The journey through loss and grief | Jason B. Rosenthal 

My wife of 20 years Kim unexpectedly died on 1/5/24. That was 3 weeks ago tonight. She said that she was feeling a little tired and was going to take a nap in her recliner. She had been fighting a little cold, nothing out of the ordinary. I got her set up with a glass of water and her new Christmas blanket and took our severely autistic son into the other room so that she could rest. When I went back to check on her a couple of hours later her lips were white. She was gone at 52 years old. When he described carrying his wife's lifeless body and how those images would never leave him it was like a punch to the gut. I picked my wife up out of her recliner and put her on the floor so that I could try CPR while waiting for the ambulance. Those are images and tactile memories that nobody should have. She was clearly gone and must have died within minutes of sitting in her chair. So much of that night is hazy or not even there, but I can see, hear and feel every second of those few minutes. We did have some talks a few years earlier when we had a health scare, mainly about the care of our son in case something happened to us. We did talk about our preferred disposition of our bodies. We never really thought about one of us outliving the other, it was more about who would watch over our son if we both were in a car crash or got hit by a bus. I wish we had thought to talk more deeply about what to do if only one of us died. Even if we had that talk I think we would have assumed that the husband dies first, over 80% of the time that's the way it is. I had experienced pets and distant relatives passing and thought I knew what grief was. I was very wrong. Those were paper cuts. Grief for your spouse is a gushing hemorrhage that doesn't stop. Grief sucks more than anything I've experienced before. I was a little wild in my youth and had numerous broken bones, burst appendix, multiple surgeries, probably a couple of months in total in the hospital for various reasons but I've never felt wounded like this before. Kim would kick me where it counts if I didn't pull it together and make a good life for our son. Major mama bear with a special needs son. So that's what I'm trying to do. Joined a grief group, reading books about the loss of a spouse, watching vids like this and being open about it with everyone. Trying to face it, experience it and learn to live. Not a fun process. My wife had a horrible memory, we always teased her about being like the fish Dory in Finding Nemo. Ever since she died between the waves of emotions I just keep telling myself 'just keep swimming, just keep swimming', it's almost like I can hear it in Kim's voice. Sorry for the long post, it's supposed to be therapeutic to let it out, better to do it in places like this than to burn out a friend with the constant babbling.

Shout-out to all those who have lost someone special & still struggle to live their life without them. You are strong & YOU WILL MAKE IT THROUGH

I never want to be born as a human again, this pain of loss is too much

I lost my dad two years ago and this is his youtube account. I don't want to delete his account, I don't want to delete him from anywhere.

grief, the price of love. I can accept that

Grief ......a life sentence for me......

What a tough speech to give.

I just lost my father yesterday. Then this video appears in a pop-up notification. Makes you wonder.

How strong must one be to not cry throughout this entire talk .

Just lost my mom…2 days ago, no sign…she just passed in her sleep, one month before her birthday…she was, almost, 58…I miss her with all my being, every cell and every atom in my body is crying, desperately… No more: “ good morning” on WhatsApp, or phone calls, no more “I love you” or hugs… God help me…I miss her so bad, it hurts so much… Tomorrow, me and my father will bury her…Please say a prayer for her! I MISS YOU MOMMY !

At 8:55 when he says "I really am sad a lot of the time" you really feel that. I've heard it said before that grief is the price we pay for love. Sending positive vibes to anyone reading this and needing this video. Thanks Jason for this talk.

I lost my dad and the grieving process was a struggle. Some times I’m ok and can smile and laugh at memories and other times the pain and anxiety is overwhelming. My process has been realizing that it’s ok to be sad and cry. Those emotions are ok and perfectly fine because someone you love is gone. I’ve learned to not mix sadness with fear. It took me a long time to stop having panic attacks. Through my faith and prayer and actually getting in touch with what emotions I’m feeling I’ve began to finally heal. It’s ok to be sad. Don’t fear the sadness. Let yourself feel it and then remember that sadness does not equal fear and panic. Sadness makes sense because your loved one is gone. I lost my grandmother after that and I just lost my Aunt to cancer a week ago. I’m sad but also ok because I’ve learned how to let myself feel what’s necessary and put away the other emotions that become irrational.

Hard for me to watch. I lost Wendy more than 12 years ago. She spent all but the last 14 hours at home. Half of me died that day; half of her dwells within me today.

