THE INFJ MIND - HOW TO FINALLY ACCEPT & EMBRACE YOUR UNIQUE NATURE 

Have you reached a point where you appreciate your unique mind or are you often battling with yourself?

Halfway through the video but I think I have channelled that "intensity" towards intimately knowing, understanding, and creating my inner world and as a result I appreciate myself and view myself as a friend. I used to operate 90% of the time from a deep wound of feeling inadequate and I've left that behind. My inner critic isn't taking over as much because I have this increased awareness of who I am and who I will become. It feels incredibly freeing and like I have stepped down from a mental hamster wheel that I genuinely thought I would stay on forever.

At 53, I have just finally learned not to suppress my lights from shining. I’ll be 54 in a couple weeks. Try and try again. Don’t give in. Keep your lights shining bright inside until the moment is right. Train yourself to find your moments to shine. Nobody can pick those moments but YOU. Never be scared to leap and let go. Try it small first then keep scaling up and up and out and out. Be patient. Timing and leverage is key. Hone your intuition. Learn to trust is I and stop hesitating and second guessing. Take the leap now. I promote you, it is safe and you will live and every thing on earth will be better for it. Please, don’t be scared. If you are then let me. I’ll help you get past that. It will all be better than ok. It will be a beautiful thing. I am quiet and shy. I am also a dragon slayer, slaying my own dragons. You can do it!

Universe - send me a healthy, well rounded INFJ woman. Grateful, /INTJ

There are no failures! There are successes and There are lessons. Always ask yourself, " what did I learn from this ".

Its been hard being different but ive finally reached a point where I do value my unique qualities..all of us INFJ's should do so.. working on self love has helped immensely

I came to that decision during the pandemic when I was forced to spend more time by myself and reflect on life. That I'd rather others not like me than not liking myself. A lot of the time I feel like people want to put others in a box depending on how they see people and if you don't measure up to their expectations or view of you, then it used to make me feel like I would hardly ever find friends. It took me years to realize that maybe I'll only have a few good friends in my life and that's okay.

I have a picture of myself as a child too. It reminds me to take care of that child.

I like the idea of holding on to a pic of me as a child and carrying it with me.

1. " We have to learn to love ourselves. When we love ourselves, we're not waiting for others to love us." Love it! ❤ I appreciate how you present the idea of giving of ourselves out of our genuine, self-respecting strength. Taking action. Protecting our inner child. 2. Get to a place where we prove to ourselves tgat we're proud of ourselves. And we decide this for ourselves. Good, proactive counsel. I've found that I need to remind myself of this daily and make it a habit. You mentioned proving it on a daily basis. I definitely agree. We're making it work

The intensity explains so much about why I'm just not satisfied with what everyone else is and why I've been fighting with their expectations while wanting to do my own thing. I'm really stuck wondering where to start right now as I know I need money, but everything I try to do to avoid being in jobs I hate hasn't gone anywhere so far. Also, decisions about one job keep being made for me without my knowledge or consent.

One can, of course, focus one's intensity on God and not on the self.

As an INFJ I never understood why I was really "intense","dramatic","emotional" blah blah blah now I'm free of labels I don't really care about being as loud as extroverts and not gonna be super introverted either I'm gonna stay ambivert INFJ-A since I'm assertive one now I used to be an INFJ-T the turbulent and an aggressive coward now I'm so much braver and stronger than I was ever before it feels good I'm intensely positive so many people hate it I could care less about it

The forced isolation because of COVID meant I had to discover who I really was. I learned to like myself no matter what others opinions or judgements were. I had to learn to enjoy life away from society. I have discovered a new life for myself! No longer am I a people pleaser. I live my life more intensely now, doing what I really want. I am happy to spend my time doing what I truly want than wasting time socialising and pleasing others.

I can't love myself, but I am making an intense life by living outside society almost completely.

I have been with you since 2018 after my divorce when I learned about infj. You have been a huge part in helping me get through very rough waters or like I call it mudbogg. Thank you for everything. Hug

I recently came upon your channel and finally feel 'home'. I will be 60 this year and I can hardly believe it! Been struggling for years to figure out who I am, why I feel sooo much about everything and think myself to death it seems. I am so inspired by what you have shared and very excited to take my life back and learn how to make my last years my most authentic. Peace and Blessings to you and all fellow INFJs. ❤

I think we are talking about self-efficacy here. I use 'meaningful', rather than intensity as a measure of success. Obtaining meaningfulness has meant achieving contentment. Yes, more boring, and internal. It's a more Buddhistic approach. OM........

