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A clip from Celeste Headlee's TED Talk "10 ways to have a better conversation" from TEDxCreativeCoast 2015
When your job hinges on how well you talk to people, you learn a lot about how to have conversations -- and that most of us don't converse very well. Celeste Headlee has worked as a radio host for decades, and she knows the ingredients of a great conversation: Honesty, brevity, clarity and a healthy amount of listening. In this insightful talk, she shares useful rules for having better conversations.
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@ark8tct
@ark8tct 3 года назад
0:28 1. Don’t multi-task 0:40 2. Don’t pontificate 0:52 3. Use open ended question 1:18 4. Go with the flow 1:26 5. If you don’t know, say you don’t know 1:35 6. Your experience (don’t) = theirs 1:52 7. Don’t repeat yourself 1:59 8. Stay out of the weeds 2:14 9. Listen 2:40 10. Be brief
@NatarajanAV
@NatarajanAV 3 года назад
Helpful compilation 👌
@majoroldladyakamom6948
@majoroldladyakamom6948 3 года назад
Does anyone know how to cut and paste this comment to send to myself via em on a cell phone? Just the facts, Cliff notes! That was awesome!
@dad2jmcnb
@dad2jmcnb 3 года назад
@@majoroldladyakamom6948 Hopefully you will get a notification of this reply and that will help.
@faroukahmed5102
@faroukahmed5102 3 года назад
@@majoroldladyakamom6948 u can copy it if u use computer
@rahuldwivedi7040
@rahuldwivedi7040 3 года назад
Thanks
@geraldmerkowitz4360
@geraldmerkowitz4360 3 года назад
Short and straight to the point. Honestly I wished more TED talks were like that.
@NikitaBazogon
@NikitaBazogon 3 года назад
true
@majoroldladyakamom6948
@majoroldladyakamom6948 3 года назад
Right?, but the speakers' (TED Speakers, plural possessive) sharing the background, stories is a way of engaging our minds to ensure that the point of the Talk is firmly engraved in the gray matter between our eustachian tubes. Mind you, to attend a TED Talk can run upwards of $3,000 per seat. Pay $6K for a couple, come in, and within 10 minutes and/or 10 bullet points, it's time to find the car in the parking lot? Wouldn't go over so well, right? $3,000 per person Audience of 5,000. $1.5M... for a 10-minute speech? Didn't think so, either.
@majoroldladyakamom6948
@majoroldladyakamom6948 3 года назад
@@arezpirveceani It's culled out from her longer vid, spliced and diced to give us the Cliff notes. So glad TED's magical production team did so, right?
@geraldmerkowitz4360
@geraldmerkowitz4360 3 года назад
@@majoroldladyakamom6948 Run up to 3000$ I find that hard to believe, let alone generalizing it to every speaker and using that as reference for the price of all seats But yeah, I got your point.
@johnmaaate2833
@johnmaaate2833 3 года назад
It's just a heavily cut version of a 12 minute talk. Link is in the description to the full talk.
@Screamifyoumeanit
@Screamifyoumeanit 3 года назад
"If your mouth is open, you're not learning" :)
@whuttttt
@whuttttt 3 года назад
:D
@clairecadoux471
@clairecadoux471 3 года назад
Actually part of learning is speaking your facts. And, you have to talk to voice a question. What do you think now?
@majoroldladyakamom6948
@majoroldladyakamom6948 3 года назад
Aka... it's hard to learn if your gums are flapping... 🤣 My story, sticking to it!
@jillianferguson4202
@jillianferguson4202 3 года назад
@@clairecadoux471 Just curious… what exactly are you learning at the precise moment that you’re ‘speaking your facts,’ as you say? Think you may have missed the point…but, hey… we all have our opinion. 😁
@benrivera4953
@benrivera4953 3 года назад
As a young adult, unfortunately this video is much more needed for me then I’d like to admit.
@clairecadoux471
@clairecadoux471 3 года назад
Ben, you are most fortunate. You know now for your life ahead. I am 66, I assure you, many/lots/most, do not converse well at all. They go to their graves, often, isolated, angry, depressed. You can lead the way now.