I watched and cared for my beloved partner Jim .Had an accident that burned lungs leaving Jim with thirty percent lung capacity. He was on oxygen.I kept him at home .Cancer took my husband along with Alzhiemer's, and. dementa. His weight went from 160 lbs to eighty lbs.I learned what sun downing was as I help Jim get through it.Didn't even know me at times but knew he loved Kathy his wife.I told him love was good he could love everyone.I will never get over loosing Jim. He was cremated and ashes buried at home.

Lost my husband close to three years ago to Colon cancer .It's unbearable pain that has no name ....He gave me permission to move forward through grief .I hope to see a new day filled with joy again .

My wife died 12 days ago , i cant function , i have no goals and quiet frankly i don’t see the point of life .lung cancer tore her apart .she never smoked and we fought with all our strength .in the end pneumonia got her ....i mean com-on all that fighting , i was her care taker . I am beaten and lost ...

I lost my Mom in 6th August 2018 suddenly due to stroke while having dinner. I feel so depressed and angry . Everyday is a struggle for me . Her dying scene keeps repeating in my mind every minute. I feel guilty as well as regret. Keeps myself blaming and thinking what could I have done to save her. Now my world is so empty. I don't feel like doing anything at all.I don't think I will be happy again. My mom was the apple of my eye. Mom, I miss you a lot.

It really hit me hard when he went into the at-home hospice care. I too have vivid memories of watching over my mother in her remaining months after being diagnosed with stage IV brain cancer. I held her hand as she passed, whispering into her ear "It's OK Mom, you don't have to hold on any longer. I love you" (she was moaning and writhing in pain after surviving 2 years). I am happy to have had this chance for closure though. For the longest time, I continued on telling myself to do what would have made her proud (I was 21 when she passed). This worked, although I had the greatest relief and freeing moment of my life once I finally realized that I was doing what I, myself, wanted to do. For those out there who've lost loved ones; keep pushing, and things will get better. It doesn't, however, mean you need to forget their warm smile.

I never had the chance to say goodbye to my partner. I literally got up one morning and just found him gone. His eyes were still closed shut and it was just like someone had just switched him off, like a table lamp or something. How can you possibly prepare yourself for such an event. Now, nearly 18 months later I still feel at times like I am in shock. It hurts so much that we didn’t get to say goodbye or have important conversations. You are right, we all need to have those difficult conversations but so often we chose not to. I try to keep reminding myself that at least it was very quick and he didn’t suffer emotional or physical pain. Still, I would have liked to have uttered one last “I love you” and “thanks for being the best partner ever”. It is so hard, I cry almost every day and I still miss him dreadfully. It is like walking through treacle trying to go forward. It feels like we were parted too soon, it is so awful to be the one left behind.

I lost my Dad last October... I have never accepted him leaving and it kills me everyday. He was my rock and his upcoming birthday is destroying me. I never had the chance to say goodbye. I miss him so bad... I wish I had a day with him just to talk... I miss you Daddy. I love you.

I lost my GF of 20 years 3 weeks ago. I have accepted that she has died but what I can't seem to accept & get over is the fact that I won't ever be able to talk to her, hold her, or hangout with her ever again! It's really hard as I work from home so we were always together 24/7 Plus I have all kinds of triggers around the house! I have spent roughly $400 in memorabilia dedicated to her & her life so that she will never ever be forgotten by anyone! I can honestly say that I will NEVER ever get over losing her!

It's fresh for me and my brothers we lost my father Monday morning, it's so painful

I just lost my mom a week ago. She had survived a massive stroke a couple years ago(not a brain clot, but a brain bleed), and she made a more than miraculous recovry. Less than a year after that she was diagnosed with breast cancer. She survived that too. And then about 2 months ago she was having bad back pain. July 22nd 2022 my dad took her to the ER, and they found stage 4 cancer in her spine, and a small part in her brain. they thought they could get rid of with one small mass in her brain with a single radiation treatment. She was bed ridden in the hospital and receiving radiation treatment in her back. But last Wednesday (August 3rd) they did the treatment on her brain. She died at 340am Thursday August 4th. I laid with her in her final moments. I kept my head on her chest and just kept wondering which breath would be her last. It haunts me, but I couldn't leave her. If I didn't stay that would haunt me too.

