In India, many people have or want to have children just because everyone around them has children or their parents or relatives force them to have children. When parents can't guarantee their child's happiness in this world after being born what's the point of having a child? Why do parents want to see their precious children suffer?
1:20 as a gay man it is very relatable. We want that our marriage should be recognised and we adopt children. But....as we are gay couple society would mistreat our child, bully him/her by asking "whose your mom? You have two dads etc." And may threat them also. Nah! For our parental desire we can't risk a child's life.
My wife and I are childfree too. This was something I told her on our first date itself. Luckily, she was cool with it too. The idea is to be transparent about these things from day one. It's been 1.5 years of marriage, and we're a very happy couple. *touchwood*
"Suffering and misery r the unavoidable parts of life" stated by Buddhism a long time ago... And not bringing another soul here is the wisest thing indeed... But it's human nature, misery loves company & that's why this gigantic population...
True, bringing up somebody to life, yet not providing all their human needs (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual) is unfair to them. It's truly noble to provide all the needs of your kids, or not have kids at all if you think you don't have the commitment to do so.
@@clemensquinones4863: The need of a kid is not wanting to die because death is painful. Parents cannot avoid this. For every child that is created, he is born to die. He is born to get old and decay.
I'm just like the very first woman in this video. I would make funny faces at kids, high five them, behave like a clown & make them laugh but, at the end of the day, I'm contented living a life without having my own.
Yes its like a double edged sword if we select a wrong partner and things dont go as we thought before getting engaged. Really tough to find a good pair
@@Hrudayagalavishaya there is a child free in india community on reddit, insta and telegram. try finding there. i have seen some guy's post there. didn't find someone suitable to me but may be you will find. good luck girl
I really want to appreciate the speakers and the makers of this video. Finally some Indians talking about going childfree by choice. Loved the fact that there are both men and women talking about the idea. ❤️❤️
I’m not Indian but my friends and extended family is and alot of them are shamed because it goes against the expectations set by their “cultural must haves.” I will be showing them this video since I believe it will bring them comfort knowing there’s others out there like them 😊
This was nice to watch and listen to, it's always nice to see childfree people all over this world since we share this in common and I'm very happy and glad that they're speaking up 👍🏻🥰 I wish them all the best
Usually, it's the women who carry the burden of raising kids (from pregnancy, to cooking for & feeding the kids, tutoring & disciplining them, etc, etc). And many of these women are also working to help husbands in livelihood! In short, many women/ mothers are unequally yoked to martyrdom. Most women today see this vast difference in physical, emotional & mental burden. Can't blame modern women not wanting to have kids.
True, it's not a good situation for a woman to do it all, help husband financially, rear kids .. they are superwomans who do that, but many of them become bitter also afterwards, just cuz they have to juggle it all, and then they bring up bitter children like me in this world. 😅 , sad frustrated women being up sad children
I don't want kids but then my bf wants kids, atleast 1 & he thinks eventually my mind will change & I'll stop thinking like this.. He always takes this thing lightly.. I have always clearly said & discussed with him but he just doesn't get it & we broke up because of this.. & I think I'll never get marry to anybody ever because I don't want kids.😔 I want a partner just like me😊
No girl. I understand why you feel that way. I too have been in that place. But trust me, there are many men too who do not want to have children. Because we are not the majority people, it might be difficult to find, but trust me, there is an increasing trend. I am sure you will find one who does not want to have kids.
You’re not alone. I’m a 22 year old Indian male living in the U.S. and I’m like 80% sure I don’t want kids. And that number’s been increasing for the past like 3 years. I’m more worried about finding an Indian girl who doesn’t want kids because I always thought girls were more wanting to have kids than guys are.
Anti Natalists are the true freedom fighters of the world...we are witnessing lot of parents and children are suffering all over the world 😢..its a brutal hidden truth.
Even I also feel like that I don't want kids in the future and I don't have intrest in marrige because as far I have seen most of married couple these days fall a part after sometime after marriage and even in my family also my father always used to scold me for small things when I hit puberty and my mother and father always fight and even my father was fed up of the life he was going and later he was gone in depression and later he died that was the worst thing for our family since I have seen my father like this I am just really don't want to end up like him since it always scares me that my life can become like hell and I can also face the same thing in future.