@benvella1728
@benvella1728 2 года назад
@@clairecadoux471 Very true, so many are lost in their own minds and never care to listen what you have to say. And often times they have a hard time even explaning what **they** have to say!
@docdd1969
@docdd1969 3 года назад
Ms Headlee, Thank you for this TED TALKS! Having a conversation with someone is something I have struggled with my whole life (I'll be 52 years old soon)! Great topic and some VERY valuable insights! Best regards!
@sallycd5026
@sallycd5026 3 года назад
The summary of my absolute Favorite Ted talk ever! Still holds up to this day.
@angelaujunwa
@angelaujunwa 3 года назад
This has added up to one of the best TEDx Talks I have listened to!
@EklectikaAaynne
@EklectikaAaynne 3 года назад
WHO could give this a thumbs down? WHY would anyone do that? GREAT POINTS and so important are convo skills . . . not only because the convos can teach and awe us . . . but because THAT is precisely how we connect AND stay connected with one another!!!
@QuietCastle
@QuietCastle 3 года назад
One of the best Ted talks I've seen on here. Now if we could only get everyone in our country to follow these tips, our country would be in MUCH better shape.
@nicoleonfeels
@nicoleonfeels 3 года назад
I feel like #9 is super useful. Conversations are a two way street!
@kevinwells4986
@kevinwells4986 3 года назад
That was inspiring. Sometimes I'm amazed by ignorance... but I appreciate the true meaning of that word. It is not meant to be a slander against anyone, it's simply an observation that someone is discussing a position that they can not possibly understand, And, you make me realize, that ignorance could be mine. Thank you for that!
@ShivayGarg
@ShivayGarg 3 года назад
Beautiful one! This deserves a elaborated version.
@benvella1728
@benvella1728 2 года назад
She wasn't kidding when she said be brief. This is gold :)
@jonasabry9099
@jonasabry9099 3 года назад
Too bad I didn't hear this video 15 years ago. Well, never late then never. Gloria Steinem said, "Talk as much as you listen and listen as much as you talk." That was the best advice I heard.
@majoroldladyakamom6948
@majoroldladyakamom6948 3 года назад
THINK: Table tennis. He or she speaks for a few sentences or minutes, then IT'S THE OTHER person's turn to talk. Don't be a convo "tennis ball" hogger, people, right?
@oliviao2238
@oliviao2238 3 года назад
Excellent presentation in which Americans like myself who doesn't recognize America anymore. I wish everyone would see this and take notes because actions have consequences, and we need to heal. Conversation leads to less hate, violence, mental illness, etc. The proper discussion will get America back on the road to recovery.
@nazar4775
@nazar4775 3 года назад
Go with the flow, be brief, this is really helpful
@Shazistic
@Shazistic 3 года назад
Knowledge will give you power ,but character respect
@stevie-ray2020
@stevie-ray2020 3 года назад
Thank you Celeste!
@Blane647
@Blane647 3 года назад
I watched Celeste when the video first came out. I teared and I learnt.
@angelaujunwa
@angelaujunwa 3 года назад
I watched this amazing speech twice!
@bbt305
@bbt305 3 года назад
Talk is always cheap. If u want amazing, you might be let down. Bring those expectations way down to earth like always learn something or understand someone more from each interaction.
@dr.aanotnot3726
@dr.aanotnot3726 3 года назад
These series is better shot easy to remember
@hugoryollo
@hugoryollo 3 года назад
This is wonderful.
@mandosGOD
@mandosGOD 3 года назад
I think she is good at conversation mostly because she is a very positive person.
@ashutoshrai3563
@ashutoshrai3563 3 года назад
Hey listen, you gotta Listen. That's where you find your power.
@goddanner
@goddanner Год назад
Amazing ted talk segment
@CuongSweet
@CuongSweet 3 года назад
thank you for this one
@chiragrachhoya9387
@chiragrachhoya9387 3 года назад
Best part of RU-vid.😊
@azitaasgari
@azitaasgari 3 года назад
Excellent..
@CeliaCantonero
@CeliaCantonero Год назад
Awesome!
@AveryMilieu
@AveryMilieu 3 года назад
Being nearly deaf, I don't have conversations anymore. They don't come with closed captions. I prefer text and at this point my verbal interactions with people are limited to exchanging essential information (masks hinder communication, by the way) and getting out of the situation that requires it as fast as possible to limit the frustration and disappointment that I always seem to feel when I'm going through the process. Thanks for your closed captioning, by the way.