I lost my fiance June 21st, 2019 in our home to a massive heart attack. I was performing cpr on him. I will never forget that morning. I'm so sorry for your loss. You don't move on. You move through it. These last 11 months has been the worst ever in my life. How do I move in to my new life with the grace and eloquence you have?

Death of someone we love so deeply...leaves profound and immense memories no one can steal... Painful heartaches and sadness that only God can heal. I watched this through tears pouring down as i could relate every bit of he shared. My prayer for Jason and all out there...that we will find comfort and strength in God as we continue this grief journey ..# tillwemeetagain.

when you truly love someone it's truly hard to move on, it take really lot of time

I lost the love of my life less than a month ago, I cannot picture life without her, she was my reason for living.

When I was 15 I lost my best friend and my grandfather, the year after I lost my grandmother... Both died of cancer. Yesterday I lost the dog I have had from my early teenage years... They will live forever in my heart💞

Lost my mom Xmas day 1972, was just ten. Dad went April, 1973 a week after I was 11. Lost hurts and you never totally get over it but you can make it better. I found helping others was a boost for me.

I lost my mom last month 😭😭😭😭😭😭 it's very hard.

I lost my 53 year old son May 5, 2019. After so many years separated by a toxic wife, we finally became friends and expressed our love for each other. God, I am devastated. I feel for this poor man.

I lost my kids three weeks ago, 23rd June 2018 and at least ten people sent me this video to watch. Thank you for sharing

I just graduated from the University of Illinois School of Social Work yesterday and Jason was a fellow graduate and our commencement speaker. I was a little disappointed that my speech wasn't chosen but I am totally okay that he was chosen over me. Congrats on graduating Jason!

My wife has stage four ovarian cancer...There's always hope so don't despair and cherish each and every day you have.Thanks for posting.

Stumbled on this talk on TikTok, had to go find Amy’s article. This is so huge, losing a great spouse. I pray you find strength to keep going on!

I lost my father on April 6 2021. The hardest part Ive found is how family members have different ways of coping with it. We have fought a couple of times and money becomes a huge issue at times. Please do yourselfes a favor and let others know where your things should go. Its a roller coaster of denying and accepting his death. I miss and love you Dad!!!

I lost my husband of 44 years suddenly four years ago- I came home from school and found him. I applaud you for your strength in presenting this, belong to the same club no one really wants to belong to, and I pray for your continued healing.

Guilty feelings are so strong for us that have lost your spouse we were together for over 50 years. Grief is so very very painful. I need the blank sheet of paper for my fresh start

My Dad lives on in me, flawed as this vessel may be. His kindness and humour seem to be behind every word I offer to someone. The way he made everyone feel comfortable and loved was what really stands out about him. It was always fun, safe, and wholesome when he was in the room. Its hardly fair that I got to have both he and my Mom in this life.

I too have these lasting images that haunt me. Apart from the constant grief, these are regrets of not doing enough or not spending enough time with my passing love ones. What carried me through and with grief, is the love of Lord Jesus. His light shined in my darkest hours and lifted me up.

I lost my dad just 2 weeks ago. I'm totally devastated. I still couldn't go back to work, my usual routine. I'm still clueless of what's beyond our lives now that he's gone. I miss him so much 😭

I lost my mother 6 months ago to cancer. And honestly It does not get better day by day, unless you make your life better day by day. Loss will always be there, but either it looms over you like a storm cloud and destroys you, or it leads you to embrace your feelings and who you truly are. I realize every day that I am Grateful for the blessings that I have been given & the time that I have here. Any time they come into your mind be grateful for them being in your life & the love they gave you, you are better for it!Your perspective is hard to change, but it is powerful.

Thankyou soo much...you inspire me...my husband suffered cardiac arrest 2 weeks ago and lost his battle 2 days later in the hospital...didn't even had a chance to say goodbye...i never dreamt our 12 yr marraige would come to such a devastating end...jus holding on and trying to stay strong for our 10 yr old boy whom i hv to console everynight...as he cries himself to sleep.....i know i am totally broken inside ...jus taking one day at a time

I'm watching this because I lost my fiance last week and I've never experienced a loss like this. I don't know how I'll go on without him. I don't even know how long it will take before the hurt stops.