We as a couple had decided long back not to have children. Have met so many people who are not happy with the parental life. In india a lot of couples have kids because of societal expectations, or one of the partners wanting child and forcing other one to go with it leading to unhappy parenting. Dont forget the increasing cost of living and unsafe living conditions of the modern world. We both earn well and pamper ourselves with the money which would otherwise have gone towards ridiculous education costs of today. Period
For old age there are socities which work like apartment with old age services. So u get the best of both world, u have your own house and a community who will take care of you. Obviously you pay maintenance charges for such apartments, but then by not having kids i am sure you have saved enough.
All my love, respect and admiration to Indian people who decide not to have children. If humanity ever have a chance to survive climate change, it would be thanks to those who decide not to reproduce. Saludos desde Mexico ❤
No it's not a personal choice. It's not a personal choice because it involves a third person, the child. Does the child not have a say in its birth? When did it give it's consent to be born? Who gave us the right to assume that the child wants to be born? And if we assume that it wants to be born, how did we assume that he will want to continue his life? What provisions do we have for him in case he grows up and doesn't want to continue anymore? Have we legalised the euthanasia yet? Then what right do we have to give birth?
I don't think it's easy to have kids these days and even getting married in india it's a big problem shadi karne ko log yaha career option se relate karte hai I think it's should be choice whether we don't know ki humari married life utni achi Hogi bhi ki nahi .
I don't wanna have kids because of the educational gap here. Me & brother due to financial restrains had to study from a government school meanwhile all of the kids around me were into good private/convent schools that taught them something. In my school tho they had atleast teachers that were teaching unlike rural government schools with empty classrooms. But my experience overall was not great. The amount of stares I used to get from other kid's parents whenever I mentioned my school was so confusing & baffling to me. Not only they underestimated me, half the time they didn't gave me even a chance to compete. All of these kid's parents taking pride that their kid studies in an english medium school whilst having no idea that their kids have absolute 0 english speaking skills. They were also baffled when I spoke a little english. That's how unequal this country is. All comes down to income in the end. Which is why I dont wanna have kids. Welp not until Ik I can provide my kids with a better life.
I lso don't want to have kids. But only concerned about when I'll get old, who will look after me n my Wife. Can anyone suggest me if I choose a childfree life, what to do in old age when I will be helpless? Who will take care of me?? Any suggestions??
Child free by choice. Many people are choosing to be child free and it is nice to see. Actually there is a great chance of finding a partner who also wants to be child free because many people around us are choosing to be child free.
It feels like people who are in creative fields and kinda travellers and have so much aspirations have this idea. I am not generalising in any way its just my observation.
Education and exposure are the key. Surprising people still believe in Ram Allah Yesu Yesu and all the rest of the imaginary cartoons in this day and age :D No jehad hindutva crusaders then
Who gives a fuck man jindagi jandddd hai India me Muslim Christian hindu nahi fark padta being born in this shithole fuck this country life is hard here shant se soooooo bhi nahi sakte
Don't worry all poor are still there. Muslims poor don't go less than 5-8 and other poor communities don't go less than 2. That's different in that they can't even eat without govt support, and forget about feeding kids. Aside from feeding, there is schooling also sky high expensive. Then again sky-high universities and colleges. And they are all worth not a penny. Because you can't monetize the majority of the education. Then property prices are insane. Wages are still low. Jobs are nowhere. Rat-race, cut-throat competition. Govt didn't stop those between 1980-2000 from breeding like pigs. But there is no law protecting those poor kids. Who is stopping those who are mentally ill socially ill and economically ill. No one. They pop out kids to feel good and save their face in society. Then ask the 17-year-old that we have fed you- send you to the school, now treat us like god for this bare minimum. There is no law punishing those who throw their kids on the streets and orphanages. When youths are in bad conditions then who cares about kids
All of them had bad reasons not to get kids and then they will be crying later when society collapses cause there are no new kids and nobody to work and take care of them...
