my life. I had the time to understand my inner world, to choose the right education path for me and had the time to truly study the subject, to work on and resolve some of my anxieties and insecurities, to mature to be a more balanced and calm person (I hope), to travel alone often (it's such an amazing experience!), to learn to be more assertive, to overcome adversities, to be more self-sufficient and resourceful. To not to accept bad treatment or attitudes. To find pleasure in tranquility and silence, to enjoy quiet evenings with interesting books, movies, music at home with a nice dinner or a cup of tea, or picnics in the park. To go to bars or restaurants alone and feel free and at ease. To go on whatever event without the need for somebody to tag along. To have time for friends, volunteering, hobbies, sports, self-care, or laziness, to have the freedom to sometimes splurge on clothes, travels, books, events without guilt or shaming. To observe the relationships of others and see the issues, mistakes, the ugly realities of the insta-perfect couples, and to understand what I want and don't want in a relationship in case I decide I am ready for one. It's been 10 years since I am single and I am still very much loving my freedom! And I'm ok if I never change my mind 🙂The world is a fascinating place, with so much to discover, feel, achieve and experience! And while being in a relationship may teach you many good things too, I think being alone is also a valid, valuable and important experience and life decision.

Being single for a long time has not made me desperate or lonely, it has made me more selective. Every day I am progressively happier with my peace. It is going to take a phenomenal person to make me want to give that up.

You know, it's funny. When I started finding happiness within myself after years of anxiety and depression, I finally got into a relationship. Self-confidence goes a long way, but I love showing others how much I care about them, especially my girlfriend. We give each other space but are there to support each other when times get tough. It's absolutely fantastic.

if youre single or in a relationship, good for you! do what matters to you. we're all humans on the same team. lets build each other up

13 years single with no hints of dates or encounters of any kind; I may receive scolding from some psychologist out there but I will state once again that I've been living satisfactorily on my own, without denying that once in a while a partner's warmth and closeness is what I was needing. We've got a whole lot of conflicting relationship out there and marital strife that are simply crushing young, developing lives. Please, be careful with choosing to be near someone else in that more often than not they will reveal themselves as faulty individuals and in all sincerity we will discover ourselves to be defective and damaged in some way too

I found my best friend, my eternal soul mate…me myself, I. ❤

I’m a 34 Hispanic woman. I feel like people want to make me feel bad for liking my solitude. Honestly, no one makes me feel happy but when I’m alone I’m happy. When I’m around people I get anxious. When I finally get home alone I feel like I can breathe again.

I am 50, never married, and single my entire life. I've learned that society socially engineers women to conform to patriarchy. After observing the cycles of broken relationships, poverty, low or no education, and what I call “ struggle love,” I wanted no part in a marriage and never will. I sincerely appreciate being Single. I live in Japan, on the island of Okinawa, where the longest-living humans live among this population. I've noticed that women connect to other women in social groups and settings to build and sustain friendships. My neighbor, who is 82 and still drives and works!! She has never been married and is childless. She speaks five languages and plays piano and the Shamisen (Japanese Guitar). She meets weekly with her friends for lunch and fun outings. Our primal need is security & protection as humans. Thriving friendships empower Singles to live happy & fulfilling lives. I love my singleness. I used to be ashamed of my lack of relationships, but now I rejoice because I have a balance of beautiful relationships with friends and sweet solitude at home...

I have been an on and off again single for most of my dating cycles. As I approach 25 this year, I have used my single time to re introduce myself to myself. It’s been a blessing. I also enjoy taking myself on “dates”

Been single since 2017 (a 7-year relationship didn't work out), and since then: - I've been the healthiest I've ever been (physically active, and mentally) - Been financially stable - Been to most countries in Southeast Asia - Laughed and smiled the most in my life - Closer than ever with my immediate family Honestly, I don't think I'll be where I am - career-wise or personally in general - if we pushed that previous relationship.