Your inner world is all that matters. Manifest the beauty of your inner world in outer world, change the world. That’s how it works folks. It’s your world. Rule it wisely and with love and kindness. Manifest that love and kindness of your world into the outer world. Come on creatives, we got this. Time to shine, mofos!❤

I've made sacrifices. to live my epic introverted, intuitive life. I'm in England 🇬🇧

Have I reached a point where I appreciate my unique mind or am I often battling with myself? I actually have reached a point where I appreciate my unique mind. I had once battled with myself at a younger age when some people of whom I had been close with used to undermine me and try to place limitations on me. I once thought I had needed to "change for the better" in order to please others. And I finally realized, I am just different than them. Those ties have been severed and in recent years, I have tapped into my potential, used some skills, expressed myself, and have accomplished some things I am proud of. For example, I am completing a truck restoration/modification project that has "my touch" to it. "Built, not bought". My creativity. The same goes for my "daily driver" truck. It has a touch of my creativity as well. All the way down to my lawn tractor. Pretty much everything I own with a motor is a "hot rod" so to speak. The inside of my home has the "automotive museum" look to it. I love having the ability and freedom to do this stuff. It also helps me in my career as a professional mechanic.

I'm honestly still blown away by how accurately the "INFJ" personality type describes the way I think. I'm currently 43 years old and just never imagined that a "personality test" would be much more than something of a "gimmick" but damn was I wrong. Of course as individuals we are different (based on life experience and so on..) even among the same "personality type" but the fundamentals / basic premise of how our minds process and interpret the World around us is stunningly similar when correctly categorized by "type". I tend not to "dwell" on the past but I do regret being a bit too "cynical" when it came to embracing this concept (Myers & Briggs) sooner.. Better late than never. It's so refreshing to finally have a better understanding as to why things have played out the way they have for me. Now moving forward I intend to maximize my strengths and work on my weaknesses.

"When you are on top of the mountain , thd view gets clearer" Loved this. Needed this. I know what i need to do first before going after other things ! Your videos are a life saver and i immediate search them up when i m stuck coz my issues are mostly related to my infj head lol ! Thank you

I love the picture of the child idea, I had a photo of myself as a school girl, a family member tore it up in pieces unfortunately. It was heart breaking I still remember seeing it all broken up 😞

Spot on!!! I've spent years working on self love and reparenting myself. Workbooks, affirmations, BOUNDARIES, self care and treating myself, radical acceptance, etc. It's unreal the difference it makes. It's from this internal safe space that we feel safe going out in the world. It helps me a lot to think of myself as my own friend. Because it's so easy for us to take care of our friends lol. Mind trick 🤷

This is a fantastic video. It makes so much sense. I used to be a people pleaser because I thought that would bring me peace and harmony. Needless to say it didn't. I recently remembered how much I liked event management in the past. That's what made me come alive. I enrolled at college as a student of Event Management and even though I'm the oldest in the class and older than the teachers I'm living the intense life I wanted and feel grateful independent and happy. This video validates all that! In my own peculiar way I do know what I'm doing and I definitely feel alive!

Love you dude! Feels like I’m visiting the Oracle when your new videos drop. Thanks for all that you do for our group. 🤘🏾

I love the intensity of the Ni doms in my life. They are my deep-dive buddies.

My INFJ mind found out that AI has infiltrated every aspect of our life, including thoughts. Since only True INFJs will be smart enough to crack this entire joke of a system/matrix we are in, well I came here to kick the nest and bring some hope into this nightmare. You work full time on INFJ videos and I work full time on surviving this freaking AI. I have more than proofs, not alone....and watch it go all out and all open on you once you realise the truth, you are monitored. The only hope I have is that enough of you wake up. Don t pick sides....transcend it all. Wake the ones that can still listen...

Thanks!

Wisdom spoken here. Wish I would have known this sooner.

You help me so much Wenzes thank you so much for what you do! I recently discovered i'm an INFJ and I have been completely obsessed with your videos, i've never felt so seen in my life.