@imaniblack5291
@imaniblack5291 3 года назад
I love this video
@marcelagalindoguimaraes
@marcelagalindoguimaraes Год назад
Basic concept : Be interested in other people , keep your mouth shut as often as you can , keep your mind open whenever possible, be always prepared to be amazed, and never get disappointed to listen .
@MarcusVinicius-mo1vo
@MarcusVinicius-mo1vo 3 года назад
Great tips. I gonna master it all!
@luispupo3621
@luispupo3621 3 года назад
how do i politely send this to someone who desperately needs it
@marwankatana7135
@marwankatana7135 3 года назад
Good talk
@alsadekalkhayer7007
@alsadekalkhayer7007 3 года назад
Precious. Thanks!
@bbernal18_
@bbernal18_ 3 года назад
good throwback
@VerenaSatriani
@VerenaSatriani 3 года назад
TED has taught me many thing..
@harryfan2638
@harryfan2638 3 года назад
TED is really useful.
@albertawheat6832
@albertawheat6832 2 года назад
Some of it is.
@M_SC
@M_SC 3 года назад
An interview and a conversation are quite different
@lakesunrise
@lakesunrise 3 года назад
Love! Thank you! 🥰
@MDTALKIES
@MDTALKIES 3 года назад
Very nice 👍
@randomdudeonyoutube.
@randomdudeonyoutube. 3 года назад
I remember this video . It's reuploaded.
@ahmeddr3648
@ahmeddr3648 3 года назад
I still remember the laugh of a gentleman in the first video, it was unique
@cloudpoint0
@cloudpoint0 3 года назад
I care about the years, the names, the dates. I need these to fact-check what I’m being told. Otherwise people just “gaslight” me about anything important.
@Annabel-ew5nx
@Annabel-ew5nx 3 года назад
wtf
@cloudpoint0
@cloudpoint0 3 года назад
@@Annabel-ew5nx Some of us don't want noise, we want truth. I understand your opposition since a gas station is a primary source of fuel for gaslighting.
@jacysteven921
@jacysteven921 3 года назад
Nice man
@al-shaimaaibrahim1524
@al-shaimaaibrahim1524 3 года назад
Thanks a lot Useful thoughts 💜
@LesyaKali
@LesyaKali 3 года назад
Bravo!🌷
@shamiansari3627
@shamiansari3627 3 года назад
This is what all NEET needs !
@bhartirathor8865
@bhartirathor8865 3 года назад
Yay
@deathalive4372
@deathalive4372 3 года назад
I goona make a million people hate me after learning this so useful for me
@mithunmuralidharan7054
@mithunmuralidharan7054 3 года назад
Have I seen this before ...or is it just deja vu 🤔
@zenaidamateos9376
@zenaidamateos9376 3 года назад
Wonderful... I will try 👍
@ishan599
@ishan599 3 года назад
nice
@Alice45894
@Alice45894 3 года назад
Can someone explain what she means by "err on the side of caution, talk is not cheap" in regard to the say you don't know point?
@alyrii1566
@alyrii1566 3 года назад
Honestly it's been a damn minute since I've seen a solid ted talk that wasn't just political nonsense, this is a breath of air.
@joshrauch9744
@joshrauch9744 3 года назад
This is the most SAVAGE ted I've ever heard.
@godbear2930
@godbear2930 3 года назад
How so
@joshrauch9744
@joshrauch9744 3 года назад
@@godbear2930 I had a recent disagreement, and I was hard-pressed to see my error. I was pontificating. So when she spoke it, I felt attacked.
@Dillbeet
@Dillbeet 3 года назад
I watched her before. Is this new ted content or a reupload?
@Dr.Souravagrawal
@Dr.Souravagrawal 3 года назад
Most people Are close minded and can not accept new facts which contradicts their previous thoughts
@codes3569
@codes3569 3 года назад
Wonderful lifetime
@prasadb4779
@prasadb4779 3 года назад
Six Year ago.. She told us how to have a good conversation.. Now she tells us how to have a great conversation.. well, quite an improvement!