Finding a good partner is extremely hard and finding a bad one very easy, being alone is way easier than both :)

I have been single my whole life (42 years) and have always been happy on my own. Sometimes I imagine it must be nice to have a partner, but then I think what a hassle it would be too. Someone pretty amazing will have to come along to make me want to leave my comfortable singledom.

I was married for 24 years, and I felt more alone then than now in my solo life.

Being single and happy is an amazing feeling of freedom. Work on yourself become a better person...better to be alone then in a relationship you settled for.

Great things being single has allowed me to do: 1) Have an amazing morning and bedtime routine 2) Work harder to build my future first 3) Consistently exercise and keep fit 4) Have hobbies ( i took a writing course and am learning the piano ) 5) taught me to be happy by myself, such a confidence booster feeling that way. Honestly took me a long time but now dread ever having to settle down! Good luck to you all x

Being single is great and it's been my experience that there are far worse fates than the loneliness that can sometimes accompany being alone. But what singledom has taught me after almost a decade, is that I really do want to be involved with people I love, care for, think well of and think of often. There's a sense of well-being that comes with being in the thick of a collective that has similar goals/habits. It's just nice. And the more people there are to love, there more love there is to have. Even though I am still on my own in this wilderness, I'm still harbouring the ideal of one day being a part of my own rather large and loving family.

Being single and happy is so liberating. All the other activities you do with people will be more joyful as a consequence. When you challenge the difficulties of being solo there's literally nothing that can stop you.

I love being single. I just got out of a toxic relationship and wa so stressed out with someone who was never satisfied. It hurt when it ended initially but since then I've been much happier. There's nothing wrong with being single and being in a relationship doesn't mean you're happier.

Rarely do I hear language of such eloquence on RU-vid. Consider: complete sentences, perfect word choices, clarity over complexity, every thought concentrated to its essence. It's like an oasis in the desert. Hats off to the author who apparently is not getting credit.

I've learned that I am a very strong individual who can deal with many tough life situations on my own. That I am worthy of love and that I have a lot of love and good things to offer when the time comes that I decide to enter into a partnership. I've also learned what traits I don't want in a partner and am able to spot an emotionally healthy person.

i am 35 years old and i have never been in a relationship and the way people look at me when i say that is enough for me to understand how people perceive being single lol the amount of harsh judgment i have been given because of that is crazy the amount of progress i have made within the years regarding self esteem and self love is astonishing i am very proud of myself because of that. i also am an introvert and sometimes the constant noise of the world is exhausting so being alone with my inner world is very relaxing. i do not know how i would be able to reconcile that need for peace and quiet with the requirements of a relationship. anyways that is just my own slice of life 🙂

“Singledom is framed as an involuntary, depressing and always hopefully temporary state .” Couldn’t be more true !! When I tell someone I’m single it’s almost as if they feel bad for me . I Can be single if I want !

Just got out of a 9 year relationship. It feels terrifying, confusing, and at times very difficult. But honestly I felt so alone in my relationship that I was trapped in for 9 years. I always questioned why I felt that way, and realized it’s because we grew apart and our values didn’t align. We were together because of comfort, attachment, and the fear of being alone. This video is spot on about ostracizing single people, and causing them to settle for bad partners due to the stigma of being single.

I really want to thank this Chanel for all the good that has done to my life. This Chanel has given me the answers for problems in my life that I thought as irresolvable, problems that I have been dragging for years, since my childhood. For me, all the people from the team that make these videos are heroes. You are helping humans grow their souls, you are amazing.

Ive been dealing with a really tough breakup and this just helped me to realize that I wasn’t all that happy in the relationship, that it bordered on codependence, and that I should be happy to have a new opportunity to build my own self-love; not wallow for the unfulfilling company I’ve lost.