I lost my mother last week I feel pain and my chest feels heavy *crying 😢😥😭💔

I don't know what is less painful. To have your loved one die or to have your loved one stop loving you and leave you. Life is so complicated and beautiful.

Lost my sister tragically, lost my best friend tragically, and lost my mom tragically while in the military and wasn’t able to morn with my family or see her much for years before she passed I’m trying to fill the empty space I guess everyday is an opportunity. I am blessed with a great companion and two beautiful children. Blessed but dealing is tough

Lost my best friend who was a mother to me about 2 years ago now. For 3 days I stayed in bed and cried and didn't do anything but cry and sleep when I got a phone call about the news. Now I hold dear the good memories she has with me. I blow bubbles when I feel sad and remember her. We always planned to go to a park, have a picnic and blow bubbles. Unfortunately we were never given the opportunity. So now I do it in memory of her. What has hit me the most recently is being pregnant knowing she would of loved to hear the news and see my growing belly. And knowing she will never. She was a mother to me and the 1st person I would of told of the news. All I can do now is bring my child up with the values and love I have learned from her.

I lost my mother in my home too and I will never forget the moment she died. They came to take her body the next day. Losing someone you love and navigating your life after is even harder.

Jason, thank you so much for sharing. I can so identify with your talk as I lost my lovely wife of 37 years last October. We too did the Hospice route but Pam did not want their drugs as she wanted to keep as alert as possible. They basically came and checked her vitals and always gave the usual talk about how they had seen miracles at the darkest moments. Of course for us, there was to be no miracle. Pam had a home based job in real estate acquisitions and believe it or not even with cancer in her bones she kept working up until 2 weeks before here death. However, it really hit home with me when you mentioned walking backwards to the bathroom as I did this many times in her final weeks. She also could barely eat because everything made her sick to her stomach even though she was no medications to speak of. I would help her get comfortable in her office chair each day before I went to work and neighbors would check on her from time to time as she made her way around the house with a walker and canes. She was 5-4 115 lbs and in incredible shape her entire 58 years of life but as you mentioned in those final weeks she was but a shell of herself. She died in our bedroom on a Sunday afternoon with me and our two children at her side. There were no long talks or goodbyes as she had been sleeping the final 2 days. In fact I had gone to the store to get something to prepare for dinner and when I returned my son said, "Dad, I think it's time". Indeed, she passed 30 minutes later and I remember closing her mouth. Hugging her limp body and kissing her legs, arms and face. They then came and picked up her body for cremation. Those memories indeed will never leave and I still cringe sometimes when people say how lucky we were to have her die at home. Sometimes, I'm not not sure. In the meantime, I still work full time and actually expanded a RU-vid channel we started about travel and have since added grief videos about my journey. Maybe you or some of your followers would gain some comfort from these as well. God bless you Jason. As I tell people now...I really don't like this club we are in because the price of admission is far to high. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-FJSH-qXz8fU.html

I lost my 90 yr old father last week. I've lived with him and been his caretaker for 16 yrs, although I only had to do the big stuff: cooking, cleaning, laundry etc. He went into a hospice facility on Wed night and he died Fri morning. I had planned on bringing him home so he could die in his own home but he went too quick. I'm so devastated. My father was my best friend, the only family I had left, he was a huge part of my life and now I'm just trying to figure out how to be here without him.

I lost my dad 2 days ago. I was a caregiver for my dad in the last month of his life. He had metastatic disease from prostate cancer that spread everywhere including his brain. While my dad was a creative & complicated person I loved very much, one of the hardest parts was losing him slowly, him having trouble remembering and holding a conversation. Seeing him get weaker and not knowing what to do. We ended up in the hospital often, the 7th time being his last and I was there when he passed. I held his hand as I felt it go cold and still held it. The exhaustion on top of all the feelings is immense and yesterday I went completely numb and almost could not get up off the couch. It’s so hard. I know that I will get through it and all of this will be a part of me forever. Even with all the support I have - it’s a lonely sad feeling deep inside.

This has really helped me, my wife of 40 years having passed due to cancer several days ago. Thank you for posting this.

Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable time in your life! My husband died a month ago quite suddenly and it is excruciating! It is a moment by moment play as I try to make sense and navigate these waves of grief. Thank god they are sifted in small doses otherwise I am sure I would die from the grief! Wishing you many more moments of joy in the small things.