My happiness comes as a side effect of taking care of my family, wife, kids and grandkids. Splitting everyone’s firewood helping my wife cook family meals and what have you is stress free because I enjoy it. Some people and family thought something was wrong with me when I sold my boat but the boat wasn’t my happy place, my home and family is.

Wow. This was exactly what I needed to hear right now. To not waste intensity by putting it into a box and waiting on a few possible situations. So good!

In order to love ourselves we need to understand in depth the way we work INFJwise and our own history and heal emotionally as you said here, but in my case I would call it more respecting myself than loving myself. I feel that the word Love is very much used in our society but is it really? Respect and understanding from depth is for sure the base of everything according to me but Love is such a cliché that nobody knows what it is anyway, and it is the biggest manipulation tool on earth.... Thanks for the videos anyway, very insightful!

Thanks for this post!!! It's exactly what I'm doing ATM.

I felt some tears almost coming out of my eyes while listening to your words in this video. Thanks!

I finally have. I still battle myself, and I think all of us INFJ's always will, forever. But I no longer just sit and dwell on things like I used to. Now I just accept things for what they are, at face-value, and if it's a negative encounter, then I adapt and overcome, and move forward with a lesson learned. Sorry for the late watch, been SUPER busy lately, dealing with all of my dad's estate stuff, life changes, and having to start a new job, it's just been absolutely crazy the last few months. I'm ready for things to finally slow-down and start smoothing out in my life. 🤦🏼😂 I love that you're an intense personality, you get me, and I feel like I can be myself, because you know and accept that. And that is something rare for me. I'm glad I found you and your channel. You've become a good friend, even if we've never met. Thank you for being such an awesome person, Wenzes. 😊🌹❤

I cannot remember ever thinking that everyone wants to do or accomplish what I want. However, I have struggled to be motivated to do what I want to accomplish. Just recently it occurred to me that what I'm missing is, I am overlooking my situation and trying to "act" the way I envision is how I should be, as someone accomplishing his objectives. But it never works. I make some progress, but then it dwindles and I end up seeking escapes or getting distracted with other projects...it's like I'm an INFP (sorry for the comparison, INFPs; but I am borderline INFJ/INFP, so I'm looking at me.) What I found I need to do is stop putting myself on a performance schedule. I find that I am pushing myself to produce without any consideration to my mental and emotional needs. I am not a very nice manager to myself! I'm beginning to understand this. What I need is, to basically treat myself how I treat others! Imagine that!! I need to be quite a bit more soft-handed with ME. If I am stressed, give myself permission and time to work through my stress. If I am sick, give myself PTO when I'm not at work--and maybe even take off some real PTO from work, too! Once I have dealt with ... I mean, allowed myself to be in my best condition, I am ready to tackle that project or life goal without distraction. :)

Affirmation! Actualization. It's all connected- "IT" is. Thank you!

I've just subscribed. I am thankful for you and it takes an INFJ to understand an INFJ! Looking forward to all your content. Here's to healthy intensity!

I must say thank you, you're videos have already helped me a lot. I'm not quite there yet, but I know I'm getting there. Ultimate, y this is also quite a challenge and interesting process of growing, exploring and understanding myself. final, y for myself it is so interesting and a nice feeling to see myself, feel myself grow and have a better understanding of myself on a conscious level. Throughout my life, I have always had much more understanding for others. I never thought that if I were to do this for myself, it would have had such a positive influence in my life.

A Beautiful ♀️ in a Beautiful Mind...Wenzes. 👀

This is awesome! Not to be big on myself nor us INFJ's but, isn't it wonderful being INFJ?!! :)

This is so beautiful and empowering. Wow I’m speechless 😊❤❤

👊🏻~INFJ

You are fantastic, Wenzes. So appreciate you. 💕

MOST HELPFUL!!!!! HUGE GRATITUDE!!! BIG THANK YOU!!!

So thats myproblem. That validation

Hello, I am always amazed by the messages, and the communicative logic of your videos. They have a comfort effect for me, a pillow. Nice work, motivating this video and with the right amount of calm and logic. Thank you you are very precise in finding the most important part to work on.

This is so helpful! Thank you as always💖💖💖

Excellent advice! It is so true that learning to direct projector intensity it's so vital. Learning to love and appreciate our own unique mind and ways, truly is the most important step that will enable us to take more purposeful and intentional steps. 🤘😃

So good. One of my mentors recommended you. This particular video explained to me why now. Bless you

Wow! Im a New subscriber and I'm Very Impressed! So glad I found you.!!. you Nailed everything that I am, how I feel and now makes SO much sense in your Videos, those that I've seen,,, I appreciate you. Thank you..