For years I wasn't happy alone, and coupled with (or as a result of) a core belief of not feeling "good enough" I would bounce from relationship to relationship. This was until I ended up in a really unhappy, abusive relationship, which took a long time to free myself from, but once it ended something shifted in me. I started believing I was enough just as I am, and now am the happiest I've ever been - alone but not lonely. It's truly liberating. Thank you for this fantastic video which brought this to life.

I think this new infatuation with singlehood sometimes misses the mark with the possibilities that lie within a relationship. Of course a toxic relationship or incompatible one will drain you and leave you feeling broken or misunderstood. But there's a lot to be said for a healthy relationship. It's not wrong to be a bit dependent on our partner and be "all in." You can lead independent lives and reconvene at the end of the day. You can have goals for your life that are completely separate from the relationship. Which may cause the relationship to end, but there's nothing wrong with that. I just think the narrative of "individual growth happens outside of a relationship," paints everyone with the same brush and is not always accurate. If you value your alone time and independence that's wonderful, but you can still have both of those things within a relationship. And you can still grow so much in a relationship by letting someone in who challenges you to be your best self. This fascination with being alone sometimes glorifies singlehood as being a necessity in life. While there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single, there's also nothing wrong with being in a relationship. We're all on our own paths that teach us what we need within that moment. It's a matter of picking what's best for you and challenging yourself along the way.

I love being alone. I was in a relationship for 20 years, now it's time to be alone. I get to the end of each year and think, "I need one more year alone." Six years and counting...

I truly enjoy being single

I'm quite introverted anyway and grew up with dysfunctional relationships all around me. So I'm happily single and have grown so much as a person.

this was amazing.. the more comfortable you become in the solitude of singleness, the more we become careful about who we choose to share our lives with. We stop dating out out desperation and stop being afraid of a relationships end because we already know how good it feels to be alone.

This sounds like it only works for people who are single for short temporary periods between relationships. If you're suffering chronic loneliness because you've never had a relationship or because your last relationship was many years ago then the idea of being a happy single is just a pipe dream.

I am blessed that I can now fully understand this concept. Truer words cannot be spoken. It took me many years of being single and introspection to gain this knowledge. EXCELLENT VIDEO

This was a very palliative and timely message. My partner whom I thought I’d face the world with, ended our relationship rather suddenly and without consultation. I’ve been reeling and struggling with being single, alone, and directionless after losing everything I thought my future would be. It turns out I need to learn how to be okay, alone, and learn to live a fulfilling life as a single man. I have to really work on and heal this idea that me being single is because I’m inherently horrid and unlovable. It’s hard because I think I have always believed myself to be unloveable and ugly (growing up as a fat Asian kid). It’s sadly reinforced by American society, especially in the gay community. But if I can learn to love myself again and learn to reinvest in building myself up, I think I can learn to enjoy being okay on my own again. Such an uphill but necessary battle. I can feel myself want to get back in a relationship right away, but I know that’s not what I need. I just wish it wasn’t so hard to be single. Anyways thanks for the free therapy, school of life!

always been single..never had these advantages in full force

I grew up an only child. My last serious relationship was over 10 years ago. People often equate with being single as lonely. Well, I got news for them!

I can do whatever i want with whomever i want and whenever i want. Thats one of the big advantages of it. Like really big.

Thank You for making this. I really agree with these ideas and genuinely love being single and free to make my own choices. It's about saying "No, I'm already good enough. I'm good enough by myself." And that is a priceless position afforded to not very many. I'm glad I'm one of them.

I never appreciated being single until I got out of a relationship that made me unhappy

Totally agree with this. This was how I finally shaped my personality. Was totally okay with the idea of being happily single all my life when my relationship happened. I wasnt chasing a connection and thats when I had it

I just got back from running an errand for my parents. It's taken up my Saturday..which is absolutely fine..and now I have the rest of the afternoon and evening completely to myself. I don't have to think about anyone else. My friends are doing their own thing tonight. The freedom I feel at the moment is actually exhilarating. As someone else has mentioned below ..this type of freedom is addictive. No commitments at all ..just me time. Single life is good 😌

ive been single practically all my life. i often feel lonely, but this video made me realize that staying single for longer is way less scary than finding and being bound to someone i actually dont really appreciate

I've been single most of my life. Because I have been thorough so much on my own alone with nobody on my side that at this point it feels redundant to have a life partner. What worse could happen that I won't be able to face without someone in my life.