On June 5th, 2019, I lost my husband of almost 32 years. I buried him, June 10th. June 16th, Father's day. June 20th was our 32 anniversary. June 20th, 2019, was also the last day of my mother's life. She was killed in a 1 car accident. We buried her Sunday. So, in just 2 weeks, 2 of the most important people in my life, are gone. I believe in an afterlife. So, it's my hope, I will see them again.

Cancer related home hospice experiences are some of the most difficult, horrific, and yet spiritually beautiful.

I was there with my wife till her last breath. Thank You.

I feel blessed that this man shared his story with us. Thank you for the laughter, the tears and those memories that came flooding back to make me smile. You are a remarkable man.

Living a wonderful 42 years with my Linda who died 73 days ago. I am blessed with my 2 kids and grandkids to celebrate my life with. Moving forward to enjoy life that she would be proud of. Thankyou for you testimony Mr Rosenthal

I lost my wife on April 23 , 2023 . She lost her battle cancer started in the uterus went to the bones then finally her brain . I brought her home on hospice where they did a bedside wedding on April 21 . It was her final wish for us to be married . My love and thoughts go out to anyone that has a loved one with or lost to cancer .

So lonely in empty bed . Forty years together. Sad beyond words....so hard to go forward. Want to live in past.

As a nurse who’s taken care of hospice clients and watched my own father go through, it’s absolutely heartbreaking. My hardest loss was my 19 year old nephew.

I lost my cousin a month ago today in a motorcycle accident. 4 days later I lost my uncle to high blood pressure who had a heart attack and made it to the hospital but he hit his head to hard and wouldn't make it back... this past mo.th has been hard dwelling with anxiety and super lightheaded. My house is the only place I feel safe and sound or meditating and sleeping. I have 2 weeks left before I have to go back to work from my leave of absence I requested due to this traumatic time I've lived in a short time.. I can say time has healed some part of me but I'll always miss my cousin who was more of a brother to me. I feared death for so long now I just wish I could be on the other side with him laughing one more time. To all of you grieving I hope you have enough courage to move along and find joy with your family friends and get help if you need it. Researching grieving and looking up videos like these ha e helped me cope a lot. I wish you all a healthy happy life from today on and strenght to realized we can be strong to look up for tomorrow has new hope and joy.

What you said about hospice and things haunting you really spoke to me. I was my Mom's hospice caretaker and I still am haunted by things 19 years later!! My husband passed unexpectedly on Thanksgiving 2022 and I am traumatized by that too, because I came home from work and found him, and had to do my due diligence with CPR even though I knew...But I am moving forward and trying my best to write a new chapter. Crying and all..

3 years now lost my mother, still the same constant ache in my heart and a feeling of void around people.

Grief is a terrible yet somehow beautiful thing....my brother is dying of alcoholism and has korsokofs. He is in a shelter not surrounded by family as you always picture it will be. My love is bursting but my heart is breaking. Love to each and everyone of you suffering grief.

I related so much to what he said at 8:00. I lost my grandpa in April and the times where it’s the worse, I feel like it can be too much and I feel like I can’t do this- I’m not strong enough to deal with this. The amount of time between the times where I break down grows more, but it’s still there and will randomly happen and smack me in the face. Grief is so weird and random and even though it’s common knowledge that everyone who has lost someone feels like this, hearing it and relating to it makes it bearable.

I just lost my grandfather and the whole situation hit me like a truck. I loved him like a father. Its so helpful to know you are not alone

I lost my only child, that sort of grief is impossible to get over.. I survive with my life now living on antidepressants. The pain is so intense & the tears never stop unless I’m on my meds.. Grief never ends, so just have to learn to live your life differently & do what ever it takes to go on.

The last weeks - how I relate to that, my mind re- runs a video lasting over two years of my beloved husband's illness, overwhelming me with grief. Yes so brutally honest Jason.

My Mom had a massive heart attack in front of me, I am broken for life.