Thank you, possibly life changing for me

I love your channel!

I loved this video, I really vibe with this. I had similar but unclear thoughts really similar to your 'every step will give you a better view', but hearing that saying, it's somethin I'm gonna use and spread. It's super valid, and it's somethin a lot of people should hear and connect with.

This was great. Thank you for making this video I really needed to hear this right now.

I truly love your videos. Thank you so very much.

I really did step out and moved to a farm house in the mountains and have been here soooo long. It’s a simple, remote, yet solitary life. Sometimes I wonder if there will be a next step. Maybe this is it.

This was very inspiring, thank you!

Thank uou Wenzes … am living mynlifev

I feel like when things are going smoothly, I get bored... Then I'll throw a wrench in the works 🔧 usually not in a good way though 😣

I really needed to hear this

This is so hrlpful to me. Thanks.

Ready player one.

Intensity of almost everything.

I always battle myself. At most I am only 5% more T than F. I know the F was developed from a NPD mother and a Codependent P/A father. My radar was set at 150%. I had to "feel" my way through the maze. The logical self was always fooled by the illogical narc. Any boundaries I set were always met by subterfuge. I did not know what self love was. I'm in my mid 40's and still struggle. I have teen & preteen children and I alternate between being joyous for them and mourning what I never had. Thank you for your work and your channel.

Wow! I almost felt like you're a preacher and I am being convertes as you speak. Hahahaha Thank you so much for the video. It has really encouraged me to take the step I've been so hesitant to take, which is to put myself first. It spoke directly to my needs as of now. I think now I know how people feel like when I speak to them and somehow "expand their reality". I've never experienced this before.

Ngl because of the complexity of the INFJ personality, people often dont understand me. As a result of many events instigated by my personality (and having INFJ videos being the answer to them), I have grown to despise having an INFJ personality and dealing with it because people dislike it snd often demand change to blend in which I wish I could but can't. I cannot stand myself at all😂 I wish I was ordinary

your content really helps me a lot when I feel stuck.

I'm an INFJ and I don't like bright light, I'm very sensitive in many ways.

Same as Scorpio’s

So... What's Inside the box ???

🤔I find pride a negative feeling, cauz I can only be proud of myself by ignoring all the negative things I've done in my life. In other words only focus on the positive. I simply don't like that, cauz that feels like purposely blinding myself. 😎I guess this perfectly explains why my baseline mood is ambivalency.

Your content arrives to my life in the point i need it i love your work 😭❤

Yeah I’m kinda thinking of moving to a glass house in the mountains of Colorado

Thank you! Great insights.

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Right now we need to know how to work together with myers briggs n ennegram strengths... we all have weaknesses n strength... how do we come together help others thru our strengths thru this hurricane ian🙏 How our stress 😩 is causing 😲 thru myers briggs n ennegram Ur videos r an inspiration to others n bring hope thru awareness... we can't change others though we can change ourselves... Fav quote as of right now... I can only think of... in ian mess... do what u can right where u are... do what u can with what u have... Ty ❣️

Thank you, only shallow people think you decide to be happy...

🐶😉🐶 Very well put once again young lady thank you

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Hey Wenzes, is your book available for sale please? I can't seem to find a way to buy. If so, is there an electronic copy available as I live in NZ. Cheers, Rose

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You can't handle the truth.

This is interesting...but maybe if I take a broader view...so many of these traits for 'infj' I can say 'that's me!'...but I can also say that about 'infp', sigma empath, 'super empath' traits----and I'm sure more. Which is sort of hilarious. Every individual is unique, including each individual's own mind (and body for that matter). In what ways? They can be observed and discovered. I can see why some people however dislike endless categorizing of 'traits' for people...ends up putting someone in a box, 'this is you', 'this is me', 'I'm this way because someone said certain traits belong to certain categories', and lo and behold people then try to fit into these identifications created by someone else. And yet after pondering all this, I would say I fit 'sigma empath' most. lol See, rather hilarious! lol

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Thanks for your so much awesome good and powerful and positive energy + knowledge 😊🙏❤❤❤👨‍🦲👩‍🦲🧑‍🦲.

Thanks!