Thank you! This couldn't have come to me at a better time! I really needed to receive this hard slap and wake up.

I live a very satisfying life on the social front, but I love being alone and have no problem whatsoever with being single. I think it ultimately boils down to how well you know yourself, how confident you are and whether you have passions and hobbies in your life. On another note, I will say that something a lot of people can't seem to grasp is that the feeling of loneliness isn't countered by the numbers you hold in your company, but the quality of said company. And trust me, if you're a fulfilled individual your own company will be the most reliable and important to bless your life: I believe Robin Williams said something in the likes of this, but there is such a thing as feeling alone amongst others and well accompanied with no one but yourself.

For me, a big part of staying single is that I have become much more self-reliant. The more you can do for yourself, the less you have to rely on others.

This is exactly what I was thinking about no way 😁 feels good to get some clarification on the matter, thank you!

thank you for this. i've been on my own for most of my life and was questioning my own decisions lately... but this reiterated why i made those decisions.

This was VERY powerful! I was very happy as a single man even though, some around me kept trying to "hook me up" with someone.😅 I stayed away from them. I eventually got married to someone who I loved. We've been married for almost 30 years now. I would recommend the advice in this video to almost everyone. Peace! 😊❤️👋🏽👨🏽‍⚕️

I ❤ this so much and wish there isn't so much negativity and stigma associated with choosing to be single temporarily or permanently.

Fantastic video!...Being single has many advantages (and disadvantages) but unless one finds a partner with similar likes and dislikes, there will be compromises galore!

'when someone is starving, they will eat anything'. I needed to hear that. I was heartbroken after i lost the one that i loved the most. But now i understand why i aways took his shit and was taken for granted. Building self love and being in peace while being alone are the best gifts you can give yourself.

Oh, helloooo School of Life! How on earth did you know this was exactly what I was thinking about this evening and needed to hear all this stuff!?!?!?!!!!!! THANKYOUUU!! LOVE THE VID!! :))💕💕💕💕

I felt this anxiety too to be not single and to venture out there and find a person for fear of being alone. I felt this extend even to the few friends I managed to make, to the point where I was depending on a friend to provide me comfort and love, things I should've looked for within myself.

I'm 22, and have been single my whole life. I know myself better for spending so much time alone, and thoroughly enjoy choosing how to spend my time. It'll take an exceptional person to convince me that sharing my life is worth everything I'll have to compromise on, and vice versa. I don't want to limit someone, nor do I want to be limited, so I'm perfectly content by myself.

I've been single a lot of time, i really enjoy being by myself, treat myself good and get to know me even deeper. I see my partner atm the one that can understand me better, that i need to recharge of social interaction and failed relationships, we found each other at the right moment where we could save ourselves and contribute to our emotional and physical bond. Being single is great :3

This video popped up on my feed today (although I’ve been following the school of life for years). I needed this! A month ago yesterday the person who I thought I was going to marry dumped me. It broke my heart! But I’ve lived by myself before, and I’m used to spend lots of time alone. Even if it takes en a while, I know I have the tools to manage this!

What has being single helped you learn about yourself? Let us know in the comments below

I'm so relieved I recently figured this lesson out in my life. My last relationship was around freshman year of college and about 5 yrs passed since then. Not too long ago, I was obsessed with being partnered because I felt like I was missing out on experiences that my friends get to have. I felt unwanted and unworthy. But I've noticed that the desperation of loneliness led me to keeping people in my life that only subtracted to my happiness and life goals - and I love my self more than I hate being alone.