@prasadb4779
@prasadb4779 3 года назад
Oh Wait! It's the same video summarised!! They actually listened to her 'Be Brief'!
@austinbilaal
@austinbilaal 3 года назад
I’m going focus on being brief.
@remyllebeau77
@remyllebeau77 3 года назад
And skipping words.
@suzettex33
@suzettex33 Год назад
I feel like I’m always the one listening, eveytime I get the time to talk they just ask one question then reflect back to themselves 🙄
@susanholmes9902
@susanholmes9902 Год назад
Watch the 11 min one instead!
@souravthukral1224
@souravthukral1224 3 года назад
I started a conversation with a person who had watched this.. And we end up with only one line hi how r u i m fine.
@icimizdenbiri2093
@icimizdenbiri2093 3 года назад
Hello everybody🌸
@prasadb4779
@prasadb4779 3 года назад
Does this work on Tinder too?
@cutecatshorts3464
@cutecatshorts3464 3 года назад
I would disagree with her for point no. 3. The tip is: Don't start with open ended questions. Start with closed ended questions which are just one word answers. Then go with the flow towards open ended questions which are not just one word answers.
@homealone5857
@homealone5857 3 года назад
1st baby
@benoyj9068
@benoyj9068 3 года назад
Introvert be like , 🙄 not for us 😂
@xpmva
@xpmva 3 года назад
As an introvert I understand where you're coming from! I reckon though it's even more crucial that we become adept at conversation given that we will more often than not avoid conversation altogether. Make the most of what little time we have.
@el-bov8034
@el-bov8034 3 года назад
I think that with many introverts there is a component of social-anxiety and shyness. These tips offer some good techniques to deal with this whole mix of issues. Firstly, in trying to be more inquisitive about others, someone with these extra issues can take the pressure off themselves to 'perform'. But adding the component of awareness of the present moment can allow the 'sufferer' to get lost in someone else's experience, rather than worry about how they plan to respond etc. And really, the more engaged one can be in someone else, the more likely the other party are to feel connected to us, perhaps bringing about a more relaxed and conducive experience by the time the attention gets focussed back on us.
@Vugen18
@Vugen18 3 года назад
I thought this was basic understanding of communication.. she seems a little too happy to share "her" knowledge of this. Like she revolutionized this subject
@MichelleLLL
@MichelleLLL 3 года назад
Heavenly father I pray that you keep the person reading this alive, safe, healthy and financially blessed Amen
@tfortube
@tfortube 3 года назад
I am ready to listen but the other person is an introvert. Conversation = 0
@hockeyxgamer
@hockeyxgamer 3 года назад
I talk to your mom
@endofinnocence5992
@endofinnocence5992 3 года назад
How is this a TED talk?
@MrEinJulian
@MrEinJulian 3 года назад
WTF so waht is her job now ???? :/
@brofistarmy5783
@brofistarmy5783 3 года назад
First?
@assasin757
@assasin757 3 года назад
She looks like Magnus carlsen if he was a little bit chubby adn was a female Edit: Nevermind
@HarveyJackson1967
@HarveyJackson1967 3 года назад
Fluff.
@sheenathakurr
@sheenathakurr 3 года назад
I hate how she says, “Noble Prize winners, truck drivers, billionaires, kindergarten teachers, Heads of State, plumbers” as if she’s using one to juxtapose the other
@marcellopaschoal3467
@marcellopaschoal3467 4 месяца назад
Woke woke woke... there are people more relevant in Society than others.
@marcellopaschoal3467
@marcellopaschoal3467 4 месяца назад
Get a job...
@neilmarsden4832
@neilmarsden4832 3 года назад
Can we not enjoy the crash of dopamine too....you talk as if everyone dosnt like it ? I don't think you have listened to everyone...
@laidabdous2734
@laidabdous2734 3 года назад
In the name of Allah, the Compassionate, the Merciful 1. Say, “He is Allah, the One. 2. Allah, the Eternal. 3. He begets not, nor was He begotten. 4. And there is none comparable to Him.”
@shardulmakwe8668
@shardulmakwe8668 3 года назад
I'm yet to watch the video. But if this too is about 'empathy' and 'active listening' - I'll lose my cool.
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