These are similar images of my mom.. she passed June 8, she also had hospice set up at home. She fell at home they sent her to hospice care instead of the hospital. Her nurse took 5 hrs to get to her home & when the took her to hospice she gave up & in 24hrs in the facility. She left me😭 I was there and I felt like I had to leave.. so I fixed her pillows. Her covers. & kisses her on her forehead.. rubbed my face on her face. Cheek to cheek.. told her I love her and I’d be back in the morning. I got the call 10mins after I left.. she was gone.. I went back and she was just laying there.. my heart 💜 my 1st luv.. gone😭 she was cremated... as she wished.

To see him struggle to keep it together when talking about carrying his wife's body out of the house....man. This was a great talk.

The removal of my husband Stuart's body from our small home, is something i never shared The noise of the gurney banging its way through my narrow hallway and narrow front door. My son's were sobbing, clinging to me. I was conflicted with the desire to follow Stuart out the door to make sure they took good care of him, and the need to be there for our two son's. He died from cancer too. 3 years later, I lost my oldest son, a musician, to a random act of violence while walking home from a gig. He was 27 years old. He was shot by a group out robbing people for rent money. Steven died instantly. Shot through the heart. They grabbed his friends purse from her, so he defended her. He did not know they had a gun, it was hidden. My grief that time was profound, and I had a desperate need to see him - just one more time. I had a open casket viewing, and the second I walked into the room and saw him, I said "Oh, your gone" and it was so healing, but then I went into a what I call my black out period. Six months later, I had a dream and he said to me "Mom, this is my version of heaven, look for your own, it will get you to where you need to go". That provoked me to examine my understandings and beliefs. He was an old soul, and followed Zen zeitgeist beliefs, so that journey led me to a profound awakening. 8 years later, I see life's purpose so differently and it is so much more beautiful, and meaningful for me than I could have ever imagined back then. Nothing is lost that Love remembers. Peace and grace my friends.

Cried my heart out

What a brave brave thing to do in front of so many people. Thank you for sharing your experience. All of us will go through loss. I tragically lost my partner 8 months ago, so no goodbyes, no last wishes, no permissions.. the way he described Amy, how in sync they were, was exactly how we were.. it feels as if having to take deep breaths thinking so what am I supposed to be doing here on earth still.. it's such a confusing journey to be on, questioning your life and having no answers to "so now what" questions. It makes even the strongest person intensely vulnerable. It takes away from you and at the same time, you get to know yourself in such a raw state. Still throughout all this guy's pain, there's gratitude. Bittersweet. There's no magic wand, we learn to live with the loss.. we learn to live with pain and because we do it so often, it becomes bearable

I lost my mother on January 9th of this year after the past two years of her being in and out of the hospital. And eight years of being very ill in general. Thank you for talking about the end of life experience and hospice. It seems like watching someone die is more taboo than the death itself. Everyone will show up to the funeral, but nobody will show up to the last moments.

I also have memories of watching my father move my deceased sister's body from the morgue freezer to the gurney for cremation. The horrible memories remain of that day, but I do feel like I have a new blank page to fill. If you would like to talk about that experience - you can talk to me. Thank you for your honest and courageous speech.

This hits me so hard. My mom's health declined rapidly, and we had to let her go during last stay in the hospital. It was horrible, waking up in the morning to a call from the doctor wanting to discuss palliative care. And we left the hospital later that night, I just remember looking back at the windows the whole time until my brother drove us away. It's about to be one year. And I am an absolute wreck, still. God bless my family for putting up with the monster I have been. 😭😭😭

Jason, Thank you so much for sharing. I have many of the same, but different feelings. I lost my wonderful wife of 30 years last year. I took care of her for ten long years, and would do it all over again if I could. It left me beaten battered and broke but not beaten. Yet I would walk the journey again if I could. The love we shared was so real and complete wish every one had such a love. When Kate passed I closed her eyes, kissed her on the forehead and said good bye my love, I love you. Kevin

Thank you for this video! My mom passed away a little more than a month ago and my dad is deceased as well. I have a lot of grief in my life right now and this talk helped me.

My husband passed away at home 3 years ago. It was what he wanted. He refused to go to a hospice, he wanted to be in our home not a hospital. I only go into that bedroom when I absolutely have to now - I hate that room. All I see is him lying in that bed, dying. It's so upsetting that there's a part of our home that I can't bear to even enter but I can't think of moving - this was the home we built together and he loved it. I try to find some joy in simple things but, quite honestly, everything is just filling in time until it's my turn. I don't even look for happiness now, I just try and get through each day, knowing that it's one day closer.I know he wouldn't want this for me, he'd want me to be happy but that's just not possible for me any more.