Currently going through a rough time were my crush has feelings for someone else and it hurts really bad. It makes me feel very hopeless indeed. But it’s part of life to understand that we can’t always get what we want. However, I am so happy to acknowledge that we can manage ourselves to overcome these things by loving ourselves and being able to thrive on our own. It’s gonna suck for me, but I’m willing to ride this life alone until that perfect person comes into my life.😊

happy and healthy without stress.

When I saw the title I clicked it right away🥺

“I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of the time. To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating. I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.” - Henry David Thoreau

Most of the worst times of my life have come when I was in a relationship. I realize that says more about me than any of my partners, and I accept that. That’s why I am now committed to staying on my own for as long as it takes me to heal myself, find the love within myself that i desperately sought in others, and figure out why I lose myself in relationships.

Happy Singledome is is so important. I felt this way when I was single. At one point I decided that it's important for me to enjoy my own company. This then helped me to find the partner that works best for me.

I've started to realise why people are craving to be in a relationship. As my friends start dating, they cave into their relationships and put their partners, whom they've maybe only known for a short while, before everyone else - even family. Everyone behaves as though a romantic relationship is the one to rule them all - the real deal that replaces all other relationships and fulfils our every need. As a single person, you start feeling like you also need "your person" in in order to make sure that you'll never be alone.

relationships are temporary, you’re the only one that’s gonna be in your casket

every one in the planet who is ever intending to get into a relationship needs to see this its so god damn accurate and it only really is apparent to you when you genuinely understand, and when you find out for real real then you will see what people mean when they say theyre happy alone. you cant understand how but for people that do know cant stress enough how good it really is because it opens your mind in ways that you never thought existed and your entire life will change trust me. ive very recently fully understood this and im 23 years old and a lot of other people never figure that out and thats why so many relationships fail these days. but now that ive understood it completely its life changing amongst figuring out and accepting who i am i feel like things are gonna start getting better for me and i cant wait for that change. another things its good to have high standards even if it means you stay single for 30 years eventually youll meet that person that you can be your self around and they can with you and thats the only way to have a relationship (the best friend dynamic) only when you can be your true self around your partner thats when youll find "the one" and im serious the only way a relationship will work is if you treat each other as best friends and theres 99% no other solution unless you find out that someone is finally being themselves around you but if you arent reciprocating or vice versa it aint gonna work long turn and if you do both reciprocate then you end up finding a new love for this person youve discovered that can work but a ton more rare to occur naturally rather than being yourself from the start

I've been broken up with, I took a long time to come to terms with what happened and also with my ego, "what's wrong with me?" or "what's wrong with them?" - but now, many months went by, I started to learn more about feeling what I felt, from a further back point of view, and now noticing that it is iridescent. I started to see myself and everything my character is experiencing. There's so much more to a hardship/misfortune than the anger or any negative feelings we would undeniably feel towards it. It's really a good thing to acknowledge what we're like and find ways to improve, and thrive to accept who we are with an unbiased judgment. Being alone is a pursuit of change and the endless potential of great ideas; while anger or heartache is a ball of unlimited motivation that can fuel our goals (desires). I'm so thankful for the pain and heartache that I went through, and I'm even more thankful that I realized this this way. I hope to learn more and more, and thank you for keeping on educating me TSOL.

I needed this video, I'm single now for first time in 11 years and it's kinda spooky. I look at my life and realize how unhealthy it is to be so codependent. I'm scared but I know I have to get back in the mindset of trying to impress myself before I can involve anyone else. Because frankly I would leave me.

I had hoped that this video would confirm what I am finding about myself. But still, in the end, the message is that being unattached is great preparation for being attached. (Sigh)

This is the perfect channel to be depressed. I remember going through hard times and watching these vids( when the channel started) and thinking, I feel all these they’re saying. Basically leaves you at the rabbit hole..

It's pretty cool to see a video like this in my subs that I recognize, from the start, that I am ready to watch.

If you wait for the perfect person to appear then you'll be waiting forever because perfect people don't exist. This sounds like a lot of cope to me. You have to put in the effort and work to create a good partner, they don't just find you. Have realistic expectations and go build a life together with someone good enough or die alone dreaming of perfection.

I wish I could say this was true for me. I was recently back together with my high school sweetheart for 3.5 years on and off, single before that for years. I was “the only problem” in our relationship, but I was fully convinced and still partially am that I caused all of the drama/trauma and arguments. Being alone over the years has added greatly to my depression and I have had an addiction to wasting away my life, my talents, skills and good parts of me. I don’t feel ok at all being alone, I ruminate in my negative filth, I can’t seem to grow up, can’t seem to stick with a job or commitments, or do a hobby or pursue a greater goal in life. I stagnate more or less and it is breaking me down and making me go crazy. I don’t know what to face first, although I’ve started counselling, it can’t seem to come fast enough. Despite a few good friends, my sisters and my mom still supporting me, trying to make me snap out of it, I linger in the loneliness, self-destructive behaviours, addictions to wasting time and alcohol among others. How does one get out of such a mess whilst feeling alone and not ok with themselves?

I love been single I think it gives you so much freedom and it also helps to get to know yourself better,no relationship is worthy of you leaving your single life behind

I've been alone for over 8 years, and while I went on some dates, the points raised in this video are the reasons I didn't continue with any of them. I'm perfectly happy on my own, and I'll take the next step only with a person I truly love.

Nearly 23 years old and I've never been in a relationship. I've never asked anyone, I've never said yes to anyone who did. That's not to say I've never been in love, but after many years since our friendship went sour I can honestly say that the feeling I did feel wasn't worth it. It wasn't fake love either, the kind where you just want something from them and that's it, no what I felt was the real thing. The one time I was in love to me felt like drugs after nearly 18 years of not having it, in the sense that it made me feel absolutely amazing in the moment when it was affirmed between us, more than I had ever felt before. I'd been happy before then, but what I felt wasn't *just* happiness, it felt like a chest high, if that makes sense. With that analogy came the withdrawals I felt afterwards when it was gone, ones that genuinely put a stop to my mental growth for years they hurt so much. Knowing that I had finally affirmed myself and what I felt and was abandoned by a best friend of mine. Not even rejected per say, abandoned, she called me depressing when I was struggling mentally and that she didn't want to be around me anymore. After years of pain I can honestly say that the drug wasn't worth it. That the withdrawals of it being ripped away from me were worse than the pain of solitude. I have no qualms with perhaps getting together with someone in the future, but I will be picky, and it may be the kind of love that is just give and take, no real emotions to be had. I know that I am happy alone, I always have been, and I genuinely don't know if I'll ever love again, and to me that's ok. Now whenever I think of her, or the love I felt, I don't feel angry, or even sad, I just feel... gross, physically nauseous. Like by body thinks I've swallowed poison and wants to reject it. I don't ever want to think about love again, or her. The pain is not worth the high.

After 3 failed marriages and 20 years' worth of short-term relationships, I'm now beginning to appreciate the wisdom of these words that I should have when I was 18.

this was far more wholesome than I was anticipating

Well after 15 years of being single (38 now) I can say that it becomes normal. I can't even imagine myself being with someone. Most of the time I do not feel alone. It's only with special moments (like christmas etc) that I feel lonely.

Oh no. I just got rejected, then installed tinder this past month 💀 never clicked on a notification so fast

After watching this and changing my mind it is important to being single

It’s better to be happy being on our own.

You’ll never know if it’s love or the need to not be lonely until you have learned how to be happy alone.

I honestly forgot the feeling of contentment of being single, it's been 4 years since I put myself out there and had given love and to be loved by someone. Now, it's been 4 months since being ghosted by someone who I thought would stay forever. I realized later that I miss, not only him but myself more. So, this year I promised to learn again to be comfortable with being alone and be a happily single lady. 😌