I lost my husband a month ago, I understand this too well God give me strength It helps to listen to this.

Loss is inevitable but loss to an illness creates “anticipatory grief”. Grief begins even before they pass on. We all need to learn “how” to grieve.

This was a tremendous encouragement. We know of grief and death, to experience it first hand gives it a whole different meaning. I lost my mom 3 months after being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Just that sentence will forever be the most surreal thing I'll ever write down. I pray I am able to live through the pain one day.

these kind of talks is why i like Ted.

2 days ago I lost my bestfriend, my hero and role model, my Dad… Every day will be different, watching football and talking about every minute together will never happen again, the comments of the weather and how my life now is (i moved to America a few years prior) I’m struggling and I am hoping this video sparks the love i feel is gone, because it shouldn’t be gone…but i feel like I can never experience it ever again.

Rip mum miss u ev day acute stroke took u away from me april 2020 when wil it get easier never

I lost my elder brother on 30th May2019 to lung cancer, my brother never smoked, that is brother no 6 I have lost, we were 10 siblings, now we are 4 left, my mum is still alive , I weep for her everyday wondering how she wakes up and functions after loosing 6 adult sons This speech is encouraging and hopeful. After reading each and every comment here, I truly believe suffering and pain is universal, no matter who? Where? What death breaks the walls and nature takes its course, I wish everyone well and hope we all get through our grief and move in one day at a time

Yes. Have these conversations now as you are healthy. Hospice is wonderful but haunting. Thankyou for this. ❤ I cried all the way through this.

It's unbearably painful to bear someone erroneously compare the death of our loved ones to the loss of a job. You can always find a job again if you look hard enough but our loved ones are gone from us forever and ever.

I lost my half-sister 5yrsbafo to a Pulmonary Embolism, she was 16-17yrs old. My step-father (someone I’ve never know a life without, he married my mom when I was 3yrs old, I’m 35now) passed away at the end of last September. I hurt knowing that I’ll never get to see the woman my sister would become. I hurt knowing that I’ll have kids and they’ll never get to have and know an amazing grandfather.

I just lost my husband last week to glioblastoma multiform. Every morning has been and continues to be a devastating struggle and feeling of fear and isolation.

I lost my best friend my dear mother. We did everything together. Best mother ever, home chocolate chip cookies. We fed alot of the kids on the road we lived in. We could help so why not. Met a lot of ppl. So much fun to help those a lot less fortunate then you!❤️💕

I like your shoes and your truthful eyes. You're children are so very lucky to have a father so strong.

WOW !!!! Thank you for this Jason. I lost my wife to lung cancer in Nov 2016. And recently I have been saying, I'm now ready to start my life a NEW. New place, new location, new, new, new. I need a fresh start, not to runaway from this, but just to get my head clear so I too can focus. My wife died in our bed also, on Nov 26 at 430am unable to breathe, 2 days after Thanksgiving. A most horrific scene of tears, anger, sorrow where 4 of our 5 grown kids were over the house for the Holiday weekend. At times I feel healed, other times I to feel guilty, that I am here and Chrissy is not. And that morning scene as the EMS arrived continually plays in my head, thinking, what could I have done differently to save her..

So Powerful. Grief& Goodbye... The Final Acts Of Love 💘

My precious husband of 17 years died suddenly at 58 while working on our car. He knew he was going to die. He told me he was sorry and loved me. I drove there but he was in the ambulance in the throes of heart attack that took his life. He died in the ambulance and I didn't get to hold him to say goodbye. That was on 2/16/23. It's hard to breath the pain is so intense. I miss you so much my Handsome guy.

This pain of losing your loved one suddenly with no good byes is unbearable..it kills you from within....my heart has gone with him only body is moving on here.....

I just lost my grandma less than a month ago. I was the one who took the call at 3 AM that she passed. Watched this video in tears... this videos been on my watch later for a few weeks and I couldn’t bring myself to watch this but today has been a particularly tough day. I work in healthcare where I get to talk to patients who are my grandma’s age and I just miss caring for her so much. It pains me every day to think about the fact that my grandma passed away alone at the hospital with no familiar faces around her. I miss her so much my heart hurts every single day.